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Who 'Needs' a Happy Childhood? M ANY of today's parents are guilty of "over- mothering" and "over- fathering" when what their children could really use more of is "Tender Loving Neglect," according to Peg . Bracken, who states her case against the American "compulsion" for happy childhoods in the current issue of Red- book magazine. "Growing pains are still a tact of life, though these days we tend to escalate them into expensive . complexes and neuroses," says Mrs. Stack- en, who suggests that it's time for parents to "relax" and stop regarding "every tantrum or solitary sulk as another step toward . . . LSD and goodncss-knows-what- all." Mrs. Bracken believes that "people are born with a certain aptitude lor happiness, depending on the, particular genes they snatched from the immense grab bag of the past." She calls it the "H.Q." or "Happiness Quotient," and says that "a child with • low H.Q. can manage to be miserable with a towMlered birthday cake a,nd a new motor scooter, white «ae with a high H.Q. can be happy with a codpie of dead worms and a head cold." I N HER copyrighted article for Redbook, the widely- known writer, who is also mother of two daughters, contends that "some people arc. probably better off without a happy childhood," and if parents paid more attention to their own "happy adulthood," perhaps children would have something to aim for. Parents who revise their lives solely for their child's benefit don't do much for his Happiness Quotient, according t* Mrs* Bracken, because their resentment usually spills over. "For instance. Hie parents who live in a community bo- cause its schools arc good, although they hate the place. Or^ the parents who spend long, miserable evenings with P.T.A. groups when this isn't Iheir cup of tea, foggily hoping it will unmope a inopey child hy giving him more feeling of belonging." ".Juvenile miseries spring from deeper wells," Mrs. Bracken says, and Hie friction between parent and child is a "natural 1 ' one which "usually eases off to a livable minimum when the child finally becomes a cardH'iirry- iiif> member of the grown-up generation." ___A PASE FOR Women ifttflbmel Wednesday, July 23, 1969 P*g« 11 Replace Drapery With Something Entirely Different fak Here's what happened to one.of photographer Baldwin's cameras which he left in direct sunlight on the back shelf of his car —with the air conditioning turned off. The plastic case melted. Cameras' that can go swimming: They're impervious even to the ocean but are also good for general picture taking. Swimming teacher Mary Van Dam, IS, of DCS Moines demonstrates this one in a friend's pool. Beware: Even a Waterproof Camera May Melt! A RK YOUR draperies wearing out? Why replace thorn? Let's do something 1 different " at the windows to treat your room to ;i whole new scene. The new figured CUSP- m e n t c u r- tnins arc so attract ive they don't need side draperies. They can stand alone to crciitc an airy see-through happening that throws a new light on nny window. If you have one long unattractive window, in a dining area perhaps, fill it in with a ripply casement, then frame sides and.top with a printed tile-effect wall-covering. A MIRRORED cornice and mirrored folding panels down each side make draperies a contribution to yesterday. This works well in a small room as the reflection seems to do some addition of its own. A two-fold to-the-ceiling screen on either side can help screen a do-nothing window. It may be a montage or col- luge idea, or it may he covered in wallpaper in one o( (he new animal patterns. The practical new decorative shades do (happy harmo- ni/irig with the small Ion- verc-d shutters. Shutters arc great substitute for draperies, You can use them full-length in matching yr contrasting hues, and they offer a tropical gaiety,to the most staid northern home. Olive Green Dear Dorothy Draper: What draperies and bedspread should 1 -buy for my teen - age daughter's room? The room has Italian furniture in pecan wood, olive green carpels, and antique white walls with accessories in dark blue and gold. — Mrs. W. II. T. Dorothy Draper says: Olive green bedspread with draperies in a print of olive .- green, dark blue and antique, white would tie up a pretty room. Second of three articles on how to be more successful with your camera. By Frances Craig T)HOTOGRAPHY is a hobby JL that lends itself to earth, sea and sky. Vacationers may shoot pictures from the air or underwater — places Grandma never dreamed of going, much less taking a camera. On* airline features a special day-long scenic flight from Las Vegas down the Grand Canyon, mainly for the purpose of taking pictures from the plane. And along the Florida coast, there's a submarine excursion especially for tourist-photographers. Here's something to remember when you're taking pictures from a plane or any moving vehicle. DON'T brace the camera against the window pane of the plane or car body. DO hold it as steady as possible in your hands, and this will eliminate most of the vibration. The same applies to a movie camera. Register and Tribune photographer Jervas Baldwin suggests that if you should go in for scuba diving and feel like spending $195 for a camera, look into the Nikonos, a waterproof camera that's also good during heavy rain or snow or down at the beach where sand can ruin a regu- lar camera. It's a good general purpose camera, too. It used to be that Nikonos owners had fun wearing their cameras and "accidentally" falling into, pools, relates a photographic journal. Now, there are so many of these cameras around that it's hard to get a second, glance with this performance. If you manage to get ocean-dunked with your regular camera or get it soaked wftR salt water spray, you can't afford to be casual. Baldwin recommends, "Drop it at once in a pait&of fresh water, rinse well, soak, well and ship off wet in a plastic bag to your repair man. Salt will corrode camera mecha- nisms in a very short time." N OW HERE are some suggestions that Baldwin makes for traveling with your camera: | Don't check it when you're .on the plane. Cameras are easily damaged. Besides, you'll surely see something to photograph en route. 2 Put your name- and address on your camera. Also, note the serial nwtiber of the- camera and lens on your passport ..if you're going abroad, and don't forget to fill out the customs forms on your camera or you'll have a hard time getting it back into the country. If you're traveling abroad, don't make what seems to be the common mistake of thinking cameras purchased abroad needn't be declared. You're entitled to $100 custom-free for each family member. However, cameras purchased abroad and sent home by air mail don't qualify under your exemption. .Make arrangements for someone to accept shipment if'yo,u won't be there; otherwise, storage and broker fees will be collected. 3 If you're traveling by auto, put your camera on the floor of the back. Don't leave it on the back window deck, in the glove compartment, or on the front seat. Left in the sun, plastic parts of a camera can shrivel grotesquely in less than one hour while the air conditioner is off and the driver at lunch. Heat can damage the camera's operating parts as well as film, especially color. It's a poor idea to carry a camera on the front or back seat because a sudden stop can send it sliding off to the floor — and an even worse idea to put it on the back deck because it can come flying at your head like a bullet in case of collision or sudden slop. * * * TOMORROW: Picture-taking doesn't stop with the vacation's end. AMY By Jack Tlpp'rr 7-23 "Can it wait a second, Mom?. . .Dicky Duck's in serious frouble and I can't leave him." Boy Could Be Easy Victim Dear Mrs. Ricker: I am writing in hopes that you will be able to help me and my parents understand each other better. I am 18 and a col- 1 e g e freshman. In high s c h ool, I made high 'Dorothy Ricker TEEN-AGE MAIL honors and had the respect of teachers', classmates, and friends. I started dating during my senior year in high school. When I wanted to date each weekend or with the same girl they objected vigorously, saying there would be time for dating after I graduate from college! As a result I haven't been dating, but this has caused us to have many arguments. I love my parents and wouldn't do anything to hurt them, but I think they are wrong. I believe I should be allowed to date on weekends and start to lead an independent life. I don't believe that dating the same girl would be dis- ' astrous to my entire life, which is what • my parents think would happen if I go steady. —Jay Mrs. Ricker says: Your parents are definitely wrong under the circumstances you describe. My guess is, they are afraid you will become entangled with some girl be- ' cause your lack of previous dating experience might make you an easy victim for a predatory female. , . At your age, you should -have had more dating experience, falling in and out of love,, which is normal for teens. This is the only way young people can learn how to get alopg with the opposite sex and eventually choose a lifetime mate wisely. ' A boy who is old enough to j be in college should be able to take care of himself under normal circumstances, and " my advice is to push hard toward thig goal.. Your parents must learn to accept the fact' that you are a young" 1 adult — not their little boy any more. Wedding, Betrothals Told BUEHLER-Qt'ICK Jari Quick, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. R. Thomas Quick, 1900 Merklin way, was married Saturday to Craig Buehler, son of Mrs. Mary Buehler of Clear Lake and the late George Buehler. The wedding was at the First Methodist Church in Clear Lake. Mr. Buehler is employed by the Fibraco Co. at Clear Lake,; where the couple will live. LOVITT-JONES Announcement is made by Mr. and Mrs. Dwight Lovitt of Bedford of the engagement of their daughter, Patti Lynn, 1134 Twenty-first St., and James S. Jones. He is the son of Mr. and Mrs. James Jones ofKellerton. Miss Lovitt is employed by the Plaza State Bank, and her fiance is serving with the Army at Fort Polk, La. HANE-KENDBICK Mrs. C. Glen Hane of Jefferson announces the plans for an Aug. 9 marriage 'of her daughter, Sally Linn, and Robert Wayne Kendrick, son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert F. Kendrick, 4507 Sixty-fifth St. Miss Hane, daughter of the late Mr. Hane,' has completed her first year at Mercy Hos.- pital school of nursing. Center ^J-all witn a Wardrobe of Variant I o WOLF'S DOWNTOWN MERLE HAY »UZA Mrs. Buehler Miss Lovitt Miss Hane Penny Crone Engaged Mr. and Mrs. Dean Crone of Britt announce the engagement and plans for an Aug. 23 marriage of their daughter, Penny, 4206 Northwest drive, to Dennis Leuwerke, son of Mr. and Mrs. Peter Leuwerke of Garner. The bride-elect, a graduate of Broadlawns Polk County Hospital school of nursing, is a nurse at that hospital. Her fiance, an alumnus of North Iowa Area Community College in Mason City, is stationed with the Army in Vietnam. 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