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D6 LIFE SUNDAY, JULY 20, 2008 DECATUR, ILLINOIS www.herald-review.com Dying woman's hostility is tearing her sister apart Dear Abby: Please help me I am in pieces. My sister is dying of cancer. She has shut me out of her life and has become very hostile toward me. This is breaking my heart, and I don't know how to deal with it. I have done nothing to offend her, and I don't understand why she is acting this way.

wanted to come. Of course, she could have provided paper plates and plastic flatware and that's what you should have brought so you wouldn't have had to carry home and wash your dirty dishes. P.S. If you chose to attend the woman's dinner party knowing the circumstances, it's not very nice to now be biting the hand that fed you. 1 a-i' i.

I A1 ft mm AE3Y Jared Storm and Lindsay Austin AUSTIN-STORM Lindsay Dyan Austin and Jared Michael Storm, both of Decatur, plan a Sept. 27 wedding. Dawn and Max Austin of Mount Zion are parents of the future bride. She is a hair stylist at Attitudes Salon Spa. Rhonda and Jeff Hott and Dennis Storm, all of Decatur, are parents of the future bridegroom.

He is a loadout employee at Archer Daniels Midland Co. I understand that my sister is in pain and afraid, but I neeclher in my life because I love her. What can I do? Caring Sister in North Carolina Dear Caring Sister: I'm sorry about the sad prognosis your sister received. Many years ago, a doctor named Elisabeth Kubler-Ross identified five distinct emotional stages that a dying person may go through after being diagnosed with a terminal illness. They are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

However, people do not necessarily pass through all of these stages. Sometimes they get "stuck" and it appears your sister hasn't made it past the second stage. Spiritual andor psychological counseling might help her. But if she's unwilling to accept it, all you can do is let her know how much you love her, need her and will always miss her. P.S.

A grief support group might be very helpful for you, so check with the American Cancer Society. It can be reached by calling 1-800-227-2345 or visiting www.cancer.org. BYO plates Dear Abby: My husband and I were invited to a dinner party. Then our hostess told us guests must bring their own plates and silverware or we would not be permitted to join the dinner. I thought it was extremely tacky; my husband saw no problem with it.

What are your thoughts? Dinner Guest in Denver Dear Dinner Guest: Let's put it this way the request was highly unusual. Perhaps the woman didn't have enough china and silverware to accommodate all the people she Be fair Dear Abby: Now that it's summer, I need your help with one of your to-the-point witty comebacks. My husband and I are fair-skinned. Skin cancer runs in both sides of our families. We always wear sunscreen and lather up our 8-month-old child as well.

Yesterday, a few friends at the pool made jokes about needing sunglasses in our presence because of the sun reflecting off our pale bodies. I became upset and left the pool. Is there something I can say to make a point and let these people know how rude they are when commenting on our lack of a suntan? Tanless in Sugar Hill, Ga. Dear Tanless: For many years the American Academy of Dermatology has urged everyone regardless of skin tone to avoid long-term exposure to the sun and to always wear sunscreen, even on cloudy days. I see no reason to try to be witty.

"Skin cancer runs in both sides of our family, and frankly, you should be careful, too," is a simple way to convey your message. (Let a smile be your umbrella if they give you any flak.) For everything you need to know about wedding planning, order "How to Have a Lovely Wedding." Send a business-size, self-addressed envelope, plus check or money order for $6 to: Dear Abby, Wedding Booklet, Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. (Postage is included in the price.) Dear Abby is written by Jeanne Phillips for Universal Press Syndicate. Write to Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

MARRIAGE LICENSES John Fitzgerald Brown, Tower Hill; Amanda Rae Benson, Tower Hill Charles Joseph Durbin, Decatur; Bridgette Juneil Brooks, Decatur Devin Michale Crist, Decatur; Megan Lynn Noska, Decatur Donald Jay Shafer, Mount Zion; Kymie Lynn Stalker, Mount Zion Eric Curtis Miller, Naperville; Tess Noelle Lock-miller, Naperville Bruce Wayne Jeffery, Decatur; Leslie Chavis Barse-ma, Decatur Eric Steven Johnson, Cerro Gordo; Heather Elaine Owens, Cerro Gordo Matthew Alan Noel, Decatur; Megan Louise Taylor, Buying Old Coins, Gold, Silver, Pocket Wrist Watches, 1 Jaw: Aaron and Laurie STENGEL-SLODOUNIK Laurie Stengel of Brooklyn, N.Y., and Aaron of Decatur were married June 1, 2008, in Congregation Beth Elohim, Brooklyn, with Rabbi Martin Levin officiating. Nathan Gross of Decatur was a groomsman. The bride is a daughter of Jill Allen and Barry Stengel of Brooklyn. She is a graduate of Oberlin (Ohio) College and Bank Street College, New York City. She is a master teacher at Saint Ann's School, Brooklyn, and will be a Chancellor's Fellow in the clinical psychology doctoral program at The Graduate Center of the City University of New York in the fall.

The bridegroom is a son of Sharon of St. Louis, Kristine of Champaign and the late Herbert He is a graduate of MacArthur High School and Oberlin College. He is employed by FXFOWLE Architects, New York, and will be a William Gerdts Fellow in the art history doctoral program at The Graduate Center of the City University of New York in the fall. The couple resides in Brooklyn. Aaron Rund and Allison Sterner Rund STERNER-RUND Allison L.

Sterner of Denver, and Aaron M. Rund of Decatur were married May 18, 2008, in Hope United Church of Christ, St. Louis, Mo. Christine and Robert Sterner of Denver are parents of the bride. She is a pediatric resident physician at Rainbow Babies and Children's Hospital, Cleveland, Ohio.

Janet and Austin Rund of Saugatuck, are parents of the bridegroom. He is an anesthesiology resident physician at University Hospitals Case Medical Center, Cleveland. The couple resides in Shaker Heights, Ohio. A Cory Sattley and Jessica Wall WALL-SATTLEY Jessica Wall of Decatur and Cory Sattley of Mount Zion plan to be married Sept. 13.

Cheri and Rodney Wall of Decatur are parents of the bride-to-be. She is a programmer analyst at Archer Daniels Midland Co. Linda and Robert Sattley of Mount Zion are parents of the bridegroom-to-be. He is a printer technician for Striglos. feffiitiiiitiliiiriiiiaiiiiTtf ri iinliiiiMiMMiiftiiM gj 14 r5f i VC.

i if a Brian Fabbro and Katie Shipp SHIPP-FABBRO Katie Holeman Shipp and Brian Fabbro, both of Indianapolis, plan a Sept. 20 wedding in St. Joan of Arc Catholic Church, Indianapolis. Debbie Holeman Shipp of Mount Zion and Kevin and Shelly Shipp of Millstadt are parents of the prospective bride. Her grandparents are Don and Sharon Holeman and Garland and Betty Shipp.

Linda and Dan Fabbro of Carmel, are parents of the prospective bridegroom. His grandfather is Reid Taylor. The future bride is a graduate of Mount Zion High School, the University of Illinois, Urbana, and the University of Chicago. She is a Medicaid manager for the state of Indiana. The future bridegroom is a graduate of Carmel High School and Butler University, Indianapolis.

He is a business development manager for Conseco. Jacob Shackelford and Megan Durbin DURB1H-SHACKELF0RD Megan Durbin and Jacob Shackelford, both of Oakley, plan to be married Aug. 16. Jay and Genea Lawler of Oakley and Loren and Jody Dresback of Decatur are parents of the bride-elect. She is a registered nurse in the Decatur Memorial Hospital emergency room.

Julie Born of Cerro Gordo and Larry Schackelford of Oakley are parents of the bridegroom-elect. He is employed by Van Horns, La Place. CHAPMAN-JUSTICE Rhonda Chapman and Donnie E. Justice, both of Decatur, plan an Oct. 4 wedding.

Glen Chapman of Decatur and the late Marilyn Chapman are parents of the bride-elect. She is a hairdresser at Signature Salon. Tina and Terry Justice of Harristown are parents of the bridegroom-elect. He is a laborer for Keen Transport. SYLVESTER-DRAKE Sarah Sylvester and Jeff Drake, both of Decatur, plan to be married Oct.

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