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WITH HER first book, Season to be now in its third printing, Suzanne Arms of Mill Valley, is gathering material and taking pictures for a second book, on midwifery. ON THE AGENDA Nurses Association Holiday Bazaar Is Scheduled Tuesday Christmas gifts and holiday foods will be for sale at the California Nurses Association, District 15, annual Christmas Bazaar Tuesday at 7:30 p.m at the home of Mrs Beverly Eagan in Santa Rosa Members and guests are asked to bring Christmas gifts to be auctioned by Enc Norr- bom THE A CAPELLA Choir from San Rafael High School, directed by Byron Jones, will present a program of traditional and contemporary holiday songs Tuesday at the 1:30 p.m. meeting of the San Rafael Improvement Club at the clubhouse in San Rafael. Jnes, director of vocal music for the San Rafael City Schools, will lead the audience in Christmas carols following the performance Mrs. Art Aviron is chairman of the tea, which will follow the program.

Committee members Communication Workshop Slated Ken Keizer will lead a couples communication workshop Saturday from 10 a m. to 5 m. at the Young Women's Christian Association, 1618 Mission Avenue in San Rafael. Keizer, a professional marriage counselor and family therapist, will offer an opportunity for couples to explore the communication process using didactic seminars and experiments with dialogue Registration should be made with the YWCA. are Mmes, Walter Smith, Victor Earll, G.

H. Vander Hoogt and Miss Dons Eden. SAN RAFAEL Assembly 195, International Order of the Rainbow for Girls, will have a Christmas Boutique tomorrow from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. at the Masonic Hall in San Rafael.

Handmade Christmas decoration and gifts, plants and home baked items will be for sale. Chairman Sara Bowerman will be assisted by Laura Clark, Irene VandenBos, Colleen Lynch, Joan Yovino, Barbara Semorile and Lori Kimberling. MARIN FEDERATED Republican Women will have the annual Christmas Boutique Tuesday at 11 a at New Joe restaurant in Corte Madera. The sale of gits, Christmas ornaments, baked goods and candies will precede a luncheon at 12:30 p.m. Mrs.

Ann Wentmore of Mill Valley is reservations chairman. A CHRISTMAS tea and boutique will be held by the Community Church Club of Mill Valley beginning at 1 p.m. Wednesday in the church social hall. Boutique items will be displayed. Precedmg the tea a musical program will be presented by Stephanie Seymour, piano, Becky Eichom, To Remove Ring To loosen a tight finger ring, rub soap over the finger above and below the ring.

Marin Women Friday, November 30, 1973 Jnhnmtbfttl-Journal. 17 IN FIRST BOOK A Marin Mother Writes Of Birth Panel Fails To Answer trumpet, Janet Wetterman, guitar, Marena Michaelian, piano, and Beth Eichom, flute, will present musical selections. Mrs. Minna Leininger is tea chairman; Mrs. Janet Reynolds, boutique; Mrs.

Cornelia Gordon and Mrs. Edith Hedges are reservations chairmen. MR. AND MRS. Noel McCar thy of Novato will talk about "Marriage Tuesday at 8 p.m.

at a public meeting of Our Lady of Loretto School Parent-Teacher Guild in the parish hall of Our Lady of Loretto Church in Novato Yule Luncheon Set Wednesday A Christmas luncheon will be held Wednesday at Hamilton Air Force Base Officers Club by the Mann County Retired Employees Association, according to Agnes Fanning, treasurer. A social hour will be held at noon, followed by the luncheon and a short business meeting to present a new slate of officers. Committee members include Perry McDonald, president; Tom Lightfoot, vice president; Jean Olson, secretary; and Mrs. Fanning. By BETTY "A Season To Be details the pregnancy of author Suzanne Arms in words and photographs.

The words are expressing the often poetic reflections of a young first-time mother about her life experience. The photographs are by John Arms, former Independ- ent-Joumal photographer and father of Molly, the baby, whose beginning is so well documented During this period the Arms family lived at Stinson Beach, and this Marin setting is the backdrop for some of the pictures of quiet strolls and joyous romps. In a frolicsome mood, the then mother-to-be said, since I became pregnant been getting more and more pleasure from my sensual feelings. some old tightness in me that seems to be losing its hold at last, and I feel all of me The final picture sequence shows Suzanne happily playing with the baby, and the caption says in me. Now you and Molly was bom in a San Francisco hospital with an attending physician Both parents had taken classes in the Lamaze natural childbirth method and were together at the moment of birth.

In the book there is a passage, the idea of being doped up and worked on as if I were a damaged machine is appalling. I want to do this birth myself. My body must know deep inside how to deliver the baby. Can I get in touch with that knowledge when the time This view of birth as a normal and natural happening, not an illness requiring hospitalization, has led Suzanne to look into the subject of midwives, and will be the theme of her second look, which is now in the wonts. Research for the book took her to Europe, where she visited midwife schools in England, Holland and Denmark.

In Denmark and Holland student midwives have a three-vear training penod They study, practice and observe, and have enough The Case Of The Battered Child NEW YORK (UPI) It has been estimated that as many as 20 per cent of all children brought into hospital emergency rooms, or up to half a million children per year, may be victims of some sort of abuse or neglect. A 1970 study suggested that more children under the age of 5 are killed by their parents than by disease, the University of Michigan Information Service reports. LET US DESIGN YOUR CHRISTMAS GIFTS CUSTOM NEEDLEPOINT DESIGNS And Instructions PATERNAYAN PERSIAN YARN Quilts and Stuffed Toys 934A SIR HUNOS DRAKE, BLVD. (At Corner Col PHONE 457-3105 CHRISTMAS ART EXTRAVACANZA OPENING 5UN.DEC. 2 rtiT iiXAsu.

MARIN SQtltrVii ARTISTS ddsUj te Question Of 'Parenting' FROST carefully oriented medical training to know when more help is needed, she explained. They are licensed by the state. They are well trained and enjoy a high status in their society. For every 200 applicants, only 20 are accepted for study. care is important and, in Holland, a doctor gives a check-up and leaves much of the prenatal care up to the midwife.

The midwife can make decisions and is subject to severe censure if she makes an error in Mrs. Arms said home is the safest place for a woman to have a the writer maintained, good prenatal care. There is a calm environment and less chance of infection. The hospital is disease-oriented and often impersonal for a woman in labor. All the hours up to birth are important.

The midwife is well trained in natural In England there are few home births, according to Mrs. Arms, and there those taking the midwife training tend to be nurses who decide to specialize in maternity care. are nurse-midwives who are part of a medical team, obstetricians, prepared to solve abnormal problems, and midwives prepared to assist with normal she explained. She also spoke of meeting male midwives. The writer will do additional research in this country.

She plans to live in for awhile and spend some time on the Eastern seaboard, interviewing midwives. Midwifery has been outlawed in California since the 1940s. Her daughter, Molly, is now 3, and she and John are separated, Suzanne said She has always enjoyed children, and has taught nursery school, worked in Head Start programs in Marin City and the Fillmore District in San Francisco, and in a child care center at Point. She has also taught dancing to children. She thinks that her present involvement with choices in the matter of birth, is a natural outgrowth of her interest in family life.

Mrs. Arms, 29, was born in Summit, N.J. Her parents were both teachers, who took advantage of the long vacations to travel with their three children throughout the United States and in Europe. She was graduated from the University of Rochester, Rochester, N. with the BA degree in literature She has lived in Marin County for eight years Reads Everything A responsible consumer care- oilly reads everything he is to sign.

If he does not understand it, he takes it home to somebody who does. By JOAN LLSETOR There may be no answer to the question of how parents can help children make the move out of the nest easier. A panel last night in Olney Hall at the College of Marin was supposed to provide some answers, but members only posed more questions. The panel included Nina Lathrop, a psychoanalytic psychotherapist; Sooch Rannells, retired director of Family Life Education for Family and Child Services in Washington, and Rev. Charles Gompertz of the Marin Community Mental Health Center.

Mrs. Lathrop admitted she could have answered the question 25 years ago when her children were small and she had just begun practice but through the years she has only acquired more questions. is not a said Mrs. Rannells, a human condition that MUCH ENERGY is wasted growing toward maturity because we try to achieve what others expect of us, she said, placing much of the blame on well meaning parents and teachers, who place on a child which remain with him throughout life. She said the most important thrust for change in life comes with the biological changes at adolescence, which cause periods of crisis.

"When the status changes from being a child to assuming responsibility he questions if he Service League Of School Picks Slote Mrs. John Lawrence Richard, who is chairman of the San Domenico Service League this school year, said that the league members work to assist the San Domenico School for Girls where their help is needed. They drive students, do typing, teach, do research and flower arranging, she said. Marie Richard, a nine-year league member, currently assists in the new nursery school program at the Sleepy Hollow campus one day a week and is teaching simple cooking to the 3 to 5-year-old children. She also taught the first boys cooking class two years ago at A.

E. Kent School, where her husband is on the faculty. The league sponsors a Christmas bazaar and a spring event each year. The league members are mothers of children who attend San Domenico, and the Richards are parents of Celeste Mane Richard, a sophomore. Mrs.

Richard, an 18-year Marin resident, is a graduate of the College of the Holy Names in her native city of Oakland and is active in the alumnae association, a member of the Marie Rose Guild, Mann Re- Pattern-On-Pattern Look Going Out Sportswear designers havt given up the pattern-on-patterr look for next spring and an concentrating on matching top: and slacks or shorts. The separates show up in the same prints but with sheer lighter fabrics for the tops, anc heavier weight materials foi the bottoms. publican Sponsors, the Kentfield Astronomical Society and the Confraternity of Christian Doctrine program at Blessed Sacrament Church in Santa Venetia. She enjoys cooking, gardening, music and teaching. Other league officers this year are Mmes George Bill, vice chairman; Marold Marquis, treasurer; John Munson, recording secretary; and Andrew Pansini.

corresponding secretary. Chairmen are Mmes. Kleve Johnson, membership; Philip Madden, clerical; Richard Dinkelspiele, Upper School hospitality chairman; Adolph Capurro, Lower School hospitality; Halvor Berg, junior service league; Imre Vizkelety, telephone; Jerome Downs, uniform, and C. R. Bricca transportation Count Calories And Exercise Too Counting calories to keep trim0 Wrell, maybe you should also consider exercising, according to a study conducted by Dr.

Margaret M. Kennck and a Georgetown University, Washington, medical team in which one group of obese patients restricted themselves to a diet, while another group dieted and exercised 30 minutes a day. "Compared with the first group, the exercisers showed a significantly greater weight loss of actual fat instead of lean tissue and the exercismg also led to lower resting heart rates, indicating benefit for the Dr. Kenrick said is really needed in a society where work is for adults," she said. The automobile has allowed mobility and television has introduced the children of this generation to adults besides parents, Mrs.

Lathrop said. need to let our children teach us about is something we are biologically skilled for but not emotionally prepared Gompertz said. a culture we take parenting very seriously, but we have to be able to laugh at it too. WTiat drives you crazy about your children? When they mimic you. Gompertz said to his wife he is 38, to his children he is 108 and to his mother he is 6.

tend to forget what the world looks like from a 4-year- level, he said. A WOMAN in the audience asked whether children should be allowed to play with other children values are different. Mrs Rannells said she thought it would be helpful to the children and would be more harmful if the children are forbidden to play. When asked when the parental role ends, Gompertz replied that the steps toward letting a child go have to be done gradually, and the separation is one of the most difficult problems we have to face in life. many parents, parenting is their entire life.

It is very difficult to let he said, difficult to wind down He defined a housewife as who spends most of her day up to her fanny in Problems are created more by parents, dependence on their children than dependence on their parents, the panel agreed. The lecture concluded the series, Stress in Our Society, Children and Their sponsored by the College of Marin Community Services Department and the Marin Association for Mental Health. Benefit Sunday For Vine Village A family-style spaghetti dinner will be held Sunday from 2 to 6 p.m. at Le Tonneau restaurant in Corte Madera as a benefit for Vine Village. Vine Village is a ranch in the Napa Valley for young mentally retarded persons Chairmen and reservations chairmen of the dinner are Mmes.

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