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PAGE TWELVE ALTON EVENING TELEGRAPH WEDNESDAY, JULY 13, I960 The Women Social Events — Group Activities Miss Everett Sets Date Cox-Kodros Of Wedding as Aug. 20 MISS Patricia Dean Kvorptt. fiancee of Gene A. Gelzinnis, hns selrrtcd Aup 20 ns thr Hate for their wedding. The cere- ninny will .be read at 7:30 o'clock in First Methodist Church, nnd a reception \vill follow in the Sky Room of Hotel Stratford. The couple's engagement was announced last summer. Miss Kverett, daughter of — Mr*. Richard L. Schenke of J |||f| ' o| . flpf ng 2'21'2 Sanford Avc., has asked v He fir Speaker; Miss Wanda Rrrsp to serve as maid of honor at the wedding. Bridesmaids! will be the Misses Nancy Brnun and Kathryn Glassey. Becky Fulkerson. and Marsha Veith. cousin of the prospective bridegroom of Kdwardsville. will act as junior bridesmaids. Henry Nelson Schweppe Jr., will serve as best man for Mr. Gelzinnis, and groomsmen will be Joseph C. Smith of New- Providence, N. J., and Melvin Wilson. Mr. Smith and Mr. Wilson are brothers-in-law ol Mr. Gelzinnis. Acting as junior groomsmen will be Scott Wilson, son of Mr. and Mrs. Melvin Wilson, and Richard Schenke Jr., brother of the bride-elect. Mrs. Arthur Gelzinnis, mother of the prospective bridegroom, will give a rehearsal dinner Aug. 19 in Hotel Stratford. Mrs. Mahoney Hosts Luncheon Plnit Rushing Mrs. Mather Pfeiffenberger Jr. addresser! members of the junior chapter of Beta Gamma I'psilnn last evening in the home of Miss Kathleen Glynn, 1f)0r> Henry St. She spoke on the forthcoming membership campaign for the Alton Children's Theater, after which the chapter voted to assist with the campaign. Also during the meeting final plans were completed for a rusli party to be held TUPS- day evening in the home of Miss Adele Barocca, 941 W. Dplmar Ave. Miss Mary Ann Gillespey was named general chairman. Miss Barbara Harper was named chairman of the entertainment committee; Miss Kathleen Stephan, refreshments; Miss Mary Ann Hausman, invitations; and Miss Nancy Maucker, decorations. Miss Frances Munson will handle other details for the party. Miss Glynn served refreshments, assisted by Miss Car- oLBorman. The next meeting 12th St. Mrs. J. E. Mahoney of 289 W. Haller Dr., Rosewood Heights, entertained with a w j U be neld in tne home of bon voyage luncheon in her Mjss Georgia Stuart, 615 E. home Tuesday honoring Mrs. Fred J. Kratschmer of 250 S. Ninth St., Wood River. The table was centered by a ship surrounded by yellow daisies. Following luncheon, the guests played cards. Mrs. Kratschmer will leave on July 21 on a trip to Eu- ^ember* of A]ton Assemblyi Order of Rainbow for Girls, who will contend for the title of queen of the summer fes- i tival, to be held Friday, July rjs. Konchina Speaks 22 in Franklin Masonic Tem- Rainbow Lists Contenders for Festival rope, where she will tour nine countries and view the Passion Play in Oberammergau. To Marguerite Camp Mrs. John Konchina of Staunton spoke on membership Tuesday evening during a meeting of members of Marguerite Camp, Royal Neighbors of America in Odd Fellows Hall. Mrs. Konchina is district deputy. Mrs. Thomas Edwards, oracle, presided at the business meeting which was preceded by a covered dish dinner. The group will meet next on the evening of Aug. 9 at 8 o'clock in the hall. 1954 Marquette Class Announces Orchestra For Reunion Aug. 20 During a meeting of the committee on arrangements tor the 1954 Marquette class reunion Tuesday evening, it was announced that the Ronnie Klaus Orchestra would play for the dance, to be held Aug. 20 in Knights of Columbus Hall at Wood River. The meeting was held in the home of Mr. and Mrs. Ronald Hauck of Cook street, Godfrey. Reservations may be made with James Stephan, 912 St. Joseph Ave., until July 25. California Vacation Returned from Southern California are Mr. and Mrs. George Vroman of 307 W. St. Louis Ave., East Alton, who spent a week visiting friends in Long Beach and with former Altonians, Mr. and Mrs. Al Visioni of Santa Barbara. The Vromans expected to conclude their vacation in the Ozarks with their daughters, Jackie Sue and Jill. Mother's Helper Heimtnn & P«OIK>» TUTTING patch pockets on ebUdren's elotbet? Help Inem witbiUrwi tbrukling fi*u or • weighty rock collection by outlining them witto cotton IviU tape oo tne reverts aide of tbe garment, ititcb firmly, witb special •Mention to tbe top ttbfre tear* matt frequently occur. • 1M*. *•• *eu &*tvi 'Intuit ta» V pie, were announced Monday evening at a meeting of the assembly. The candidates, who will make up the court, are the Misses Linda Jackson, Judy Korilko, Kathy McKinney, Rita Owens, and Sharon Williams. A midway will be open from 4:30 until 9 o'clock with dinner to be served from 5-7 o'clock. A dance will be held from 9 o'clock until midnight with the coronation scheduled for 10 o'clock. Also at the meeting Monday evening reports were given by those members who attended the recent grand assembly in Chicago. Bridal Shower for Miss Claire Lanzet Miss Claire Lanzet, bride- elect of William Moyer, was honored Monday evening at a bridal shower given by Miss Faye Ann Pees and her mother, Mrs. Charles Pees in their home at 412 Bowman Ave., East Alton. Roses and white candles decorated the refreshment table. Games were played by the guests. Miss Lanzet and Mr. Moyer will be married on Sept. 3 in St. Paul's Episcopal Church. Thetas Appoint Rusli Party Chairmen Committee chairmen were announced for $ rush party to be held Thursday evening by members of Alpha Chapter of Theta Rho PJpsilon in the home of Miss Barbara Shaekelford, 1705 State St. Chairmen are Miss Jane Hughson, refreshments; Miss Shackellord, decorations; Miss Twila Bradshaw, invitations; Miss Donna Quinn and Miss Sue Donson, entertainment. Members will meet at 7 o'clock, and the rushees at 7:30 o'clock. Miss McKinney Feted At Pre-Nufilial Party Miss Veila McKinney, fiancee of James Adcock, was honored at a shower given Tuesday evening by Miss Shirley OUT and Miss Kaien Aii- cuck in Miss Carr's home on Rodders avenue. Decorations were in a pink and white motil, and gilts trom the L'4 guests were placed on a table centered by an umbrella and I km ei s. Games were played. Among the fuesis was Mrs. Robert Schumacher. Miss Can's sister who is. visiting hen- Iroiu New I»ndun, Conn. Church Notes Theme ol midweek prayer service at the Reorganized Chuich ol Jesus Christ of Latter Uay Saints will be "Good Samaritans 1%0 ' this esenmy at 7:30 o'clotfe, Invitations Are Mailed Invitations have been mailed for the wedding of Miss Margaret Irene Kodros and Robert Arden Cox, which will take place Aug. 5 in Godfrey Memorial Chapel. Parties are being planned to honor Miss Kodros before her marriage. Miss Donna Rosenberg, who will be a bridesmaid, will be hostess to a kitchen shower on Thursday. July 21. It will be held in tlip home of her parents, Mr. and Mrs. Samuel Rosenberg, 422 Prairie St. Miss Judith Rawlins, daughter of Dr. and Mrs. G. A. Rawlins of Fairmount Addition, will give a party later this month in the Rawlins residence. Miss Rawlins also will be a bridesmaid in the wedding party. Miss Kodros, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Gus J. Kodros, has as a houseguest this week, Miss Mary Ellen Reichert of Iowa City. Miss Reichert and Miss Kodros are former class. mates at Monticello College, Born to: Mr. and Mrs. Jack Market, 3613 Horn St.,.a son, 6 pounds. 15 ounces, 3:41 a.m., Tuesday, Wood River Township Hospital. Mr. and Mrs. Paul Pavish, 114 Goulding Ave., East Alton, a son. 7 pounds, 5 ounces, 9:46 a.m. Tuesday, Wood River Township Hospital. Elder children Danny 9, Larry 7, Julie 4. Mr. and Mrs. Louis Hancock, 618 Old St. Louis Rd., Hartford, a son, 7 pounds and 2 ounces, 5:05 a.m. Tuesday, St. Joseph's Hospital. Mr. and Mrs. Earl Davis Jr., 411 Douglas St., East Alton, a son, 6 pounds, 4 ounces, 4:14 a.m. Tuesday, St. Joseph's Hospital. Mr. and Mrs. Gerald Rhoads, 31 Holly Hill, Rt. 1, Godfrey, a son, 7 pounds, 1 ounce, 3:12 a.m., Tuesday, St. Joseph's Hospital. Mr. and Mrs. James M. McMann, 623 Valley Dr., East Alton, a daughter, 9 pounds, 7 ounces, 4:39 p.m., Tuesday, St. Joseph's Hospital. Mr. and Mrs. Robert Churchill, 1520 Langdon St., a son, 8 pounds, 5 ounces, 4:55 p.m., Tuesday, St. Joseph's Hospital. Mr. and Mrs. Edward Cress, Humbert road, Godfrey, a daughter, 8 pounds, 5 ounces, 6:45 p.m., Tuesday, St. Joseph's Hospital. Mr. and Mrs. Richard E. Moore, 601 Delmar Ave., Hartford, a son, 6 pounds and 10 ounces, 9:04 p.m., Tuesday, St. Joseph's Hospital. Mr. and Mrs. Ira McCllntock, 1615 Joesting Ave., a son, 7 pounds, 5 ounces, 13:18 p.m., Tuesday, St. Joseph's Hospital. Mr. and Mrs. Clarence Stark- e.v, Rosewood Heights, a son, Randal Lee, 8 pounds and 14 ounces, 2:12 p.m., Tuesday, Alton Memorial Hospital. Mr. and Mrs. Warren Gels- Jer, Brighton, a daughter, Kathryn Elaine, 7 pounds and 15 ounces, 8:14 p.m., Tuesday, Alton Memorial Hospital. Lodges Ladies' Auxiliary to- the Brotherhood of Railroad Trainmen will meet Thursday evening at 7:30 o'clock in Odd Fellows Hall. Following the meeting, the group will have dinner in Moonlight Restaurant. Woman's Relief Corps will have a business meeting Thursday afternoon at 1:30 o'clock in Greenwood Lodge. Injured Residents /ict urn Home Mrs. Roy Volner of 1400 Lib- eriy St., has returned to hur home after attending her son- in-law and daughter, Mr. and Mrs. Leo Schnitker and their liimily who were hospitali/od in Hannibal. Mo., since June '2\ following an auto accident. Mr. Schnitker and 4-year- old daughter, Karen, were brought to St. Joseph's Hospital lor turther treatment. Mrs. Schnitker was releasod, and is at the home ol her parents. Mrs Finest Bowles of Mounds. Ill , sister of Mrs. Volner ha» been in Alton car- inj.; lor Stephen. 3, and Bill, '2\ moniiis, who were released June '_';>. Ann Schnitker was released July 7. and is at the home ol Mrs. Srhnitker's cousin, Mrs. Juwm Snyders. Tomorrow's Dinner Chilled bouillon with sour cream and chopped chives, broiled round kiaut dogs, potato >alud tomato slices, cucumber tint's, chocolate la>er cake, lemon sheibt't, iced <X>|fee. iced lea, milk, 1 MRS. ROY CHARLES BOEHLER (Burjes-Roberts Photo) Miss Kortkamp Bride Of RoyC. Boehler Wed at 7:30 o'clock Tuesday evening in Elm Street Presbyterian Church were Miss Nancy Kortkamp, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Harmon F. Kortkamp of 2418 Kohler St., and Roy Charles Boehler, son of Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Boehler of 110 Gerson Ave., Godfrey. The ceremony was performed by the Rev. William R. Kimbrough. A reception followed the ceremony in Fellowship Hall Of the church. Miss Judy Gustine was maid of honor. Janis Roberts, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Elmer Roberts, was flower girl. Best man was Thomas Head, and ushers were Richard Hetge. Thomas Corwin, Ed- ing. She carried white orchids and lilies of the valley. The maid of honor's dress of hyacinth blue nylon dotted swiss had a bolero jacket and tiered skirt with satin sash. ward Schaefer, and John Har- Her hea dpiece was a half hat rison. Mrs. Elmer Roberts was soloist for the ceremony and Cullen Clauser was organist. The bride's gown of bouquet taffeta featured a Chantilly lace yoke and scaljoped neckline encrusted with ssed pearls and sequins. A wide lace panel and lace motifs were appliqued to the full skirt with a large of hyacinth leaf petals with center bow and circular veil. She carried a ballerina bouquet of pink carnations and pink sweetheart roses. The flower girl carried a basket of pink roses. The former Miss Kortkamp is a 1960 graduate of Alton Senior High School and is employed by Public Finance taffeta and lace pouf in the Corp. Mr. Boehler is a 1959 graduate of the same high school and is employed by Barleff s Inc. The couple plans to reside at back. Her fingertip length silk illusion veil was secured to a half hat of mist taffeta with lace appliques and pearl edg- 404A W. 4th St. Ann Landers This Is Not Sophistication It Is Poor Judgment DKAR ANN LANDERS: We know a couple whom we consider close friends. They are intelligent, good company and well-respected in the community. My wife admires them both and this has led to a family argument. This couple consider themselves ultra modern and highly sophisticated. They have two teenage children, a boy 15 and a girl 17. The parents tell risque jokes Ann Lamlnrs. and use profanity (and worse) in the presence of their children. The other evening Mrs. told a story that had some pretty high voltage language. Their children were there and so was our 16-year-old son. When the kids left I told Mrs. — I thought her joke was unsuitable for the kids. She replied, "Don't be so naive. The kids know as much as we do. I believe in treating them as adults." Her husband backed her up and my wife agreed. The odds were three to one and I lost. How about it? STANDING ALONE DICAK STANDING: Hold the bets The odds just changed. I'm with you. 1 believe in treating teenagers like adults, too, but using profanity and telling off-color jokes in their presence is not "treating them like adults" — it cnerely confuses them. Children look up to parents as idols and models. As time goes on the idol totters a little and the model tarnishes. This is inevitable because the childhood concept of mother and father is perfection — and nobody is perfect. No matter how much kids know about life they neither expect nor want their parents to operate on the level you describe. It doeg not flatter teenagers — it offends them. * » * * IlfCAR ANN LANDfCfttt! If you were in my place, A-hat would you say? A certain woman in our club always served milk instead of cream. We all know it's milk. Should we say "Please pass the milk?" Or, should we let her think she's put-ting one over and say "P1«»ase pass the cream?" Thank you. HER FRIENDS DFAB FRIENDS: Now THIS is a problem of earth-shattering importance! Maybe the considerate hostess is serving milk instead of cream because you dames are too heavy and she's* politely helping you count your calories. Why not say, "Please pass the pitcher" — and let it go at that? * • * * DKAR ANN LANDERS: I'm a boy 17 who has never had much trouble socially. Whenever I wanted to go with a girl I went with her, and that's all theje was to it. Four months ago a new chick moved to town and I liked her looks from the minute I saw her. I've taken her out 16 times and have not been able to get even a goodnight kiss out of her. I've never asked her for a reason, because I feel if, after 16 dates, a girl has any feeling for a boy she would not have to be talked into anything. She would WANT to kiss him goodnight. Please don't misunderstand. I don't want to make an evening of pawing and necking. I just think after all these dates a kiss is not out of order. Shall I have a talk with ber or just break off? MR. DO LITTLK DEAR MR. DO LITTLE! I'll reply to your question by playing back part of your own tetter: "If, after 16 dates, a girl has any feeling for a boy she would not have to be asked. She would want to kiss him goodnight." * • * * Does almost everyone have a good time but you? If to, send for ANN LANDERS' booklet, "How To Be Well. Liked," enclosing with your request 20 cents in coin and a lurue, self-addressed, •tamped envelope. «0 1«10. Held Enterprise*. locT Tactless Clerk* Cost Stores Goodwill By fttmt MILLETt In the course of a day's shop* ping I sometimes wonder why those in charge of training salespeople don't give them a list of forbidden phrases and a brief explanation of why they Irritate the customer. Any such list, of course, ought to include: "Let's see, you're about a size 14, aren't you?" No woman wants a saleswoman looking at her with the shrewd, calculating eyes of a carnival weight guesser. And besides, if the customer happens to be a size 12, she'll be annoyed. And if she has to say, "No, 1 wear a 16," she'll say it apologetically. What's wrong with a straightforward, "What size, please?" "It's very slenderizing." No woman who needs a dress that is "slenderizing" enjoys having that fact pointed out. Why not just say that the dress is most becoming? ' "You might find what you are looking for in our budget shop." This is meant to put the price-conscious shopper In her place. It usually sends her right out of the store. "Beige just isn't being shown this season." Why try to intimidate the customer who wants a beige dress you can't supply? She may be discouraged but she won't be irritated if you say. "I'm sorry but I haven't a thing right now to show you in beige." "You won't find anything this smart at this price" to the customer who has turned down a dress the saleswoman has been trying hard to sell her. A much more tactful way of getting across the same idea is: "Would you like me to hold the dress for you for a few hours? It really is most becoming and a very good value." Said that way, the customer won't hestitate to come back for the dress if she really can't find anything that looks that good at that price. "I've shown you everything I have," which implies the customer is hard to please. Why not, "I'm sorry that I don't have exactly what you are looking for?" This lets a weary customer and a momentarily defeated sales person part on friendly terms. Next time the customer may not be so hard to please. New Method Of Transfusion At Tivin Birth By SCIENCE SERVICE CHICAGO — The survival chances for a small, weak child in a twin birth can be greatly increased simply by holding him a few inches below the level of the delivery table. This modified delivery technique, advanced by Dr. Melvyn Berlind, chief of obstetrics and gynecology at Unity Hospital, Brooklyn, may sound like a superstitious old- wives' tale, but it is really a means by which the twins' common placenta, or afterbirth, gives the small baby a blood transfusion. During birth, Dr. Berlind states, the umbilical cord usually is clamped and cut immediately and the baby is handed to the nurse. In the case of twins, the obstetrician clamps and cuts the cord of the first born even more rapidly than usual in the rush to deliver the second. The small twin's survival chances depend heavily on giving it as much blood as possible at the time of delivery, Dr. Berlind believes. He suggests that if the first baby is small —two to four pounds — It should be held eight to ten inches below the level of the uterus and placenta immedi ately after delivery and left there until pulsations in the cord stop. Durin gthis time the lightweight newborn will receive by gravity a third of a pint of blood. If a large, strong twin comes first, its cord should be clamped immediately so the twin still in the womb can receive the extra blood, in case this second twin is small. If both twins are large and healthy, their chances are good in the beginning. When both are small, Dr. Berlind asserts in the Journal of the International College of Surgeons (July), there is now a chance t that at least one will live. Re- fore, both might have died. Fashion Facts Many summer brides will be copying Princess Margaret's tiara hairdo. If your hair is short, buy a really good pin-on chignon and have your hair done the day before your wed- ing. Make sure your hairdresser shows you exactly how to handle the chignon and tiara. topulw, LPvri Itcordi QOULD Mutlo 0«. Ml B. Broadway HO 6-«U You're the Doctor By Joseph D. Wassenng, M,t). WAITS TO AVOID OtAPER RASH Nothing Is more disappointing to a new mother than tb give her 'nfant endless, loving care and ye*, the baby develop annoying diaper rash. To some new mothers, the red, sore, irritated areas are a keen source of frustration, making the mother wonder over her fitness for motherhood. What's wrong, she asks In despair. Why doea this have to happen to my baby, when 1 try so hard to be a good mother? Take Mrs. J. D., for example. "I've tried most of th<^ ointments but I can't seem to find any that will clean up Howie's rash. Maybe you f>an prescribe an ointment, Doctor, that will work better." Examination quickly showed that Mrs. J. D.'s diagnosis was correct but her treatment of little Howard was poor, Indeed. Unless a doctor prescribes an ointment for a specific purpose, no ointment should ever be used on baby's tight places. In those tight places, germs breed easily. Ointments only make more sticky areas which tend to be sticky even with good care. Ointments can convert a mild diaper rash to one that is infected. Keep Baby Dry Mrs. J. D. was advised to stop all the ointments that she had been so liberally applying and instead take extra precautions to keep the baby clean and dry at all times. When Mrs. J. D. learned to change baby frequently, the rash completely disappeared and he was well again. The first rule toward avoiding diaper rash is to keep baby dry. Babies should be checked before mamma (or papa) goes to sleep. If the diaper is wet, it should be changed immediately. If baby cries once or twice through the night, it is a signal for a parent to get up and change the wet diaper, replacing it with a dry one. Diapers should be soft, fresh, and fluffy when they are replaced, and not pinned too tightly. The mechanical irritation caused by rubbing of a dry, hard edge of a diaper is enough to cause a rash on baby's sensitive, tender skin. Travel Aids Even when mamma travels and baby's diaper is protected with leakproof panties, it is adviseable that mamma occasionally feel the diaper to see if it is moist. There are many little traveling cases now available that contain a pocket for fresh diapers and another pocket for soiled and wet ones. Such little traveling packs are inexpensive and helpful. When traveling, prompt changes are as Important as they are at home. If leakproof panties are used, even greater-than-average precautions must be taken to keep the baby dry, because such leakproof panties prevent normal evaporation of the diaper and retain heat and moisture, which causes the skin to break down even more commonly than In those cases where protective devices are not used. In many cases, a diaper rash appears because of certain microbes on the diaper and around the tight parts that cause ammonia formation from urine. Ammonia Is a strong chemical that irritates and inflames the skin. Another chemical (Diaprene) is now available which can be placed in the rinse water and which kills the germs that form from ammonia and prevent diaper rash. If baby's skin Is exceptionally sensitive, such chemicals may have to be added to the rinse water. Using "Tucks" t6 wipe the baby after each diaper change is gently soothing and may relieve minor irritations. Alkali* In Soap Furthermore, the alkalis In soap may, themselves, be harmful. The diaper i therefore should not only be washed in a mild soap or a mild detergent but even more important is good rinsing. Two or more thorough rinsings are needed to make sure that all of the soap or chemical detergents are removed. In this way, the diapers will not only be clean but kept free of harmful chemicals. Most commercial services stress thorough rinsing as an important part of the cleaning processes and can, therefore, be recommended. Disposable diapers are available but they cannot be counted on to provide the baby with sure protection against rash. In the first place, disposable diapers are more costly than the usual cotton ones. In the second place, disposable diapers must be removed, .lust like the cloth ones, as soon as they get wet or soiled. One final word of caution — never, never, never use boric acid on your baby. Cases of boric acid poisoning have been reported in infants when boric acid ointment and powders were applied to the infant's buttocks. The danger is particularly great in those cases where there are open sores 01 open cracks in the infant's skin, but, even when the skin is not broken, boric acid can be dangerous. © I960 N. Y. Herald Tribune, Inc. The Mature Parent Important Word 'Why' Is Key to Responsibility BY MURIEL LAWRENCE He was, I guess, abotft six years old. As I sat down at the restaurant table next to him and his mother, their waitress had just removed the main course of their luncheon. Looking at her watch, his mother said: "Tod, we have to go. Daddy can't park around here and I promised we'd be waiting for him at the corner at 1:15. It's almost that now." "I'm not going," he said firmly. "I'm going to stay here." She did not say, "Don't be obstinate," or "Put your coat on and let's have no nonsense," or "Do you want me to tell Daddy you were disobedient?" Instead, she said composedly, "Why?" "Because I want some dessert," he said. "I want some chocolate chip ice cream with chocolate sauce." "Then, while I pay the check," said his mother, "you ask the hostess to have the ice cream put in a little carton with a wooden spoon so that you can eat it in the car." "OK," he sdid—and jumping up from his chair, helped his mother on with her coat before he ran off to the hostess to make his negotiations. Once in a conversation, psychoanalyst Erich Fromm said to me: "The little word 'why' is one of the most important words there are in human communication." We use it too seldom to children. When they defy, disobey or lie, we blast them for the misbehaving act instead of ra- quiring them to account for it with the word "why."' Often, for their bafl act, they have a good reason. If they confide it to us, the badness of the act dissolves, and we sec it as a clumsy, inexperienced solution to some problem, instead of as a sign of moral deficiency. In Tod's defiance, we see an innocent wish for dessert and are able to show him how to fulfill it in a more acceptable way. Children who are not required to know why they misbehave soon lose touch with their real selves. Had Tod's mother blasted him for his defiance instead of requiring him to account for it, 'he would have left the restaurant resentfully struggling with her overhasty characterization of him as "bad." Instead, he left it a more responsible child. He had accounted for himself. This Is the meaning of responsibility. Homvmaking Hints Cut off tops about one inch above carrots and beets before storing. FOR AIRLINE RESERVATION* and TICKETS Call tha TRAVEL PHONE HO 5-2558 Tiwtl Advltor* SAVI 20% re 40% On Conn Organs Klmbal) Organi 4 Planoe Portable Organs H Price COMMUNITY MUSIC CINTIR M2S College, Upper Alton JULY ONLY DRY OLEANINO SPECIAL BLANKETS 99 SW Students' Wives Study Child Problems CARBONDALE, ID.—Thumb .sucking, bed wetting and hair pulling were among everyday child-parent problems given priority in a "Grounds for Thought" discussion period at Southern Illinois University. Grounds for Thought Is the name given a coffee-break designed to be learning sessions for wives of the men who are studying in the summer session of SIU. Realizing that many teachers and other professional people on campus for summer programs would wish to bring their families, the University has provided the Grounds for Thought, lemonade hours, story hours, supervised play periods and other activities to make the time spent on the Southern campus an enriching experience for the whole family. Sessions in the Grounds for Thought programming range Irom beauty tips to rooking to book reviews. A July 7 session on understanding your child was conducted by Dr. Abraham Blum of the department of home and family of the School of Home Economics and was attended by a capacity crowd of mothers. Blum especially urged th« women to check facilities Vn their community available for aid in child care and guidance and cited the fact that many services were going unused wtien in reality their programs were needed and desired. Examples of the questions asked with Dr. Blum's answers : Question—Can my being In a hurry or tired make the baby fussy? Answer—From the time of birth on, tbere are indications that mothers and children have communication. It is most likely that your being in a hurry or tired could give the child a negative reaction. You should regard the child's feeling as much as your husbands or any other adult. If we would not yell "hurry up" at our husband or friends, then why do we do it to children? They have feelings too. Question—I have a 3-year- old that is very belligerant. Is this a bad sign? Answer—I would say not in general. The child is showing the beginning of positive learn- ings. He is beginning to assert himself for the first time and has found he can get a response from you by saying no. Another thing we must ask ourselves is, are we expecting too much from the child. Psychology teaches us that all behavior is caused and this is especially true in children. Question—How can I get my child to obey? Answer—Give commands in a tone of confident expectancy. Mean what you say and secondly, limit use of physical force. Except in cases where needed to keep the child from danger, find some other form of punishment. One suggestion is to have the punishment fit the crime. A spanking does not cure the child who is constantly leaving toys on the floor. One cure for the "floor messer" is the use of a barrel where all items taken from the floor are placed. After a few trips to the bottom of the barrel for a prized possession the child usually decides to put things in place. Cooking Cues Pleasant flavor and texture change: flaked coconut added to boiled or baked custard. French ball cutters are Inexpensive and handy to use for cutting melons to be added to fruit cup. If you buy a package of stoneground whole-wheat flour and do not use it all at once, turn it into a tightly-covered jar and refrigerate it. AND DEUVSRY f Of I. Mwy. HO 14117 If Hubby • Hoi Dork Skin (Instead of Fair) • Hat Blackheads • Does Grimy Work • Perspires Freely UT HIM TIY SAYMAN VIGITAMI WONMI SOAP with »xc.<wfcw SOAP-ROOT (from the Spanish Daggtr plant* Free* lathering - even in hard or cold water. Penetrates pore* amazingly out din and esoeu oil. . . . iue an esoeu o Le»ve» ikin imootb, completely clean. Good tor your ikio. too, u oily or puroui. Especially tuited to ikiiu of teen-agen, particularly that* with wternafly-cauied blaoulthai. Try Special Purpose Saymao Vtg*. table Wonder Soap at our risk . . , lor nard-to-fleaii skin. Satisfaction guaranteed ut muuey back. Reacb tor Sayman Vegetable Voodet (uap (in KIMB wrapper) out tima you tnop.

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