Ukiah Daily Journal from Ukiah, California on September 27, 1987 · Page 11
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Ukiah Daily Journal from Ukiah, California · Page 11

Ukiah, California
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Sunday, September 27, 1987
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.THE UKIAH DAILY JOURNAL. SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 27, 1987— 1 1 Tol mi retires S.R. "SI" Tolllni, who Is retiring after eight years service on the Community Development Commission, receives a plaque and certificate from Mendoclno County supervisor Marilyn Butcher. ANN LANDERS Don't tolerate physical abuse Dear Ann Landers: I was seriously considering marrying a man who once cracked my jaw and twice gave me a black eye. I forgave him because I believed he was crazy about me and would change. A few days before we were to go shopping for my ring I read an article in Newsday by Jamie Talan. It changed my life. T broke the engagement and vowed that never again would I tolerate physical abuse. Please do millions of people a favor and print the enclosed. — Harriet O. in Garden City Dear Harriet: Thanks For seending it on. Here is an edited version: Violence in Marriage and Before Barbara married him even though he had slapped her head against a car window so hard that the glass cracked. Now, after 21 years of being punched, pushed, spit at, dragged around by the hair and humiliated in front of her children, Barbara wants a divorce. Her hope of changing the man she loved faded as she accumulated bruises, scars and 20 years of verbal and physical abuse. This woman is not alone in her acceptance of violence. Murray Straus, professor of sociology and director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire, estimates that one of every 12 persons commits at least one violent act against his or her partner every year. Straus and other researchers are finding that violence during courtship is as pervasive as violence within the marital relationship. Even more surprising, many individuals who are beaten, slapped, kicked, punched, and seriously injured with knives or guns go ahead and marry the abuser anyway. Contrary to the popular belief that women are almost always the victims of domestic violence, one study showed no significant difference between the percentages of men and women engaging in life- threatening violence. Why do men and women enter into abusive relationships? According to James Makepeace, associate professor of sociology at the College of St. Benedict-St. John's University in Minnesota, they believe in the power of love to reform a significant other. Makepeace said abusers have a number of traits in common, including a background of family violence, a low level of tolerance for stress and zero self-esteem. A lack of religious beliefs was also mentioned. Violence is triggered by a variety! of factors among couples who are dating. The major contributing factors are jealousy, drinking and disagreements pertaining to sex. Spouse abuse is often the result of arguments over children or quarrels about budgeting and housekeeping. Inability to control anger tops both lists as the main cause of violence. The inability to communicate is a close second. Courtship, it seems, is a training ground for marriage. Unfortunately, it can also be a training ground for spouse abuse. Dear Ann Landers: Five months after my husband had a vasectomy I became pregnant. I couldn't believe it. I thought I had ptomaine poisoning. My pregnancy was hell. My husband kept nagging me to get an abortion. I refused. We had three , lovely children and I knew I could handle a fourth. This child is the light of our lives and has brought us closer together than ever. You seldom print letters about women who chose not to have an abortion and were thrilled that they didn't. Please print this one. — Nashville Dear Nash: • I love happy endings. Thanks for sharing yours. I'm delighted for all of you. Jessica Hahn hires bodyguards Vital Statistics Marriage Licenses Kevin Scott Soloncr, 24, and Jean Leona Bcrlow, 37, both of Laytonville. Robert Wayne Daniels, 24, and Teresa Grace Ware, 25, both of Fort Bragg. Keith Randal Patterson, 37, and Pamela Dunlap, 35. lx>th of Fort Bragg. James Walter Miller, 53, and Dorinda Kay Prince. 31. both of Ukiah. Russell William Potter, 21, and Anita Ann MotherslittJ. 18, both of Ukiah. Ignacia Jncinto, 21, and F.lia Rodriguez, 19, both of Ukiah. IJlbunt John Iloaglcn.m 36, and Leona C. Williams, 21. both of Willits. Dissolutions Filed Lucas S. Sylvester from Judith Ann Sylvester. FA) ward I .con from Kathryn G. Leon. Olivia F.lainc Ransom from John Hebrew Ransom. Alec Dupcrrior from Penny Dariene Dupcrrior. Kathleen A. Lawson from Kenneth G. 1 .awson. Kathleen Hllcn Bertnick from Raymond George Bertnick. Margie L. Alvarez from Oscar B. Alvarez. . Vlarylyn Scott Brandon from John Joseph Brandon. Staccy Noel from Alfred Noel. Births McKEMY Twin sons, Matthew Martin and Anthony James, were born Aug. 9 at Santa Rosa Community Hospital to Dustine and James McKemy of Ukiah. Grandparents are Im- ugene and Harry McKemy of Ukiah and Gcrda and Mickey Duzdevich of San Francisco. The new babies are also welcomed by three brothers, Sam, 10; Giuseppe, 8; and Jeremy, 6. MULL1N A daughter, Mcagan Joy, was bom Sept. 13 at Ukiah General Hospital to Deana and John Mullin of Potter Valley. Grandparents are Alan and Lynn Wilner and Elsie Mullin, all of Fresno. The new baby is also welcomed by a sister, Deannc, 4. N1EVF.S A daugahter, Alexia, was born Sept. 14 at Ukiah General I losratal to Maria and Reyes Sieves of Ukiah. Grandparents are Maria and Juvenal Nieves, and Alexandrina and Zacarias Bautista, all of Tabasco, Zac, Mexico. 'Hie new baby is also welcomed by two brothers, John and Jose, and * sister, Soyla. 11OBERG • A daughter, Jenna Cathlene, was bom Sept 16 at Ukiah General Hospital to Yield and Donald lloberg of Kelseyville. Grandparents are Marilyn and Charley Brown and Donna lloberg. The new baby is also welcomed by a brother, Jacob. TROEDEL A daughter, Jamie Kimberly, was born Sept. 16 at Ukiah General Hospital to Sheryl and Benny Troedul of Upper Lake. Grandparents are Benny Troedel Sr., of Willits and Maun Houie of Manteca. The new baby is also welcomed by two listen, JoAnn and Jenette. S1MMONDS A daughter, Lauren Michelle, was bom Sept 17 at Ukiah General Hospital to Marie Torango and Arthur Simmonds, Jr. 3200 Robinson Creek Rd., Ukiah. Grandparents are Lauren and Arthur Simmonds Sr., of Ukiah and Thereta and Joseph Ting of San Francisco. SMITH A daughter, Belinda Leann, was born Sept 17 at Ukiah General Hospital to Sandra and James Smith of Laytonville. Grandparents are Merrill and Betty Taylor of Canon City, Ny., and Stan and Roberta Smith of Portia. The new baby is also welcomed by a brother, Brian. BETTEGA A daughter, i Dardele Marie, was bom Sept. 18 at Ukiah General Hospital to Sandy and Rocky Bettega of Covelo. Grandparents are Ken and Melva Nystrom and Jim and Virginia Bettega, all of Covelo. The new baby u also welcomed by two sisters, Ginnie and Patricia. SHANAHAN A son, Sean Jack, was born Sept. 18 at Ukiah General Hospital to Margie and Jim Shanahan of Williu. Grandparents are Dorothy Lemire of Arcadia and Ella Shanahan of Monlebello. The new baby is also welcomed by a sister, Jenny, and a brother, Kevin. GALL A daughter, Jenna Noclle, was bom Sept. 19 at Ukiah General Hospital to Joann Lea and Hartnut Herbert Gall of Lakeport Grandparents are Karl and Ella Gall of Ukiah, Tom and Jean Bynum of Upper Lake and Jerry Hunt of Modesto. SIMONS A daughter, Samantha Beth, was bom Sept. 19 at Ukiah General Hospital to Julie Simons of Lower Lake. Mary Simons of Lower Lake U the grandmother. The new baby ii also welcomed by a brother, Zackary. WARD A son, Joshua Aaron, was born Sept. 19 at Ukiah General Hospital to Lori M. and Jeffrey A. Ward of Santa Rota. Grandparents are Marion and Norma Ward of Ukiah and Jerome and Either Bliss of Racine, Wise. CLINCH A daughter, Rachel Nicole, was bom Sept 20 at Ukiah General Hospital to Teresa and Robert Clinch of Ukiah. Grandparents are Mona Bloyd of Ukiah and Glen and Sandy Fitzjarrald of Marion, Ind. The new baby u also welcomed by a brother, Shaun. JUSZCZAK A ton, Christopher Michael, was bom Sept 20 at Ukiah General Hospital to Toni Marie Bam and Matthew F. Jiuzczak of Redwood Valley. Grandparents are Stella Barra of Redwood Valley, Charles Bam of Ukiah, and Thaddeus and Pauline Juszczak of Sun City. The new baby U also welcomed by a brother, Andy, and a sister, Pat VALADEZ A daughter, Sara Elizabeth, wu bom Sept 20 at Ukiah General Hospital to Karen P. Arnold of Ukiah and Rodolfo S. Valadez of Lake County. Grandparents are Ronald Victor Arnold of Ukiah and Manuel Val- adez of Mexico. The new baby is also welcomed by a sister, Rose Salina Valadez. PARLET A son, Aaron Evan, was born Sept. 20 at Ukiah General Hospital to Linda and Kenneth Parlct of Lakeport. Grandparents arc Ken and Lottc Parlct of Lakeport. The new baby is also welcomed by a sister, Ariana. RENARD A daughter, Jessica Karri ne, was bom Sept 21 at Ukiah General Hospital to Kerry and Carl Renard of Willits. Grandparents are Coy and Shirley McDaniels of Ukiah and BUI and Anneliese Renard of Sacramento. The new baby is also welcomed by two brothers, Justin and Jeremy. BUTLER A son, Jonathan Aaron, was born Sept 22 at Ukiah General Hospital to Carmen J. and John T. Butler. 1610Q,Highway 101 North, Willits. Grandparents are "Mr', and Mrs.' Thomas Trefien of Pascagoula, Miss., and Mr. and Mrs.Korman Butler of Moss Point, Miss. The new baby is also welcomed by a sister, Amber Rose. PAGE A son, Matthew Donald was born Sept, 23 at Ukiah General Hospital to Carrie Ann and Bruce Guy Page of Ukiah. Grandparents are Bessie Davenport of Crescent City, Ray and Jeannie Page and Fred and Shirley Ward, all of Ukiah, and Madeline Hall of Oroville. CAVENDER A son, David Lee, was born Sept. 23 at Ukiah General Hospital to Kathy and Gary Cavender of Ukiah. Grandparents are Doris Cavender and Bill and Barbara Johnson, all of Rivedrside, Jim and Carol LeBarron of San Diego, and Chuck and Jean Cavender of Sacramento. The new baby is also welcomed by a brother, Mi can, 9, and a sister, Heidi, 7. HUBBARD A daughter, Aimee Christine, was bom Sept 24 at Ukiah General Hospital to Christine and Dan Hubbard of Clearlake Oaks. Grandparents are Mike Bpgunovich of Sunnyvale and Mr. and Mrs. Bill Crocker of Clearlake. The new baby is also welcomed by a sister, Jeniffer. SUMMERS A ton, Stephen Eugene, was bom Sept 24 at Ukiah General Hospital to Bridget! and Tom Summers of Willits. Grandparents are Cecil and Vivian Caldwell and Linda Summers, all of Willits, and Steve Summers of Hoquin, Wa. MCLAUGHLIN A son, Michael David, was born Sept. 24 at Ukiah General Hospital to Elizabeth L. and David L. McLaughlin of Ukiah. Grandparents are Phyllis and Charles Barnes and Alia and Gary Teube, all of Ukiah. The new baby is also welcomed by a sister, Michelle Lynn. LONG BEACH, N.Y. (AP) — Jessica Hahn sets out this week on a media blitz to advertise an interview and topless pictorial in Playboy magazine, bin says she knows many readers may not believe her account of her sexual encounter with evangelist Jim Bakker. "There are a lot of angry people. Some people think I'm the enemy. For those who understand, no explanation is necessary. And for those who don't, none is possible," she said. In the interview, she says Bakker, whom she idolized, seduced her in a Florida hotel room when she was a 20-year-old virgin and that a second evangelist then forced himself on her. The 28-year-old former church secretary will have bodyguards along When she makes 25 appearances in three days in New York City on several television and radio programs before heading to the Midwest and West. "I'll need security because of the mixed feelings people have," Miss Hahn said in a telephone interview Friday from Los Angeles. "I have (security) people around me constantly. I want to go back sometimes and just take my dog for a walk. But it's scary." Published reports have put Miss Hahn's payment for the pictures and interview at $1 million, but she declined to discuss exactly how much she was paid. She said she hopes to make donations with some of the money and find a way to help the sick, homeless or elderly. But first, she must complete her commitment to Playboy, which is publishing a second piece about her in its December issue, and decide what to do with numerous book, movie, commercial and television offers that her lawyer says could bring her $2.5 million. The offers have been made since March, when Bakker resigned from the PTL television ministry he founded after admitting that he had had an adulterous encounter with Miss Hahn. He disputes Miss Halm's version, however, claiming that she was the seducer. The second evangelist, John Wesley Fletcher, also denies forcing himself on Miss Hahn. Bakker claims PTL was blackmailed into a $265,000 settlement with Miss Hahn in 1985, but the former West Babylon resident said the trust fund of which she- received only a small amount was not" blackmail. "I'm doing this witH'a ven- Drive-up Window HARRIS PHARMACY DELIVEKY AVAILABLE Open f" . r-ri 8 AM-8 PM ja t9AM-6PM 707S.Dora, Ukiah462-7518 This is all you wear!' (TO HEAR YOUR LOVED ONES) Special Rent for 30 Days $25 Dollars! (Test included) Deposit Required Fittings for • Background NoiM • Nerve loss-Wind NpiM •High-toneLos* -S«v«rtLos» Tomorrow's Technology Av»il*blt Todtvl _ Call Now For • Free Hearing Test Appointment A.A. ft K. UNO HEARINQ AID CENTERS -Since 1969- S. ROM -741 iMi H Ukiali-4»8.«el» S424M4 4W-7WI Ask About Our Bmfrt H*n And Senior Special Pricing (MEDI-CAL Welcome) SPECIAL SALE! 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