The Bradenton Herald from Bradenton, Florida • 36

C-12 The Bradenton Herald Thursday July 8 1993 Saying no to others sometimes means saying yes to your family OAIL STEWART HAND Wlyll WWypiri about What to do? "Pack your fragile stuff away make cleaning faster give you leas to dust and be doing something positive for your children 111011 when old and your children are too busy to come visit you you can bring out all your fragile things and and admire them talking about quality time and we should be thinking about quantity time about being together as a family and not Just running helter Kim Buahaw family educator a week and just watch what we've scheduled MAKING PLANS Get serious about a calendar noting all appointments of each family member "A friend of mine uses a system that really works welL The first parent who puts something on the calendar gets to go and the second parent has to arrange child care if something else comes up That really encourages parents to utilize that calendar as a Calendars can promise fun and limit drudgery "We block off family time It also helps to schedule in family Buahaw said The benefit is everyone knows cleaning will end These who keep things up to snuff during the week will have to work harder to get it all done during the timeslot "You feel like a nag saying thia do that and everyone hates hearing it too a real grind a Mock of time list what needa to be done and then end mi a positive note If everyone picks up their own stuff before you go to bed thaw will be a whole lot less cleaning at the end of the Most young people have a developed sense of time or a realistic idea of how long chores take need reminders and limits such as "That needs to be done by 5 That leta parents stop nagging and the child decides when to work A sense of time depends on the individual Bushaw said "Scone children in second grade have a good concept of time Others in seventh grade do Speaking as your basic mom so what happens when 6 pm rolls around and the men ia still there? "It depends on whether working on it If they are you can say really appreciate your working hard You have only and left to do and then be r' ENCOURAGE AND COOPERATE "Do a lot of encouragement and model cooperation If you help them sometimes when you've got some free time they are more likely to pitch in when you could use some Bushaw says had parents worried that a 2-year-old help clean up She sets them straight But had parents of 18-year-olds who never bothered teaching them how to responsibly spend time call in frustration and despair "By then a little Timely tips If may be a relief not to have to arrange child care once your child is 12 or 13 and can be left alone safely but be carefliL "Time alone is trouble time for young Bushaw said "They still need their parents to greet them and be there for At work Kim Bushaw is on the phone all day Next to the phone at home ia a reminder no to othera means Baying yea to your People trying to handle too much in a time-crazed hurry all day long may not have thought about what aaving time for "Every parent needa to make aura that they spend a good portion of their time with their children Having children ia a choice and you have a reaponaifaility to care for family educator Bushaw says talking about quality time and we should be thinking about quantity time about being together aa a family and not juat running halter She may turn down good causes but she takea comfort from "doing her part" Iw helping raiae respectful responsible chil-! dren "Saying no to church or civic cauaea doeant make you leaa of a human being Chooee one or two things that you can real-' ly concentrate on being more fair to the committee and to your family "Remember to find out the expectations involved before you say yea See if there's a email piece of it you can do as a family "If nursing home visits are part of the QUIET FAMILY TIME Schedule an hour of quiet family time every night she suggests Turn off the TV Parents can read pay bilk or jot notes while children practice music read or do homework Since little children stop by to play throughout the day put up a written or picture sign on the door so they know quiet hour They'll get the message good modeling for the children to know they can take some quiet time for themselves And it relays to children that they are more important than any outside LET TECHNOLOGY DO WORK Take advantage of technology: Put mi the answering machine Use your VCR to tape just the shows you plan to watch during the week TV can suck up lots of time without viewers realising it "We record probably leaa than five hours project why not do that aa a family instead of going to a committee to talk about how many times you should go to a nursing home? be teaching your family your values and your goals by being there for them not by being out running CAREFUL WITH POSSESSIONS Buahaw handles a family question line called Parentline from her Fargo ND office Families spend an awful lot of time squabbling about the things in their home andhow dean they are found "Children and family relationships need to talm priority over possessions Your house has to be dean enough so that people don't stick to the floor but you have to have a museum atmosphere where itis full of fragile irreplaceable things When they bump into them end up yelling at your children the whole night go to bed feeling a little bit worse Entertainment Information must be submitted at least two weeks In advance If reservations are needed plsase Indicate dates Information will not be taken over the telephone ATHENS EXPRESS Is Having Their Grand Opening July 7 July 14 Come Join Us For Delicious Gyro Sandwiches At Only 199 And Hot Dogs For 99 Full Menu Items Also Available Take OutEat-inDrive Thru 794-2994 6408 Manatee Ave 1993 Salon in August and September Ed Riggins will present "Flopera Floperet-ta and Other Musical at 2 pm Aug 4 at the Oaks donation is $15 Dr Delbert Hillen will present "Potpourri Think Opera 94 at 1 pm Aug 25 along with lunch at 5252 Tarn iami Trail Sarasota donation is $20 Joanna Horner will present "Laugh and Sing Life is on the at 2 pm Sept 15 at The Meadows donation is $15 Florida Foibles Fables Too) will open Aug 6 and run in repertory for two weeks at Florida Studio Theatre 1241 Palm Ave Sarasota Tickets are $10 $12 and $14 Box office: 366-9796 ST PETERSBURG Louie Anderson will perform at 8 pm July 17 at Bayfront Mahaffey Theater 400 First St St Petersburg Tickets are $1750 and $1950 at the box office or Hcketmaster Information: 1-813-898-2100 or 1-818-287-8844 CLEARWATER Ruth Eckerd Hall 1111 McMulIen-Booth Road Clearwater will present week-long runs of two major Broadway shows Jesus Christ Superstar will be given eight performances Nov 2-7 The 1992 Tony Award-winning revival of Guys and Dolls will be given eight performances Jan 25-30 This will be the 10th anniversary season for Ruth Eckerd HalL Brochures for Act I of the 10th anniversary season will be mailed by the end at this month to hall members who have advance ticket purchasing privileges and by the end of August to the general public Tickets for Act I will go on sale to members later this month and to the public on Sept-11 To receive an Act I brochure call TAMPA 10 For The Loft presents the annual Loft benefit show of 10 Ten Minute Play by Ten New Topless Directors starting today and continuing through July 18 at The Loft Theatre comer of 15th Street and Fletcher Avenue North Tampa Show times are at 8 pm Thursdays through Saturdays and at 5 pm Sundays Tickets are $10 at the box office (1-813-972-1200) or Ticketmaster (1-813-287-3383) Information: David or Jessica Johnson 1-813-972-1200 or Wendy Butler 1-813-972-3383 Always Patsy Cline the unique story of a rare friendship between a country music legend and one of her fans will open the Splash at 8 pm July 20-24 at Tampa Bay Performing Arts Center 1010 Maritime Place Tampa Based on a real-life relationship the story is a tribute to the Grand Ole Opry star that tells of her friendship with her moet devoted fan Louise Seger The two-woman musical features 17 CUne songs including Crazy Walkin' After Midnight and I Fall to Pieces Tickets are $2050 and $220 Subscription to both shows Always Patsy Cline sad The Real Live Brady Bunch costs $30 $35'nd $40 Tickets are available at the box office 10 pm weekdays and noon-4 pm Saturdays Information: 1-813-221-1045 or 1-800-955-1045 ELSEWHERE The 1993 Florida International Festival presents guitarist Chet Atkins and guest conductor Sltitch Henderson during the London Symphony Opening Night Pops concert at 8 pm Aug 7 at the Ocean Crater Daytona Beach Tickets start at $18 Information: Peabody Auditorium box office 1-904-255-1814 ifi DRAGON GARDEN MANATEE Pentecostal of Faith Church presents its 993 Mass Choir Concert featuring a and youth choir male chorus and solos at 6 pm July 17 at Bradenton Municipal Auditorium 100 10th St Donation $5 South-German Youth Chamber Orchestra will perform at 3 pan July 18 at Lnna Maria Island Community Center 407 Magnolia Ave Anna Maria Tickets are $3 for adults age 17 will be admitted free A wel-ome reception for the orchestra and host families will begin at 2 pm Saturday at An-is Maria Island Chamber of Commerce 503 Jana tee Ave Holmes Beach Information: 778-1063: Manatee Players presents the Good rime Remit July 23-Aug 2 at the Riverfront theatre 102 Old Main St Performances are at 8 pm July 23 24 28 and 31 and at 2 pm July 25 and Aug 1 Reservations: 748-5875 SARASOTA United States Amateur Ballroom lancers Association Inc is sponsoring instruction dancing and refreshments with live music from Don Martello of Chez Med Res-aurant 8-11 pm July 17 at the restaurant 1122 Midnight Pass Road Sarasota Cost is 18 per person Information: Dane Font 924- Yippies Busina Person 8 Shopped lecialM 795-8980 5312 West Cortez Rd -3JE STEAKHOUSE Sarasota Poetry July Slam will July 21 at the Emphasis Cafe 1301 First it Sarasota Admission is 12 Information: 954-4085 Sarasota 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