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cincinnati.com TUESDAY, DECEMBER 15, 2020 5B Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I want children and have health issues that would make pregnancy and childbirth life-threaten- ing for me and I enjoy having lots of time to myself. I have a good job, am sav- ing regularly for retirement and enjoy my social life. In light of all of the above, I have re- cently begun rethinking my assumption that I should be looking for a life partner. I am in my early 30s and feel OK with the idea of being alone in the foreseeable fu- ture.

Yet I wonder if this is shortsighted; at some point, will I regret that I meet someone while there were a lot of partners (theoretically) available to me? How do I know for sure? OK with the Idea OK With the Idea: Conveniently, I think anybody be looking for a life partner. Add enriching things to your life, yes, and enough to meet new people take the quotation marks away when enjoying a bunch of group activities is safe again), and keep an open mind to new directions your life can take all of these are great ideas for anyone and those open to dating can also extend and accept invitations as part of that. Healthy all around. But actively evaluating people for their life-partner suitability is so specif- ic that I think it actually interferes with and overly our natural screening processes. In fact, I could even argue that trying to meet someone while the selection is bigger could lead to your pairing with someone perfectly which then keeps you from pairing with someone great for you but whom you only meet by accident 15 years later.

In that case, actively looking for a life part- ner for the reasons you describe would actually be more than simply continuing not to try. Since the object is to be happy with the life you have, and happy with the life you have, loath to advise messing with it. Why do something to a hypothetical some when it might mess with your very real Some thoughts: As I went through my 30s, I always tried to describe myself as happy with my life as it was, but open to someone who enriched it as opposed to looking for someone as a life partner. It is all nuance, but the world is nuance after all. It also just binary, you have to declare, always going to be or, must a Be open, and then if you someone, it will be for all the right reasons.

You need a partner, but you need to exclude the idea of a rela- tionship, either. There are others out there who are looking for a great rela- tionship with a great person with no ex- pectations of expanding that circle. CAROLYN HAX Should she be looking for a life partner? Singer Cindy Birdsong of The Su- premes is 81. Drummer Dave Clark of the Dave Clark Five is 78. Drummer Carmine Appice of Vanilla Fudge is 74.

Actor Don Johnson is 71. Actor Melan- ie Chartoff Lewis is 70. Director Julie Taymor (Broad- Lion is 68. Actor Justin Ross Chorus is 66. Bassist Paul Simonon of The Clash is 65.

Country singer Doug Phelps (The Kentucky Headhunters, Brothers Phelps) is 60. Actor Helen Slater is 57. Actor Paul Kaye of is 56. Actor Molly Price is 55. Ac- tor Garrett Wang Trek: Voyag- is 52.

Actor Geoff Stults and new is 44. Actor Adam Brody O.C.”) is 41. Actor Michelle Dockery is 39. Actor Camilla Ludding- ton is 37. CELEBRITY BIRTHDAYS Johnson Country music stars honor Pride Country biggest names, ce- lebrities and fans took to social media Saturday to honor Charley Pride, who died at 86.

Pride, who became the Black superstar with an Angel Good and dozens of other hits, died in Dallas on Saturday from compli- cations of COVID-19, ac- cording to a news release from publicist, Jeremy Westby. Dolly Parton extended her condo- lences to friends and family and wrote a touching message on Twitter. so heartbroken that one of my dearest and oldest friends, Charley Pride, has passed away. even worse to know that he passed away from CO- VID-19. What a horrible, horrible virus.

Charley, we will always love Par- ton wrote. Other stars also reacted. Darius Rucker dubbed Pride icon, a legend and any other word wanna use for his Reba McEntire shared a black-and- white photo of Pride with his guitar, ac- knowledging that the star always be a Justin Bieber, UK health workers team up for charity song Justin Bieber has teamed up with a choir of London medical to record a special charity Christmas single. The choir, made up of nurses, doctors and other health care working in the British Lewisham and Greenwich public health service, joined the Canadian pop star for a special ver- sion of his song in a bid to top the Christmas chart. Choir members recorded their vocals at famous Abbey Road Stu- dios.

from the collaboration will go to National Health Service charities. The choir gained fame when it vied with Bieber in 2015 for the Christmas No. 1 song. Bieber urged his millions of fans on Twitter to support the choir, not him, and it eventually won the top spot on the singles chart. Ashanti positive for COVID-19, postpones battle Ashanti and Keyshia highly anticipated battle was re- scheduled last minute Saturday after Ashanti announced she had tested posi- tive for COVID-19.

tested positive for COVID-19 beforehand, and we cannot put anyone at risk in the read a post from the account. Ashanti, 40, assured her fans on so- cial media that she was and not in any and was working with and Apple Music to see if it would be possible for her to continue the battle virtually from home. PEOPLE Pride ETC. GET YOUR DREAM KITCHEN THIS NEW YEAR Enjoy more access to your kitchen with custom pull-out shelves for your existing cabinets SPECIAL OFFER Interest for 12 Months Approved Credit Schedule your FREE design consultation! (513) 572-7035 one offer per household. Must purchase Shelves.

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