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Spouse Mixes Office, Cocktails Staff Photos) Mrs. Vol Phillips, Mflwaukss alderman, expressed both tha anguish and tha hopefulness of the civil rights movement as she addressed the Waukesha Women's Club. Mrs. lips was the first woman and first Negro on the council. Negro History Key to Problem By MARY BUCHER Freeman Staff when I listened to Nixon I help bbt wonder how far come in the last 100 years mankind does not seem to profit from lessons of Vel Phillips told the Waukesha Club Thursday.

It was not however only Vel Phillips the alderman and Milwaukee civil rights voice that addressed the group, but also Vel Phillips the mother and most of all Vel Phillips the black American. Americans are not white men in black skins Negroes are different and it is their background that makes them Mrs. Phillips said. Understanding is the key to any problem, Mrs. Phillips pointed out, stressing that understanding the problems of black identity is a large part of understanding the race problem.

lack of Negro progress must be understood to be reversed," said the first woman and the first Negro to serve on the Milwaukee common council. There are many unpleasant admissions" Mack Americans must make about themselves, she said, listing: 1) Many. Negroes the ability to compete in society; 2) a lack of motivation existing among Negroes to improve social, economic and education conditions; and 3) a great deal of apathy and self-hatred among black Americans. Quoting a Black Muslim leader, Mrs. Phillips notpd: Negro wants to be everything but himself." White racists, she pointed out, say Negrqies are loyal but lazy, humble but dependent, among other stereotypes, and that black Americans have been surrounded by this image as projected through films, radio and the theater for years.

Admitting that Negroes do display less ambition, more promiscuity tgid have higher rates of crime and illegitimacy, Mrs. Phillips stated emphatically that it could all explained by Negro History in the United States. She pointed out that American Negroes been subjected to a system which was designed to destroy ambition, prevent is Estborg's, Holiday House a Book Store GIFTSHOP? Stationery store aqgl a card and candle shop. ESTB ERG'S Holiday House 323 W. Main St.

547-3683 dependence and erode intelligence for the last three and a half centuries." Educated, intelligent Jews under the Nazis had their personalities changed to a childishness within a few months under some of the same conditions, Mrs. Phillips said. Slave stigma has made Negroes feel a crushing sense of nobo- diness," Mrs. Phillips explained. The slaves were from highly developed civilizations in which the men were industrious, leaders and good fathers.

happened to transform heroic Africans into submissive slaves?" she questioned. Slavery the Negro male making him totally dependent on the will of others," she stressed. History she noted gives some of the reasons. First of all captured slaves suffered the severe torment of the long march to the sea. They were marched barefoot, tied by the necks, while the weak were abandoned to die.

At port they were exhibited in the nude to European slave traders, "bought, handled and herded like cattle." Final indignations included receiving new names and once in the United States, slaves allowed to marry legally, while living together was condoned. The trip to the colonies so brutal that one-third of the Africans died en route to the coast and one-third died during the middle passage." Even when the black man became free, he really free, black had finally come to mean inferiority, Mrs. Phillips said using a speech by Abraham Lincoln as an example. In an 1858 speech Lincoln said he was in favor of making voters of Negroes and there must be a position of inferiority and superiority between the races self-esteem suffered tragically everything in White America was, and in some degree is, designed to keep Negro in his It has been disastrous to the Negro male. It has destroyed i masculinity which is the title to power in our the alderman declared.

is a sense of hopelessness that goes hand in hand with apathy even among middle-class Negroes," she explained, adding that there is (among middle-income Negroes) a resentment to their inability to come into the main stream of American life even though they financially qualify. In their attempt to be accepted by white Americans, middle- class Negroes, Mrs. Phillips observed, attempt to associate with lower-class Negroes. In a soft voice (quite a contrast to her anguished cries for fair housing before the Milwaukee Common Council), Mrs. Phillips said, greatest tragedy of all is what this whole business does to the black child.

He must be taught not to hate himself and he must not feel this sense of is a sense of never being heard, Mrs. Phillips noted. Her youngest son Michael, who is a golden brown," once surprised his mother by saying he was white, and that he like some of his integrated characters because they were black. is what affects me most when you live with it every day and have to come to grips with black identity the Negro mother explained, adding, have come a long way, but not to say we do not have a long way to go." the Wallace campaign and the resurgence of outright bigots," there are encouraging signs, especially the new approach to civil rights, the attorney said. The new civil rights approach involves the masses.

Black people must have hope, courage and preparation to take advantage of freedoms won. monstrations give hope to the black American, she said. Before emancipation Negroes dreamed of new freedoms, but after freedom was given, Negro soon discovered very rapidly that there was no room for black Americans in America." When questioned about the nature of the revolution in the next 20 years, she said: Nixon tries to satisfy the minority of the 15 per cent of the voters for Wallace then in for trouble because too late to stop the freedom train." In a private interview the Negro leader continued: election has caused a disappointment among black Americans, coupled with a wait and see attitude." On Power" she exxplained: Power means to me our fair share, not Black Power just for the sake of it. I believe a defense I think separatists really want separation." The riots and burning of homes in the Negro areas was the matter of hostility spilling out there and then," plus the fact that the black American community also has a small percentage of the element, she said. Of her own experiences in the Milwaukee open hotlsihg marches (and she notes she.

has also marched in peace parades) she stressed, know that they (the marches) were worthwhile even though there were many nights in which I was afraid." Mrs. Phillips has been threatened several times. Once a man came to her house with a gun. She explained that the depth of feeling (among white Americans) and their fear is simply because they un-. derstand.

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