Arizona Republic from Phoenix, Arizona on April 3, 1969 · Page 64
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Arizona Republic from Phoenix, Arizona · Page 64

Phoenix, Arizona
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Thursday, April 3, 1969
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Parent as a dropout Republic Photo by Yul Conaway Mrs. Alan Kempner, Mrs. H 7 . //. Di.cfc.soir, T. A. Julian Social s<*ene Spring fever isn't slowing down those Stagebelles By FAVOUR SLATER Spring fever didn't slow down the bidding at the Stagebelle's Spring Fever party at Camelback Inn. The energetic women, led by Mrs. William Ball and Mrs. Alan Kempner, decided to combine dinner, dancing and the auction to raise money for the Scottsdale Community Players. There was little time to dance as it turned out — people were busy buying. Many of the items — a Sloviaczek glass sculpture, paintings by Adrian Hansen, Chabela, Dagne and Don Ruffin — were left from the group's Fantasy Global Cruise last fall. That party got so wound up that the sale got lost in the shuffle. Some of the guests brought along their children who are here for spring vacation. The Balls brought Betty who's a junior at Connecticut College for Women, New London (she's a member of the first semester dean's list there). The George Podds brought Anita who's a senior at Bishop's in LaJolla, Calif., and former Valley residents Mr. and Mrs. Lloyd Bell were with Larry Garland, a student at the University of Virginia, and Lynn Garland who attends prep school in Lenox, Mass. The Bells were here from their winter home in Skull Valley near Prescott. They spend the summers in Westport, Conn. Other out-of-town guests included the William H. Dicksons of Lubbock. Tex., who took home a painting' by Emilie Tourraine: Mrs. Ronald Weidman of San Francisco; Mr. and Mrs. Hugh O'Dower of Kansas City, Kan., and the Charles Boltzers of Philadelphia. Others at the party included the Dick Grays, Mr. and Mrs. Charles Cheshire, Mrs. Lynne Carter Talman, the Bruce Berquists, Mrs. Gay Hood, the Jack Scoutens and the A. E. Sidells. One of the most active bits of bidding went on between Mrs. Harry daCosta and Mrs. Paul Singer over a gold ring. Mrs. Singer won. CLUB NOTES The Moon Valley Country Club is planning a family day Sunday with brunch served from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. The children are promised a visit from the Easter bunny. A buffet dinner will be served from 5:30 p.m. to 8 p.m. News from the Arizona Country Club includes a crying towel for people who forget to make their reservations for the Hard Times Party April 19. Easter plans at the same club include brunch and the season's cheerful rabbit from 11 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. and dinner from 5:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. Women often bear most abuse from lawyers in divorce cases Los Angeles Times Service LOS ANGELES - Murray Teigh Bloom is the author of "The Trouble With Lawyers," a book that chronicles the abuses perpetrated by a portion of the legal profession on Americans. He is also the father of a 22-year-old daughter who will enter law school in September. He smiled as he volunteered that personal information, then returned to his main thesis: That the American middle class is victimized by the legal profession. "Especially women," Bloom said. "Women are ideal victims. They are trained not to complain, gripe, make a fuss. They are more trusting; men, because of their experience in business, are more wary. "Women also usually know less about business, and they live longer and thus may require a guardian — another way in which a lawyer can take advantage of a client. And women also often bear an undue cost in a divorce •— the husband pays, but it's really out of her money." Three areas of law — divorce, probate and accident cases — are of most interest to women, Bloom said. "Probates account for $1 billion in legal fees a year," be said on a visit to Los Angeles. "That's a lot of. money, for very little work. Probate is so routine that the forms are usually filled in by a stenographer in the law office. "Yet this is done on a percentage basis, and often the lawyer collects two sets of fees — one as attorney and one as executor. In states where that isn't permitted, the lawyer gets one fee and his law partner collects the other." The practice of lawyers to charge a percentage of the amount collected in accident cases is another abuse that Bloom deplores. "In California, the percentage is often 40 per cent of the amount awarded," he said. "In some states, it runs as high as 50 per cent. New York courts limit it to 33Va per cent, still a lot of money. If this practice were eliminated, accident judgments could be lowered and insurance costs reduced." Meanwhile, how can an average citizen find a good lawyer? "Talk to your friends and neighbors," Bloom said. "Find out who are pleased with their attorneys. Then make an appointment witth one. "See if you have a feeling of confidence in the lawyer. Moms and dads, get this: Crime rate your fault, too Fifth of a Series By DR. MAX RAFFERTY A few signs of our times for you parents to mull over: The average age of prison inmates is dropping every year. If the present trend continues, pretty soon the typical convict will be a teen-ager. Vicious adolescents roam the streets of our greatest cities, attacking bus drivers, slashing and maiming helpless cripples for the sake of "kicks." Firemen trying to put out a blaze are subjected to a rain of stones and even bullets from packs of young punks. Coastside towns on the opposite sides of the continent are sacked and looted by drunken, hopped-up teen-agers every time there's a national holiday. And presumably intelligent college students set fire to their buildings, burglarize the dean's office and beat police officers because they don't happen to agree with regulations established by the legal representatives of the people who support and populate those colleges. Not very palatable mulling-over material is it, Mom and Pop? Yet these are your children, and they are all colors — white, black, brown and in-between. A growing number of them arc just plain criminals. Whose fault is it? Yours. Here's why: As one example of what's wrong, in recent years you've been yanking your kids out of school on the slightest pretext in order to protest some adult grievance. In New York and Chicago, to single out just two from among many we've seen the ultimate absurdity occur. Black parents teach their offspring to violate the law when they decide that a school is insufficiently integrated, and white parents do the same to illustrate their disagreement with what they consider overzealous attempts by the school board to mix the races. This attitude on the part of so many parents, if carried to its logical if stupid conclusion, will result in half the pupils being out on strike permanently. It will result in something else, too: Junior will grow up thinking it's okay to behave illegally, because that's the example you're setting for him right now. You see, if you as a parent tell your child that the law is a lot of eyewash, that something or somebody is more important than the law — and that therefore it's perfectly all right to break the law in order to bring about a better way of life, or equality of housing, or a more relevant college curriculum or indeed anything under the sun including the millenium right here on earth — then your child cannot be greatly blamed if later on in life he applies this rule, which you are teaching him now, to other laws as he may see fit, including laws about breaking into banks in order to redistribute the nation's wealth a little more equitably, or even laws about killing people whom he may decide unilaterally that society would be better off without. And I say: "How dare you?" Literal- ly, how do you dare to open a Pandora's box like this one, fraught as it is with such dreadful portent for the future and for the children who must inhabit that future? It's bad enough when Johnny sees you flout the speed laws whenever the highway patrol is out of sight. It's bad enough when he hears you bragging each April about how much you got away with on your income tax return. It's bad enough when he watches you roar off in the car after a cocktail party, smelling like a distillery. But when you encourage Junior himself to break the law for any reason whatever, then you are prostituting parenthood and playing the role of Fagin to your own family. Of course, it's not just you. You're getting a lot of help these days in raising Junior to be a scofflaw. What about the union teachers, who are now walking out of schools across the lands in complete violation of their contracts and often in equal contempt of explicit legislation forbidding such actions on the part of public servants? What about the prominent businessmen, who conspire among themselves to fix prices or to violate the antitrust 'You, knock the schools* lack of discipline., but for years now you couldn't bear to have teacher wallop .Junior when you yourselves were umcilling to lay a hand on him.' laws? Or the politicians who condone rioting and civil disobedience because they're being conducted in a good cause? Oh, there are a lot of horrible examples the youngsters can point to. But Mom and Pop, you tower over all the rest. As a child. Junior played with his toys but refused to put them away. He threw the spinach on the dining room floor but got the ice cream anyway. He sassed you to your face and got away with it. As a teen-ager, Junior stole the old man's whisky and shared it with the gang. He drag raced on the county highway at midnight with the family car, and he told both the cop and the judge to go to hell when he was finally hauled in. He feared nothing on earth and respected absolutely nobody because he had never been compelled at an early age to do either one. Whose fault is this, Mom and Pop? You know darned well whose fault it is. You can't even lay all the blame on Dr. Spock. You knock the schools for lack of dis- cipline, but for years now you couldn't bear to have teacher wallop Junior when you yourselves were unwilling to lay a hand on him. It's a rare edition of your daily paper nowadays which doesn't feature a story of an instructor getting hailed into court as the result of administering corporal punishment to a child. On the one hand you complain because of lack of discipline in the schools, and on the other hand you bring prompt court action against anyone who dares to touch your child. As a result, we're confronted today by the perfectly ridiculous spectacle of the teacher being afraid of some of his pupils whereas always in the past the situation had been salutarily the other way around. In many big city schools, policemen now have to be stationed in the corridors to protect the teacher from his pupils and the pupils from each other. I'm reminded of the overly fond parents who sent little Johnny to a new school wilh a note reading: "Our John is extremely sensitive. At home we never use corporal punishment in any form. If he misbehaves badly, just spank the boy sitting next to him. This will frighten Johnny." Merc's the real nitty-gritty of the juvenile crime wave, and it starts right at home. Right with the old hairbrush. Or the lack of it. I'm tired of hearing and of reading how bad things are — how the country is 'going to hell, how morality and modesty and virtue are all going down the drain, how our children are headed for prison. Aren't you? I propose that instead of wringing our hands and viewing with alarm, we get to work — each of us — in our homes, our own schools, our own churches, to clean this mess up. This nation has millions of fine, decent citizens, young and old. It always lias had. What we must do now is to sec that the decent young people get the brass rings from here on in, and that the indecent and the violent don't even get to ride the merry-go-round at all. We've got to make respectability popular for a change, and licentiousness bad business. This is truly a job for all of us, educators and parents alike. It cannot be handled with kid gloves nor with pious platitudes. Upon the way we deal with this juvenile puzzle hangs the very survival of the great republic itself during the years and decades which lie ahead. You parents get these kids into school and keep them there, no matter what. Reward them when they follow the rules, and whale the tar out of them when they don't. Teach them lo obey the law until it's legally repealed. Even if they don't like it. Confound it! especially when they don't like it. We educators are rolling up our sleeves these days — gingerly and timidly, it's true — to try to tackle this juvenile Frankenstein monster of mass criminality. What we need right now is equally massive support from you parents. How about it? Tomorrow: Why Parents Are Responsible for Our Current Mess. MKSJBHSB Rosie Sarracino, left, Hilda Half moon, Carmelitu Reinos and Cheryl Aragon Thanks to you, Hilda has new Easter dress By BARBARA SHUMWAY Hilda Halfmoon stood before a full-length mirror smiling at her brand-new Easter dress, made of sky-blue dotted swiss, its Juliet sleeves edged in lace. Around her, junior homemaking students at St. John's Indian Mission school hemmed, pinned, fitted and put finishing touches on their projects. Many were working on material donated in response to a story in Friday's Woman's Forum about 20 girls at the mission who needed fabric and notions for new Easter frocks. "It's just fantastic," said Sister Sheila, the girls' home economics teacher. "The material came in the mail, in person, from everywhere, We've the names of 93 donors already and some wouldn't give their names. "The girls' eyes just popped out. People came in all day Saturday and Sunday. The girls were so proud to show their new dresses off." For most, it was the first new dress in a long time. Of 300 boarding students and 140 day students at the mission, approximately 65 per cent cannot afford the $8 per month tuition. The $10,000 per month needed to run the school comes entirely from donations. Around the room, the girls were hard at work. They looked up occasionally with shy smiles, pushed back their long, dark hair. But they don't say much to strangers. One youngster hadn't quite made up her mind whether she was making a pink-checked dress with a pink lining, or the reverse. "I just hope people don't think it's too late to bring material in," said Sister Sheila. "I can use it all year long." CITY women's ] REPUBLIC hi™ Thursday, April 3, 1969 Page 39 ° Erma Wil's end Utility room beat is where it happens By ERMA BOMBECK A Mrs. "R.N." of Boston has raised a rather interesting question. "Mrs. Bombeck's column is devoted merely to the gripes of a surburban housewife. Her infantile self - absorption is annoying. Why doesn't she direct I her writing toward a : more coi.olructive topic?" I'm surely glad you brought up that little thing, Mrs. R.N. You see, on a newspaper, reporters have areas they cover called "beats." Some men and women cover politics, business, crime, medicine, government, radio and television, fashions, food, society. 1 cover the utility room "beat." I used to cover obituaries, but it was a pretty thankless job. No one patted you on the back and said, "Loved your lead," or sent you a Whitman's Sampler for spelling his name right. So when the utility room "beat" came up I grabbed it. Oh, I had big plans. I was going to do a column on "A Mother Looks At Eric Sevcrcid," "Would a Bake Sale Help Russia With Her U.N. Dues?," "Racist is a six-letter Word (unless it's plural, then it's seven)," "How Political Science Has Made Me A Woman." And I had a dandy line on a series that would blow the lid off a ring of primary teachers who were selling show and tell tapes as underground movies. It never worked out, Mrs. R.N. Somewhere between my typewriter and the editor's office, my "constructive topics" underwent drastic surgery. "I want you to make housewives laugh," said the editor. "I mean no disrespect, sir, but that's like making me photo editor of Reader's Digest." "That's where the challenge comes in," he smiled. "Why in a few years you'll rank right up there with the other famous humorists from Ohio — Robert A. Taft and the Wright Brothers." I've been at the helm of "Mission Impossible" for four years now. It's a challenge. If I am consumed with my self- absorption, it is for a reason. Long ago it became apparent there were only two people in the world I could take a crack at in print without being sued or severely criticized: Adolf Hitler and me! Furthermore, I wouldn't trade my beat for anything else on the newspaper. Sometimes as I sift through the grim, the ugly, the shocking, I recoil here between the hot water heater and the detergent and I get my perspective. Screaming kids, unpaid bills, green leftovers, husbands behind newspapers, basketballs in the bathroom. They're real . . . they're warm . . . they're the only bit of normalcy left in this cockeyed world and I'm going to cling to it like life itself. One cigarette has an effect 011 unborn baby NEW ORLEANS (AP) - Smoking just one cigarette produces definite effects on the placenta that nourishes a woman's unborn baby, a physician findjs from heat measurements of the body. One effect is to cool the placenta a few degrees from its normal temperature and "we assume there is some restriction of the blood supply" in that organ, says Dr. Joann D. Haberman, radiologist of Temple University's School of Medicine in Philadelphia. The unborn infant may be affected, she says, reporting studies that found babies born to mothers who smoked cigarettes had a lower than average weight at birth and more were born prematurely. Nicotine from smoking one cigarette constricts little blood vessels, and the temperature of the skin of the hand may drop from a few to 10 degrees or more;, with the cooling effects lasting from 16 to 60 minutes, Dr. Haberman told an American Cancer Society seminar this week. '. She measures temperature with ther- mography, a technique of collecting invisible infrared or heat waves from the body, and converting them into electrical energy and then into visible light which can be recorded on photographic film.

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