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7 ANN LANDERS DETROIT FREE PRESS Monday, Dec. 29, 1953 lf-. New York Trip Assumption Grotto Church was the setting Saturday for th wedding of Diane May Dobbin and Leo S. Maas, Jr. Their parents are the Ralph E.

Dobbins, of Warren, and the senior Maases, of Ohio Ave. The couple will live on Greiner Ave. after a trip to New York. Should Families Keep The Old Folks at Home? SPEAKING OF YOU Looks Like A Great Year For Cupid BY KATHIE NORMAN Free Pr Staff Writer If the number of engagements announced over the hoidays is an accurate forecast, 1959 is going to be the Year of the Big Weddings. Blond post-deb Eleanor Jacobson joined the list Sunday when her parents, Mr.

and Mrs. Charles L. Jacobson, announced her engagement to Thomas Miller at a din- i him. Under these circumstances home care makes no sense whatever. Not ALL older folks are a problem.

Some are hale, hearty, cheerful, helpful and a source of genuine pleasure to those around them. If they went to a home for the aged, they would be sorely missed. But I don't hear about these people very often because this is a problem column. Remember? ANN LANDERS I' -MI 11. capacitated, childish and not in control of his faculties.

One woman wrote recently, "I love my a r-ln-1 a dearly, but I'm afraid If I don't (jet some help I'll die before he doe. "He's 79, has no sight and I must care for hiir like an infant. He belongs in a nursing home where he can get proper attention. "But my husband says, 'My father will die in the home of his loved ones. We'll send him to a nursing home over my dead Well, I'm afraid it will be over MY dead body!" IN SUCH cases, I strongly advise the wife to get moral support from' her clergyman.

Often he can make the husband see the light. No woman sttould slave year after year to save her husband from needless guilt feelings. In some lntanees, the older person has lost contact with reality and I unable to Identify hi surrounding or the people who are oaring for npr lor relatives ana 'Noon to Night' 2-way convertible bra a natural for the busy holiday season! i Eleanor 1 i v4 0 If DURING rite Sunday In Manor, Helen Ievlne and Seymour Zack were married. Their parent are Mr. Joseph Irvine, of Rich-ton and the late Mr.

Le ine, and the IewU W. Zack. of Cumberland Way. sons' holiday decorations are among the Pointe's most elegant. They have four Christmas trees a traditional one in the center hall, a modern black tree with silver twinkle lights on the terrace, a gold and white tree on the second floor landing and a holly tree with tiny lights in the living room.

ELEANOR, who made her debut in June at a ball in Grosse Pointe Yacht Club, where her father was commodore, is a sophomore at Michigan State University after transfering this fall from Colorado. Tom, son of Mr. and Jlrs. Claude R. Brooks, also of Berkshire Road, is a sophomore at the University of Michigan, where he's affiliated with Sigma Alpha Epsilon.

Other betrothal news comes from Chicago, where Mr. and Mrs. Earle L. Edwards announced their daughter Marilyn's engagement Sunday to Garey Towers Symington, son of the C. H.

Symingtons, of Provencal Edwards is a graduate of Northwestern University and the James Ward Thorne School of Nursing at Passavant Memorial Hospital. Her fiance is an alumnus of Deerfield Academy and Williams College, where ha was a member of Delta Kappa Epsilon. They'll be ried Feb. 28. We're Green with Envy MARTHA MARY C'happl In GreenfieM Village va the net tin jr Sunday for th wedding of Mary Ann Nlcoll and Clyde Hedman Eriksfn.

Their parents are the Benjamin Ralph N'irolls, of Dearborn, and the Hedman Carl Frlk-sens, of Santa Rarbara, Calif. After a trip to New York, the newlyweds will live In Ann Arbor. AITER a trip to Mexleo, i Dr. Samuel Harry Millstone I and hi bride, the former Carol Regina Raer, will live in Cheyenne Agency, S. D.

They were married. Sunday in the Statler Hilton Hotel. Parent of the couple are the Simon Baers, of Picadilly Road, and the late Mr. and Mr. Morris Millstone.

A FOLLOWING a trip F.at. the newlywed Gerald Katz.en will live on Hillside Drive. The bride wa Janire Fuert before her wedding' Sunday In Ada Shalom Synagog. Parents of the rouple are the Morton Fuersts, of Wisconsin and the Jack Kat.e, of Holmiir Ave. a 1 11 April I 1 clll 5 April 4 Is the wedding date set by Margaret Juanita Rad-cliffe and Donald Clark White, Jr.

Their parents are the Luther D. Radcliffes, of Mendota and Mrs. Lee White, of Evanston" 111., and Donald C. White, of Storm Lake, la. The bride-elect Is an alumna of Hope College, and her fiance was graduated from the University of Iowa.

l5" 'S 1 i IV GREAT NECK, N. Ilene Diane Llfshey and Rich- i ard Keith Barnett were -married Sunday in Temple Beth-El. Their parent are the Iwrence I I.ifsheyn, of i Great Neck, and the Arthur i D. Barnett, of Carol Ave. After a trip to Jamaica and Haiti, the couple will live In Oak Tark.

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Todav the moon is blue. ANN LANDERS Dear Ann: Why do you advocate segregation? I am referring to your Ptand that elderly members of the family be shipped off to the Old Folk's home. The problem of aged parents has been with lis since the Stone Age. It has never been borne so lightly by any generation as the current one. Anr" your ad-vice a n't done much to promote fam- ily peace and harmony.

Grand- father'a chair has been a respected If not revered Institu tion since Plymouth Rock and Jamestown. Your automatic suggestion that children pool their funds and send mama and papa to an institution shows little compassion and no understanding. I AM forturate. I have money and could well afford to pay my own way in the best of the institutions. But I have reason to believe my rhildern would prefer to have me live with them.

Why do you create doubts in the hearts of elderly people who feel secure and content with their families? I think you do untold harm. GERIATRIC G. Dear G. You write so well. It's a shame you don't read.

This is a problem column. People who write usually do so because they are having trouble of one sort or another. In' regard to aged parent, it I rare indeed that I get a letter saying "I Jut love my 82-year-o I mother-in-law," or "Cramp Is a joy to hae around the hoiie." I Ret the beefs not the bouquets. People write when things are bad not good. Although no two problems are exactly alike, a thread of similarity runs through many of the letters dealing with aged parents.

More often than not, one son or daughter is saddled with the responsibility for one or both parents while several brothers and sisters refuse flatly to help. i IN SOME cases, the parent I is meddlesome, crochety or an out-and-out troublemaker. I've had many letters from hirassed daughters-in-law who describe the back-breaking job of caring for an older person who is physically in- REDUCE UP TO 6 LBS. A WEEK NO DIET NO EXERCISI LU 4-8044 TR 3-2199 LA 6-2301 WO 3-3S95 UN 4-8375 He. rftnlclan.

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Casarolls leave Jan. 9 for their just-completed winter home at Scottsdale, Ariz. It'g on Camelback Mountain, overlooking the Son Tony, home for the holidays from Jud-son School near Scottsdale, leaves Sunday for Arizona. rrt -i tti rl friends in their Berkshire Road home. Each place at the table was marked with a low gold candlestick and gold taper.

Midway through the dinner, guests were asked to hold their place cards over the flame and lo! The names "Eleanor and Tom" mysteriously appeared on the back, where they'd been written in invisible ink. By the way, the Jacob- 3 Mrs. Casaroll AT A FAMILY dinner, Mr. and Mr. Frank J.

Nowak, of Collingham Drive, announced the engagement of their daughter, Antoinette, to Henry J. Roesch III, son of the Henry J. Roem-hes. of St. Clair Shores.

The bride-elect attended the University pf Detroit, and her fiance wa graduated from the University of Michigan. A February wedding I planned. ne oeorge vv. waiKers, oi tsioom- field Hills, are in Miami Beach opening their elegant burf Llub apartment by the ocean. Mrs.

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