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The Buffalo News I Vednesda July 20 2005 INAL Life Columns The daily dish a spicy serving of celebrity news film flap Actor Colin arrell is suing a woman for allegedly trying to distribute and profit from a sex tape he says the two recorded with the agreement it would never be made public The lawsuit filed Monday seeks mon etary damages as well as a temporary re straining order and injunction prohibit ing the sale or other use of the videotape arrell 29 accuses Nicole Narain of trying to distribute the tape through an intermediary The two had an intimate relationship 216 years ago and both agreed that the 15 minute tape that shows the couple having sex would be jointly owned by them and would re main private according to the suit The lawsuit also accused the 31 year old woman of working with the owner of an Internet pornography business and contacting the news media about the tape The lawsuit said the release of the videotape would irreparably harm reputation and career Ashanti was accused in a civil court case of abandoning her first music pro te Shaffer: Ashanti: To host benefits Ungratefid? ducer when he asked for money after she became commercially successful an allegation she denied on the witness stand Genard Parker was an established music producer when Ashanti then 16 approached him in 1996 for help his lawyer Jasmine Khalili said case is about abandoning the people that help us Khalili charged in opening statements Monday in US District Court in Manhattan where the contract dispute is being heard by a jury She said Parker helped Ashanti in his Bronx home based studio for eight months when she was another teenage girl with a nice Ashanti who then lived in Glen Cove on Long Island eventually signed with a record company and Parker released her from his contract with the understand ing that he could produce two songs on her first album and receive a $50000 advance plus royalties Khalili said Two successfol albums that sold more than 6 million copies mean Ashanti owes Parker millions of dollars in royalties the lawyer said has never paid him and just as importantly she has never thanked Khalili said Benefit planned Paul Shaffer musical director for Late Show With David will host two benefit tribute concerts for Mike Smith lead singer and keyboard player for the Dave Clark ive who suf fers from spinal cord injuries after an accident at his home in Spain in 2003 The concert will feature performanc es by the Zombies Peter and Gordon Billy Kramer original Moody Blues lead singer Denny Laine and Beatles cover band The ab aux TYibute to Mike will be held Aug 2 at BB King Blues Qub and Grill rom News and wire service sources in New York The first show will be broadcast live on XM Satellite Radio All proceeds will benefit Smith who is paralyzed below the rib cage is no defense for my actions which I sincerely Jude Law Broken Law Nannygate has caught up with star Jude Law In his case the nanny Daisy Wright 26 was apparently doing her job and more After British tabloids reported that Law had an affair with Wright he is sued a statement saying he is ashamed and upset that hurt Sien na and the people most close to Sienna of course is Sienna Miller 23 fiancee Nannygate was uncovered by ex wife Sadie rost who al legedly heard the news from one of the three children she shares with the actor It was rost who hired Wright earlier this year to look after one of the children Now Law 32 wants to be left alone: is no defense for my actions which I sincerely regret and I ask that you respect our privacy at this very difficult he told the British papers II a if Thepain stop I've had headaches for years But af ter they got worse and worse I finally went to a doctor who said I had mi graines I have been taking Imitrex for about three months and it helps a lot but I still have major headaches What can I do? Anonymous presume that you got the correct diagnosis based on the classic symptoms These include a throbbing headache with pain that can be incapacitating They are usually but not always on one side of the head The headache The amily Doctor By Dr Allen Douma typically is preceded or accompanied by visual auras odd smells or nausea and vomiting Without treat 1 ment migraine headaches can be very debilitating And even with treatment many people experi ence a dramatic reduction in the quality of their lives Migraine headaches usually begin in adolescence and early adulthood but they affect as many as 3 percent of children males are about three times as likely as males to have migraines The pain is often made worse by move ment exertion and light Other factors that a migraine attack include foods such as chocolate emotional changes allergies hormonal changes and medications There is no absolute cure for migraine but many people can effectively manage the condition to almost eliminate the pain and maintain a normal life Managing migraine has three compo nents: 1) avoiding precipitating factors 2) preventing pain from oc curring and 3) treating the pain when it does occur A recent study showed that people were much better at the third com ponent than the first two Keeping a diary of symptoms is critical This can be tedious and easy to let it slide Although it may take many episodes of pain to identify a trigger or to assess how well something is working well worth the effort Some herbal medicines and dietary supplements have been shown to be effec tive in preventing migraines About two thirds of people who took 150 milligrams of coenzyme QJO daily for three months had less than half as many migraine head aches And no side effects were found Other studies have shown that 400 mil ligrams daily of vitamin B2 (riboflavin) 600 milligrams daily of magnesium or 100 milligrams daily of the herb feverfew decreased migraine episodes by 50 40 and 25 percent respectively Since feverfew has been a folk remedy used for abortion I strongly recommend avoiding its use if pregnancy is remotely possible Since these remedies all differ in chem ical make up and differ from prescription drugs taking one or more of them in com bination may be more effective However no studies have documented the effect so you would be your own test case Many drugs are being prescribed to prevent migraine attacks including beta blockers calcium channel blockers anti depressants ergotamine derivatives and anti epileptics All of these help some peo ple but the only way to determine best foryou is trial and error The two main classes of prescribed drugs used to treat migraine headaches (after an attack has started) are ergota mine derivatives and triptans Imitrex is one of seven triptans on the market Al though studies have indicated that in gen eral no triptan is better than another one of them may work better for you Commentary By Jeanne Marie Laskas as young as you feel Girls Night Out: Mom Edition and a player in a whole new game It occurs to me that I really know these four women been circling each other for about three years ever since our kids started pre school bump into each other in the parking lot at Day par ties and later as one or the other shyly suggested we all sign our kids up for softball gymnastics dance Who knows why the five of us clumped together more than any of us clumped with other mothers I suppose it happens all the time friendship circles spiraling in and around and about and anew This is the first time gathered without the kids and I am having a dif ficult time saying as opposed to or instead of and so I have decided for tonight not to use any names at all The waitress has already taken our drink order I believe nobody or dered beer Nope this is a Diet Coke and iced tea crowd In the back of my mind wondering if going to be the naughty one who corrupts this group There is so much business to take care of when you are just getting to know people as people One of the things we are doing is comparing dates the years that each of us graduated from this or that I see where this is go ing I was already teaching in mom says mom says She was I think probably just starting ju nior high that year was in grad I say As we start going backward in time the divide becomes even more acute Some of us were watching Brady in reruns on cable while others of us re member the thrill of seeing Jan and Marcia the first time around on riday nights at 8 so how old are mom finally asks me She and I are clearly running neck and neck for most senior member think older than I say horrified by the very words Why is this so terrible? She throws out her number a I say got her beat by three years And holy Budweiser Now I could re ally use a brew the oldest? It occurs to me that never been the oldest anywhere except perhaps in the college classroom where I teach and even there I have a hard time completely grasping the notion that I dont belong on the other side of the desk the oldest? old? I say to the group and I find myself fay ing to explain and make this all go away the youngest of four kids in my family Those of us who are youn gest children have a certain perspec tive We be old not in our na ture We have older siblings to clean up after us We are slobs We are forgetful We are screw ups We are spoiled We are free spirits who learned from our older mistakes learned all about how to circumvent silly parental rules We are independent We believe in the healthy neglect that got us where we are today We are Type personali ties We love beer We be old We make choices that keep us in this comfort zone Is it any accident that I married a man 15 years older than I am? To his friends practically a kid As it should be I imagine myself one day a wizened hag in a nursing home drooling in my Jell and I will believe deep down that I am younger than the nurse wip ing my chin so you see not really the I say to the other women looking at me blankly The thing is I actually believe in what I am saying Is this pathetic? only as old as you one of them says politely look your another says in such great This is pathetic! I change the subject I ask about that horse camp we were thinking of signing our kids up for we do They whip out their calendars Um I did not bring a calendar Who thinks to bring a calendar to a Girls Night Out? Soon enough we move on to scheduling which night well take our kids to a play and the zoo and a museum visit I crane my neck to glimpse their calendars tell them have to write these dates down and go home and check anyone have a mom has a pen and a pad of paper so she makes me a little list of all the dates hands it to me unny my older sister Kristin did the same thing for me last time we got together When the check comes I remember that I forgot to stop at the bank ma chine before this little outing I have $6 in my wallet Oh dear This is so embar rassing I hate being the youngest Washington Post Celebrity Gossip byLiz smith Beckhams want US appeal i i one thing I like about America I respect the sportsman They put them up on a pedestal They fay to knock them down And a great thing to be respected by the whole country so soccer star David Beckham He says that in his own coun try put you up there and then they fay to knock you Hmm I think human nature over there and here Ask any American celebrity (Elizabeth Taylor called it yo yo theory of But sports figures might have it easier than others So the reason Beckham and his wife Victoria want to become US me dia darlings David wants respect! Well good luck kid miss Beckham on the cover of Details for August bare chested as usual Everybody respects a fine set of abs if any comfort The supermarket tabloids are go ing crazy showing pics of Demi Moore in various floaty outfits displaying her as they inelegantly call it The actress has not confirmed that she is pregnant But the idea of a Demi enceinte and married to Ashton Kutcher is one that will not bum out The ever omnipresent insist that Demi and Ashton spent the better part of 20 minutes at Geisha David and Victoria Beckham: Want to become media darlings I 4L House discussing whether or not she should change her name to Demi Moore Kutcher girlfriends at the table voted yes guy pals said no one right out of the saltshak er I take it with many grains I find it amazing that stories like this are even in circulation Brace yourself Again say Meg Ryan is so de termined to alter her image that she has put out feelers to become a semi regular on Howard Stem She wants to it up with Howard once a week she can swear with the best of them and has been a closet How ard fan for Listen I know that Meg Ryan is not exactly a Girl Scout And it is kind of amazing that she has this gooey image But her all American girl movies have been so successful that her drunks nymphos and other grown ups are for gotten I believe that Meg Ryan would appear on a show that so de grades women albeit women willing to be degraded New Yorkers no sooner feel they rescued at least some important parts of the Plaza Hotel for the loving public (the bulk of this landmark is being re done as condominiums) than another major landmark stands now in danger The Denver based Miller Global Company which owns the Algonquin Hotel of fame and fortune has hired Cushman Wakefield to sell this im portant inn where Alexander Wolcott and Dorothy Parker once sat down to dine quip and drink The asking price for the hotel is in the neighborhood of $6O $7O million The cut off date to submit bids is fest approaching So if you want to support Mr Colby in his efforts to keep the Al gonquin afloat as a famous landmark hotel do get in touch with him at 212 6734980 DearAbby BY ABIGAIL VAN BLKEN ft Broken heart needs mending DearAbby: I am 15 Just 18 days be fore our three month anniversary of dat ing my boyfriend broke up with me He was my first love and I am heartbroken Seeing him having fun with someone else while I am alone and hurt ing is awful I want to be happy but I still love Brandon and want him back My friends and my parents all tell me to get over him I want to get over Brandon I went to know how to get him back I miss everything we had together When I think about the fun we had I break down and cry What do I do Abby? miserable without him How do I stop loving him? Crying in New Jersey Dear Crying: Teenage romances can be complicated and painful and you have my sympathy Your problem a new one been happening ever since boys and girls started noticing each other In my booklet for teens there is a section ti tled Up or What to Do With the In it I say: only well of each other or not at all after the break parties and school affairs and develop new interests busy Avoid the old reminders which tend to make you moody and broody Put away or get rid of the pictures photos and gifts unless you enjoy pun ishing yourself "Turn a deaf ear to anyone who wants to pry or question you A boy says over when he stops calling Usually he gives no reason but he has them This means time to forget him A girl will generally give you her reason Accept it whatever it is This means for you too time to move on its over all the note writing phoning or conniving will not help your cause ask a mutual friend to help you get him (or her) back It will only make you look foolish face the music DearAbby: Is there a tactful way to let a good neighbor know that her wind chimes are driving us crazy? This neigh bor hung the chimes on the opposite side of the house from their bedroom right next to our screened porch and bedroom window I suspect that they never hear them yet we must listen to them all day and all night Craving Peace and Quiet Lexington Ky Dear Craving: how handle it bake a batch of cookies or a pie and take it next door As I offered the goodies to my neighbor I would say Tm sure probably not aware of this but your wind chimes clink day and night and driving my husband and me to dis traction Would you mind hanging them someplace If as good a neigh bor as you say Pm sure shell accommo date you final I.