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DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have had a total of six mis- carriages one before our miracle son and five since we began trying for a second child more than two years ago. I always wanted a boatload of children, but my husband and I agreed on two before we got married. Now he wants to call it quits. He want to keep trying because he sees the emotional toll each loss has on me. I want to get a second opinion from a fertility special- ist who helped a friend with similar issues.

The only way I know how to describe the way I feel is that it feels as though is missing from our family. I ache and long for and miss that person, even though never met them. I know deep in my soul, that they are sup- posed to be here. Missing them mean I love my husband and son any less. But as much as I love those two, I also miss that person.

What should my husband and I do? CHALLENGED IN TEXAS DEAR CHALLENGED: Please accept my heartfelt sympathy. Clearly you have been through a wrenching time, and your loving husband is reluctant to see you continue to suffer as you have been. You and your husband should talk to the fertility specialist who helped your friend. However, if more treat- ment is unsuccessful, it will be time for you to seek a referral to a licensed psychothera- pist who can help you cope with your disap- pointment and loss. Because you escape the feeling that someone is missing, perhaps you might con- sider using a surrogate, fostering or adopting a child who needs a lov- ing home and family.

DEAR ABBY: I have been single for almost three years. I recently started dating a man who, I have realized over the past few weeks, has a problem with me spending time with friends without him. I have explained that it is a healthy and normal thing to have friends and to go do things with them. I have explained that he has nothing to worry about because I am respectful of our relationship and a faith- ful girlfriend. I have also begun to notice that he has no friends.

I have told him he is coming across as con- trolling. I want this to be a problem with him, and I know how to get him to see that normal for people to go and have fun as friends. My friends are classmates of mine, both male and female, and younger than I am. One of them is gay. I have explained that as well to my boyfriend.

Am I overthinking this as a potential problem or is this truly a red flag? CATCHING IT NOW IN CALIFORNIA DEAR CATCHING IT: You are not over- thinking anything, and yes, this is a red flag not a potential one. The person you have described appears to be so insecure that any activity you have that include him is perceived as a threat. The longer you remain involved with this person, the harder he will try to social- ly isolate you. Please do not allow that to happen. End it now.

Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. 1946 Safely back in Puumaile Hospital after a dramatic experience in the wake of the April 1 tidal wave, Wilfred Nakamoto, associate editor of Ka Leo Puumaile, hospital newspaper, tells the story of the evacuation of the patients from the hospital to the naval air station: Two Army trucks and a bulldozer from Hilo made their way through the wreckage, reaching Puumaile at 2:30 p.m. Ordered by Army author- ities, the patients and entire personnel were evacuated to the naval air station barracks at Lyman field via shuttle system in Army trucks, ambulances, rubber rafts and bulldozers. Near where the Seaside Club stood, the road was inundated.

There, the evacuees were ferried across in rubber rafts manned by sailors. Disaster was miracu- lously averted at Puumaile Hospital by a 2 thick seawall built by the WPA in 1939 that with- stood the severe pounding of the angry waves. The wall lessened the force of the waves and the hospital was safe. The cottage of Dr. Ireland, resident phy- sician, was lifted from its foundation and washed away 200 feet inland, a total loss.

1971 For 13 years, Howard Ellis has monitored the air atop dormant Mauna Loa volcano and listened as ecologists predict- ed pollution will lead man to disaster. Ellis, a research physicist at the clean- air monitoring station set up by the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration, says seen theory after theory about pollution come and go. The station monitors the concentration of car- bon dioxide at the foot level with an infrared analyzer. It also measures the intensity of solar radiation. Ecologists have expressed fears that a large increase in carbon dioxide would lead to a warming of the Earth, which could result in melting the polar ice caps.

They also fear a decrease in solar inten- sity would gradually cool even the tropical zones. Both, they say, might be results of pollution. Ellis says there appear to be any scientif- ic basis for such fears. are so slight, it takes years to he says. 1996 Bobby Jean Leithead- Todd, who last week resigned as chairman of the county Board of Ethics, is considering running for the County Council district that includes Kaumana, Piihonua and por- tions of downtown.

Democrat Leithead- Todd said she is ably to running for the seat being vacated by Council Vice Chairman Brian De Lima. This race would be first run for a county office. Big Island History is compiled by Brandon Haleamau for the Tribune-Herald using newspaper archives. Whenever possible, the news accounts were taken verbatim from the newspaper. Occasionally, some dates might be substituted because of microfilm availability.

Big Island history By MADALYN ASLAN HAPPY BIRTHDAY for Wednesday, April 21, 2021: Practical, stubborn and compassionate, opportunities follow you wherever you go. This year, you contribute your unique talents to a day job or a creative venture after hours. Do what you love and make time for it all without shortchanging friends and family. Mon- ey flows steadily, though watch for unexpected expenses. If single, get involved with groups.

If attached, let your part- ner take you out of your comfort zone. LEO is assertive. The Stars Show the Kind of Day Have: 5-Dynamic; 4-Positive; 3-Average; 2-So-so; 1-Difficult ARIES (March 21-April 19) 5 Your playful mood might spill over into making jokes and wisecracks at inoppor- tune moments. You play hooky, so keep your mind focused. When the workday ends, scoot out the door and do some- thing physical.

Tonight: Takeout from your favor- ite restaurant. TAURUS (April 20-May 20) Reconnect with relatives you have not seen in awhile. Mend fences and move forward from disagreements that resulted in stretches of silence. Invite them to your neck of the woods. Ask children and grand- children for tips on social media.

Tonight: True crime docuseries. GEMINI (May 21-June 20) Pace yourself to make time for net- working events. These online gatherings are important due to contacts you acquire. Let family know that you might be missing in action. Reassure them that you will make it up to them.

Tonight: Play word games. CANCER (June 21-July 22) Investing in home improvements and renovations are long overdue. Take advantage of your stable financial situation. The desire for a comfortable living space where you can invite family and friends to stay over can now take shape. Tonight: School reunion planning.

LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) Continue to research obscure sub- jects even if friends are baffled. Seek out like- minded people who share your passion and are interested in what you have to say. Come out of the woodwork and get noticed. Tonight: Learn a meditation technique.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) Focus on your creative expression. Value time so you can practice and main- tain discipline. Family and friends will respect your privacy.

The more confident you become, the more likely you can show others what you produced. Tonight: Time for love. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) Explore forming your own business.

You can be your own boss and pro- mote ideas or products that you care about. Exchange ideas with friends who speak from their own experience. You could find a partner. Tonight: Walk in the park. SCORPIO (Oct.

23-Nov. 21) Unexpected career opportunities arise. A group with excit- ing ideas could ask to join your team or ask you to be part of theirs. This will lead you in a direc- tion that has permanent possibilities. Tonight: Air concerns to loved ones.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) Catch up on reading material. Make a list of classics you always wanted to read. Go to the library or purchase a paperback or e-book you can view on your device.

Publish your thoughts on a blog. Tonight: Watch a game show. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) Check your financial statements thoroughly.

An automat- ic charge you meant to cancel may still appear. Straighten that out and cut down on other unnec- essary subscriptions and products. Enter a fun contest that tests your brain power. Tonight: Home-cooked meal. AQUARIUS (Jan.

20-Feb. 18) Mark off dates for a much-needed get- away with your partner or group of friends. Find a place you can explore together and laugh at each jokes. If you start researching now, you may find wonderful deals. Tonight: Purchase workout gear.

PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) Allergies or lack of sleep could make you feel under the weath- er. Take it easy today and avoid strenuous activities. If the weather permits, walk among greenery, enjoy the sun- shine and breathe fresh air. Tonight: New music for your playlist.

Daily Horoscope Mindbenders Man wants to quit trying after miscarriages B3 Wednesday, April 21, 2021 Puzzles Dear Abby Horoscope History.