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Ex-fiance wants ring back after 14 years Dear Ann Landers: I am 36 years old and happily engaged to a fine man. Fourteen years ago I was engaged engaged to another man. Unfortunately, Unfortunately, my first fiance, I'll call him Greg, refused to set the date and kept putting me off. After wearing his beautiful diamond diamond ring for three years, I decided to remove it from my hand to avoid the embarrassing question from family members and friends, "When are you two going to get married? " I kept seeing Greg for three more years, hoping he'd get serious about marriage, but it never happened. As time rolled on, I had to face the fact that Greg was never going to marry me. I decided to break up with him and asked if he wanted the ring back. He said, "No. It's yours. I gave it to you for your birthday." Because of my admiration for this man, I agreed that we should remain friendly. We both developed other relationships, introduced one another another to our new partners and often double-dated. Last week Greg told me he wants to Ann Landers CREATORS SYNDICATE marry the woman with whom he's been living this past year. He has asked me to return the diamond ring he gave me 14 years ago. It's a perfect stone weighing 1.5 carats, purchased in 1976 for $1,800. He says today it would cost at least twice as much. Ann, I have been paying insurance on this ring for 14 years, not to mention that I am pretty upset about Greg's request. I don't want to look like a gold digger or an overly materialistic materialistic woman. On the other hand, I love that ring and would hate to part with it. Please tell me what to do. — P.M.K.,Branford,Conn. Dear Branford: If you value Greg's friendship, give the ring back. If you feel that he has so damaged the relationship that you no longer want to be friends — I wouldn't blame you — keep the ring and tell him to take a hike. Legally, the ring is yours because he gave it to you as a birthday gift. Had that not been the case, he would have been entitled to the ring because because YOU broke the engagement. Incidentally, according to a Chicago Chicago diamond consultant, Lester Lampert, a fine quality diamond ring that cost $1,800 in 1976 would probably probably be worth about $10,000 today. Dear Ann Landers: My wife and I are happily married and someday soon wish to have children. As married married couples often do, we've discussed discussed possible names for the children. children. My wife wants very much to have a junior. I, on the other hand, feel a child should have its own identity and said I was opposed to it. Six months ago when my pregnant sister and her husband approached me and asked if they could name their baby after me (if it's a boy) I was flattered and said, "Of course." My wife was upset that I had agreed to this after I had objected so strongly to our using the name. Second, Second, she was hurt that she hadn't been consulted. Now every time the family gets together and the baby's name is used, she becomes upset Do you have any suggestions on how we can make this situation bearable in the future? — Caught in the Middle in Pa. Dear Pa.: It's too late to completely completely rectify the situation, but I think your wife is right on both counts. Your only hope is to agree to name your son after you and pray for a girl. Beall

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  1. The Salina Journal,
  2. 03 Nov 1990, Sat,
  3. Page 6

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