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THE MESSENGER Youth Roever Mikes making in life and at But foremost on her mind she said is attending church Kristin likes to help people church is my second Gibault Principal Dan Bruegge-family because we are all so man said He pointed out that close" she said Kristin is a member of the Na- In fact Kristin said she tional Honor Society She also Is love tearing up your heart? know what her life would be like without the CYO CYO allows you to meet so many she said Kristin likes to take a leadership role in whatever she does In fact she things church plays the clarinet in the school band and has appeared in the school musicals just a very nice young lady" Bruegge-man said Kristin takes nothing for granted in her life She notes that she less fortunate By Mark Hodapp Messenger staff WATERLOO Visiting an ailing relative at a hospital is never easy As a third grade student Kristin Roever recalled going to visit her cousin after his car accident During one of those visits Kristin recalled seeing her cousin move a toe was a big Kristin said was supposed to be in a wheel chair for the rest of his life but he is not Kristin now 16 wants to become an occupational therapist like to make things she said A junior at Gibault Kristin makes things happen in a variety of ways She is the president of her junior class at Gibault and is the vice president of the St Patrick CYO in Tipton Kristin holds a part-time job as a floor associate at Wal-Mart in Waterloo Kristin Roever Tearin' Up My Heart Refrain: It tearin up my heart When I'm with you But when we are apart I feel it tin) Ami no matter what I do I feel the pain With or without you Baby I don understand Just why we can 7 be lovers Things are gett in out of hand Try in too much But baby we can 7 win Let it go If you want me girl let me know I am down on my knees lean 7 take it anymore (Repeat refrain) Baby don 7 misunderstand said she plans to run for been spoon-fed all her life and Student Council that she want to be ei-president next year ther Kristin also tries to lead let anything get me by example try to do good down" she said not worth things and have other it" people she said Rather Kristin said her main Kristin said her parents goal in life is to be a good per-Donald and Marilynn sonT hate it when people look Roever and friends are the down on other she said biggest motivators in her think anybody here is life They are a big help" better than somebody else" Broeckling shares talents with and by the time he graduated he had assumed a variety of leadership roles" Darr added A member of St Bernard parish in Albers Kevin has helped to facilitate over 20 Confirmation retreats He also is very involved in both the Quest program and the TEC program' Continued 7b Page 11 What I'm try in to tell ya In the corner of my mind Baby it feels like We 're running out of time Let it go If you want me girl let me know I am down on my knees I can 7 take it anymore (Repeat refrain) Tearin up my heart my soul apart I feel it too And no matter what Ido I feel the pain With or without you And no matter what I do I feel the pain With or without you Written by MartinLundin Sung by NSync 1998 by BMG Entertainment Charlie Martin Consider this situation You're dating someone and really enjoy this relationship Yet there is no commitment between the two of you: You feel lots of uncertainty about where the romance is headed v'-vvV- This scenario is described in Up My Heart" For the guy in the song up my heart when with you but when we are apart I feel it too" He tells her: you want me girl let me know" He feels "like running out of and they need to decide what their romance means to them Living with ambiguity is difficult Indeed there is a time to resolve such uncertainty and a time to let it be I have suggested many times in previous columns -that high school is not the time to be making life commitments However the focus can be applied to dating When you wonder whether to keep dating consider these questions: Do you feel a need to date others? High school and the young-adult years are the time to get to know a variety of dating partners If your uncertainty is tinged with curiosity about dating others a good sign that you are not ready for a steady relationship You need to move out of your current romance How much struggle does the relationship bring into your life? The person in the song sings matter what I do I feel the pain with or without you "This is clearly too much emotional upheaval When a dating relationship creates this much inner turmoil something is wrong with it Are you staying in the romance just so you have someone to date? If so you may be using this person to avoid fears and uncertainties This is unfair to the person you are dating It would be helpful to your longterm happiness to end the dating and look deeper at yourself Ask God to help you identify your fears and to find ways to heal them Find a trusted adult to talk with you about what you have been discovering about yourself What is the good in the relationship? If there are several aspects of the relationship that are positive for your life perhaps it is better to put aside concern about the future Accept the fact that there is no commitment arid this is the best outcome for the present You are learning about yourself and about what forms a healthy relationship No dating relationship should lead to ongoing up my Either take the romance less seriously or understand your hurt as a message to leave the campus minister at Mater Dei Today the junior history mqjor at Quincy University is very involved in many campus ministry activities He became involved with Campus Ministry when he was a freshman at Mater Dei Darr saidEach year his involvement grew celebrates with The Center wanted to thank its many supporters for assisting with tuition for nine youngsters who attend school at St Catherine Laboure in Cahokia When schools were combined in East St Louis last fall some of the families thought it would be better music at the barbecue By Mark Hodapp Messenger staff Kevin Broeckling was a quiet when he started at Mater Dei High School in Breese mom came in my office and asked me if I could get him 1 involved in some campus said Jim Darr the Family Center EAST St LOUIS Members of the Family Center opened their doors to friends and well wishers for a barbecue this fall Part of the program included presentations by the Family Center Flappers tap-dancers extraordinaire Dssr sSSStsi Malik Farmer listens to the fail fund raiser and safer for their children to go to school at St It has taken the new students some time to get used to doing the homework one mother said Before the kids were assigned homework but nobody ever checked not the plan at St and everybody is adjusting to the program the mothers said Anyone wishing to donate to the tuition program can send checks Cento 705 SummitEast St Louis IL 62205 -V-v 3jb' 's- 1 Liz Quirin photos Sister Carol Lehmkuhl OP looks for a winner Joshua Winters hopes he has the right ticket Teddy Stark waits for a turn relationship (O CNS) Your comments are always welcome Plepse address Charlie Martin 7125 200S Rockport Ind 47635.