another column on business women weekly wisconsin may 30 1896

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another column on business women weekly wisconsin may 30 1896 - THE SMILE OF A LITTLE CHILD. There Js.nothlug...
THE SMILE OF A LITTLE CHILD. There Js.nothlug more pure hr heaven Arid nothing uti earth more 'mild. More full of the Hunt that is divine, Thau the smile "of a little child. Tlie sinless, lips, half .parted, AVith tirealh as as the air. And the light that, so clad to shine In the gold of the suunj- hair, 0 little one. smile anil biess-me! For somehow—1 know nut why— .3 feel in my soul, \vlieii children smile, That angels are passing Uy. 1 feel that tlie Kates of heaven Are nearer than 1 knew; That the light of .the hope of that sweeter world. Like-the dawn,. Is breaking through THE WITCHERY OF MAY. Hast felt the .thrilling magic, the witchery of "May, Whin time the young leaves glimmer, and the lilosooms wreathe the dayV llast" ,;lieard the tender crooning: -of. the south ttlurt in the copse. And on tlie roof .the silver shower in sudden nattering .xlropsV •Or hast Ihou. strolling In the lane, seen .linnet*-at. thy feet, "Shy" iiiir|rl'"liiic«Ied vestals, •'with fragrance fnlm.aiiil sweet? Or, "ti stiiiu- Imupy afternoon, in lonely forest :inmk. Bast found arbutus waiting for the lover'-s eager loot'; In pulse and vein Is witfhery, the bHthe- •ne--i of tiie MIIJ ; It chimes In every. hurrying brook, it fills tile' robin's "lay. •Tlic-Hlmi keeps' its secret 'in every waving plume.; In-bird-mile 'tis, in gri'itiHng' grass,* In brunch ,aml-&nil •iunl bkiom: —Jean Cuihc'urt- hr'IIurper'a Bazar. WHAT A BUSINESSWOMAN SAID. Kor .the Woman's"-World of tuj> Wisconsin. My friend'. the- Business Woman dropped into a spat beside me tlie other day on her way hoine from her ouirc. "Good," she said, "this nieans jru hour together; how -we will enjoy it!" She looked tired, but she wore a bright smile and she had!a-buuch of violets on her gown. . s "Yes.V she said, iu .answer to iny gliiuee lit them, "I wear some flower every day now—:I can'! help it : I'd like to run off :to the wi>m|s for a day .nud cat eh a glimpse of what is going 011 there; I'd like to do something jolly jind yoiithftil, something in accord- with the season. But the besr I can do is to buy pussywillows from the hoy 0*11 'the corner" and Watch for the-dand( J ,ion in the little patch of green that 1 cull ury lawn. What a good thing it is." she continued. **(hat we. are, most of -'.us, so blessedly elastic!. Why, I almost .feel myself young again as the face of. the hind and the. faw of the sky are renewed before, •my eyes." "You have a long ride after your day in the city '!" "," she said, "but home lies nt the end and there's rest and peace there, .as there should he." "Then you are nut .your, own housekeeper and serving maidV" ."Not at jill. 1 have a iympathotic housekeeper who manages my domestic .affairs.-admirably and does her part toward milking life smooth for us all. There is no more reason why I should lie a business woman -and a cook at tlie .Hainv time than that a ina'nshould .sell goods all 'da} and raise hU own pota- toe-.." "I- suppose you refuse to listen ;to 'liouseliuld worries .and make a protest against an overdone roast and uuder- clonc bread V" "You are right; I do." .After ment's "pause she 1 .continued- "For the .past' feu years : .I. have*, left my . house early in the'mornii'ig and spent the huurs of u long day attending" to : an exacting business. I .have supported a family, mid have had. and--still h'ave, just the cares and anxieties '.that--a man has un- tlcr the same circumstances. 1 prmide the home iiud the supplies for a fair degree of. comfort and when I .return" at .night from a hard «lhy in the city I rightfully . expect a. -well-ordered "house mid ' : a good .dinner. If instead of these 1 wore- to :find .tlie-. house" in disorder. the.children untidy aiid ill-maiineroil. tlie dinner badly cooked and liadly • served I should feel in> self injured and should, feel justified -iu' expressing' my displeasure with more or less Mgor. I don't lilame the man who is emphatic, ou this Bubiect ;I dou't Maine him for expecting, iind deiminding that the happiness and couifiirt of the home shall lie first in tlie thought of the mistress of the Lome. "It is nowhere written :that a man should eat overdone meat and underdone brea'd iu serenity of soul. '.' It is nowhere written that he shall see the fmit of his toil wasted, disorder reign in his ' home, aiid yet lie always smooth of •speech towards the wife who misappropriates his/bounty. ". "Occasionally- there is -one- : whose pa- tienee and forliearauce are equal to the strain, hut such a man iinally becomes a nonentity -in his own, house. The average nian.either develops into a nagging, chronic fault-finder. or finds "that there are other places ])Ieasantef tbau his home. And it. is not strange to me •that he does either one of these." ' "1 suppose that yon Would uot have the tired housewife speak of her household annoyances- or ask counsel or advice relative' to them." "You are right," responded iriy. friend. "I think the^woman who by. the grace Of God is at the. head of a house shouid make -herself-capable of attending to it and its details, and I stronply believe that she should keep the annoyance of daily domestic life to herselt She should be equal to the niastery of them herself. .1 know," she continued, "what I. am talking about. I \know "ivhat it is to work hard with hand and brain that there may be money for the house relit and the pew r^ut: that Johnny may go to college and Mary study music: that there may be occasional concert tickets, new; ribbons aud gloves enough^ to go around: to say nothing of the so- called absolute' necessities.'. - "I know just as a man knows what it is to wond€-r when- all these are com- -ing from: ta wonder if this note can be met whcii due and if that investment \\ill be a success, aud I tell you that the men who are daily, and as a matter -of course, bearing these burdens for those dearer to them than-their own ease'and pleasure, have no bed of roses. I insist that -bomc should lie made a. haven of rest and jieace; a place where' the worries and cares may cease aud comfort claim its owii. If the woman who thinks I am mistaken-will go down into the sea of a . busines life and fight its waves and its- billows.' she will hare juster views on the subject/' "I really think;" she continued, "that the secret of home-making lies in the womari.'s attitude rtoward her 'work .and her. duties.: She caii be incarnate discord or a presiding senins of peace aud joy just as she accepts them or foolishly rebels against them. She will feel them as a ship Jeels ballast making it ride more safely or she will permit thenrto discourage and overSvhelni her. "Oh, yes, I believe in all the' good things for women. Strong deed aud thought, height and depth, if you please, .biit I-believe.- that there is nothing going <m in "the world—wars and tumult*,-in- \entinns mid discoveries-—so all-important as that which" i>i goijtg on under the eye of the world's home-makers. I-have no desire' to -see "women .domestic drudge's. ' I a^u always and everywhere opposed to it: 'but I really think that she •who w'-vly plans •ind conducts the 'house— cleaning campaign, banishing tlie-signs of winter's reign and rule ami seeing that her liuitsj' is iii lit array "for. the season of sunshine and flowers .does as fine and uise- ftti a thing a*» she whit writes a paper on Primitive man or Chopin's music, and I've no grudge against primitive man and enjoy Chopin." "But there lire women who. have-gifts in the one direction and not.iji the other, who are -called to.paths outside the"domestic one," I said. "Uod speed them," she said.. -"What I meaii is simply .-that" she who looks upon the'daily routine that goes to successful home-making as less noble, beautiful anil enduring than the -work of .her who paints a- picture,. >-ells real estate or n rite a book is making a mi-take." "I suppose," I veiitureiL "that a business .experience is beneficial to a 'woman in that it teaches and enforces the habits of puuctuairty. conciseness,, attention to detail, x-ourtesy- and the various qualities that the successful~business man must jiossess." "That's "one of the half-truths again," said my friend. "There's really no place in. the- world Where these qualities can be so surely acquired, aud where they are- liiore truly important than in' the well-regulated home. .There is no reason in' tlie world why a woman -should go outside her home to'-learn the importance' of: keeping 'engagements to the niiinitc! of beiiiK correct as to dates and addresses. : of being concise, courteous aiid exact. At her own fireside she may learn to avoid liKiuacity, aiid digressioii. she may learn that—aud thousands of us do learn it to our .-sorrow^—that our friends are thieves who steal away our tiir.e. "There is nothing to; prevent the young girl in her father's house from iearuing- that 'signing a- check, .and endorsing a check'." are '-not. interchangeable " terms, and that there is",a right end of the same across..which to write her name. The sma!l : ordinary, forms .1 hut obtain in simple business transactions can; he. acqmicit without what you call a bnsj- uess experience. The well-tauglit, well- traiiieil daughter of a careful -motherand housekeeper has the best possible opportunities for acquiriug those habits that make for success not. onlyMu": business bill everywhere else.*' "Another bubble: pricked;"" : I said. "One thing more, tell me what you think of the apartment buildings.: settlements aii'l hotels built and arranged i•:specially for women, where -teachers, writvrs. musicians, artists, business women may;be massed together, -each after her own calling and vocation, and make what the philanthropic originators aud builders call 'a home.' ""It may seem ungracious." said the business w-omflu. "to criticize undertakings that art- designed .for the betterment <it the world, but I am thoroughly and all the time opposeil to schemes, for the segregation of wonH'n. Their, spirit iihiy be one of pure philanthropy but their system is wainig.. It is foinuled on a mistake as to tlie needs and requirements of the average human being. It is a wcll-kndwu fact that men who live apart from the society of good women become carele&s of dress, "anil deportment even to coarseness^ The.refinements and ami'ultjes are greatly abridged and often entirely , discountenanced. Aboriginal traits are said to be latent iu the best of men and'constant watch and ward are necessary to prevent relapses. Women have perhaps.reaped greater advantages from the ages of represiori through. he : reditary influences than men: in their refinement, love of ordiT, iu the very .uarrowuess iif a: conventional life, they have certain helps to right living under any circumstiiiices. "But all tlie same the life is unwholesome. The household that is composed wholly of'women is apt to he pervaded by a .morbid spirit: fads flourish, nerves thin in its atmosphere: all sorts of whims and vagaries originate and spread among its members. And while it is said that women beautify themselves and cultivate the graces of life for the pleasure of or for triumph over each other, it is still true that iu the -households Where men are not regular members there are fewer, ribbons .and laces, fewer .dainty .-toilets than where they daily live and move. It is a lamentable fact that even very intelligent and fastidious women will fall: into "the "wrapper habit' with the same ease that men take to.smoking jackets when there are none;to see. Philanthropists who are planning homes, setr tlements and the like for women need to be reminded that they are inviting on- wholesome as well as very stupid social conditions. "Another thing. Much as we may-love our own special work it by no means follows that there are not times when we would like to banish the memory of it off from the earth. "The teacher who has spent from three to six hours of the day in the schoolroom does not, -when her rest comes, pine for the companionship of her who has spent the day in the same manner. The business woman does not want a reminder of business in the person of her who has talked life insurance or sold laces through the day's long hours. Ine literary-woman would rather hear a comic song or discuss the fashions than, converse with the reviewer "of books review she never so ablv. "There are many advantages-in the club and lunch rooms, that are open to girls and women only, in the great citv, but it is chiefly because they .offer for the home rest, -social intercourse with women of pther and various profess'ous or the entertaining papers or books that the ordinary restaurant offers not. But they are not homes and are not meant to be. "Fortunately nature and commeu sense are stronger than the philanthropist. - "But dear me," sajd the business woman, "this is my station. Good bye. What a delightful talk we have had." which was kind, but you who reafl this Will perceive that it was" she who did the talking, all of which is subscribed to by Carlotta Perry. THE WOMAN WHO TRIE? TO KEEP UP APPEARANCES. She is our mutual acquaintance—the woman who is trying to keep up appearances. She lives- around the corner in one of those nou-eommital houses where gentility makes its lust stand before shading off into hopeless and acknowledged poverty. - Sometimes we pity her, sometimes we despise her, sometimes we are smitten into up willing admiration of so much pluck and energy bo poorly expended and so illy rewarded. She goes everywhere. Her name is always in the society columns of the newspapers, and when she rea'ds it there among the lists of guests- at a fashion- aide Junction it is .the sublime reward for untold sacrifices aud humiliations, i'ou expect to see her tired, worn face with its strained smile above the:heads of the crowd at the Dhes retention, when Mme. Dhes pays- off the accumulated t-mall debts of. society by "inviting those-w ha are not worthy of more honor to come and regale, themselves on'weak tea^ and. bakers* cakes. -• The woman who tries to keep up appearances, generally has seen better days, and' a good family. She never ceases referring to the luxury in which she was brought up. or lets you forget that she belongs to tlie illustrious family of the Highfaultiu who were in the Revolutionary war. and not tu the ordinary Joneses, with \\ horn she is sometimes confused, -who Were only in the grocery busiuevs. -Her papa, now un- fultimately no more, was a person of Igreat.distinction-'hi the crossroads village where he lived; 'and where a grateful loiintrj rewarded his service by making him a justice of the peace. Her grandmother was one of the (J.000.000 ladies : with whom Gen: ' Lafayette, anilatily danced; according to their, own testimony, on-the occasion of "his visit to this country. These family details-are.not of absorbing interest to pev>ple who think it makes inure -.difference about what one is than it does about who their Ijmil) were, but the woman n ho is trying to keep.up appearances clings with pathetic tenacity to this poor shadow of a .'departed grandeur. She is a great manager. There Isn't a makeshift of economy that she does not kiiow.'iiud.' she is piisthiistress of making one dollar-do'the work of two. Her dinner .parties may know the spurious rt- finemeutji of .entrees and the'. illusive delights of ice cri-am frozen'into fantastic •shapes, but her own family pay for these offerings to tlie altar of spciety'by eatiiig the scraps tliat .are left over, and liviiig on short 'coinuioii.s for a mouth;- .It is never safe to move anything in -her IiiiiiM-. This window curtain is draped so as to cover the holes in it, that chair has a scarf tied where the broken back .is joined tin,: this table is .set w"here it hides the Worn place in the carpet; ^Every effect .is carefully /planned .out. and the very furniture pressed iuto~ service to muke'au .impression 'and put its- best lout foremost. She knows where-tlie best bargains are to be had, and how to get the one; grain of:-wheat out of ; the bushel of chaff ou the remnant counter. Early Monday morning you --will surely .find her in the heart of the struggling mob around: the bargain -counter, and she" would consider it almost wicked to: buy gloves :or handkerchiefs on any day not set 'apart for a special sale of those articles. Sometimes you meet her in an obscure shop in an unfashionable street, haggling over the price of a yard of domestic, and she explains to you that it is the merest accident that she happened to be there; She was merely passing by, and "something in the Window attracted her : attention. : ... *'T.always 'buy everything of Higliprice & Cash." she says, "it's a little dearer, but it is always quite correct style, you know," •Xo slave is harder w-orked than, the woman who tries to keep up appearances. He'r clothes aiid her children's must be as-much"-heralDed and befrilled as those of her richer neighbors, and .so, ^with weary fingers and blinded eyes, .she stitches far into tlie night,-and through toilsome. days. She believes with all her heart-and soul and mind in the gospel of fashion, and brings up-her children in the way they should go. so that While mere "babies, they would scorn :to play with a child whose frock was poor or -worn or' old. The woman who tries to keep up appearances has n poor opinion of "nature: unadorned. She believes 3n poses. She is'literary. or. artistic, or religious.: according to the -fad that/holds .society at -the" moment. She waded with the : cbur- age of A martyr through pages of Browning and Ibsen when a •'.-.fashionable; Woman organized a club.for the studv of those mysterious writers; she -bowed" down and worshiped unutterable things in the way of yellow or greenerv, and' half-way betweenery things whUe the aesthetic school obtained. She would no •more be caught attending worship in an nn fashionable church than she would be iliscovered attempting assassination. 'She turns the beggar from her "door unfed, but her on the Subscription lis.t that rich women carry "around to raise, money to build a monument to the memory of the .author of "Sweet Marie." or some other gem in our eqmplaisaht literature. ' . The woman who is, drying" to keep up appearances knows only the rich and great. Poor acquaintances are a luxury that she censiders to belong exclusively to the rich. She cannot afford them. It is ..conceivable that there are men who are poor and shabby, and Tvhose coats are shiny it the seams who are charming 'in ef It the be little to in are "If far the imply a the at be if of but the If possession in not best life; in to is a .don. she and him She she bear ? life the with at sister: tells upon for first: this "I as only- no an crust lie "but He by. and did been mere and as to bear separation, him glass silver- up,

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  1. The Weekly Wisconsin,
  2. 30 May 1896, Sat,
  3. Page 3

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