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62 ADVICE CARPET UPHOLSTER CLEANING SERVICE E32 A Heavy Loss to NY STUDIOS from Page 59 fANNILANDERS DOUBLE PROCESS SHAMPOO STEAM ROOM UPHOLSTERY PRICES MAY VARY ACCORD MS TO FABRIC WE CLEAN ORIENTAL A AREA RUGS CALL FOR OUR SPECIAL PRICES COUPON DOES NOT APPLY QUEENS 718-204-6646 BROOKLYN 718-204-6636 BRONX 718-204-6636 MANHATTAN 212-348-6668 WESTCHESTER 914-668-4738 DEAR ANN: My wife and I have a solid marriage bound together by three beautiful children. If I am so happy, why am I writing? It is because I have something to say an a Bubject you touch on from time to time. The Other Man. Several years ago, our marriage waa a bit rocky. I waa not aa attentive aa I should have been.

My wife, Ellen, had an affair with the married attorney who handled her father8 estate. I suspected. She confessed. We were both certain that several people in town knew about it. Three months after the affair ended, my wife gave birth to a beautiful baby boy.

There is no question in my mind or Ellens that this child was fathered fay her lawyer-lover. The boy is now in school. He is blond and blue-eyed, like his biological father. Our other children are both dark-eyed brunettes, like my wife and me. The lawyer-lover has three daughters no sons.

Im sure whenever he sees this beautiful boy he dies inside. I could not love this child more if I had fathered him. He is truly a gift from heaven. I am writing to say that life is full of challangwR, and this waa an enormous one for me. I met it and have emerged a winner.

It was a phrase of yours in a speech you gave in Detroit a few years ago that really stuck and got me through this ordeal. You said, It isnt what happens to you, but how you handle it that counts. A belated thanks, Ann. Illinois DEAR ILLINOIS: What a beautiful letter! Your wife is a very lucky woman. I hope this child brings you a ton of happiness.

You deserve it. MON. THRU SAT. 8:30 TO 6:00 MINIMUM ORDER TWO ROOMS OR $30.00 NOMINAL TRAVEL CHARGE TO ALL AREAS. PROTECTOR ft DEODORIZER ARE AVAILABLE AT ADDITIONAL COST OFFER EXPIRES 10293 SATISFACTION GUARANTEED expected to lose their jobs when BMG moves.

The companys new headquarters will contain a few production rooms, but no recording facilities. BMG reportedly tried to keep the studios through a deal with its landlord, the Durst Organization, but Durst would only lease the full nine-story structure, not the three floors of studio space. It is not possible to separate the studios from the office space, said Douglas Durst, vice president of the Durst Organization. Instead, his company will spend $30 million to renovate the apace for the IRS, which signed a 20-year lease at a rental of about $35 per square foot. Asked whether he saw any irony in the awarding of city tax breaks to eliminate a profit-making operation and replace it with a taxpayer-funded operation.

Durst said, I am told the IRS is a profit center for the government." Currently, there are only two other sites in the city that could be used in place of Studio Manhattan Center, at 311 W. 34th and Clinton Recording Studios, 653 10th Ave. But Manhattan Center, which provides virtually no equipment of its own, is already heavily used by the New York Philharmonic and Metropolitan Opera, as well as by industrial and corporate clients, and the Clinton studios are too small. The rock-oriented Hit Factory is building a new apace at 421 W. 54th St.

to open in January, which may serve as an ultramodern replacement for the BMG Studios. But industry sources say it also is too small. Its a wonderful facility, said Gemignani after a tour of the new Hit Factory studio, but nowhere near the size of A Turned sideways, I could get a symphony orchestra in there. Industry workers, stimulated by an ad-hoc committee of BMG employees, have tried to rouse official support either to preserve the studios or find a replacement. There will be a City Council hearing Dec.

14, called by Councilman Wendell Foster, chairman of the International Affairs, Intergroup and Special Events Committee, which oversees the citys Theater Commission. But some in the industry see little hope for success. Emil Char lap, a music contractor who estimates that his musicians payroll last year far film work at Studio A waa $2.5 million, said, I have the feeling we have lost because we are late The chances of saving it are zilch. Michael Domemann, chairman and CEO of the Bertelsmann Music Group, told Newsday in November that one of his top priorities waa shoring up the companys reputation. At the time, he waa trying to decide which corporate logo to use on his new building.

Image is important, he said. Domemann did not return calls for comment about the effect on his image of dosing BMG Studios. II Happy Birthday PHILHARMONIC from Plage 59 SPECIAL OFFER CARPET ANY ROOM NEW YORK NEWSDAY, WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 9. 1992 PART 109 DUPONT STMNNfMTAMT NYLON COMPLETELY PISTOLLED OVEN SEPARATE SPONQC PADOMQ AT rnRMAIMl WCIK FREE SHOP AT HOME SERVICE OR VISIT OUR OtfctMM WWOW OHII I BATA VM (718) 805-4300 (212) 941-8688 114-M ATLANTIC MC Richmond hill, nt nua DEAR ANN: May I unload on you? I cant take it anymore. If you have a solution (short of murder), Id like to hear it.

I am the mother of three. Of course, my kids have friends. All their little friends come over every day and they stay until 8 p.m. These kids are only 6 and 7 years old, Ann. I send them home at dinner time but they are right back at our front door in 15 minuteB.

Sometimes we havent even finished eating. WHERE ARE THEIR PARENTS? These little ones get home just in time to go to bed. Doesnt anyone play with their kids anymore? Why do people have children if they dont want to be bothered with them? Of course, Im glad to have playmates for my children, but not every day of the week for four or five hours. Give me a break. Take your children for a walk or a bike ride, play catch, cards, Nintendo or board games, color, paint, write someone a letter, read them a book, bake some cookies or make some costumes for fun.

If you have trouble thinking up things to do, go to the library and find Borne craft books. Check with the YMCA; it has some excellent programs to occupy your kids. Take them to visit Borne of your relatives so they can get to know them. What Im saying is please quit cleaning your house from top to bottom and ironing your dish towels. Spend some time with your children.

After all, you brought them into the world, so why not treat them as if you want them around? The Hangout in Royal Oak, Mich. DEAR ROYAL: I wonder how many parents will see themselves in the column today. Thanks for a letter that is sure to make some folks squirm. Gem of the Day: Luck invariably favors the prepared. II Forget to save some of your favorite Ann Landers columnsV'Nuggets and Doozies is the answer.

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CHURCHES, AND INSTITUTIONS SAVE 5.001 ON EACH COVER BY I PAYING CASH I LNot To Bo Combinod Wtlt) Any OltwrOfforCoupon Exg. FROM THIS tra with a mere insinuation or a matter-of-fact pointed finger than lesser artists can with the moat balletic convolutions that the performance was never sterile or pedantic. Quite the reverse. And, finally, there waa Kurt Maaur, the good master, the earnest craftsman, who is directly responsible for the Philharmonics current health and heartiness. He led a performance of the New World Symphony that made up in drama and an almost Elgar-like ceremonial pomp what it may have lacked in simple charm.

(Maaur, with his back to the audience, working vigorously with both hands in strenuous passages, bears an amusing reaemblenoe to Frank Morgan behind the curtain in The Wizard of Oz, and the results of his manipulations were no leas remarkable.) It bothered the Americanist in me that what remains a very Old World piece (this, despite its subtitle and gentle evocations of native American forma) should have dosed our oldest orchestras commemorative concert; more so that the very choice of this symphony for this occasion must have been intended aa a statement, one that would have been better made with a big piece by Aaron Copland, Virgil Thomson or even, perhaps, a living American composer. But who can resist Dvorak? And then it waa over; we sang Happy Birthday to the orchestra; confetti poured down on our heads, and we were met with champagne in the lobby, to toast the next 150 years. II FROM 39 TO 94 For Ready Made Sizes Many Other Styles Colon AvsHable I 212-57 Jamaica Ave. Queens N.Y. 11428 718-464-0298 Call for a FREE CATALOG.