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Mittoon (HI.) Journal Gazette Monday, May 12, 1997 C3. ILlIFEGTVLE Anniversaries Couple loses daughter to husband in firm control A Dear Abbv Dear Abby is distributed by Universal Press Syndicate. R. Robinson from Kennewick who wrote because he was concerned that nowhere other than in your column was George i Washington's birthday (Feb. 22) mentioned.

He should take heart because every year anywhere. 50,000 to 100,000 come to our; south Texas community, which was established in 1775, to celebrate that important We are Laredo, Texas, just 150-miles south of San Antonio, and we have celebrated George' "Washington's birthday every" year for the last 100 years! Feel free to visit our Web site; a http:www.icsildo.comwbcauv' dex.htm. I think you will be most; surprised. Interested readers-can also contact the Washing ton's Birthday Celebration Assq ciation by writing: 1819 E. Hill-; side Road, Laredo, Texas GLEN S.

JACKSON, WBCA PRESIDENT, 1995-96 DEAR FORMER PREStt DENT JACKSON: I'm certain! that many readers will be interested to know that in your city, Washington's birthday is still celebrated in the traditional way. I know I was: Thank you for writing. Strohl 50th MATTOON- Mr. and Mrs. Robert Strohl of Lake Mattoon wWobserve their 50th wedding amriversary Saturday.

A reception, hosted by their children is planned from 2 to 4 p.m. at the First Baptist Church of Mattoon. Family and friends ae invited to attend. LsStrohl and Jeanne Luby were married May 17, 1947, in the Eirst Presbyterian Church of Mattoon by the Rev. Horace Batchelor.

They were attended by Bert and Edith Strohl, brother and sister-in-law of the bridegroom. They are parents of Mrs. Joe (Connie) Landes of Lawrence, Jan Strohl of Indianapolis, ana nanay stroru 01 west Ses Moines, Iowa. The Strohls ave three grandchildren. Strohl retired from Lake Land College, Mattoon.

Mrs. Strohl re-'''" Watts 25th CHARLESTON Mr, and Mrs. Terry Watts of 4347 Coun-tiLake Charleston, will celebrate their 25th wedding anniversary Saturday, sA' reception beginning at 1 prm. is planned at their home. Family and friends are invited to attend.

Cards would be appreciated. MYatts and Glenda Hammond were lutuneu iviay x7 1 4, Dillion, S.C. Their attendants were Elaine Faircloth and Steve urewer. They are parents of Shannon 'Watts, a student at Western IHi-nol's University in Macomb. r' Watts is employed at Mattoon High School in the Reserve Office Training Program.

Mrs. Watts works at Gift Baskets Unlimited and is the site di rector for the YMCA after school daughter is being totally controlled by her husband. You do not say whether she is' happy with this arrangement. Coupled with the estrangement from family and friends that you describe, this can be a warning sign of impending mental or physical abuse. If she is happy, don't try to "rescue" her.

But if she's not, let her know you're there for her and will help her in any way you can should she DEAR ABBY: Some friends of mine were recently married and had a strange request for a gift. The groom is a widower who had a home completely furnished with all the necessities. This was the bride's first marriage. Our circle of friends all attend the same church, so an announce News your own lunch. Call the Farm Bureau office at 345-3276 or 234-2125 to make reservations.

Sunrise Rotary Club drawing winner Linda Shunk of Camargo was the $25 winner of the calendar drawing April 21 at the Thursday meeting of the Coles County Sunrise Club. The club meets at 6:45 a.m. each Thursday in the patio room of Sarah Bush Lincoln Health Center. Visitors are always welcome to see what Rotary is all about. Calendars are still available at Big BrothersBig Sisters.

The organization will receive half of the profits on the remaining calendars which are Call 348-8741 for more information. Training set for breast cancer volunteer program The American Cancer Society is recruiting breast cancer survivors for its volunteer Reach to Recovery program. TKe program is a volunteer program in which breast cancer survivors provide information and support to women with breast cancer. Volunteers from Coles County will be paired with women within the same county. The training class is 9 a.m.

to 1 p.m. Saturday at Covenant erna residents plan ment was displayed on the bulletin board stating that since they already had all the things they need to start a home together, they were requesting that any gifts be sent in the form of a cash donation to a travel agency for their honeymoon. A small announcement with the same message was included with each wedding invitation. Abby, many of us have very simple lifestyles and try not to be condemning, so very little was said. I am also aware that many people care very little about what etiquette dictates.

However, it seems to me that if people want to give a gift, it is just that a gift, of their choosing. Some say this isn't any different from a bride registering at a department store. To me, it was just a little too tacky. Your opinion, please. WANTS TO KNOW IN YORBA LINDA, CALIF.

DEAR WANTS TO KNOW: I agree with you. If someone asks what the couple could use, then the friends and family can offer a suggestion. But to include an announcement requesting a particular gift or a gift of money is, indeed, DEAR ABBY: I'm writing in response to the letter from Jack Notes Medical center in Champaign. To be eligible for the class, you must be a breast cancer survivor, one year post-diagnosis. To reserve a place in the training class, including lunch, call the Eastern Area Office at 1-800-ACS-2345.

To learn more about Reach to Recovery or Man to Man, a volunteer program for men with prostate cancer, call the American Cancer Society office at 1-800-ACS-2345. The ACS Eastern Area Office provides information, education, advocacy and service to the people of Coles County. It's a Sandburg celebration Saturday Carl Sandburg School will celebrate 29 years of great education and fun with A Sandburg Celebration from 1 to 4 p.m. Sat-urday. The family fun day and alumni reunion will include ice cream, a sock hop, cake walk, outdoor and indoor games, a silent auction, caricature drawings, Bingo, tug-of-war of the classes, and lots more fun and prizes.

The silent auction and drawing items include a gas barbecue, Eastern Illinois University summer sport camps and a carousel horse. Silent auction items will be displayed in the school's front hall this week. Friend of Carl Sandburg family packets are $20family. Family packets include admission for Norma Ashby of Charleston, Kenny and Veva Huddlestun, and Hubert and Catherine Carlen, all of Greenup. Her sister is Kaylee, 2Vt.

Shaffer Barnett Scott and Frankie Barnett of Flower Mound, Texas, are parents of a son, Shaffer Chamberlain, born at 7:53 a.m. April 8, Discount Wall Paper 20,000 Double 5,000 Borders "Donna," our youngest daughter, married "Bill." We were not happy with her. choice, but she was 23 and it was her decision, so we gave her a beautiful wedding and kept quiet. While they were dating, Bill broke dates, was very late and sometimes didn't show up at all. He hated all her friends, so eventually she gave them up even her longtime girlfriends.

Now he wants to have nothing to do with us. We live 1,000 miles away and feel lucky to get to see her twice a year (Christmas and her birthday). We had a family reunion Donna did not attend. Bill's family had a reunion they I know Donna should be more aggressive, but it is not her na-ture. Should we stop calling, writing and sending her gifts? If we don't stay in touch, it will be exactly what Bill wants to happen.

We had Donna when we were 40, and I have a terminal illness, which makes matters worse. Abby, what would you do? CANT CRY ANYMORE DEAR CAN'T: I would do whatever pleases ME. It is obvious that your A LAN meeting set Wednesday The Child and Adolescent Local Area Network No. 14 will hold its monthly meeting from 10:30 a.m. to noon Wednesday.

The meeting will be in the WashingtonRoom, Education CentortSaritfl-Bush Lincoln Health Center, for Clark, Coles, Edtrar, Douglas, Cumberland, iltrie and Shelby counties. i network involves social service agencies, parents, schools, churches and other community programs working together to help children and their fainilites. This meeting is open to anyonewho wishes to attend. Reimbursement for child care and mileage is available to parents and consumer in attendance upon request. dUtVtittnsfiMabedire'cted to neItfinoisJ munity Services at 345--1221.

Coles Farm Bureau Primetimers plan trip The Coles County Farm Bureau Primetimers will meet Thursday to tour the Agri-Fab and Hydrogear factories in Meet at the Cross County Mall just east of the Alamo Steak-: house. Following the morning tour of the two factories, plan to dine out for lunch. There is no charge for the program, but you will pay for Travis Connelly Josh and Melinda Connelly of Mattoon are parents of a son, Travis Wilson, born at 6:50 p.m. April 7, 1997, at Sarah Bush Lincoln Health Center. Travis weighed 6 pounds, 5 ounces and was IW2 inches long.

His grandparents are Jack Price Jr. of Mount Zion, Linda and Dale Brown of Mattoon, Clifford and Becky Dixon Jr. of Mattoon andTom and Billie Connelly of Charleston. The infant's great-grandparents are Evelyn Price and Jack Price both of Mattoon; Leo and Edna Smith of Allenville; Fred Connelly of Charleston; Bob Martin Sr. of Houston, Texas; and Louise and Clifford Dixon Sr, of Mattoon.

He has one brother, Troy, Devin Deremiah Brandon and Tami Deremiah of Windsor are parents of a son, Devin, born at 8:34 p.m. April 7, 1997, at Sarah Bush Lincoln bike-a-thon Saturday Residents of the Lerna area will participate in a Bike-a-thon for St. Jude's Children's Hospital on Saturday. Meet at 9 a.m. at the Lerna School.

The rain date is May 31. SJFor information or a sponsor sheet call Sandy Osborn at 348-5636. 'it kJL el Hi 1 vr-Ht Mr. Mrs. Robert Strohl tired from Glenn and Logue At-torneys-at-law.

Mr. Mrs. Terry Watts program at Lincoln Elementary School in Mattoon. tell it MM it is Focus on Women Sara Eckel is distributed by the NEA Syndicate to Angry Mothers. "And I think it's because I feel there is no method or system for my life around me.

I have an 11-month-old son and a husband of nine years who really annoys me sometimes." "Before I had the baby, I mouthed off about how I wanted to be the one who worked because I didn't think I would have the patience to stay home with a baby," said a Moms Online member. "Needless to say those words don't taste too good." "As a stay-at-home mom, I find the days can get quite long even with the constant entertainment of my small son," writes the editor of Bored Mom. Of course, the joys of parenting are discussed as much as the frustrations. A typical sentiment was expressed by a visitor to Parent Soup (www.parentsoup.com): "No matter how much I feel that it is me against the world, I can always look by my side and see that lovely smiling face telling me, 1 love you, Some moms even think they've got the whole parenting-in-the-'90s thing figured out. A member of Bizy Moms (www.snowcrest.netfolger), a Web page for mothers with home-based businesses, expressed her joie de vivre: "I hate to gloat, but I think I truly have the best of both worlds.

I have my career, but I'm also home with my son." One thing that is relatively scant in these discussions is dogma. Which is why the level of dialogue is almost always superior to anything youU hear coming from Congress or a Sunday-morning talk show. So next time you catch that kid at the computer blasting space aliens, kick him off. Make a big speech about fresh air and exercise and interpersonal contact. Then log on and meet the cyber-moms.

Surf up, dude! 1 I L. 4 New Arrivals your immediate family, unlim-' ited ice cream, one 5050 gamedrink tickets, and one kid's drawing ticket. To purchase a family packet call 345-8609, Individual adult tickets at the door are $3. Student tickets are $2. For more information about A Sandburg Celebration call 348-0480.

Toastmasters speechcraft meets Session Two of of the Speechcraft course conducted by local Toastmasters Club members begins at 6 p.m. today at the Airport Steakhouse. Seven Speechcrafters began the course last week with at least one other planning to join tonight. Speechcrafters are; Judy, Thomas, Paul Snook) 'Joyce Hacket, Carol Rolling, Tom Mon-ahan, Brian Hinton and Paula Harrison. Anyone else who wishes to improve their ability tb speak in public is invited to join this group.

Tonight, however, is the last night new Speechcraft students will be accepted. A nominal fee is charged for materials "and expenses. Toastmasters assisting in last week's session included Jiin Gire, Speechcraft coordinator! Eric Oberhill, Toastmaster; Clarence Stanley, Prentiss Faw and Mike Sutherland, speakers' Ping Liu, timekeeper; and David Lee.Topicmaster. 1997, at Baylor Medical Center, Grapevine, Texas. Shaffer weighed 8 pounds and was 19 Va inches long.

His grandparents are Wal and Marie Holloway of Texas, and Alvin and Helen Al- wardt and George and Pat Bar; nett, all of Mattoon. He has a brother and Casey, 14 and Maurie, 13. Custom Blinds up to 60 off Vertical-Minis-Wood, etc. Rolls $400 DAILY On-line m6Ms BE When the talk turns to Inter-5t surfers, one usually pictures a teenage boy a boy who should be out playing softball or mowing lawn, but who instead has spent the past four hours chat-iyig in the Luke Sky-walker room 6, trying to navigate into www.smut.com. boy who, in other words, is malting his mother very, very angry.

Mothers are rertainlyjustified mtheir concerns that their chil-ren are spending too much time the virtual world and not jhough in the real one. And no Hie would argue with the mom She doesn't want her child down-Sading this month's Playmate. But that's not to say that all Bothers see the Internet as an 'vil destroyer of family life. Quite he contrary. Some of the most so-misticated sites on the Internet jiese days are designed by and jjr mothers.

Whether it is a slick, profes-lbnal site like The CyberMom lot Com, www.thecybermom.com), where jhe discussions range from joning sheep to making pot past, or a more homespun affair jke Angry Mothers MgesR Frankel), where visi-irs are invited to "complain way," the Internet provides a artual water cooler for moms of 31 stripes. Moms Online for example, hosts flscussions on hot topics such as lTo Work or Not to Work" and Martha Stewart: Clean Angel or Sttila the Home Maker?" 3 The Internet also offers a community for those with special seds. From deadly serious topics pch as coping with a rare childhood disease, to more mundane Vnhlems such as handling a tod- her who disrobes in public, no plero is so obscure tnat uie w-aMng mother won't be able to nd other parents with similar Kperiences. 1 "There's a great community. iit there of parents who share heir knowledge, tips and se-J-ets," writes the editor of Bored lom (www.cyberus.ca7fc.cm-1arenkaren.html), who uses her ntTfi to inform Darents about the Itfcalls of baby- and child-related goods.

And perhaps best off all, Internet has motners voices, lincut and unexpurgated: "I seem to be mad at the t. hole world said a recent visitor Health Center. Devin weighed 7 pounds, 8 ounces and was 20V4 inches long. His grandparents are Judy Lockwood of Strasburg, Tim Allen Sr. ofOlney and Mark and Karen Deremiah of Charleston.

The infant's great-grandparents are James and Madeline Allen and Irma Depew, all of Mattoon. Great-great-grandparents are Alta Lovall of Mattoon and Bea Epperson of Charleston. He has one brother, David, 5. Sydnee Huddlestun Troy and Kim Huddlestun of Ashmore are parents of a daughter, Sydnee Makayla, born at 1:29 p.m. April 8, 1997, at Covenant Medical Center, Sydnee weighed 7 pounds, 15 ounces and was 2IV4 inches long.

Grandparents are Larry and Penny Woolever of Mattoon, and Terry and Dorothy Huddlestun, and Patty and Max McCullough, all of Greenup. Great-grandparents are 500 Books-Up to 50 Off Retail Store Hours: M-F-9-5 Sat. 9-2 1109 S. 19th St. 235618 Mattoon, IL (f Journal Gazette HEED IIOOE DEMUEDY? imm OEOfJICE PnODLELIG? IIIIIIMITIIITTTIIIIIITV WHEN YOU NEED A We're Always Ready To Help! 253-6221 TTTTTT1III If I I I I 1 1 I I I Call the Circulation Office ii iiS 3 TOUCH TONE DIAL 2 Regular Office Hours: Delivery Deadlines M-F 5A.M.-4P.M.

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