Newsday (Suffolk Edition) from Melville, New York • 89

iiiMiiPisyM newsday B17 Should brother know Mom was no saint? now ope i CINEMAS Deer Park Stadium 16 IMAX DEAR AMY: My mother passed away last year at the age of 86 My brother "George" and I are the only survivors of our immediate family I am 59 and he is 57 George has made our mother out to be a saint but I know things about her that I have never told anyone Our mother had other men in her life and one in particular whom she saw until his death Our parents separated once when we were very young Our mother's parents dropped by our house and caught her with this man and they told our father Our father was never the same He wanted to keep his family together but he did not trust her I finally told my husband about this after my mother died I just could not bring myself to tell George because he thought she was perfect Every time he speaks of Mama he praises her for being a devoted wife and mother She did take very good care of us I guess she loved us but she didn't show us affection I know of no other man in her life until she married a wonderful man after our father death a man whom we all love They were very happy together I don't carry too many scars from this but should I tell George or let it be buried with her? Wondering Sister Commack Rd Grand Blvd in Fanger Outlet Center at The Arches Stadium Seating Digital Surround Sound Party Room Available DEAR SISTER: Every child in a family has a slightly different childhood depending on age and birth order and you shouldered some very painful experiences while shielding your younger brother from the reality of what was happening it was a tough spot for your mother to place you in Your parents were human with frailties and failings so it might be enough for you to say to your brother and Dad had a rough patch in their marriage when you were a baby Mom perfect but she was human and I believe both our parents did all they were able to Your father sounds like a good person and your recalibration of your sainthood might give your father more of the credit he seems to have deserved TODAY'S HOROSCOPES JERALDINE SAUNDERS Explore I wwwexploreLIcom NEWSDAY FRIDAY OCTOBER 24 2008 WEEKEND SHOWTIMES: Fri 1024 thru Sun 1026 special midnight shows Friday 1024 and Sat 1025 ONLY Enjoy the Regal Treatment! FREE POPCORN FREE SOFT DRINK October 24-30 with each paid admission ARIES (March 21-April 19): This will be your time to shine as a bright new star TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Be cautious when entering into new agreements or making promises GEMINI (May 21-June 20): A change of pace could provide new opportunities You may find powerful new connections in unlikely places CANCER (June 21-July 22): Don't let emotion cloud issues that can easily be solved with logic LEO (July 23-Aug 22): The toughest problems can be solved with the simplest solutions VIRGO (Aug 23-Sept 22): Don't commit funds to a project before you have explored other avenues LIBRA (Sept 23-Oct 22): Take a chance play the lottery make a bet and you'll find pleasant results SCORPIO (Oct 23-Nov 21): Your confidence and optimism is well founded Projects started today will succeed SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22-Dec 21): Examine the details carefully before entering into any agreements and be wary of false information Get a second opinion CAPRICORN (Dec 22-Jan 19): Give to friends relatives or charities and enjoy the act rather than waiting for the rewards Treat the world as if it were family AQUARIUS (Jan 20-Feb 18): New contacts and connections can take you to where you aspire to be PISCES (Feb 19-March 20): Your business goals are well within your sights Be industrious and sincere in all dealings today TODAY'S BIRTHDAYS Football Hall-of-Famer YA Tittle is 82 Rock musician Bill Wyman is 72 Actor-producer David Nelson 72 Actor Murray Abraham is 69 Actor Kevin Kline is 61 Former NAACP president Kweisi Mfume is 60 Country musician Billy Thomas (Terry McBride and the Ride) is 55 Actor BD Wong is 48 Rock musician Ben Gillies (Silverchair) is 29 Singer-actress Monica Arnold is 28 Rhythm-and-blues singe' Adrienne Bailon (3lw) is 25 Actress Shenae Grimes (TV: "90210 ') is 19 FREE "High School Musical 3" T-shirt with the first IDO tickets purchased at the box office each day Oct 24-26 HIGH SCHOOL 1 MUSICAL NOW SHOWING A NEW REGAL ENTERTAINMENT GROUP THEATRE REGmoviescom.