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Petersburg Wife withholds sex as punishment By Abigail Van Buren [ft 1*72 br ChlCMo Trlbunt-N. Y. Ntan irni., Inc.] DEAR ABBY: Should a wife withhold sex to punish her husband? Well, that is what my wife has been doing lately and 1 am sick of it. Whenever we have a little spat, I always apologize whether I think I'm wrong or not, but she refuses to accept my apologies. I get over being mad in 30 minutes, but it takes her anywhere from two to three weeks! I don't drink or mess around with other women. If I did, I might deserve this kind of punishment, but she gives me the cold treatment for every little thing. What do YOU think about a wife like mine? HAD IT DEAR HAD IT: She's unfair, unwise, and unfulfilled. But more significant, sex is obviously no pleasure for her or she wouldn't deny herself a treat in an effort to punish you. When you are on good terms why not discuss it with her and try to improve the situation? DEAR ABBY: My husband was the "quiet type"—the last person in the world anyone would suspect capable of infidelity. Nevertheless, he was. I later learned he had been having an affair in our home, right in our own bed! I discovered this when I came home unexpectedly and found them there. Only one who bas been thru this can know the anguish I felt. After I filed for divorce, three of my neighbors told me that for the last year they had seen this young woman entering and leaving my home many times after I had left for work. I wanted to scream, "Why didn't you tell me? You could have spared me all this!" Then I realized that they probably thought they were doing "the right thing" by keeping quiet. Abby, had I been told, perhaps it could have been ironed out by counseling; or just knowing would have caused me to file for divorce and been spared the humiliation of walking in on such a scene. I pray that at least one neighbor who is aware of such goings on will read this and tell the wronged spouse, so he won't be subjected to what I experienced. Thank you. THE LAST TO KNOW DEAR LAST: I would not advise anyone to inform on his neighbors. There is too much margin for error. The "wronged spouse" usually knows that something is amiss, and a report from the neighbors would serve only to humiliate. "" """' DEAR ABBY: Hilda, my neighbor's daughter, became engaged and her aunts gave her a shower, which was a huge success. She received more than 50 beautiful and expensive gifts. [I saw them myself.] A week later, the wedding was called off. Hilda made no secret that the boy asked for his ring back. Her mother told me that Hilda was sending out notes saying, "Thank you for the shower gift. The wedding has been called off. If you can't come by and pick up your shower gift, let me know and I will get it back to you." A whole month has passed and I have received no such note. Since I live right next door, all she'd have to do is TELL me, and I'd go over and pick up my gift. I think she is waiting for me [and others who gave her a gift] to tell her to keep it, which I am not going to do! As far as I know, not one person who gave her a shower gift has had a note from Hilda, nor has she returned one gift. I gave her a pair of good pillows which I could use myself. What should I do? ANGRY IN BUFFALO DEAR ANGRY: Tell Hilda she needn't bother to send you a note—that you've come for your pillows. Problems? Trust Abby. For a personal reply, write to ABBY, BOX 69700, L. A., CALIF. 90060 and enctott a •tamped, addressed envelope. Hate to write letters? Send SI to Abby, Box 69700, Los Angeles, Cal. 90069, for Abby 's booklet, "How to Write Letters for All Occasions." As Christmas comes, here's a wish that true merriment may endure all through the holidays. Anderson-Schenck Church Circles Hold Meetings MERRY CHRISTMAS . . . ! ESTHERVILLE DAILY NEWS, FRL, DEC. 22, 1972 Page 9 The Ruth Circle of the Union State Line A L C W met Wednesday evening at the home of Mrs. Claude Rasmussen. Devotion was given by Mrs. Rasmussen, then Bible study was held. Members present were: Mrs. Roger Pell, Mrs. BobRing- genberg, Mrs. John Wetzler, Mrs. Arden Hakesand Mrs. Arlin Mattison. After the Lord's Prayer Mrs. Rasmussen served lunch. The Martha — Naomi Circle met Monday afternoon with Mrs. Lloyd Nasby. Devotion was given by Mrs. Nasby and Bible study led by Mrs. Calvin Stade. Members present were: Mrs. Calvin Stade, Mrs. John Wahl, Mrs. Leonard Pluth, Mrs. Leo Hanson, Mrs. Linus Smith, Mrs. Alvin Knutson and Mrs. Eldon Winter. The Birthday Club held their Christmas party at the John Wies- kus home Friday afternoon. A social afternoon was enjoyed then an exchange of gifts. Those present were : Mrs. Anna Gruhlke, Mrs. Francis Jemsen, Mrs. Charles Bargfrede, Mrs. Richard Wenledorf, Brian and Dawn, Mrs. August Jensen, Mrs. John Clymer, Mrs. Alvin Knutson, Mrs. Linus Smith, Mrs. Floyd Hoffmeyer. Lunch was served by Mrs. Anna Gruhlke and Mrs. Wieskus. The Hobby Club enjoyed their annual Christmas party Saturday Ringsted Jolly Joker Wives Meet The Jolly Jokers Housewife Club met recently at the home of Mrs. Irene Ostedgaard. Three invited guests were present, Mrs. Jerry Reimers, Mrs. Herbert Krause and Mrs. Clifford Douglas, aU of Fenton. Mrs. Jerry Jentx of Fenton won high prize and Mrs. Martha Kennedy of Armstrong won the low prize. Mr. and Mrs. James Fisher and Ann Marie, formerly of Grand Forks Air Base , are now visiting at the parental Donald Hoien home here and with the parental Don Fishers at Emmetsburg. James was recently discharged from the air force. Mark Nicoson, in the navy, stationed at Gulfport, Miss., is spending the holidays with his parents, Mr. and Mrs. Robert Nicoson at Armstrong and with his maternal grandmother, Mrs. Lillie Hoien here. August Christensen of Armstrong visited Sunday afternoon at the home of Mrs. Frankie Myers. Mr. and Mrs. Russell Miller visited several days in Minneapolis, with their son, James and wife and son, Jason. Mrs. Miller's sister and husband, MR. and Mrs. Dick Shoemaker, observed their wedding anniversary. Mrs. Robert E. Nielsen is at her home after being hospotal- ized four days at the Palo Alto County Memorial Hospital at Emmets burg. — . Mr. and Mrs. denier and Michael of North Hollywood, Calif., have concluded a visit at the parental Dean Walker home. Mr. and Mrs. Ronald Reed Sr. went to Mankato, Sunday to visit with their grandsoi. Robbie, 3- year-old son of Ronald Reed Jr., who underwent surgery last week. Mr. and Mrs. Curtis Olsen went to Rochester Sunday to take their daughter, Colleen, to the clinic for treatment. Mr. and Mrs. Gerald Beaver and daughters of Yucaipa, Calif., were Sunday guests at the home of the latter's aunt, Mrs. Cleo Classon. On Sunday evening the Beavers were guests in the home of her father, Mr. and Mrs. Curtis Olsen. Other guests included children of Mr. Olsen, Mr. and Mrs. Everett Zitterich and family of Terril, Mr. and Mrs. Howard Preston and family of Swea City, and Mr. and Mrs. Gaylord Olsen and family of here. Tara Nicole Polking of Jefferson is spending a few days at the home of her grandparents, Mr. and Mrs. Irvin Jensen and Jerry. Mr. and Mrs. Virgil Jensen and family of Fairmont, visited at the parental Irvin Jensen home. Mr. and Mrs. William J. Hansen and family and Dave Ingvall will visit with Mrs. Alma Ingvall at the home of her daughter, Mrs. Everett Hurst in Estherville. Mrs. Alma Ingvall is from Cedar Rapids. Mr. and Mrs. Don Mead of Fremont, Neb., will also be visiting In Estherville with their daughter, Mrs. Vern McGregor and with Mrs. Mead's father, Mr. Dave Ingvall. Mary Lou Larsen of Mason City will spend the Christmas holidays at the parental Norman Larsen home. They will be joined on Christmas Eve and day by Mr. and Mrs. John Brunskill, Tim and Tom, of Estherville. Mr. and Mrs. Lyle Lindell and family have moved to the former Carl A. Petersen farm which they bought. The Petersens moved to Northwood. evening at the L.C. Allen home. A seven o'clock supper was served with their husbands as guests. "500" was played then a gift exchange was held. Members present were: Mr. and Mrs. Malcen Dorr, Mr. and Mrs. Melvin Rasmussen, Mr. and Mrs. Gordon Petersen, Mr. and Mrs. Lloyd Nasby, Mr. and Mrs. Harley Bargfrede, Mr. and Mrs. John Wieskus, Mr. and Mrs. John Wetzler, Mrs. Kem Uden, Mrs. Thelma Rasmussen, Mr. and Mrs. Claude Rasmussen. The Variety Club members enjoyed a 7 o'clock supper at the Tom Morton home Wednesday night for their annual Christmas party. A social evening was enjoyed then a gift exchange. Members present were: Mrs. Charles Bargfrede, Mrs. Vernon Hanson, Mrs. Don Nielsen, Mrs. Harold Skow, Mrs. Orrie Werner, Mrs. George Roggow, Mrs. Henry Applegate and Mrs. Bob Hasbargen. Mr. and Mrs. August Jensen and Mr. and Mrs. Garland Petersen were honored with an "open house" Sunday at the Curt Pell home, in honor of their 40th wedding anniversary. Mrs. Jensen and Mrs. Petersen were the tw,in daughters of the late Mr. and Mrs. Pete Rasmussen. Mr. and Mrs. George Roggow and Darla visited the Carl Johnson home Wednesday morning to wish Charley Roggow "happy birthday" on his 89th birthday. Mr. and Mrs. Homer Ruskell, Mrs. Myrtle Dilley, Mr. and Mrs. Dick Wempe and Kelly, Mr. and Mrs. John Wieskus and Marie were Sunday night lunch guests at the Dean Wieskus home after the Sunday School Christmas program. Paul Roggow, a student at Augus tana College, Sioux Falls, is spending his Christmas vacation with his parents, Mr. and Mrs. George Roggow. '—HIGHLANDER SUPPER CLUB ESTHERVILLE, IOWA STEAKS - - SEAFOOD TL TL t AII WEDNESDAY Featuring: 1116 Mree -TOr -AII THRU SATURDAY A VARIETY OF MUSIC FOR YOUNG AND OLD ( FISH-$1.50 ^ vbv) ^ DON£ TO PERFECT ' ON FOR DINNER RESERVATIONS CALL 362-5757 Z COCKTAIL WOW - 4-7 - MON. - FRI OPEN SATURDAY NIGHTS TILL 1:30 A.M. Peace on earth and joy abound— ESTHERVILLE REALTY * VERNON CLARK * HOWARD CRONER * GLOYDTOSTENSON .//ere's hoping that Santa brings lots of good things your way Thank you. DONOVAN MOTOR COMPANY firing home the goodies . . . have a wonderful Yuletide! Your good will has brought us much happiness. Mitchell Construction BRUCE G. MITCHELL Now is the time to rejoice in the blessings . . . and be moved by the inspirational meaning... of the season. And to express sincere thanks to each customer, whom it has been a real pleasure to serve. 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