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00 WOMAN TODAY Oakland Oct. 26, 102. 1974 Tribune 21-E Hemloudos Chain Letters? Balony! Dear Ann Landers: Today when I came home from school I found my mother very upset. She had received a chain letter." supposed to have been started by a saint. Mom was instructed to send out twenty copies to friends and relatives.

If she does, the letter says, she will have good luck. If she doesn't she will have bad luck. In the letter it told about people who had broken the chain and how they lost their jobs, got cancer or had some terrible accident." My mom works hard all day and doesn't want to bother with twenty letters. Also, it means $2 in stamps. What is your opinion of these chain letters? SORRY FOR MOM Dear Sorry: They are a crock of cranberries, sheer nonsense and a royal pain in the neck.

hope your mother ignores that nutty letter ANN LANDERS and helps to put an end to the foolishness. 0. 0 0 Dear Ann Landers: I'm the mother of a three-year-old girl and a boy who is 16 months old. The girl is very sweet, but just average-looking. The boy is an unusually beautiful child.

Invariably people who come to the house, or acquaintances I meet on the street, rave about the boy, tell me he is ignore the girl completely. My heart just breaks when this happens because I know how left-out she must feel. So please, Ann, tell these good people who mean no harm, when there are two children present please don't ignore one and praise the other. It really hurts. MOTHER OF TWO Dear Mother: How right you are.

Of course these people mean no harm, they are just theughtless. I hope your letter will help them to become more aware. Itry, every day, to plant at least one good idea, to make one useful point in this column. You did it for me today, and I thank you. 0 0 Dear Ann Landers: The poem you printed in your September 9th column entitled Very Special Child" appeared in a book compiled by my husband, Reverend John A.

Massimilla and myself, entitled "This Is Our Life." The book is available for $1 and was written out of concern for mentally retarded children and their parents. Our mailing address is P.O. Box 256, Magnolia, 19962. Will you please so inform your readers? Thank you. EDNA MASSIMILLA Dear Edna: Glad to set the record straight.

Thank you for writing. 0 0 0 Confidential to Lady With Legitimate Excuse: Sorry, I don't buy it. Everyone has 24 hours in his day. It's how you decide to use these 24 hours that determines your priorities. When something isn't done it's because you decided something else was more important.

Cassright 1970 Field Enterprises, Inc. Home By DOROTHY RITZ Dear Dorothy: I used a spray disinfectant to freshen the air in the room and, before I was aware of it, a few drops of the liquid fell on a walnut table. Tried everything I could to get rid of the spots, but: nothing has worked. Do you have any Garrisen BY THIS time, I'm afraid the only suggestion worth anything is that you need professional refinishing. Because most of the spray disinfectants contain a large percentage of alcohol, it's necessary to swiftly deactivate the action of the alcohol on wood which means immediately putting on some kind of greasy substance, like butter, vaseline or cold cream.

yourself more grief and call in a professional. Dear Dorothy: We have a clothes washer installed in the garage of our summer cottage. The instructions say to store "above freezing. Our Line on cottage will be closed for the winter, and freezing weather is common in the area. How can we protect the washer under such Paul C.

Craig EVERY PART of the washer has to be drained hose, pump, water valve and so on. The a reason for, all this is simply that any water left can freeze, expand and crack the various parts. Dear Dorothy: Our family loves hamburg. ers, so occasionally use a pan large griddle over one burner stove to do a whole batch. Unhappily, the area around the burner is almost impossible to clean afterward a real horror.

What am I doing wrong? Eve Royall IT ISN'T YOU. What happens is that when a or griddle is much larger than the heating element, the air can't circulate so the heat is trapped and thus you automatically get those messy cleaning jobs to fight with. They'll Sip, Sup Dance The Women of St. Bede will present a benefit wine tasting and dinner -dance tonight at St. Bede's Catholic Church social hall, 26950 Patrick Hayward: -Wine-tasting at 6:30 will precede the 7:30 p.m.

dinner WIN THE pumpkin at harvest festival at California Academy of Sciences Oakland Symphony post-concert party Inequality- a Woman's State of Mind? Tribune photo by RON RIESTERER Terry McAteer and Holly Cronin tried to guess the weight of a giant By MARINA GOTTSCHALK Tribune Staff Writer Laws alone may not give women quality, a woman speaker suggested here this week. Significant legal advances have been made in the last several years -decisions by the U.S. Supreme Court on equal pay, maternity leaves, -which have been breaking down the discrimination against women. There is a long way to go, however, even with the Equal Rights Amendment, which requires ratification by five more states. "What bothers me, and I don't know how to verbalize it, is that I'm not sure the battle will be won in the area of the law," said Naomi Levine, national executive direct tor of the American Jewish Congress.

A graduate of Columbia University's law school, she is assistant professor in law and race relations at John Jay College of Criminal Justice in New York. She was formerly director of the AJC's commission on urban affairs, and for many years worked on AJC's commission on law and social action helping to develop legislation against racial and religious discrimination. Mrs. Levine was in the Bay Area this week to open the "Full-Life Series" sponsored by the Center for Continuing Education of Women on the University of California campus. She spoke Thursday on "Women's' 'Rights: Where Do We Stand Now?" Not a thing you like your burgers Disinfectant 0 0 0 Dear Dorothy: I like your helpfulness and candor even though I often think you are far from strong enough on women's rights.

I'm hoping to stir your indignation about the discrimination in Social Security against women--and if this isn't a home problem I don't know what is. I've worked for years, paid in the full amount, but now learn that no matter- what I paid I will receive one the amount my husband will draw. The woman I talked to at Social Security admitted to me it was discrimination, but said it was the law. Seems to me that even women who are turned off by the more aggressive Women's Lib spokesmen ought to come up fighting on this gross inequity. Really, the word is robbery.

Helene Keitly. I AGREE with you, and I've written on this subject before. It isn't the only gross inequity in the Social Security law. Regardless of that, every woman ought to write her senators and representatives saying what she thinks about the horrendous discrimination. I did.

0 00 Dear Dorothy: One of my friends was partway through a piece of my cake and exclaimed over the chocolate frosting. I wasn't immediately A Festival of Parties on The Fall Social Scene The autumn mood is upon us, what with a 'Harvest Festival' staged by docents of and at the California Academy of Sciences in Golden Gate Park and a post-concert reception at Trader Vic's Watergate given. by Milton Shoong. Honor guests at the latter were Maestro and Mrs. Harold Farberman of the Oakland Symphony, Israeli violinist Itzhak Perlman and composer Leon Kirchner.

Mirabeau of Oakland catered a box supper for the first event, but the old-fashioned hay ride on the agenda was as one of the horses 'broke down' on its first tour. Mrs. William Lewis and Mrs. Thomas Lynch were chairmen. those things that troubles me.

I don't have the answers." She is distressed over a recent survey of the University Research Corporation which found that more women are attending graduate school and more expect to work after college than ever before, in the category of self-esteem, women rate themselves lower than men in drive, popularity and intellectual self-confidence. "That was a devastating report to read," she said. "Yet, when I think of myself and my own attitudes to my job, I think that it's probably trueeven for a relatively aggressive woman like myself. When I first became executive director, I was always worried that the men I was meeting with knew more. It took me a little while to assert myself.

I'm surprised, and this is a confession, that if a professional woman, felt that way, I can imagine how the rank and file women, who haven't spent their lives working, must feel." This is what disturbs her. She asks how can women be given this sense of self-esteem, a feeling that they're as smart as any man? "That's very important in the pursuit of a genuine state of equality. And what do women want for, themselves? This is not solved by changing laws. Most women 1 today, I think, still want to get married. If you get married, -how do you mix your career and your family? Are you going to go where your husband's job takes you?" Composer and Mrs.

A short time ago, Mrs. Levine said, she received an exciting job offer in Washington, D.C., but at her age (50), she didn't feel she could pick herself up, leave her husband in New York and go. "Some women are doing it. There are more women, I think, who have certain reluctances about this. What are we really talking about when we talk about equality? Am I really equal in my career pursuits? "My husband wouldn't have gone to Washington.

And how many men are there who would? And then the woman has to decide and it is her to go on with the marriage or say the heck with it and go. And most of us, unless there are other irritants in the marriage relationship, will say 'I'd rather be There were other reasons, she said, for not taking the job. "If I were 20 years younger, maybe I'd commute on weekends. I think younger are trying to make women, adjustments, they're re enormously Changing the law is the easy part, said Naomi Levine, and she's confident. that the legal aspects will be achieved.

But she is concerned about the deeper -relationships with men, families and careers. "For example, I went back to my law practice a few months after my daughter was born. I confess to guilt feelings about it, and I'm sure that the guilt caused certain deteriorations in our relationship. I over-pampered her to make up for what (Boutique Wholesalers ALL Clothes Jewelry Wigs 130 WHOLESALE! WAREHOUSE OPEN 10-6 Sat. 10-5 SALE ENDS NOV.

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We now have broken that down. We have antidiscrimination laws on the city, state and federal level. We have eliminated the legal sanction for discrimination and segregation, but that hasn't given the black man, really, any genuine As a lawyer, she didn't want to underestimate the important legal aspects, "but there are sociological and psychological dimensions to these problems that are not solved by passing a law. It's how you're going to cope with Tribune photo by LEO COHEN Naomi Levine believes changing laws are only a solution to women's equality this? Bess Spotting. HAVE YOU tried the drug store? If any place would have it, this is the most likely.

Oil of lavender used to be popular, but it's rarely used any more and distributors say they no longer stock it. 0 0 0 (Mrs. Ritz welcomes questions and hints. If a personal reply is required, please enclose 'a stamped, self-addressed envelope. Write to: Dorothy Box 1111, Los Angeles, Calif.

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trous in some careers. "In the law for instance, if you are away from it for five, six or ten years, you have to start at the bottom again. Laws are constantly changing, you would be behind and it's 'a' long road Mrs. Levine has not found any overt discrimination since becoming executive director. two years ago.

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