The Pantagraph from Bloomington, Illinois • Page 16

THE PANTAGRAPH, Tuesday, August 13, 1985 DEAR ABBY Man discovers wife married for escape By ABIGAIL VAN BUREN DEAR ABBY: I have been married for nearly three years to a very beautiful 23-year-old woman. I am 30. Our marriage hasn't been perfect, but I considered it better than average, with one exception "Betty" has no interest in sex. Once every two or three months is enough for her; then she acts like she's doing me a favor. When I try to discuss it with her, she gets angry.

Despite our differences, I have given her all my devotion and, a very comfortable life with all the material things a woman could want a lovely home, clothes, jewelry and a car of her own. Two weeks ago I discovered that Betty had been seeing a married man. I was shocked and hurt. When I confronted her, she admitted it, and told me she'd never been physically attracted to me; DYSLEXIA From C1, serves, to recapture a wandering mind, and the command, "Look at me," is repeated constantly around the room. Children dutifully repeat letters, letter combinations, and then whole words, write them down and trace them with a finger on a rough board to add touch to the senses brought into play.

"They are trying to get the child to focus in on the word and look at it clearly," Ms. Unruh explains. Dyslexia does not disappear, she says. But with improved concentration and knowledge of the likely mix-ups, students eventually catch most of the mistakes themselves. A low-carbohydrate diet also helps, says one parent, Burneda Chaffins of Garrett.

"Give mine some chocolate and you cope with a monster." Some students advance as many as three or four grades in reading ability in six weeks, Mullins says. Their frustration eased, the children stop "becoming the class clown or getting in trouble all the time," Mrs. Unruh says. "The chips on their shoulders go away." Ruby Jacobs, a Caney Elementary School sixth grade teacher, says that in 21 years of teaching she kept wondering about some of her students. "I'd say, 'You're intelligent, but you're not giving me anything on paper." Then she discovered the problem in her own child.

But with training, Twyla Jacobs, a high school sophomore, lost her "I don't care, I'm dumb, I'm stupid" attitude, her mother says. "She's speaking out, she's very she married me because I had money and she wanted to get out of her parents' home. She says she "loves me" but not in a physical way. Betty doesn't want a divorce. She says she's strongly attracted to the married man and will not give him up.

She insists that she wants to save our marriage, but needs to see her lover twice a week. I find this totally absurd and unacceptable. Abby, is this marriage worth saving? HURTING HUSBAND DEAR HURTING: You didn't have much of a marriage in the first place. By Betty's own admission, she used you. You may qualify for an annulment.

DEAR ABBY: Am I touchy, out of line or overly sensitive to resent it when someone asks, "Is that dress new?" I enjoy being complimented on my clothes, but I bristle when I am asked, "How much did it cost?" I never know what to say, so I foolishly respond as though I were on the witness stand, having sworn to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Am I an oddball to feel that these are impudent questions? And how should such questions be handled? KICKING MYSELF DEAR KICKING: You are no oddball. Quit kicking yourself and have the answer ready. To any question that strikes you as being impudent or out of line, haul out the standard response: "Why do you want to know?" self-assured now. It really works." Psychologist Charles L.

Shedd, who researched dyslexia in the early 1960s at Berea College, Western Kentucky University and later at the University of Alabama, said the "word blindness" first described in the mid-1890s stems from impaired development of perceptual-motor skills. Dr. Samuel T. Orton, a University of Iowa psychiatrist whose research led to founding of the Baltimore-based Orton Dyslexia Society in 1949, cited altered right and left brain development. In 1982, Dr.

Norman Geschwind, a Harvard Medical School neurologist, suggested that the same altered brain anatomy can lead to giftedness in other areas. Some encouraging examples for dyslexic children are Thomas Edison, who was unable at age 19 to spell or write a grammatical sentence; Woodrow Wilson, who was 11 before he learned to read, and Albert Einstein, who was declared a linguistic dullard. Today's children also identify with more contemporary dyslexics, including Olympic gold medalist Bruce Jenner and former Vice President Nelson A. Rockefeller. Rockefeller described struggling with "words that seemed to garble before my eyes" and advised, "Don't accept anyone's verdict that you are lazy, stupid or retarded.

You may very well be smarter than most other children your age." Those are encouraging words for children who have reached that verdict themselves. "I always felt 'God, I'm so When you find out you're not the only person who has the problem it's reassuring," said Kimberley Conley, now a tutor in the Hindman program. MARRIAGE LICENSES McLean County Nimz-Kleen Richard Lee, Washington, and Kathryn Normal. Carter-Hany Phillip Bloomington, and Carol Normal. Orland-Sunmark Ronald Mark, Bloomington, and Karen Marie, Normal.

Thomas-Sanchez Larry J. and Valda Fe, both Peoria. Brown-Grant Robert Francis and Brenda Mae, both Urbana. Wheeler-Foley Anthony Paul and Jaime Loretta, both Bloomington. Fulks-Bove Steven Wayne and Linda Dianne, both Normal.

Matulis Michael Preston Janice Kay, both Bloomington. Shackley-Carter Thomas Dale, Streator, and Julie Ann, Bloomington. Brock-Siscoe Kirk Donald, Bloomington, and Dawn Marie, Danvers. Kiser-Dowell Rodney Francis, Oakley, and Mildred Sena, Gridley. Wardrip-Gentry Jeffrey Loren and Sharon Elaine, both Lovington.

Marshall-Robinson James T. and Doris both Normal. Webb-Jackson Eric Lyn and Denise Ann, both Bloomington. Robitske-Hagar Paul Eugene and Peggy Ann, both Bloomington. Winterland-Leuchtenberg Randy Alan and Elisa Kay, both Lexington.

Johnson- Moncelle Gustav Bernard and Patricia Sue, both Chicago. Kuffel-Ruwe Scott David, Kewanee, and Jennifer Lynn, Bloomington. Reich-Ridgeway George A. Bloomington, and Dorothy El Paso. Hartwig- Larson Richard Eric, Bloomington, and Louise Marie, Normal.

Maitland-Leibach William Thriege II and Rebecca Lynn, both Bloomington. Brown-Brewer Christopher Owen and Kelli Ann, both Bloomington. Enos-Mattingly Donald Edward Jr. and Beth Ann, both Bloomington. Wilson-Reimer Mark Normal, and Sandra Carlock.

Van Kampen-Johnson Mark Alan and Pamela Ilene, both Normal. Starke-Schrum Robert Joseph, Bloomington, and Kathy Faith, Normal. Carnahan-Kemp Scott David and Julie Kaye, both Bloomington. Awad-Bertsche Elias Nicola, Overland Park, and Susan Ann, Flanagan. Thompson-Diles Randall Eugene and Simone Lynette, both Bloomington.

Livingston County Garcia-Wince Jason Richard and Tina Louise, both Dwight. Thomas- Randall James and Vicki Ann, both Dwight. Owenton, and Barbara Joan, CamSmith- Walsh David Francis, pus. Wilkey-Forney David James and Rhonda Sue, both Pontiac. BACK-T0-SCHOOL REVIEW KINDERGARTEN MATS KINDERGARTEN SMOCKS LEARNING KITS TEACH MEI MACHINE GINGERBREI Math Phonics FLASH CARDS THINKUNKS LITTLE THINKER TAPES HOUSE Hours: 10-5 Wed.

Eve. 'til 8:30 Ph. 827-8811 603 S. Hannah St. Shotts-Garling Michael Eugene Garling of Georgetown and Debra Darlene Shotts of rural Marshall were married at 2:30 p.m.

July 20 at Clarksville Baptist Church, Clarksville. Their parents are Jewel Garling of 1116 W. Coolidge Normal, Carl Garling of Georgetown and Mr. and Mrs. Eugene Shotts of rural Marshall.

There was a church reception. Teena Horsley was maid of honor; Deanna Shotts and Gina Wilhoit, bridesmaids; and Valerie Garling was flower girl. Bryan Haddix was best man; Sam Lyday and Mike Reed, groomsmen; and Jeremy Bender, ring bearer. The new Mrs. Garling is a graduate of Marshall High School and Indiana Vocational Technical College.

She is employed as a medical lab technician at Terre Haute Medical Lab. Her husband, a graduate of Georgetown High School, is employed by Westville Manufactured Homes, Westville. The newlyweds reside at R.R. 2, Paris, following a wedding trip to Florida. Stewart-Sutton CULLOM Sue Ann Stewart and Benjamin W.

Sutton, both of Colorado Springs, exchapged wedding vows in a 2 p.m. ceremony July 13 at Pauline Chapel, Colorado Springs. Mr. and Mrs. Durwood S.

Stewart of Cullom and Mr. and Mrs. Lyle D. Sutton of Mendota are their parents. There was a reception at the Broadmoor West.

Karla Korff was maid of honor; Karen Hardin, bridesmaid; James E. Larkin and Larry Corrigan, groomsmen. P. Michael Larkin and Nick Nakamura were ushers. The new Mrs.

Sutton has a bachelor's degree from Illinois Wesleyan University and a master's degree in education from Northern Illinois University. She is a second grade teacher at Pauline Memorial School, Colorado Springs. Her husband is a graduate of Southern Illinois University and the Culinary Institute of America, Hyde Park, N.Y. He is a chef at The Broadmoor Hotel. The newlyweds reside at 860 Oxford Lane, Apt.

424, Colorado Springs. Haerr-Knapp Heather Marie Haerr, daughter of Dr. and Mrs. Raymond Haerr of R.R. 7, Bloomington, became the bride of Randall E.

Knapp of Wilmette in a 12:30 p.m. ceremony Aug. 4 at the Apostolic Church of Bloomington-Normal. He is a son of Mr. and Mrs.

Robert Knapp of Eureka. There was a reception at the home of the bride's parents. Heidi Haerr, Jana Knapp, Ron and Norman Knapp were their attendants. The bride attended the University of Illinois, where the bridegroom graduated. He is employed by Abbott Laboratories as an electrical engineer.

They reside at 1119 Greenleaf Wilmette. New Names deadline Deadline for submitting items for the New Names in the News TROUBLE GETTING UP? No Need For Falls! EASY-LIFT. Cushion Lifting A Chairs Recliners FROM $150. (Medicare Assisted) WE SERVICE! UPHOLSTERY SERVICES by DAVE GATES Beech in Normal 454-2841 Harris-Fitzgerald United in marriage at July 19 at St. Clare Chapel, Bloomington, were Susan D.

Harris of 603 E. Jefferson St. and Kevin P. Fitzgerald of 7 Ivey Court, both of Bloomington. Kent and Dwyn Harris of Wapella and John and Helen Fitzgerald of 510 E.

Chestnut Bloomington, are their parents. There was a reception at the home of the newlyweds at 7 Ivey Court, Bloomington, before the newlyweds left for a honeymoon at Pheasant Run Resort, St. Charles. Jackie Sprague and J.B. Stevens were their attendants.

The new Mrs. Fitzgerald is a graduate of Wapella High School and Parkland College. She is a legal secretary for the Thomson, Weintraub and Thompson law firm. Her husband, a graduate of Central Catholic High School, Illinois State University and the University of Illinois School of Law, is an attorney with the same law firm. Beale-Meints ODELL Exchanging wedding vows in an 8 p.m.

ceremony July 12 at United Church of Christ Congregational, Odell, were Nancy Beale of rural Odell and Neil E. Meints of Fairbury. There was a reception at the Knights of Columbus Hall, Odell. The bride, daughter of Robert Beale of rural Odell, was attended by Kris Todd. Lori Abry and Tona Meints were flower girls.

The bridegroom, son of Mr. and Mrs. Herschel Meints of rural Fairbury, was attended by Deen McDonald. The new Mrs. Meints is a graduate of Odell High School.

Her husband, a graduate of FairburyCropsey High School, is employed as a laborer. They reside at the bridegroom's address following a honeymoon at the Bloomington Holiday Inn. Gentry-Wardrip HEYWORTH Jeff Wardrip, son of Bernard and Doris Wardrip of Heyworth, and Sharon Gentry, both of Lovington, were married at 3 p.m. Aug. 3 at the home of the bridegroom's parents in Heyworth.

A reception followed. The bride is a daughter of Gene and Justine Bishop of Atwood. Barbara Louden and Kent Wardrip were their attendants and Kristie Flaherty was flower girl. The new Mrs. Wardrip is a graduate of Newman High School.

Her husband, a Heyworth High School graduate, is employed by Schrock Tappan in Arthur. They reside at column is two weeks after the baby's arrival. No information will be taken by telephone. Galloway-Bogeart BLACKSTONE Kimberly Ann Galloway, daughter of Sam and June Galloway of rural Streator, and Ronald Britt Bogeart, son of Edward and Bette Bogeart of rural Blackstone, exchanged wedding vows in a ceremony July 19 at Pitstick Pavilion, Ottawa. There was a reception at the Pitstick banquet room.

Kerry Galloway was maid of honor; Kelly Talty and Janet Galloway, bridesmaids; and Jennifer Brooks, flower girl. Doug Bogeart was best man; Lynn and Greg Bogeart, groomsmen; Jonathan Crouch, ring bearer; and Kevin Galloway and Tom Scullens, ushers. The newlyweds are graduates of Streator High School. The new Mrs. Bogeart is employed by Di-Sys, and her husband is employed by Modern Body Shop, both in Boulder, Colo.

They reside at Nederland, Colo. NEW NAMES Matthew Quinn Rayeraft is the name chosen for the first child of Stephen and Nancy Raycraft of R.R. 1, Bloomington. The 8-pound, 3-ounce born July 31, is a grandson of Mr. and Mrs.

James L. DeWerff of rural Nokomis and Mr. and Mrs. Richard L. Raycraft of R.R.

2, Bloomington. Mr. and Mrs. Louis DeWerff of Nokomis, Louise Durbin of Walshville, Joe Quinn of Clinton and Margaret Raycraft of Heritage Manor Nursing Home, Bloomington, are great grandparents. Chelsea K.

Stone, born Aug. 6, is a granddaughter of Beverly and Gene Smith and Kathie Stone, all of Clinton. The baby, second daughter of Tim and Cheryl Stone of Phoenix, has a sister, Amy Leigh, 3. Paternal great grandparents are Mr. and Mrs.

Glenn McBride of Clinton. Matthew John Steinman weighed 7 pounds, 9 ounces when born Aug. 3 to Deb Steinman of 1548B Hunt Drive, Normal. Marilyn Gudenrath of Melvin is maternal grandmother. A Heyworth couple, Steve and Mickey Lower, are parents of Brittney Leigh Lower, born Aug.

2. The 7-pound, 5-ounce baby is a sister of Brugh, Mabel and H.C. Knight of Moweaqua and Duane and Nell Lower of rural Paxton are grandparents. Diana Lynn Dahl is the name chosen for the baby born Aug. 1 to Jon and Barbara Dahl of 2003 Fallen Oak Road, Bloomington.

The 7-pound, 13-ounce baby is a sister of Denise, 8, and David, 5. Grandparents are Mr. and Mrs. Willard Pingel, of Mount Prospect, Dorothy Rolling Meadows, and Einar Dahl of Prospect Heights. Nine-pound, 6-ounce Jason Grant Hughes, was born Aug.

6, a grandson of Ralph and Barbara deWerff of 401 Marian Normal. The 9-pound, 6- pound baby is the third child of Patrick and Debra Hughes of Wheaton. He is a brother of Bret Lucas, 3, and Heidi Beth, 2. Lylah Peterson of Earlville is paternal grandmother and Werff of Pontiac is great grandmother. Mr.

and Mrs. Quentin A. Stoeckel of Odell have a granddaughter, Catherine Stoeckel, born July 26 to Mr. and Mrs. Michael Stoeckel of Sylvan Lake, Mundelien.

The baby weighed 7 pounds, ounces. She is a sister of Beth, Rebecca, and Sarah, 2. Mr. and Mrs. Paul Lechner of Glenview are maternal grandparents.

Cecilia Stockel of Belleville is great-grandmother. Michael Leon Hovar, born July 27, is the third child of Virgil Leon and Rebecca Hovar of 1007 N. Elder Bloomington. The 8-pound, 8-ounce is a brother of Tracy, and Sarah, He baby, shares his father's middle name. Grandparents are John and Wilva Benedict of East Peoria and Elmer and Thelma Hovar of Mackinaw.

Eldora Merrit of East Peoria is great-grandmother. Tegan Kelli Swank is the name chosen for the baby born at home Aug. 6 to Charles R. Swank III and Vena C. Prewitt of 703 W.

Graham Bloomington. The 5-pound, 10-ounce baby is named for a character from the Doctor Who television series and her middlename is a feminine version of the name of a bother, Kelly, 15. The baby is also a sister of Michael, 10; Brian, and Charles IV, 16. Mr. and Mrs.

Charles Swank Sr. of 1219 N. State Bloomington, are grandparents. Richard Eugene and Bonnie Sue Nance of 2 Harwood Place, Bloomington, are parents of Richard Max Nance, born Aug. 7.

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3 at Holy Trinity Church, Bloomington, were Julie Ann Carter of 2117 Eastgate Place, Bloomington, and Thomas Dale Shackley of Streator. Their parents are Mr. and Mrs. Holmes Carter of the Eastgate Place address and Mr. and Mrs.

Howard Shackley of Streator. There was a reception at the Knights of Columbus Hall before the newlyweds left for a Florida honeymoon. Lisa and Melissa Carter and Denise Bowman attended the bride. Tim Shackley, Craig Kreutzer and Alan Voy attended the bridegroom. The newlyweds have bachelor's degrees -in education from Illinois State University and both are employed by the Waukegan public schools.

They reside at 748 Sharon Bldg. 39, Apt. 5, Waukegan. is named for his father and maternal grandfather. He is a grandson of Max Eugene and Mabel Arlene Heckelman of Sunnyside, and Mart and Patricia Small of Bloomington, Minn.

Aug. is the birth date Krystal Renae Lamb, third daughter of Arnold and Sharon Lamb of rural Carlock. The 8-pound, 11-ounce baby is a sister of Danielle, 4, and Melissa, 17 months. Mr. and Mrs.

Francis Weber of 506 S. Vale Mr. and Mrs. Wilbert Lamb of R.R. 4, all of Bloomington, and Mr.

and Mrs. James McGinnis of Gibson City are grandparents. Mrs. William Gifford Sr. of Gibson City is great grandmother.

Leah Jeannine Johnston was born July 28 to Rick, and Laura Johnston of 1101 N. Beech Normal. The 7-pound, 10-ounce baby shares the middle name of her maternal grandmother. Jerry and Jean Devine of Bradley and Dick and Judy Johnston of Bourbonnais are grandparents. Theldra Price of Kankakee is great-grandmother.

A Fairbury couple, Terry and Kathleen Weber, parents of Kristen Joy Weber, born Aug. 5. The baby weighed 7 pounds, 1 ounce and shares her mother's middle name. She was born on the birthday of a paternal great-uncle, Gene Kauffman of Chenoa. Grandparents are Arnold and Eunice Rich of Chenoa, Gloria Weber of Fairbury and Bill Weber of St.

Petersburg, Fla. Great-grandparents are Merrill Rich of Evenglow Lodge, Pontiac, and Reba Masso of Americana Nursing Home, Normal. David Allen Tapke weighed 7 pounds, 15 ounces when born Aug. 7 to Jeff Allen and Tammala Jo Tapke of Danvers. The new arrival is a brother of Amanda Jo, 6.

Betty Glenn, Clinton, and Mrs. Robert Tapke of 601 N. Main Normal, grandparents. Great-grandmothers are Mrs. Silas Abraham of Pontiac, Ruby Walls of Lincoln and Louise Andrews of Florida.

Daniel I. and Donna R. Kletz of R.R. 4, Bloomington, are parents of Kelsey RaeAnn Kletz, born Aug. 1.

The new arrival, who weighed 7 pounds, 6 ounces, was given a combination of her mother's middle name and the middlename of a maternal aunt, Marjorie Ann Ahlers, as her middle name. She is a sister of Christopher Donald W. and Gladys A. Ahlers of Heyworth and Irwin D. and Ruth A.

Kletz of 610 W. Graham Bloomington, are grandparents. Lela Cope of 605 Pine Normal, is great-grandmother. Twin boys, who have been named Gregory Eugene Swanson and Scott Allen Swanson, were born Aug. 7 to Allen E.

and A. Fern Swanson of 402 W. Hickory Bloomington. Gregory weighed 6 pounds, 10 ounces and Scott weighed 6 pounds, 6 ounces. They are grandsons of Richard and Pauline Brown of R.R.

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