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i V- jM; -V, i 1 7 Get Him to roBose JL Mrs. Donald Schuessler admits she connived a little "His idea," says Mrs. Peter Semegen Bill Gilfillian needed no hints from Betty It's the Season for Tender Thoughts And Cupid Is Working Overtime I Vr) I know a good thing when I see it and I thought I'd better latch on to this one!" I BY PAULINE STERLING Free Prm Slaff Writer Girls, this is the year to get your man! The men are altar-bound. If you've a steady beau or even a more than casual boy friend, you might as well start planning your wedding. For the past several weeks an average of 90 couples a day have been getting marriage licenses at the Wayne County Bureau.

That figure is bound to go up considerably during "June, the really popular months for weddings. Last year, during the peak, the daily average was only 82. Another encouraging thing about Spring 1954 is that men don't seem to need any prodding. They're getting the idea by themselves. "How did I get her to propose?" Simon Schlom was hard put to answer that one.

"Why I've been trying to get her to marry me for two years, he declared. They had been neighbors for 10 years, Schlom explained. "My wife died four years ago and her (Sylvia Stein's) husband died five years ago. Since then I haven't gone round with any other woman. "It Isn't because she's such a good cook and housekeeper.

It Isn't because of money. It's because she's an honest woman that I wanted to marry her. We've known each other for a long time and I thought we ought to finish out our live together." Betty Fisher agreed to change her name to Mrs. William Gilfillan, Jr on May 8. Though she'd known Bill for some time, she hadn't thought of marriage and was somewhat surprised when Bill asked her.

Said Bill: "Betty is the first real girl I've ever known. She's the only girl for me and I knew I'd better hurry up and marry her before some other fellow beats me to it. That's the way it was. I didn't need any hints from her." gir- -i, DONALD HENRY SCHUESSLER, who has about six months to serve in the Army, proposed to Frances Joan Schooley almost the minute he got back from Greenland. Frances is willing to admit to "a little conniving." They had an April 28 date at the altar.

With Frank P. Rau and Mary F. Stone, a proposal from either wasn't necessary. Both took things for granted and when Frank got a two-month leave from the army, he decided he'd "kept Mary waiting long enough." They met an Mr. Rau and Miss Stone for the last time early In May in the Presbyterian Church in Plymouth.

"She didn't even twist my arm. This was all my own idea," William Van Esvald, said as he and Margaret Briley were getting their license. "I had to wait for her to finish nurses' training before we could get married," he added. "I said, 'yes' the first time he asked me," Margaret Briley said. i "I know a good thing when I see it," said Richard Dudek SAID MARY SICKO, who married Peter Semegen on Saturday: "It was strictly his own idea.

I didn't have to give him an invitation to propose. We've known each other four years and he knew I wouldn't marry him until he got his citizenship papers." Peter got his citizenship papers-dashed over to get Mary the same day and rushed her to the county building before she had a chance to change her mind. Richard H. Dudck and Angcline Pclc have known each other only six months and last week became Mr. and Mrs.

When asked how she managed, Mary replied: "It was easy." Dick interrupted to say: "It was my ideal -DETROIT FREE PRESS WOMEN ft or and about SECTION SUNDAY, MAY 16, 1954 'V' 1 TABLES TURNED ON WOMAN HATER Follow Plan in Picking a Mate Simon Schlom knew Sylvia was an honest woman class would be least objectionable to you?" Very reluctantly he designated two blonds. From his choice I chose the one who had the same religious background, family life and educational interests. Later, I introduced them. to wager that no girl would ever make his heart palpitate in the future. I HAD MARTIN look around at the various coeds in one of my psychology classes at Northwestern University.

The class contained about 250 students, of which almost half were girls. "Well, if you ever should want to date a girl again," I began, "which ones in this He was to take the girl to movies, dances and school athletic events. He was to take her to church, the art institute, concerts, picnics and hikes. And he was to act like an animated suitor, even though he felt soured at heart. "Act the way you'd like to be, and soon you'll be the way of the act," is one of our axioms of psychology.

"Go through the proper motions and you'll soon -Jf i AS PART OF my acceptance of his wager, he had vowed to follow my A GUIDE FOR MARRIAGE begin to feel the corresponding emotions," is another way of stating the same truth. MARTIN WAS a graduate student at the university and preoccupied with work on a master's thesis, but he took time to date this coed two or three nights per week. After one month he told me I was losing the wager. Another month passed and he still boasted that he felt the same as at the start. But before the semester was oveV, he found that his acting had become the real McCoy.

By June he proposed. And now they are happily married. SO DON'T worry about love. It will develop. But pick quality stuff at th outset, of your own religion, educational level and mutual outlook on life.

That's the true secret for picking a good mate, one that you will be proud of all of your life and insure a happy marriage. EDITOR'S NOTE: A practicing psychologist and physician, Dr. Crane, whose column appears regularly In the Free Press, considered an expect on marital problems. BY DR. GEORGE W.

CRANE Martin in his middle 20s, was a real case. He had been jilted just before his wedding day and was soured on women. "They're all the same," he grumbled. "All fickle. I'll never have any faith in any of them again." After just one unfortunate experience with a girl, he was damning all womankind.

That was most illogical. HE CAME to me with his problem. So I suggested he follow the motto of the Air Corps, which urges a pilot to go aloft in another plane immediately after an air crash. "I don't think you can do me any good," he said. "I haven't the slightest Interest in any girl.

And I shall never be able to love again." He was even sure of himself that he was willing How to Pick the Right Person a Suitable Mate, A Test for Sweethearts (for both male and female), Marital Rating Scale, Sex Problems in Marriage, How to Control Nagging Wives, and How to Operate Your Home on a Budget. These booklets, and others covering a variety of subjects, are available to Free Press readers. In ordering them, list the title of each desired, enclosing 10 cent3 for each bulletin and a self-addressed, long envelope. Send your request to Dr. Crane in care of the Free Press, Detroit 31.

A happy marriage depends on several essential factors. And the job of keeping a marriage' rolling along smoothly is not an easy one. Marriage requires the concentrated efforts of both the wife and the husband. It Is very Important that the fickle turn of the heart not overrule the better judgment of the head. Love is not entirely blind.

Picking the right mate Is necessary If a happy marriage is to exist. Dr. George Crane, Free Press columnist, offers a variety of pamphlets dealing with marriage. His booklets Include, How to Find Free Press Photos by Rar Glonka and Tommy VenateHc Frank Rau thought Mary had waited long enough.