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HEARTS AT HOME 10 CAT 12 The Pantagraph Sunday, February 15, 2009 F5- Grammar tip: Change love from a noun to a verb friend and I sat ting across over the lunch. table chat- With February being the "month of love," we began to discuss our plans (or lack of plans at that point) for Valentine's Day weekend. Eventually we moved into sharing some marriage lessons we've learned throughout our combined 45 years of marriage. Without thinking much about it, I shared that I've learned that love has to mature for a marriage to go the distance. I followed that with, "I guess love has to move from being a noun to being a verb." We both paused and considered the implications of what I had spoken.

My friend said it was one of the most profound Carver-Grieco BLOOMINGTON Taylor Christine Carver and Gerardo Anthony Grieco II, both of Bloomington, will be married April 18, 2009. The bride's parents are Brian Carver, Bloomington, and Julia Shanks, Bloomington. The groom's parents are Dr. Gerardo and Debra Grieco, Bloomington. Baner-Dabbs CONGERVILLE Emily Ann Baner of Congerville and Matthew Charles Dabbs of Carlock will be married April 25, 2009.

Their parents are Gary and Barbara Baner, Congerville, and Paul and Carol Dabbs, Carlock Harris-Wey BLOOMINGTON Molli Harris and Jon Wey, both of Bloomington, will be married May 9, 2009. Their parents are Tom and Karen Harris, Normal, and Mike and Gina Wey, Austin, Texas. MarriageLicenses Jill Savage things I've ever said. While it's most likely the only profound thing I've ever said, I've definitely not been able to get the concept out of my head. Immature love is a noun.

A thing we long for. A feeling. An expectation of what someone will do for us. Mature love is a verb. An action we take.

A decision. A Vial-Laue PONTIAC Molly D. Vial and Brandon D. Laue, both of Sullivan, are planning a July 18, 2009, wedding. The bride is formerly of Pontiac.

The bride's parents are Dan and Julie Vial, Blackstone, and Aaron and Barb Quick, Bloomington. The groom's parents are Dale and Carol Laue, Altamont. Moody-Wetzel BLOOMINGTON Lisa J. Moody of Bloomington and Ryan A. Wetzel of Normal will be married May 16, 2009.

Their parents are Jack and Marilyn Moody, Bloomington, and Sharon Wetzel, Normal, and Bill Wetzel, Bloomington. McLean County and Ashley Deanne Cox, Mattoon. Samuel William Comstock, Eugene Richard Benjamin and Julia Luigia Sutherland, both of Bloomington. Jose Felix Mendoza and Charity Jo Burgrabe, both of Bloomington. Bradley Joshua Carnahan and Amy Noelle McCollum, both of Normal.

Michael Anthony Clifford and Ashley Elizabeth Lenk, both of Bloomington. David Allen Ewins and Jenetta Marie Farnsworth, Normal. Wei-Lun Chien and I-Hsin Kang, both of Willowbrook. Brian Mills Gibson, Pekin, and Sarah Jean Gullery, Normal. DeWitt County Gregory Alan Franklin and Laurie Ann Dawson, both of Farmer City.

Claro Eugene Carter Jr. and Eileen Louise Torrillo, both of Clinton. Lee Allen Runyen and Deanna C. Brown, both of Clinton. Jeremy Tyler Shields, DeLand, choice to do something for someone else.

Unfortunately, too many of us have yet to mature in our love, and our relationships bear the scars of that fact. But it's never too late to grow up. And if we want our love to last a lifetime, we can't afford to keep believing that love is a noun. The feeling of love is short-lived. We have to transition to understand that long lasting love is really a verb.

But what does this English lesson of nouns and verbs have to do with real relationships? How do we apply this concept to real life? Maybe these scenarios can help paint the picture. Love as a noun spent all last week wondering what your spouse was going to do for you for Valentine's Day. Love as a verb spent all last week preparing your expression of love for your spouse. Love as a noun feels despair when you no longer feel "in love" with your partner. Love as a verb understands the ebb and flow of feelings.

It focuses more on expressing love than feeling love. Love as a noun demands its own way. Love as a verb works to understand differences and is open to new ways of doing things. Love as a noun finds faults in others. Love as a verb gives grace and forgiveness.

Love as a noun expects others to serve them. Love as a verb serves freely. Love as a noun expects to al- Engagements Livingston-Wilkey EL PASO Kenzie Livingston and Bryan Wilkey, both of El Paso, will be married April 16, 2009. The bride's parents are Tom Livingston, Bloomington; Tami Livingston, Bloomington, and the late William J. Phillips III.

The groom's parents are Tom and Karen Wilkey, El Paso. A Bennett-Spencer DeWITT Katy Bennett of Carbondale and Nathan Spencer of Leesville, are planning a May 23, 2009, wedding. Their parents are Tim and Ginny Bennett, Waterloo, and Terry and Connie Spencer, DeWitt. Adams-Wise McLEAN Mary Adams of McLean and Richard Wise of Minden, will be married May 9, 2009. Their parents are Lynn and Sheila Adams, McLean, and Scott and Marie Wise, Minden, La.

Lilienthal-Kratz BLOOMINGTON Krystal Lynn Lilienthal and Christopher Randall Kratz, both of Bloomington, will be married June 27, 2009. The bride's parents are James and Sherry Lilienthal, Bloomington. The groom's parents are Randy and Debbie Kratz, Morton. Fulton-Young BLOOMINGTON Wendy Fulton of Bloomington and Ryan Young of Normal, are planning a May 30, 2009, wedding. Their parents are Mary Ann and Jay Fulton, Bloomington, and Bruce and Kerry Young, Normal.

LaDew-Yoder SHIRLEY -Karli LaDew and Douglas Yoder, both of Shirley, will be married March 28, 2009. The bride's parents are Craig and Joni LaDew, Minier. The groom's parents are Daryl and Charlene Yoder, Stanford. NORMAL THEATER 209 North Normal. Bus.

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The most frequently quoted Bible verse at weddings is I Corinthians 13, which is often referred to as the "love chapter." It says that "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails." It wasn't until just a few weeks ago that I realized that every time love is mentioned in this often-quoted verse, it refers Smith-Grampp BLOOMINGTON Jaime Smith and Jason Grampp, both of Bloomington, will be married May 30, 2009. The bride's parents at Dan and Tina Smith, Bloomington. The groom's parents are Tom and Rose Grampp, Bloomington. Hicks-Lange BLOOMINGTON Jessica Nicole Hicks of Bloomington and Brady William Lange of Saybrook will be married Sept. 5, 2009.

Their parents are Mark and Pamela Hicks, Bloomington, and Jerry and Michelle Lange, Saybrook. to a behavior an action. Maybe this concept has been right in front of my eyes all along, but I just didn't understand it until recently. The most interesting thing, however, is a. that "When I was a child, I' suoted part of the verse talked like a child, I thought like achild.

I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me." So love has to grow up. It has to mature. Who knew grammar could' reveal so much about love? Hearts at Home is a Christ-centered organization designed to encourage, educate and equip moms. Hearts Home, N.

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Clinton, and Morgan Elizabeth Arallo, Sterling, Va. Carl Levoy Thompson and April Rene Mollet, both of Clinton. Leonard Allen Beach and Sallie Diane Able, both of Clinton. Jayson Nicholas Diehl and Sherri Sue Miller, both of Clinton. Christopher Lynn Brennan and Keri Christine Nelson, both of Clinton.

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