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Page 2 The Buffalo Newsriday April 17 1992 Ann Landers gay friend worries wife Dear Ann Landers: 28 years old My husband and I have been married for two sears although been togeth er for eight It been easy Alan has a lifelong friend named who is in prison for various crimes murder drug dealing etc due out soon During imprisonment he and Alan have exchanged letters on a regular basis Bill is gay I confess I'm a nosy wife I steamed open the envelopes and read all of Alan's letters from Bill He would be very upset if he knew this Two of recent letters made it clear that he is more than a little interested in my husband Alan has never said a word about this so I bring it up Bill's latest letter which was even more explicit accidentally ended up in our junk drawer in stead of in the garbage Because I use this drawer every day do I now have the right to say some thing to Alan about the letter? Can you give me some guid ance? Vo Name L'Sl Dear No Name: It is not certain that Alan is bisexual but when a woman competes with a homosex mA ual for the affection of a bisexual male she almost always loses Since AIDS has reared its ugly head I would not advise any wom an to continue in a relationship with a man who has sex with an other male Tell Alan you found Bill's letter in the drawer and the message is clear Give him a choice the marriage or Bill PS If he walks I say good riddance Good advice Dear Ann Landers: I've always had a problem hitting it off with women I'm sure it was because I was reluctant to make the first (move for fear of being rejected I've been reading your column for many years One day a 1 few months ago I saw that you had a booklet titled to Make riends and Slop Being AtWits End I sent for that booklet praying it would come in a plain envelope It did After reading and rereading it I concentrated on presenting a more confident positive image I felt better about myself and start ed to smile more The result was that people began to warm up to me I started to feel terrific When I became more relaxed and sure of myself women began to seek me out had a few rejections along the way but all part of the game and it bother me Now the light on my answering machine is always blinking when I come home and it's usually a message from a woman Know what? 1 love it Thanks for chang ing my life I New Me in Missouri Dear New You: What a great letter! I can't guarantee that every one who reads the booklet will have your luck" but for those who are interested send a check or money order for $415 and a long busi ness size sei addressed en ve lope to riends 'co Ann Landers PO: Box 11562 Chicago III 6061 1 0562 (This includes post age and handling) Ads target the wrong age group hen NBC recently made the decision to go after the high spending consumers in the 1 8 to 34 age group they left in their programming wake shows such as the Heat of the Night" and a spinoff of "The Golden Girls" called Pal ace" My question is where are these big spenders? I'm the mother of three unmarried thirty somethings and they can't esen keep their cockroaches from starving Their friends are in the same boat hey live olf Mi oods drive uninsured clunkers have maxed out credit cards and serious student loans I'm the ftrsl to admit I don't sit around and study who buys what and when but we're talking about pandering to an age group whose first words were not "Daddy" but "Do I have to use my own mon ey?" The only commercials that seem to have any relevance for them are the ones dealing with soft drinks running shoes pizzas By I RMA BOMBI and yeast infections Granted older people have the buying power but they're also in clined to hang onto their money That leaves the real people with the bucks and the incentives to buy the older baby boomers rankly if were an advertiser that's where put my money We're looking at a generation who are beginning to need mainte nance They need healthy cereals laxa tives diet programs and milk They're concerned about cars with air bags and safety features curing their own colds keeping their ba bies dry and saving money on their phone bills These are people who no longer cause Maalox mo ments They are Maalox mo ments Advertising is targeting youth only because parents are push overs and end up buying them $90 video games and $80 gym shoes Let's get real here Instead of trying to lower levels of television viewing why don't we raise the excitement level of the commer cials and try to pry some of the spending power away from the el derly who've got it? How about bikini clad girls who have as much fun drinking Metamucil as they do lite beer? That would make the elderly part with their money Or get the three Pepsi girls to stand over someone eating a bowl of oatmeal grunting huh" and Ray Charles nearby grinning "You got the right one baby" The excitement wouldn't kill us Honest Lucy Lincoln Make mature nuptials low key Mail from readers indicates that romance can bloom at age 40 50 70 and sometimes beyond and they ask about the etiquette of the wedding of an older couple Generally speaking the wed ding of a bride over 40 (unless you're Elizabeth Taylor) will be relatively small with a large recep tion following if the couple has many friends Invitations are usu ally informal handwritten notes sent by the bride herself or her mother The affair should reflect quiet poise and sophistication rather than youthful exuberance Usually for example the bride's friends do not give showers but entertain instead at more adult affairs such as cocktails or dinner parties The older bride seldom w'ears white a train or bridal veil She usually chooses a suit or dress in her favorite color It may be long or street length She may carry a small bouquet but she often chooses a corsage instead which she presents before leaving the re ception to a young unmarried friend rather than tossing it She often has just one attendant The reception is very much like a younger couple There should be toasts and a wedding cake al though not perhaps an enormous elaborately decorated one Highways: Continued from Page C7 from lorida to California The Phoenix segment was originally proposed as an elevated highway 100 feet high that would have bi sected the city's only historic neighborhood said Mark Bonan spokesman for the Arizona De partment of Transportation Opponents blocked construc tion until US Transportation Secretary Brock Adams flew to Phoenix in 1978 got all the feud ing parties together in one room and negotiated a compromise: The final mile of the highway through the historic district would be put underground with a concrete deck above and a new park on top become just what it was meant to said Bonan than disrupt neighborhoods and devalue property it has really in jected some pride and encouraged investment really nothing else like it in the world" The deck itself is actually 19 bridges built side by side forming a half mile cover over the sunken expressway Soil varying from four to eight feet deep was added to create the park During construction of the highway 800 mature palm trees were removed from the historic neighborhood kept alive in nurs eries for three years and then re turned to their original locations was no fun for anybody but you have to do things like that in a historic neighborhood" Bon an said Seattle reeway Park built in 1976 is an earlier and smaller version of the Phoenix idea The five acre park complete with waterfalls solved a problem created when Interstate 5 carved a 10 lane canyon through downtown Parks built Seattle said Donald Harris direc tor ot project development tor the Seattle Parks and Recreation De partment The small park has been so suc cessful that in the late 1980s the deck was extended north of the park and the Washington Slate Convention and Trade Center was also built oyer the top of the su perhighway And to the south Se federal courthouse needs more space and been dis cussion of building that over the freeway as well Harris said The sound of the reeway Park waterfalls masks traffic noise Har ris said and the park even takes advantage of the cars below to cre ate unique lighting effects one of the waterfalls is a glass wall that goes through to the he said night when cars go through the expressway their headlights illu minate the Boston This will sound fa miliar: In the 1950s Boston built its main highway into downtown as an elevated expressway along the waterfront The highway called the Central Artery crosses the Charles River and runs past Boston Garden separating down town from its adjacent neighbor hoods pretty much of an eyesore and now it's unable to handle the said Edward Corcoran a Massachusetts Highway Depart ment official Instead of expanding or re building it though Boston has embarked on a $6 billion project to replace the Central Artery with a tunnel going to widen the high way and put it below ground" Corcoran said plan is to then have park areas developable on decks land and open space where the elevated highway is now" The tunnel part of a project that also includes a new tunnel tothe Boston airport will be com 7 pleted in 1998 he said Then the elevated portion of the highway will be demolished San rancisco Opposition to urban freeways there goes back to the 1950s said Bill Wycko supervisor of transporta tion for the city Planning Depart ment Back then opponents of the waterfront's elevated Embarcadero reeway one of the city's main highways succeeded in getting construction abandoned after only one quarter of the proposed length was built And the October 1989 earth quake finished off that quarter The Embarcadero reeway was one of several expressways severe ly damaged Within six months of the quake freeway opponents were successful at getting officials to abandon plans to rebuild it It is being demolished instead who were part of the freeway revolt in 1959 are still around and getting their last said Wycko "They were partially successful back then in getting parts not built now they're working to get the damaged por tions not The city is now studying alter natives for the Embarcadero ree way and others damaged in the earthquake as well And the quake provided another unexpect ed benefit for San rancisco city planners Wycko said all the freeways going down drivers have been extreme ly creative in finding new ways to get to the city" he said "Traffic is more dispersed than ever" People In The News Gumbel hurt her feelings SOUTH BEND Ind (AP) ormer show co host Deborah Norville said NBC col league Bryant Gumbel hurt her feelings by never congratulating her on the birth of her son sat next to that man for I1: Norville said Tuesday at St College Norville recounted the controversy over replac ing 13 year veteran Jane Pauley in 1990 saying that sometimes Gumbel refused to respond to her She also discussed an nouncement that she would not return after ma ternity leave the following year "At the time I could imagine that only the pain of childbirth could be she said having a baby was much easier than what I went through at She is host of a radio program Magic Hall to do AIDS video LOS ANGELES (AP) Magic Johnson who retired from basketball after becoming infected with AIDS and talk show host Arsenic Hall are making an AIDS awareness video aimed at teen agers and young adults kind of our responsibility to try to Hall said positive AIDS is World War The tape It Safe: The Truth About HIV AIDS and will sell for less than $10 Proceeds will go toward AIDS research education and care Celebrities such as Paula Abdul and Luke Perry also will be featured slasher on probation NEW YORK (AP) Peter Bedford 20 who slashed actress Viveca Lindfors 72 in the face with a razor blade was placed on five years' pro bation Wednesday Bedford attacked the Swedish born actress on the street in 1 990 and also slashed another pedes trian Dennis Beal 38 Lindfors required 27 Beal 40 Bedford pleaded guilty to at Tempted assault Passover patrol reconsidered NEW YORK (AP) Comedian Jackie Mason reconsidered a plan to send a citizen patrol through a Jewish and black neighborhood during Passover because police assured him they could keep the peace his publicist says Mason had planned to hire an interracial group called the Seekers to drive around Crown Heights in Brooklyn starting riday but Police Commis sioner Lee Brown urged him not to Crown Heights exploded in riots last summer after a Jew 4 will OXO Associated Press A little princess Princess Yasmin daughter in law of the late former Shah of Iran smiles at daughter Princess Noor born in Washington The hospital room was symbolically declared a part of Iran from which her husband Reza Pahlavi has been exiled by clerics who de posed his father ish motorist killed a black child A Hasidic Jew was slain in retaliation Kinison service held LOS ANGELES (AP) Sam Kinison was the "Chuck Yeager (a daring test pilot) of comedy Robin Williams said of the shrieking wild man comedian killed in an auto accident Williams was among 300 people including Dan Aykroyd Paul Shaffer Richard Lewis Garry Shandling Charlie Sheen and rock singer Lita ord who attended a service Wednesday for Kini son who died in a car crash riday at age 38 Schools campaign for reading By PAULA VOELLVen Staff Reporter Local school districts teachers and librarians have been using dozens of innovative ways to get books into the hands of their stu dents The follow ing is a sampling: Riverside Academy gets very quiet every day during "sustained silent reading" "Everyone is expected to read for half an hour a day including teachers" said Meg Henderson program coordinator She also takes newsmagazines car and sports magazines into the cafeteria for students to read dur ing the last fixe minutes of lunch period Kindergartners at Our Lady of Victory Elementary School learn phonics on a computer as pan of a "Writing to pro gram "We havp 100 percent of our 5 year olds reading and writing stories when they enter first said teacher Diane orcuc ci A Readers and Writers air is planned June 6 for Alden Depew and Lancaster pupils with the help of a grant from Citibank and sponsorship of the Lancaster School District Workshops will be offered on poetry writing story telling books and magic cartoon ing and illustrations Sixth graders at the Aurora Middle School were invited to help retired librarian Iris Drzew iecki critique books for the New bery Medal a national honor giv en to children's books Seventy fourth graders slept at Williamsville's Maple West Ele Literacy: Bolsters confidence Continued from Page C7 dren talk more in class and their confidence has increased as well as that of the Ms Croglia is particularly pleased that this venture makes parents feel a welcome part of the educational process She keeps a well stocked book case labeled near the front door so that parents can easily check books out to read at home On Wednesday afternoons there are special events or field trips that relate to books they've been reading Storytellers and mu sicians have visited and the group has gone to the Broadway Market On the last day they will visit a bookstore where children will choose books forjheir own librar ies The project which ends May 1 after two years has involved 22 families It was funded by a $49000 grant from the US De partment of Education under the Student Literacy Corps "A lot of magical things happen when you read to said Ms Phillips "It's hard to believe that something so simple can do so mentary during a Prime Time sleep oxer They brought sleeping bags and their faxorite books so they could spend sex oral hours reading 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