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Tree sea livin B-4-Santa Cruz Sentinel Thursday, Sept. 15, 1983 ANN LANDERS So thankful she choose to live 111 i rtij'' On the agenda For the appointed Monday at 8 p.m Malta White Shrine will have a meeting devoted to the appointed officers, according to Edith Parlier of the organization. Focus on kids Two programs aimed at the nurturing of young children are listed on next week's YWCA calendar. On Monday, the Family Place at the 303 Walnut will be open from 7 to 9 p.m. Karen Erlich, midwife and childbirth educator, will talk on "Sexuality During the Childbearing Cycle." There will be time for discussion.

Also on Monday, a "Moveabout, Paint and Sing" multi-arts class for children 4 to 6 starts at 10 a.m. A class in creative movement for toddlers (2 to 3 years) and an adult partner starts Wednesday at 9 a.m. For kindergarteners, a dance group starts Sept. 21. Other details are available at 426-3062.

Constitutional concern Daughters of the American Revolution are concerned with the American Constitution this month. They'll honor their Constitution essay contest winner, Shayne Farmer, an eighth grader at Pajaro School in Watsonville, at a meeting Monday. A Constitution Week display is up this month at Branciforte Branch Library, thanks to the DAR, and members are encouraging people to fly their American flags Saturday through Sept. 23 in honor of Constitution Week. Charlotte Howard will speak to the DAR Monday about requirements for naturalization; the DAR provides manuals on citizenship to all who apply to become U.S.

citizens. wisdom. I would not be surprised if you saved some lives today. Dear Ann Landers: Please help me. You are the only one I can tell this to without being embarrassed.

My sister, who is 18, has been living with my husband and me for over a year. He likes her very much. Sometimes I think too much. I am sure that nothing out of the way has gone on between them yet, but I feel as if something might start up one of these days. Let me explain why I am uneasy.

My husband does not come to bed until she says "goodnight." When my sister goes out on a date, he waits up for her. Also, he begs her to accompany him, no matter where he is going, even if it is to go to the grocery store. She flirts with him like he was one of her boyfriends. Please tell me what to do, Ann. I don't want to look foolish, but I'm afraid if I don't get her out of our house she just might wreck my marriage.

Trying To Swim In Troubled Waters Dear T.T.S. Would you keep a fox in the chicken coop? Why then are you allowing an equally predatory creature to inhabit your home? Make no accusations. Quietly plan other arrangements for your sister at once. Tell her (and your husband) that she needs to be more independent and your marriage needs to blossom and grow in a way that is not possible when a third party is present. fied Enterprises, Inc.

DEAR ANN LANDERS: This is an open letter to anyone who is considering suicide. Please, I beg of you, read what I have to say. I have been where you are now. When I was 24 my desire to end my life and escape from the misery of it all was so overwhelming I might well have been included In the year's suicide statistics. As a consequence of choosing to live, I have experienced marriage, children, the joys and sorrows of raising a family, and now I am looking forward to the twilight years.

At 61 my gratitude for the gift of life is as wide, high and deep as space itself. Because I chose to live I am part of a wondrous world that has so many fabulous opportunities. I embrace every changing idea, every mood, every new experience as an exciting challenge. The good things that happen are ever more delicious because I know I nearly missed them. I keep reminding myself that I almost chose not to live and what a great mistake that would have been! To those of you who are considering suicide I say hang in there.

With God's help, your problems will work out. Tomorrow will be a happier day. Or maybe it will be the day after tomorrow. But surely it is there for you. Stick around and you will see that I am right.

Eastern Seaboard Reader Dear Reader (you are also a writer) Thanks for those words of Dan CoyroSentlnel Harry and Velma Huskey show souvenir from Poland. Memories, mainly, traveled from Poland with the Huskeys Who are you, Smart little tykes showing business sense at age 5 How to introduce yourself in 15 seconds will be explained and then practiced by all who attend the Women's Network breakfast meeting Sept. 21 at 306 Mission St. Cost of breakfast is $5 for members or $7 or non-members and can be paid at the door. Oriental dinner After an Oriental dinner Tuesday at 6:30 p.m., the Santa Cruz Business and Professional Women's Club will hear a presentation on finance by Lottie Arko, Cathy Clauer and Patricia Henderson.

"Bring your own chopsticks" and make reservations by Saturday, encourages president Jeanne Carey who can be reached at 426-4822. Soviets, they watched people continually lay fresh flowers in the form of a cross in the courtyard and keep candles burning day and night next to it. "All day people would be praying, singing or just standing silently by the cross," says Mrs. Huskey. A small cross made of hunks of coal, she adds, was placed there too, "seeming to symbolize the way in which politics and religion have become intertwined in Poland." They found the food good, if limited, and heard Polish acquaintences say they think the food shortages are due to US sanctions against their country, that they hurt the people more than the government.

A pound of boneless meat and a small piece of bone meat is alloted per person per week. Poultry is not obtainable because of the shortage of feed grain. Sugar, flour and cereals are rationed; chocolate is rationed and only children receive coupons for it. Ice cream, fruits and vegetables are ample in supply, as are fresh vegetables and fruit. Coffee was served at the hotel just on Sunday mornings; tea is the common beverage.

As guests, through, they were treated to a picnic, a horse riding show at the village Boguslawice, and a concert by a Silesian folk ensemble. -MARYBETH VARCADOS HARRY AND VELMA Huskey brought few things back to their High Street home from Poland at the end of August. There wasn't much to buy, so the Huskeys mainly have memories as souvenirs. A UCSC instructor in Computer and Information Science, Huskey attended the 1983 International Congress of Mathematicians in Warsaw which had been postponned a year because of the martial law and other restrictions in the strife-worn country. About 2,400 mathematicians from 70 countries attended meetings at the ornate Palace of Culture and Science, built by the Russians in 1952 to 55.

"We were particularly fortunate to be assigned a room in Europejski, on Krakowskie Przedmiescie Street, near the old town of Warsaw," reports Mrs. Huskey, showing of one of her few material treasures brought home a table scarf which cost about $17. Nothing is inexpensive, she adds. But then, little is available. "It did not seem repressive," continues the Santa Cruz resident since 1967.

"There were a lot of people in the streets and in the churches." And, the earnestness and humility of the people was striking. At St. Anne's Church, a focal point of the Polish peoples' protest against repression by the accomplishing tasks and irreverent and suspicious of authority figures. They have the ability to organize others and the desire for personal power." Lipper suggests that the parents of these children encourage them to continually try new experiences and accept new challenges, remembering that failure is not a disgrace and that there are many rewards of success. NEW YORK (AP) An increasing number of Americans are starting their own businesses, according to the Gifted Children Newsletter, which reports that entrepreneurial tendencies are evident in children as early as 5 years of age.

"These youngsters are goal-oriented and independent in nature," says Arthur Lipper, chairman of the publication written for the parents of gifted children. "They are often impatient with traditional means of What's in the trunk? Friends of the Octagon Santa Cruz County Museum will preview items at 7 p.m. Sept. 24, then have a Grandma's Trunk Dutch auction at 8 p.m., all to benefit the museum. Complimentary hors d'oeuvres and wine will be served; admission is $10.

The party will be held at the First Congregational Church, 900 High St. Tickets are available through Sept. 20 and can be reserved by phone at 425-2540. Prize-winning idea Jim MacKenzie will tell how an alumni membership solicitation was transformed into a national PR award-winner when he is guest speaker at noon Sept. 22 for the Public Relations Round-table.

His talk will follow luncheon at De Laveaga golf club lodge. MacKenzie is senior public relations coordinator at UCSC. Reservations are due Monday and can be made through John Moir at 458-1494. Your most reliable Fashion mainstay Two-button classics that go everywhere with skirts or pants. All that style, and glamorous too Looking for ideas minium WOOL WOOL BLEND Proposals for classes to be offered in winter and spring sessions are being accepted now by the Santa Cruz Parks and Recreation Dept.

Proposals are due Oct. 3 and can be submitted at Wagner Cottage recreation office in Harvey West Park, weekdays from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. or at the Parks and Rec offices, 346 Church weekdays from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Susan Wandruff, at 429-3663, has other details. ft I "7 1 -WnW II -1 uu Fully lined superbly styled in muted stripes, solid flannels and herringbone tweeds. Size 8 to 18. Peace Encampment Melinda Rector, Julie Raudebaugh and Janet Quinn, three women who stayed at the Seneca Falls Peace Encampment in New York over the summer, will discuss their experiences in a video-illustrated discussion Sunday at 2:30 p.m. at First Methodist Church of Santa Cruz.

Anna Vio of the Comiso Peace Camp in Italy will also be on hand. Child care is available. For more information call 426-1626. 1W REGULAR TO 52.98 Cabrillo Club The Santa Cruz Cabrillo Civic Club will meet Tuesday at the Star of the Sea Hall in Santa Cruz. For more information call 423-7791.

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