The Wichita Eagle from Wichita, Kansas • 66

4ETHE WICHITA EAGLE Sunday April 2 1995 easier for customers Handling change after dollar bills might be possible hardships involved in guests' traveling is a good reason for everyone to marry the boy or girl next door She has no sympathy whatsoever for people whose dreams simply do not take others intoac- 7 count If you do not torture yourself to run after those who care noth- ing for your convenience or presence you can take bitter com- fort in the fact that the wedding will probably turn out not to be an occasion anyone concerned win want to remember A marriage 7 begun with such an attitude is not Ukely to last Dm Min Maimers: Is there an established etiquette on how coins and bills are exchanged between cash-ten and customers? Nearly always I am given the Mils first with the coins then dropped on top This may be the logical way for the clerk to count out the figure on the register but it leaves me to balance loose coins that slide around on top of the bills It works especially poorty at drivethrough food windows where the customer seated in a car reaches up to get the change It is infinitely easier if I am handed the coins first and I can opt to hold these small objects in my palm or drop them in my purse with a free hand to accept the bills Is there a simple and polite way to direct the order of coins and bills as they head toward one? I want to be lecturing anyone and fm sure that the clerk there because It isn't easy to hand out money to oneself But why didn't you get to her earlier say at about the time the barter system was being phased out? White there was still time we could have had a nice debate over whether a system should be used favoring the convenience of the customer (who is paying for convenience) or the cashier (who has to do this all day white each customer only has to do it once) Now however many people are not only used to doing this with the bills firet but to thinking of the change in that order It is hard to switch routines but it is even harder to mess around with the way people routinely think Miss Manners is not lacking in courage but before she stepped in to try to do this she would have to be more convinced that the customer's convenience in this particular matter outweighs the cash "their day" should be the first consideration We have told them will we will not attend not only because it would cost our family $8000 but because it is disrespectful to make It impossible for his grandparents to attend We are being treated like the bad guys for this happy time in their lives miser We thought a wedding was a time to be shared by both families Gentle Reader: Selfish selfish selfish How could you even think of making your son miser able by suggesting that he might want to make it possible for his own parents and grandparents to attend his wedding? Mias Manners has enormous sympathy for couples who have difficulty choosing a wedding site because they the various parents grandparents and other relatives and their various friends live in different places Accommodating Dm WWMVnM Wichita Lauree Greffius left Susan Madiera Unde Perkins Mary Jecha and Phyllis Pulice were among those attending the Welcome annual event at the Petroleum Club MUl UUMvCormtpondmt Chocolate lovers were at Century II for Chocolate Mania Among thoM demonstrating how to make chocolate goodies were Shelley Hansel left Ed Cere Deanna Roper Uebl and Mike I uen Mhuqr jkflhf Wichita Eo(lf Serving a spot of tea and some tasty delicacies at the annual Treasures of Spring at the Historical Museum were WHiMS members Cariene Banks Joanne Mcllwaine Nancy Brammer Margaret Mobley and Lynne Tinker Boots were at the Ball By Bonnie Bing vwiama HAPPENINGS ier's and to know whether your system might adversely affect the accuracy which Is in the higher Interests of both If anyone cares to experiment however she would be interested in a report Dear Min Manners: Our son and his girlfriend both undergraduates surprised us with their announcement to marry But her parents were delighted and Immediately offered to take them (along with sister brother and his wife) to the Virgin Islands for a tropical holiday wedding We were not asked if this would be convenient for our family We asked them and her parents if they would have a small wedding in her hometown and then go to the islands for a honeymoon but they stand firm and have any sympathy for our family who will not be able to go The young people say that a tropical wedding is their and that making them happy on Fullerton was presented the gavel as the Incoming alumnae president before Diane Haag gave a report on the successful Art of the Eye project Awards were presented to Kathy Skinner Jessica Robsrtson Julie Smith Andrea Hansford Erin Cyphers Erin Morgan and Jana Grisham Others attending were Elizabeth Bennett Jana Means Kyle Duncan Katie Partridge Debbie Smith Susie Stallings Betty Angulo Mary Elizabeth Mous-or Virginia Armstrong Fra nets Board Cerate Jones Carol Womack KakJ Jackson Mickey Armstrong Betty inkier Kay LaGrae Patti ZMke Angie Holladay and DoAun Warfield Opera finale Helen and Jay Galloway opened their home to members of Opera Kansas to a midnight supper following the Wichita Symphony's production of Gio-commo Tosca Proceeds from ticket sales to the supper will benefit Opera Kansas Among the opera fans were president Burton Pell Sandra and Bill Conner Jeante Park Gant Virginia Whitt John Boll Suz-aimo AMstrand Gwen and JR Sovart Deanna and Bill Foshee Janet and Duane Bucktey Michele and Dan Haidt Haten Piper Chart Sanderson Jerry Jenson Margo Setter Taman Kennedy Laura and Ron Badger Sally Luallen Glide McMinimy Botty and Richard inkier Kata and Ron Martin Jan Page Velma Wallace Salty and Dave Dewey and Jerry Martin New officers Members of the Kansas State Society of Colonial Dames XVH Century wound up their year by electing new officers at their Second State Conference Disney's when his 6-year-oid daughter Emma watched It thought it was a nice enough stray to start he said "Then I realized that Cinderella was not doing anything to herself She was just sort of letting everyone else take over to her "The overall message was that it's OK If you do that because a fairy godmother Is going to come and everything is going to be baft MtaVIftf Cowboy boots hats and big belt buckles were important ac-ceuortes at the annual Cattleman's Ball In their Western duds ware Gina Bullock lower left Sharon Brown Martha Baker upper left and Molly Loehr JUDITH MARTIN MISS MANNERS want to inconvenience people I simply believe that most people have not considered it from the receiver's point of view A short polite and timely intervention seems to be needed Gentte Readers After playing around with her mad money which turned out to be about as much fun as one can get for a few dollars and odd change these days (you don't need much mad money if you never get mad) Miss Manners has concluded that you are probably right The is KAKE-TVs Shelley Hansel and Mika luan were on hand to demonstrate cooking nobake chocolate cookies and to officially present a medallion to the 1995 Chocolate Ambassador Deanna Roper Uebl Deanna who is a nationally acclaimed chocolate artisan demonstrated how to make a chocolate bowl The first chocolate ambassador Ed Cora showed how to make chocolate Easter eggs Other chefs showed their skills during the daylong event Dick Rademacher who represented the Wichita Public Library Board won the celebrity pie-eating contest His prize? Chocolate of course All this chocolate action was a benefit for STEPS a not-for-profit organization providing services to adults with disabilities Those who organized the 3rd annual Chocolate Mania were Dana Newton Walden Shirley and Ed Farmington Sharon and Eviea Cranford Denao Lyons Pat Patterson and Kathy Eichstaadt The stars wore out People walking pest the windows of Larkspur might have thought they were seeing things But it truly was a table foil of stars when Kiratio Alley was host for a dinner March 25 to celebrate the opening of the Church of Scientology Mission of Wichita and to thank the many people who worked getting the building refurbished and ready for the opening Special guests were her friends who flew in to the ribbon-cutting ceremony including John Travolta and his wife Kelly Preston husband Parker Stevenson Lisa Mario Presley David Crosby and his wife Jan Isaac Hayes Billy Sheehan and Nancy Cartwright who is the voice of Bart Simpson of the television cartoon show "The Others dining on crab cakes baby greens grilled salmon honey-roasted Cornish game hen swan cream pufts and Dutch apple pie were Kir-she's dad Robert Alley the Rev Heber Jentzsch president of the Church of Scientology International: Peggy Crawford president of the Wichita Mission and her husband Bill from Sacramento Calif and David Miscavige chairman of the board Church of Scientology Tea time On the first day of Treasures of Spring more than 50 guests came to the Wichita-Sedgwick away to her perplexed stepsisters "I care anyway because Fm going to marry a handsome prince and going to make you sorry for the way you treated Cinderella as she named herself proclaimed petulantly Her stepsisters both got master's degrees Anastasia in finance Dri-zella in chemical engineering Cinderella met a prince who was dumber than she was When he tried to have her stepfamily behead JudKh Martta is a syndkated cohanahL FMteg taeamct? Address your atiqMtte pestioas (ta Mack ar Mua-bix ink i wMta vT" to Mbs Manaere Wichita PA Box 820 Wkkita Kan 0620 Ike qufl shortags promts i writing paper) RaEaga KanTi7201- anaitiom other than through this i- wn IUInaOonMidfnt Lois Smith had a big day on her 90th birthday cret to long life is she looked: around and said "Everyone who's Time to meot The National A Council Officers of Sigma Alpha So rority were at Heartspring Marcl 16-19 to their National Council Meeting Among (hose attending were president Madeline Martinez o( Bakersfield CaUL and Emily Mon- topagano of San Diego Others attending included Mary Tierney of Chesterton Ind JoQ-ten Tropp of Emm Ohio Joan' Bofan of Kettering Ohio Jeante Buono of San Diego Calif Joan1 Perkins of San Diego and Anna-hollo Blumenschoin of Spring-' field Ohio Mistress of ceremonies was Deb-( orah Flook of New Carlisle Ohio' National publicity chairman dith Blue of the local Zeta chapter made luncheon arrangements to the group at Larkspur on March 18 Deal On March 23 sal-'-1 ad dessert and cards filled the'1" afternoon at the Senior Sendees)' Crater Bridge Party hostesses included Peggy McMastar Virgin-la McCoy and Donna Copley Among those sharing the were Indite Barkett Vat Got-' don Irene Baden Boots Borg-r man Betty Hohwmann dtan I sham Gloria Block Mary Aim Leckteig Virginia Buck? Millie Manning Janet Bucktey Nancy Myers JoAime Callahan Lea Osmond Georgia Chandler'1 Betty Parker Gladys Gllckman' Ivonne Goldstein Ethel Roberts and Cindy Schwan board president of Senior Services Special Friends of Senior Services donated the proceeds from the I Bridge Party to buy equipment for Senior Services of Wichita Artistic group Wichita Women Artists were at Piccadilly Market to lunch and a program by Ann Gethen Among the 22 guests present were Jan Woolery Frosty McClure Goldie Roll Shirley Carrick Helen Leyh Joyce Han- demon Pat Ehriie Jeaimtei Park Cans and Judy Hull passive University and an authority on the 7 Grimm Brothers' tales Regardless of whether or not reading about dippy heroines in- duces real-life dippiness in girls fairy tales have provided satiric grist for a number of prominent au- thors Including Roald Dahl and Judith Viorst "In John Gardner's 'Gudgekin the Thistle the poor girl refuses to be humiliated by a prince who must learn to respect her Bt was a River City roundup at the Knnaw Goliseum Pavilion when more than 1000 folks donned their Western duds for the 6th Annual Cattleman's Ball Auction Silent and live auctions vittles from the Olive Tree and boot scootin' tunes from the Grammy Awardwinning Asleep at the Wheel kept guests busy at the March 25 event Sharon Brown and Gina Bullock were cocbairmen of the event Johnny Western from KFDI was master of ceremonies along with Melissa Buck from KSNW-TV All proceeds will go for cancer research and education and to provide service to local cancer patients and families Among foe many volunteers who helped organize the event were Sharon Adams Martha and John Baksr Susan Ball Boots Bergman Pam Clancy Jed Del-more Mary Aim Downing Bryan Frye Nancy George Cathy Harnod Melania Hatt Cindy Harehbatgar Maryana Kilgore Molly Loahr Diana Martin BJ McKinney Cindy and Dave Shoroack Stephanie Steele Ashley Stephans Holly Stevens Rebecca Thompson and Carol Wright tvonne Goldstein and Ai Buch raised a whopping $4600 trying to 'be the one who got to watch white the other one kissed a pig Ivonne got to pucker up and Idas a pig Yes a real live one Jackie Stephens of Colby was lucky in the Nickel Raffle and took home a ruby ring from the Plaid Giraffe Among those bidding dining and dancing were Cheri and Steven iAndcnon Mary and Randy Adamy Brace Brawn Sally and AI Buch Sharon and Ted Buck-land Betti and Don Cordeo Janas and Marty Cornejo Cathy land TV Dariand Jody Galichia 'Jana and Jim Kelly Kim and CJ I Lett Dorothy and Mike Lynch Jan and Russ McDaniais Helen and Ken Nelson Janie and Mika Oatman Anita Oberwortman Bob Neace Betsy Redler Judy and Wayne Reno Kim and Tim Scanlon Meg and Ross Schim-mats Jack Shelton Lori and John Stephens Connie and John Wilcox and Vickie and Rep Todd Tiahrt Chocolate heaven Forrest Gump would have had a big time at this year's Chocolate Mania at Century Exhibition Hall on March 25 Area chocotatiers and restaurants offered samples of their chocolate delights to a very eager crowd New state officers installed are Marjorie Willsey Marian Winter Patricia Carpenter Ruth Keys Clark Louisa Corrick Dorothea Schwolger Myroa Rica Maria Hawkins Mary Wise and Marguerite Good AI-mods Lappia will be the new president Others attending included Salty Riden Joyce Arte Avis Fisher Juno Webb Hazri Meyers Use Cote and Marcy Schott Spring fashions and lunch Members of Welcome Wagon Clubs of West Wichita and East Wichita gathered to a joint meeting at the Petroleum dub on March 21 that included a luncheon and fashion show Members of the West dub were hosts to the activities which featured Doncaster fashions and Doncaster consultants Phyllis Pulice and Lauree Graffius Hats from Hatman Jack's topped off the spring ensembles Models to the day included Pat Did lea Julia Koker Shirley Perkins Joyce Sullivan Muriel Warren and Donna Zhkol Susan Madiera is president of the East dub Unda Perkins is president of the West dub Plano music for the afternoon was provided by Cindy Schudka Too time It was spring tee kickoff time to members of Reflection Ridge Ladies Golf Association earlier this month at the clubhouse More than 80 members and guests attended A fashion show presented by Jenny Drahor featured golf attire from the pro shop Guests also got a sneak preview of golf fashions from Margaret Shook who is opening a golf and tennis apparel shop called fore her Inc Models for the evening included Brenda Orcutt Sandy Bol-dridga Branda Devaney Debbie Baldwin Karan Gtebert and Connie Bowim Also attending were club president Debbie Stems Royce Ann White Cindy Roobes Von Robl Marybeth lubbers Rosalia Brand Kathy Steward Pam Milter Kathy Fullerton VI Dessonborgar Maxine Steio-vich and Leoan Budd Happy birthday Lois! Lois Smith was surrounded by family and friends on her 90th birthday March 26 at Edgemoor Recreation Center Her three children Wayne Smith Irene Simpson and Louise Fandoigraft were hosts to the event that brought birthday wishes mostly in person from her 19 grandchildren and 54 greatgrandchildren The party was also attended by her lfcnooth-old great-great-grandchild Guests came from as to away as Alaska Georgia and California When she was asked what her se That wasn't the sort of message he wanted his daughter to hear Fairy tales have raised feminist hackles to years "There Is a growing consensus among those who study fairy tales that the classical fairy tales particularly those of the Grimms present models of women who are passive dependent and often guilty because of their said Donald Haase chairman of Germanic and Slavic Studies at Wayne State County Historical Museum to a high tea White musical selections were played by harpist Lynne Elders guests had tea and looked at the exhibit of table centerpieces and silver porcelain and crystal services for the table Among those pausing for a spot of tea were Maty Sulim Eleanor Kinkaid Marjorie Arnold Roberta Dewey Betsy Osborn Mary Brammer Phyllis Palmer Maxine Casey Johnson Stacy Edmunds Marjorie Loo Taylor Jane Brown Inna Shelley Helen Btekemora Phyllis Buchanan Patricia Rhea Pamela Kbigsbiuy Janat Buckley Betty Brown Twila Watts Carolyn Frazier Kathy Slaymaker Betty Menehan Diana Healy Bonnie Schraoder Betty Lygrisse and Bettis Benedick This year's tea committee Included cocbairmen Lynne Tinker and Joanne Mcllwaine Betty inkier Cariene Banks Diana Haag Flo Crawford Comte Ash brook Paula Varner and Dot Shannon Happy 112nd Members of the Wichita alumnae chapter of Delta Gamma celebrated their 122nd Founder's Day recently at a luncheon at Larkspur With almost 90 alumnae and collegians present Nancy Oidfather alumnae president presided over the meeting and introduced the Alumnae Executive Board Margaret Ann Hughes was guest speaker and brought her daughter Kristy Kalmar who was visiting from her home in Dallas Amy Craven collegiate president Introduced the officers of the Gamma Upsilon chapter of Wichita State University Shannon Rooney introduced the House Corporation Board and Jana Moore introduced the advisory board members Kim ed Anastasia picked up a cell phone and bought the kingdom Cinderella and her dim prince married and spent the rest of their days as servants to her stepfamily The gngetter sisters lived happily ever after Disney it isn't deliberately In fact it is an anti-Disney version written by Richard Contra a resident playwright at Chicago Dramatists Workshop He found himself dismayed at The versions of Cinderella reward her for being By Balkan Brotman Chicago Tribune Once upon a time there was a pretty but vapid girl who lived with her stepmother and two stepsisters They were poor but they welcomed her into their family The girl however spent her days sitting among the hearth cinders feeling sorry for herself and descending into fits of pique during which she gave her clothes and toys.