Ukiah Daily Journal from Ukiah, California on January 30, 2000 · Page 17
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Ukiah, California
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Sunday, January 30, 2000
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THE UKIAH DAILY JOURNAL SUNDAY, JAN. 30, 2000—B-5 Deader says Ann takes woman's side Dear Ann Landers: I am sick and tired of the way you always tafce the woman's side and make the man out to be the villain. You 'recently printed a letter from "Finally Happy Dad," whose wife had been beating the daylights out of him. Your response \yas especially interesting. You commended him for writing, and referred him to the Domestic Violence Hotline, but said noth- i(ig about the fact that he spent yejrs in the courts, plus $55,000, to"get custody of his child. That sort of thing is a disgrace, and it happens all the time. When a woman is abused, she can pack up her things, take her child with her, go to a shelter and have very little trouble getting custody. If a man wants to leave a woman, he better not take anything from the house, or he could be accused of stealing. Furthermore, there are no shelters for abused men, only fleabag hotel rooms in the worst part of town. The good news is that the police are starting to do a better job in domestic-violence cases. Now, we are hearing more about husbands and boyfriends who get beat up, but rarely does the woman have to pay a fine or go to jail. It would help if you addressed this problem in some future columns. The court system in this country has always been prejudiced against males in cases involving divorce and child support. Also.' most men do not haye $55,000' for legal fees. And one more thing, Miss Landers. The children are NOT always better off with the mother, and I wish you had said so. -• A Reader in Bay Port, Mich. ANN LANDERS Dear Mich.: I plead not guilty to "always taking the woman's side." Where were you when I printed those letters from men whose ex-wives spent the child-support payments on themselves and used the children as leverage to get luxury items? Did you miss the letters from women saying the children were better off with their ex-husbands? I have printed several. If you are a regular reader of my column, you will know that I print both sides of the story. I do believe, however, that divorced women are more likely than men to get a raw deal because, usually, the ex-husbands have the greater earning power and can hire the best attorneys. In the majority of instances, it is the man who chooses to leave the relationship, and he often takes his money with him. Dear Ann Landers: Here is a story I read in. the Orlando Sentinel. If you think your readers will enjoy it, please run it in your space. •• N.S., Mims, Fla. Dear Mims: I do, and I shall. Here it is, with my thanks: Max Gordon and his bride-to- be, Mollie Levy, got a bit of a shock when they tried to get a marriage license. Instead, the clerk handed them a book. "So," Mollie asked, "what's the book about?" "It's about parenting," said the clerk. "Parenting?" Mollie replied, "We don't need to read the book, we can write one." Max Gordon is 90. Mollie Levy is 82. Between the two of them, they have six children, 14 grandchildren and 17 great- grandchildren. Still, under Florida law, their union was just another marriage that needed safeguarding by the Marriage Preparation and Preservation Act of 1998. So, the lovebirds sat down with the Family Law Handbook. Mollie had to read it to Max because of his cataracts. "The only reason I read it was because I thought we might have to take a test," Mollie said. And now, this is Ann again. I hope a real estate agent didn't try to sell them a home near a school. That first kiss, that first embrace ... Remember all those things that brought you and your loved one together? Ann Landers' new booklet, "How We Met," is now available. This collection of sentimental love stories will make a terrific Valentine 's Day gift for that special someone. It's a perfect addition to that box of chocolates or bouquet of flowers. For a copy, please send a self-addressed, long, business-size envelope and a check or money order for $5.50 (this includes postage and handling) to: How We Met, do Ann Landers, P.O. Box 11562, Chicago, IL 60611-0562. Did you know? BY L.M. BOYD Death by adultery? • Traditional punishment for adultery in the southern Philippines is death by firing squad. '-. • The Bluebonnets of Texas are.coming urj maroon now. And pink. And'Tavenclen And sapphire. And white: Or many are-, any way/A dozen years of selective breeding gets the credit. Or the blame, whichever. 1 •• The wealthy do not take care of their house plants as well as do those people with less money. So say the commercial greenhouse keepers. Q. Where is it that the woman proposes marriage, the children take her name, and inheritance descends through her? ; • ;A. That was long traditional on the Malayan Peninsula. Specifically, among some Muslims, Chams and Hindus. STEAMERS ; *• Single-cylinder steam engines on early riverboats beat a rumbling rhythm heard for miles. Peo- ;ple along the Mississippi perked up. Kids ran to the •house, yelling, "The boat's coming!" Dogs barked. ;lt was an occasion. In 1853, some sorry character invented a low-pressure engine that was quiet. i Nobody could hear it coming. For awhile there, ;people resented the silence of the steamboats. • ,• U.S. counties called Washington outnumber U.S. counties called anything else. t • A chemical process in wild donkeys turns some of'their solid food to liquid. So they never have to drink water. You can say that for gazelles, too. And prairie dogs. ' • When birds colonize on islands without predators, they stop flying. Pretty soon they can't fly. If man shows up, they die out. HERSHEY • Milton Hershey failed in New York and Philadelphia before he got his caramel candy company on its financial feet. However, not until he switched from caramel to chocolate did his notable success turn spectacular enough to make his name a synonym for chocolate. Q. Which U.S. President in the last 50 years was the most generous in granting pardons? A. Gerald Ford. • The only cats that hunt in prides are lions and even they do so but occasionally. • To get the death sentence in Bangladesh, just be convicted there of smuggling. Of smuggling anything. Searing of meat • Could be the most widely believed misconception in cookery is the notion that the searing of meat seals in the juices. It doesn't. Research shows meat cooked slowly at lower temperatures is juicier than seared meat no matter how it's cooked. • In some marsupial mice, the immune system collapses after the first mating, and they soon die. • In the 6th century, Arabs sallied forth to conquer all, and returned home with such digits as 1,2, 3, those we call Arabic numbers. But they weren't Arabic. They originated in India. 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Nosowsky Edited by Stanley Newman 60 Common School Journal founder 61 Prepared 62 Mrs. Victor Laszlo 63 Friday's beat DOWN 1 Scolds 2 Narrow, in a way 3 Tape-player accessory 4 Pastime, for short 5 Facts 6 Power networks 7 Service club 8 More farinaceous 9 International accommodations 10_-Foy, Quebec 11 Tolerable 12 Down, at a diner 13 Stealthily 14 Augur 21 South Dakota athletes 23 Illinois city 25 Home Alone kid 28 Memorable burlesque house 30 Venner and Dinsmore 32 Parting word 35 Score direction 37 Salt shaker 38 Visual 39 Saps 40 They go along 42 African republic 43 Onshore 44 Puts to work 46 Honda competitor 50 Early evening 53 Dame Everage 55 Puppeteer Tony 58 Presidential nickname 59 "Nifty!" Answer to prcvlou* puzzle, ' ciacinEi n0an Qnpu nBEHQ BDQm aacu H130HU QDDQ QECU DQEia BBQQ miJH eras anon EBQG3 DUMB aura QHO DDQD QEHDQ anna G n0na anno n HG1HQ BQQQ mr 1/29AXT CREATORS SYNDICATE O 2000 STANLEY NEWMAN 1/29/00 CELEBRITIES BORN ON THIS DAY: Vanessa Redgrave, Tammy Grimes, Jeanne Pruett, Louis Rukeyser, Gene Hackman, Brett Butler JAN. 30,2000 Happy Birthday: You will balance your personal and professional life well this year. You will take action when necessary and leave little to chance. The more you communicate with others, the more they will bend over backward to help you. You should consider making the changes to your home that will please everyone involved. Your numbers: 9, 13,22,28,34,49 ARIES (March 21-April 19): You will have a greater desire to become involved in educational affairs, cultural activities and travel. Solid friendships will develop if you deal with people in an open and honest manner. 5 stars . TAURUS (April 20-May 20): You can achieve plenty if you put your efforts into working on domestic projects. Don't do any unnecessary traveling. You will not be able to come to agreements with in-laws or relatives. 3 stars GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Travel and romance go hand-in- hand. Be careful when involved in sports activities. Minor injuries or exhaustion may be a problem. Schedule social outings with friends. 3 stars CANCER (June 21-July 22): Be careful if you have to work with electrical equipment or machinery. Emotional disagreements will lead only to estrangement. Take care of all' your personal responsibilities. 3 stars - LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Take time to do something special for your mate. This would be a good day to make a commitment. Get involved in activities that involve children. You may consider having a child. 5 stars VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Romantic encounters will be full of adventure if you remember to do something special for the person you fancy. Remember you have to please .yourself before you can please others. 2 stars LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Don't rely on others to give you an honest opinion. It is best 40 • plan social activities with friends-,' not family. You may want *t$" begin a new diet or try to get fid^ of a bad habit. 4 stars SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 2l):; •Changes at home will leadlo' upset and arguments. Try to help- those who just can't do things for' themselves. Short jaunts to visit relatives will be informative and* beneficial. 3 stars SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-: Dec. 21): Don't exaggerate, pr ; your mate may refuse to put up '• with you. Your ability to add; color to situations is fun for those • you don't see that often, but for', your partner it may be unbearable. 3 stars . ',•] CAPRICORN (Dec 22-JaU; 19): Problems with your lover- may erupt if you haven't paid' proper attention to his or her needs. Don't get involved in love", triangles. Put your efforts into maintaining a good reputation. 3 stars AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Your ability to put things in perspective will enable you to shine at group functions. You can win points if you are willing; to share your good ideas. You can move into a position of leader-: ship. 4 stars ', i PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20):' If you have neglected your duties' or forgotten that today is a special • day, you can expect to be treated poorly by your mate. You qahj redeem yourself if you make reservations somewhere special.^ 2 stars Birthday Baby: You will have plenty to say and lots to offer the rest of the world. Your outlook isvjst and your ideas plentiful. The more you face, the better you will become at solving problems. Much can- be accomplished if you set your mind to it. * ••* CELEBRITIES BORN ON THIS DAY: Norman Mailer, Carol Channing, Nolan Ryan, Stuart Margolin, Phil Collins, Suzanne Pleshette, Garry Moore MAX l(:15)MovK: * Elton* Atom 8"(1997) A ''Great Ixpflctrtoni 11 (1998)'R Movie: *x 'Hidden Anwdi" (1998) A 'R' SHOW 1(5:30) "CW Encountyi ol the Third Kind" 'PG'JHovie: * * * "Slanhlp Trooper i" (1997) 'R 1 JAN. 31,2000 Happy Birthday: You'll be able to draw others into your conversation, and this will add to your popularity this year. You will be outgoing and eager to share your thoughts; however, some of your peers may take advantage of your honesty and your good nature. Don't take on too much, or you may fall short of your goals. Your numbers: 3, 17, 22, 26,32, 36 ARIES (March 21-April 19): You need a change, something adventurous and exciting. Travel to exotic destinations may be the answer. Take a look at your budget and find a way to make your plans a reality. 5 stars TAURUS (April 20-May 20): You will be able to make worthwhile financial deals, but be sure to use other people's money. Sudden trips are apparent. Try to take your mate and mix business with pleasure. 3 stars GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Your mate may give you a hard time. His or her extreme sensitivity will result in hurt feelings. Don't let things get out of hand. Complete your work and spend some quality time together. 3 stars CANCER (June 21-July 22): Mix business with pleasure by socializing with colleagues and clients. Changes in your relationship will be to your advantage. Don't hold back when it comes to commitment. 3 stars LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Take the time to invest in yourself. Make the physical and mental changes required in order to raise your self-esteem. Success will follow if you're happy with yourself. 5 stars VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): This will not be the day to lose your cool with loved ones. Family members may take advantage of you. This will result in your feeling depressed and used. Don't offer help or ask for it. 2 stars LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): You can make lasting friendships today. Attend social events that interest you, and romantic opportunities will follow. Travel, lectures and social gatherings will heighten your popularity. 4 stars SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): You will get taken if you become involved in joint financial ventures. You must be cateful -in choosing the people you with and lend things to. Problems with female colleagues are apparent. 3 stars • SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 2%. Dec. 21): Evading issues will rfot; save you from disruptions on th$« home front. Lay your cards on" the table if you wish to. salvage anything. Don't take chances' that may lead to losses. 3 stars •' CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan>. 19): You may have a secret J enemy. Be careful what you saj < to whom. Be precise in yolir \ talks, or you will be misinterpret;-' ed. Problems with superiors or ', authority figures will surface/ 2 ' stars '. •', AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Fe£; 18): It is best to discuss all you]*' options with someone you tn|st j before you sign any contracts of • agreements. You must take!a* look at the motives of others*. Read between the lines. 4 stari. -.! PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Deal with red-tape issues today. Handle them as quickly as possible, and try not to damage your reputation in the interim. This-ig a favorable day for doing things with children. 2 stars Need advice? Check oat Eugenia's Web sites at astroa^-,^ Movie: *t "Lethal Weapon 4" (:15) Hoop Life JUnc's IB Birthday Baby: You are a de*p thinker, concerned about doing what's right. Your kind approach to those you encounter will result in formulating good and lasting friendships throughout your life.

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