Detroit Free Press from Detroit, Michigan on January 3, 1943 · Page 41
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Detroit Free Press from Detroit, Michigan · Page 41

Detroit, Michigan
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Sunday, January 3, 1943
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RUTH ALDEN I Husband s Drinking Worries Girl DEAR RUTH ALDEN: I am 18 and have been married two years to a young man now 20. The only problem marring our happiness is that my husband sometimes drinks heavily. When under the influence of alcohol, he treats me very disrespectfully before our friends and, of course, embarrasses me greatly. He's always sorry afterwards and promises not ta let it happen again. If I ask him what pleasure he gets from drinking, the only reason he. gives is that "it's fun." v Except for this weakness, he s a. voYuleTii "husband. 1 ove him very much and wouldn't want anything like this to come between us. But every time these scenes occur, it puts out a. spark inside of me, and I know eventually it will mean separation for us. "Is there any nope that ne win change? BEWILDERED. Habit Will Mean Eventual Ruin T HERTS IS nope that he wu change only if he has the great wiJJ power needed to fight the habit. Realizing: that continuing on this course will Inevitably mean ruin, he may find in himself the determination to conquer his weakness. He would toe aided in that effort if he would join "Alcoholic Anonymous," a fellowship organization of former alcoholics who have banded together to help others overcome the habit. I suggest that you or your husband write for further information to Alcoholic Anonymous, Postoffice Box 904, Ker-cheval Station, Detroit. Of course, if your husband is not genuinely determined to end the drinking habit, the members of this organization cannot help him. Medical Exam May Prove Aid I ADVISE your husband to have a thorough medical examination, for if his health is below par it might possibly have some bearing on the matter. Your pastor, too, may be able to throw light on the reasons for his behavior. If he drinks just when you are spending the evening with certain friends, avoid these acquaintances and cultivate others. If he does most of the drinking at home, strive to interest him in activities that will divert him. Develop a hobby together, read Interesting books aloud to each other, make articles of furniture for your home, go bowling together and so on. Keep up your courage, my dear, and be on the alert for interests that would appeal to your husband. "A. D.": Please write me your problem and I shall be glad to advise you. Thank you so much for your contribution, which I know represented a real sacrifice. "V. C": Since your son's earnings are necessary to your support, the fact should certainly be reported to the draft board in your community. I suggest that your husband receive a thorough medical examination, for there may be a physical basis for his inability to break the habit you mention. If he refuses to support you and the children, seek legal advice in your town. "TOMMY"! I'm sorry to disappoint you, but I am not permitted to reveal the names of column guests. "GIRL DUCHESS": I was so glad to receive your holiday greeting. We have all been wondering what had become of you. "MRS. K. S.": Thank you for your nice letter and the remembrance. Those who have personal problems on which they seek advice are welcome here. Please write on only one side of your paper, sign with column name and address your letter to Ruth Alden, The Detroit Free Press. Up-to-Date Man ners BY SCSAX BARTLETT MISS K. D.: On all occasions the reply to an introduction is "How do you do?" There are times in a crowd when even that isn't necessary. A bow and a smile may be enough. Never repeat the name of the guest to whom you've been introduced. And the phrase, "Pleased to meet you" is superfluous. You can express pleasure by your expression and manner in general. .MISS N. D.t No woman should go to a party with a man unless she as well as he has been invited. On the other hand it is entirely proper for her to take him to a party but the permission of the hostess should be asked in advance. MRS. G. D.: In making introductions among teen-agers neither Mister or Miss is used. It is the custom too in introducing one to the other to use their entire names "Nancy Black, this John Green." American Housewives Prepare for Point Rationing LS- Whitney Relates r aouious JLire otorv : i , . - '4. ; v:5,:: ' - . I l J - - i ' , . if i - - :' . 'V V : N X C' ,iw ----- . I -.v- . .... -K f i Jy I It Iff i; - Hand Care Program for Young Girls BY GRACE BARBER GIRLS, START your beauty program early. Develop set habits of beauty care and grooming that you will follow through life. Especially is this important In the care of your hands. Years of neglect will leave traces that cannot be erased when you are grown women. So begin now. Hands should be washed when they look dirty and also when they don't look dirty, as for example always before you eat. They carry germs and germs do not like soap and water. But there is a right way to wash your hands. Use warm water and plenty of gentle soap. Take time enough for the water and soap to really loosen the dirt. Rub your hands together and put "steam" into it. Use a hand brush if necessary. Then rinse off with water and dry thoroughly. Half the battle to keep your hands smooth is in learning how to wash and dry them properly. When you need some extra help for stains or grime use a cut lemon or pumice stone. Another help in keeping hands smooth is to wear gloves or mittens and avoid chilling, chapping and roughening. Be faithful to hand lotion or hand cream. Get the habit of using a little every time after you wash your hands. If you think .' V if . Attend to cuticle your hands need it rub in at night some oily cream, vaseline or toilet lanolin and pull on old cotton gloves. . Watch your cuticle. The best way to keep cuticle in good shape is to push it back gently with the towel every time you wash your hands. Never try to push it back when it's dry or use rough methods in manicur- X I V .9 Be faithful to hand lotion ing. To keep the cuticle soft and to prevent it from splitting and forming hangnails use oil or a lubricant on it such as you use at night on your hands. Good looking nails are not necessarily long nails. In fact it is best not to try to wear long nails because you are just asking for trouble. Your hands are active hands and there's bound to be much breakage if nails are worn long. About once a week your nails need special attention for about a half hour. Start with well-washed hands. Shape your nails with emery board filing from outer edges toward center. Don't file them in too far at the sides because this weakens them. Before you do anything to the cuticle rub some oily substance into it and soak your fingertips in a bowl of warm soapy water for 10 minutes. Dry your hands, apply more oil and then use an orange wood stick to press back the softened cuticle gently. What about polish? The consensus of opinion seems to be that buffed nails are in better taste for young girls. As you grow up and acquire more skill in hand care you will no doubt-prefer liquid polish. When point rationing of processed foods is put into effect early in February most families will have to rearrange their likes and dislikes. The mother of the family needs the co-operation of each member in order to avoid confusion. Rationing should be explained to children as well as adults and their help should be sought. Mrs. Willard Quennell, 11661 Lauder, gave her family a lesson in the point rationing system as soon as it was announced. The Quennell s will be remembered by Free Press readers as the intelligent young couple who successfully conducted an eleven-dollar-a-week-food-budgefc experiment in 1941. "Left to right are Marjorie, Sirs. Quennell, Mr. Quennell and little Pinky. Rationed Foods More than 200 kinds of vegetables and fruits, juices and soups are included in the new point rationing of processed foods. With a few minor exceptions, every member of the civilian population from the new-born infant to the oldest inhabitant will have the same number of points. 1 Canned and bottled fruits and fruit juices. This means apples, apricots, berries, cherries, cranberries, mixed fruits, grapefruit and juice, grape juice, peaches, pears, pineapple and juice and all others. 2 Canned and bottled veg-etafcYes sand. "vegeVaAe juices. This means asparagus, beans, all varieties canned and bottled, beets, carrots, corn, peas, sauerkraut, spinach, tomatoes and their products, and ail other canned and bottled vegetables, including baby foods. 3 Other processed foods. Canned soups. Dried and dehydrated fruits (raisins, etc.) "Frozen fruits like strawberries and peaches. Frozen vegetables. Jams and jellies, fruits and some vegetable preparations packed in large size containers and frozen foods sold in quantities over 10 pounds will not be included in this first OPA . schedule of processed foods. War Ration Book No. 2 is shown above. Half of the stamps are blue for processed foods. The rest are red for meat rationing later. Numbers on stamps indicate the point value; letters signify the time period. Food-Buying to Be Revolutionized Modern JJecoration BY GERTRUDE VOELLMIG Free Press Home Economics Editor POINT RATIONING wiU come to America early in February. It will revolutionize shopping for the housewife and meals for the family. The majority of processed fruits and vegetables will be first on the list. Shortages indicate that meats may soon follow. Fats will be rationed later. The system of point rationing is not difficult to grasp if you put your mind on it. But one thing must be thoroughly understood. In the past you have probably set aside a certain amount of your budget for food and tried to keep within that amount. But if you didn't, neither you nor vnn-family went hungry. You begged or borrowed some more money and bought more food. In February you will be given a certain number of food coupons to spend each month. When the food coupons are gone ... they're gone. You can't borrow on your next month's supply, you can't beg them off your friend or neighbor because shell need her own . . and you certainly can't steal them. ... So there is only one course left open to you. Carefully plan and wisely execute the spending of your coupons. Menu-Planning Urged FOR YEARS home economists have been recommending the planning of menus for a definite period, a week, a month, with systematic and weekly shopping. This system has always proved a time-saver, budget-saver and resulted in better balanced and more attractive meals. Under the new rationing it will not only prove valuable but a necessity. That is, if you expect to end that rationing period with as interesting and healthful meals as you begin it. To prepare American homemakers for this revised kind of planning and shopping has been one of the primary reasons our Government has announced point rationing a full month before putting it into effect. A fairly wide selection of foods will be offered to shoppers under the point system. More than many have seen in their grocery shops for some time. There will be no waiting in long lines for scarce commodities. Or, going without because your neighbor could shop earlier or run faster. But scarce, as well as plentiful, commodities will have a new set of values, point values in addition to penny ones. Commodities Listed Together A GROUP of related or interchangeable commodities are rationed together under the point system rather than the straight coupon kind used for coffee and sugar. Say, for example, all canned fruits were classed in the same group. A certain number of coupon points would be allowed for pineapple, pears, cherries, peaches and the rest. Those which are scarce and more in demand (pineapple, perhaps, coupon values have as yet not been announced) would cost the highest number of points. Peaches or one of the more plentiful ones, the lowest. It will be up to the consumer to decide whether she wants a lot of one or a little of another. Point values will be listed on the counter and the shelves of your grocery shops . . . They will be alike from stora to store , . . Newspapers will . publish the lists so that consumers will be familiar with them . . . Also, changes will be announced when they are made. It is not expected that values will change oftener than once a month. War Ration Book Number Two (Number One is your sugar and coffee ration book) will contain four pages of red and four pages of blue stamps. Each page has 24 numbered and lettered stamps (see sample on this page). The letters run from A to Z omitting I and O and signify the time period when the stamps may be used. The numbers on the stamps mean the point value. The colors of the stamp designates the commodity. Blue for processed foods. Red for meats when they are rationed. Enough Food for All SECRETARY WICKARD, backed by the United States Government, has said that "we will have enough food to give every one of us at home a healthful and well balanced diet." Every homemaker will have the opportunity to feed her family well. Rationing guarantees sharing alike. But, whether she keeps her family healthy or not will depend largely upon how wisely she plans and how carefully she shops. It is going to be a new experience and a hard job for many American women, but it will teach us all how we can run our homes more simply and economically than we ever thought possible. Actually it will amount to a war-forced, free course in home economics, practical application worth years of theorethical study. Here are some of the effects which point rationing can be expected to bring: Impulsive buying . . . "Asparagus, wonderful! I simply must have a few cans" ... eliminated. New tastes encouraged ... "I never have before, but I'd like to try baking a beef heart." New regard for quality . . . "This label says Grade A, this one Grade C, and the cans are practically the same size for the same price." . . . Label reading is necessary when a precious coupon must be spent. Facts About Extra Supplies NOW ABOUT HOARDING ... Everyone knows and understands that hoarding is unpatriotic and detrimental to the winning of the war. No true American will boast about owning a basement loaded with canned foods ... None will have the courage to buy and stock up foods that rightfully belong to his neighbor ... to the boys in our fighting forces ... to our Allies who are helping us win. No matter how you look at it hoarding cannot ever be considered practical. -No family has room to stock up for the duration. Sometime or other everyone is going to have to begin living on his ration book. The sooner we learn how to manage the easier it will be. Furthermore, our Government says we will be allowed enough food for an adequate and healthy diet. What more do we need if restricting our likes means helping to win the war? WHAT IS to be done about people who have always bought in large quantities and have an excess of canned foods on hand? The answer direct from the Office of Price Administration is this: Everyone applying for War Ration Book No. 2 will be required to fill' out and sign a "consumer declaration" form stating exactly the stocks of processed foods on hand. The new book will have stamps removed for these excess stocks and thus compel the applicant to use up canned foods on hand before buying more. Heavy Federal penalties can be applied to those people making false declarations. For home canned foods no declaration need be made and no stamps will be deducted for these home supplies. OPA expects, of course, that homemakers will use their home canned products instead of buying commercially prepared ones ... to help spread food supplies as far as possible. There seems to be some question about dried and dehydrated vegetables, dehydrated soups and the like. These will not be rationed and will not need to be declared. Only dried and dehydrated fruits are being included with this first group of processed foods. Canned soups, and that means every variety, are, of course, on the list, even If they may be made up entirely of meat or . poultry. BY AILEEX SPAFFORD "ALL ABOUT ModerrtDeco-rating" (Harper & Broi..' by Mary Gillies, will prove godsend for people who are enthusiastic about the clear-cut, streamlined trends in present-day furnishings . . . yet feel they need more information on the subject before doing a modern room all on their own. As she states in the foreward: "This book i3 for the practical-minded. It is for those thousands who like myself have to check the price before saying, 'I'll take it.' It is for those of us who frequently have to forego getting what we would like and have to substitute what we can afford or even make the most of what we have, but still persist in the model.- ideal." Miss Gillies, who is the interior decorating editor for Mc-Call's Magazine, has a bright often amusing style which makes the study of modern decoration (as she presents it) as interesting as fiction. In addition, her new book is so packed with down-to-earth information that most home owners will not be content with one reading. All phases of home decoration are covered from the modern viewpoint - furniture selection and arrangement, window treatments, floor coverings, lamps and lighting, pictures and other accessories. A very comprehensive index and a list of the outstanding designers of today add to its value. So do the numerous illustrations many of them in color. Beauty, Riches, Happiness, Excitement and Many Beaus but Fame Has Escaped Her BY AMY PORTER Tree PreM Special New Serrie NEW YORK, Jan. 2 If a fairy godmother appeared to a young girl and said, "Now, my dear, you may wish for just the sort of life you want ..." the young girl might very well sum up all her impossible dreams by saying, "I'll take a life just like Mrs. Payne Whitney's, please." The good fairy would understand that the girl wanted beauty and riches and happiness excitement and many beaus in her girlhood ; later, an attractive and loving husband, children say two children, a boy and a girl; satisfying outside interests, the lifelong companionship of notable world figures. And the whole nicely cushioned in multimillionaire wealth. All this g-ood fortune has been the Jot of Mrs. Whitney. Did the young girl wish for fame, too ? "WeU, xtvere naa Xo & eaten. somev;nere. VtfWn mote amusement than bitterness, Mrs. Whitney says: "Nine people out of ten think 1 am dead." It comes of being related to so many terribly prominent people. you get lost in the shuttle, the Whitney-Hay-Vajiderbilt-Astor shuttle. Even if you have one hundred million dollars, you gret lost. Of course the mere name Whitney is famous. And this Mrs. Whitney was Helen Hay, daughter ot the late John Hay, distinguished ambassador. Secretary ot State under McKinley , man ot weaitn. Furthermore, she is a successful poetess in her own right, with 12 books of verse published. In recent years she has expanded her race horse interests until she is known among' sportsmen as "first lady of the turf." Still, people keep acting surprised when they see her In person and alive. Possibly they confuse her with her late sister-in-law, Mrs. Harry Tayne Whitney, who died last April. Certainly they contuse her son, John Hay Whitney (Jock) with her sister-in-law's son, Cornelius Vanderbilt (Sonny) Whitney. Sometimes Talks Too Much MRS. WHITNEY was talking of these confusions during an interview. She received me in the enormous living room of her enormous country house at Manhasset, Long Island. "I'm shy of being interviewed," she said. "I've never been interviewed. Don't let me talk too much. My son, Jock, says I talk too much sometimes." Mrs. Whitney, handsome in a light gTeen wool sports dress and looking considerably younger than you'd expect of a woman with a thirty-seven-year-old son, sat some distance back from the open fire. A radio, her knitting-, some books, were near at hand. A diamond bow-knot at her throat glittered ta the firelight.) The talk ran to race horses, for while Mrs. Whitney deprecates her "first lady of the turf" title, she is mighty proud of what her horses have done. It bothered her to read in a paper the other day that if Mrs. John D. Hertz won the next Kentucky Derby with Count Fleet, she'd be the first woman ever to have had two winners in that event. "Doesn't anybody remember my Twenty Grand?" Mrs. Whitney protested. "And how about my Shut Out?" Hard to Name Horses SHE HAD spent the morning, she said, deciding' on names for six horses, some at her own Greentree Stable and others belonging to her son Jock. Now that Jock is an Army captain, stationed in England, she manages his stable, as well as that owned by her daughter, Mrs. Charles Shipman Payson. All the family's horses race under the Greentree colors, pink and black. She and John Gaver, her trainer, had worked hard on the names, making frequent use of the racing reference books there in the living room. "A name has to have meaning," she said. She had no trouble naming her two children Joan and John. They're both named after her father, John Hay, Joan being as near as she could get to John in a girl's name. Lived a Glittering Life SHE LIVED a glittering life in London when her father was ambassador there. She was presented at Court both in London and in Rome. She attended great state functions everywhere. "I was pretty shy, I must have been 15 or so. My father told me 'now don't worry about what you're going to say to the people you meet, just remember to listen closely to what they say. That social formula worked beautifully, my dear, and it still does." Back in Washington, young Helen Hay had her coming out party, and danced a lot, wrote poetry, played cribbage with Mrs. McKinley, wife of the President, and rode . . . "They said I was the worst and most reckless rider in the world." After her marriage to the fabulously wealthy young businessman, Payne Whitney, Mrs. Whitney lived in New York. "Just think, the house where my daughter was born later became the Soviet consulate. For that matter, my parents took me to see the house where I was born, on Forty-second St., and it was a cigar store." The years rolled by smoothly, studded with emeralds and ermine and happiness. "Our marriage was of the best. My hnsband was a patient man. He always let me have plenty of beaus, just for fun I mean. I never had a quarrel with him nor with anyone else that I can remember." Webb Carter First Horse ON A DULL day, Mrs. WTiitney bought the horse that started her on her racing career. His name was Webb Carter, a fine jumper, also known as "The Extermination Society" because he threw everybody except Mrs. Whitney. After her husband's death in 1927, Mrs. Whitney put more money and thought into Greentree, and encouraged the older of her five grandchildren all Mrs. Payson'a children to ride. "I'm busy as a bird dog," she said, "I had 19 people to lunch on Thanksgiving Day, most of them relatives." Mrs. Whitney gives generously to charities and is gracious in such matters as letting the public use her lake for ice-skating. "And then there's the war. Of course, I give money, money, money, but I work at it, too. I knit and grow vegetables where we used to have a polo field." Mrs. Whitney doesn't concern herself with major world problems "I leave them to people who know more than I do." Mrs. Whitney likes prize fights considers them more fun than cafe society's entertainments. She rode in a subway just once. "It made me as nervous as a witch. I was going from the town house to Wall Street, and I was terrified that I might find myself in Brooklyn, or somewhere. I never tried it again." One of her most treasured possessions Is an autograph book started by her father and kept np by her. It contains signed comments, poems, music scores, and drawings by Ralph Waldo Emerson, Walt Whitman, President McKinley, both the Presidents Roosevelt, Kipling, Elihu Root, Harriet Beecher Stowe, Henry W. Longfellow, Mark Twain, Hemmingway, Fred Astaire, Clarence Day, Gene Tunney, Charles and Ann Lindbergh and others. - Dorothy Parker is among those present, too, with this contribution: T had rather write in this book than be buried in Westminster Abbey much rather." H, j. t MW1 f- t f a i. It was near the turn of the century when pretty Helen Hay, daughter of Secretary of State John Hay, made her debut in Washington society. At the right is the present day Helen Hay, Mrs. Payne Whitney, fabulously wealthy society matron, owner of famous race horses, writer of poetry, who likes to comment, "Jlost people think I am dead." PART THREE THE DETROIT FREE PRESS SUNDAY, JANUARY. S, 1944 17

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