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I I I I I I I I I I I Cruz Sentinel Friday, September 14, 1973 Ann Landers Not According to Emily DEAR ANN LANDERS: You have printed letters from all sorts of far-out kooks some so nutty I was sure you made them up. But now I am faced with an honest-to-goodness Ann Landers problem and need your advice. Will you please be a good sport and help me? I was invited to a wedding and did not send in an acceptance because I wasn't sure I could attend. I telephoned, however, and told the bride-to-be that I would try to be there, if it was possible. Due to circumstances I won't go into here, I was not able to attend.

Three days later I received the following letter in the mail: Dear Since you did not attend my wedding after you had confirmed the invitation, I feel that you should contribute toward the food. The cost of each plate was $5 and we had to pay for your reservation even though you did not attend. I would not ask you to do this but we are over $300 in debt because people like you said they were coming and did not show up. Your contribution would help a lot. Very truly yours.

Signature of the bride. Well, Ann: Did you What should I Do? Still Stunned DEAR S.S.: No, never Now, forget it. DEAR ANN LANDERS: I dye my husband's hair and have been doing it for nearly 10 years. At first he objected but I convinced him it would be to his advantage to look younger. Finally he agreed.

Now he wouldn't have gray hair on a bet. Here are the advantages of dyeing, as he sees them: A man who looks elderly is considered over-the-hill, terribly square and out of Knee-Highs Are Book time and knee-highs go hand in hand, mix and match with skirts and dresses. New include checker boards, dots and dashes, tone on tone diamond argyles and stripes. Below, the 40's anklet is newer than ever to wear over fall's favorite colors in opaque tights. Menswear checks, horizontal stripes and even fuzzy-wuzzy cuffed solids are on the scene.

Watch for Article on MUSIC In The Santa Cruz Sentinel, Sunday, Sept. 16th Example from article: Our World is Good and Full of Promise When it has men to compose Music like Beethoven's, When a Scientific Method to verify is discovered by Galileo, When Man is elevated above his base Emotions by a Shakespeare, When the Goodness of Man is lived out in a Christ, When Wisdom becomes the field of inquiry as by Socrates, When Law and Order is established as by Moses. THE HOUSE OF THE 19 STARS Santa Cruz, Ca. Wife of Conductor is Feminine Not Feminist step with the times. When people think you are middle-aged instead of old, they treat you like a contemporary.

This i is bound to make a man more cheerful. It lifts his spirits and improves his ability to function sexually. I believe some women want to look younger than their husbands, which is why they dye their own hair but they don't offer to dye theirhusbands'. What do YOU think, Ann? A Fan In El Paso DEAR EL. PASO: I think if I ever suggested to my husband that he let me dye his hair he would send me in for a saliva test.

If YOUR husband likes: it, that's his business. To each his own. DEAR ANN LANDERS: My husband and I are very particular about our diet. We eat only fresh vegetables from our garden, a lot of fruit and yogurt, homemade whole-wheat and nut bread, no meat and very little starch. A problem arises when we want to invite our parents or neighbors for dinner.

We never know if we should serve them what we eat, or if we should buy meat, etc. I don't think people have a right to impose their life style on others. But cooking two different meals is a lot of trouble. What do you say? You Are What You Eat DEAR Y. It's not much trouble 1 to throw a steak or a piece of fish under the broiler for guests who don't care for yogurt.

Why not come right out and ask your guests what they would prefer? Copyright 1973 Field Enterprises, Inc. Speaker for In SLV GOP Women "Post-Watergate and the Republican Party" will be topic of a luncheon address by Margaret Stewart when S4n Lorenzo Valley Republican Women's meets at 12:30 p.m. Wednesday, at Scopazzi's in Boulder Creek. Miss Stewart, of Pacific Grove. is retiring vice president of the Northern Division of Republican Women.

Accompanying her will be Mrs. James Silliman, conference chairman of the Northern Division, who will report on several September conferences. Reports on Congressman Burt Talcott's student tour of Washington D. will be made by Debra Elsey and Paul Grizzell. Interested women are invited to attend the meeting and may make reservations by calling Mrs.

Roger MacMillan, 335-5053 or Mrs. Edward Sarafinski, 338-3122. Six of the club members atten-: ded the organization's state convention in San Francisco earlier in the month. and Mrs. Julias Gotthold.

club president, and. Mrs. Vi Russell plan to attend the national convention in Los Angeles September 26. Grange Day At Fair Santa Cruz County Pomona Grange will confer the fifth degree at 8 tonight at the Corralitos Grange Hall. Saturday will be Grange Day at the Santa Cruz County Fair.

Members are to bring cakes or sandwiches with a potluck to be served at noon at Madonna Grange Hall. Aptos Seascape Racquet Club Now open for Lunch Dinner -Closed MondaysCall: 688-1300 1505 Seascape Blvd. Aptos Ruth Barati wife of a symphony conductor says she is. like a bowl of rice on concert days but substantial." Mrs. Barati, wife of Santa Cruz County Symphony conductor George Barati, gave Symphony Guild members a report on "What it is Like to Be the Wife of a Symphony Conductor." "The symphony conductor often asks himself 'Who am Everybody?" she quipped.

Then she added seriously, "Indeed he IS everybody. And his wife must provide that kind of life climate for him." Sometimes people say to her, more or less tactfully, "But all he does is stand up there and wave a stick." However, as Mrs. Barati pointed out, the symphony conductor must be many people: a personnel man, a public relations man, an idea man, a tactful man, a speaker, a psychologist, a linguist, a family man, and in the case of George Barati, a composer as well as conductor. "He has a marvelous study with a piano in it, but he generally composes in the middle of the living room," she said. His home must also be his office, his studio and his retreat from the world, as well as the family home and nursery.

He also may be called upon at times to face problems that range from symphony musicians and their personal lives, to an ailing lawnmower. Always moving behind the scenes, always there if and when he needs her, always "bland but substantial, is Ruth Barati, wife and mother. Ruth also is a gourmet cook and a teacher of Yoga. "The home atmosphere is the most important," she said. "You learn to keep those special values for him without feeling like amartyr for it." Her greatest problem early in marriage was learning the value of time, she said.

musician works in time and with time. It was hard for me to learn to be on time." The symphony conductor lives with a tremendous daily and hourly discipline, Mrs. Barati informed the group. "His body is his instrument. He must never be tired for rehearsals, and he must be in top shape for a When the Baratis travel abroad for concert appearances they never get to tour the fascinating cities they visit; instead, there are rehearsals which are physically demanding, and then the concert which is even more demanding, and then a move on to the next city for the next appearance.

In between, there is rest in order to be in shape for the next event. She made it clear that Mr. Barati is not a demanding or temperamental person in any way. of demanding, I would say he is expectant," she. said.

"He expects certain standards and certain conditions. And if he ever loses his temper which can happen it is only for a good reason." A concert is like when you start it you can't stop and go back. The day before a concert is like a "suppressed tornado." And the day after is usually a letdown -perhaps more so if has been a super-super performance, she said. The only thing the musician has the next day to show what he did, is the review in the newspaper. "That's why an honest review is so important to him." The wife of the conductor must keep her own emotions "nonexistent" there's that bowl of rice again.

"Life with Mr. Barati is a continuing education," she told the women. Particularly exciting are the musicians and artists they meet and entertain in their home. She mentioned Leonard Bernstein, Jack Benny and Clare Booth Luce among others, and made it clear she was not "name Being a guest conductor is entirely different from being a resident conductor. "It's the difference between a love affair and a marriage." As a guest conductor you are Prince Charming; are none of the continuing problems of a regular Interesting mishaps take place when they travel, like the time they arrived but the music and instruments didn't.

Newlyweds At home in Mt. Hermon are Mr. and Mrs. Daniel Linn (Judith Anne Cofer). who were married in First Baptist Church of Scotts Valley.

The Rev. Richard Dosker Jr. performed the August 25 wedding. Mr. and Mrs.

George Cofer, 44 Parkway, Mt. Hermon, are parents of the bride. and Dan is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Lloyd Linn, 8075 Zayante Road, Felton.

For her wedding. Judy chose a Victorian gown of French silk organza. with A-line skirt, leg-o-mutton sleeves and chapel train. The gown was trimmed with Alencon lace and seed pearls. A crown of lace flowers and seed pearls secured her elbow length illusion veil.

Judy's bouquet contained phalaenopsis orchids and on an open white Bible. which was a gift of the bridegroom. Mrs. Dwight Cofer. sister-in-law of the bride, was matron of honor in a blue organdy gown with white flower flocking.

She carried a colonial bouquet of daisies. carnations and bachelor buttons. and wore the same flowers in her hair. The bridesmaids were Mary Bacon. who wore a yellow gown; Mrs.

Don Cofer. sister-in-law of the bride, in pink; and Llori Linn, sister of the bridegroom, in green. Jenni Cofer. niece of the bride, was flower girl in a white dress with blue flocking. Steve Hoff.

Dan's brother-in-law, was best man. Seating the 250 guests were Dwight Cofer, Don Cofer and John Speegle. Harry Olsen and Carol Payne sang a duet and Mrs. Marlyn Davies was organist. The bridegroom's mother decorated the church and the CHRISTMAS GET A HEAD SHOPPERS! START! TAKE ADVANTAGE OF OUR OPENING SALE OFF REG.

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George Barati, wife of the time out for a visit at the first fall luncheon of Hotel. Ruth Barati was the speaker. "It was a children's concert," she explained. "For a half hour my husband got up there and ad libbed and he did a job that was Danny Kaye par excellence! Eventually the instruments arrived but the music still was missing: So we raided the high school and borrowed music, and the concert went on anyway." As the wife of a busy conductor. one of the important tools of Mrs.

Barati's trade is the telephone. It is located in her kitchen, and one morning inside of three hours she took 48 telephone calls by actual count. Above all, she emphasized that Mr. Barati is loving and considerate with his family, in spite of the overwhelming demands on his time and person. And again she reminded the group that "More than other people, the creative artist keeps that childlike expectation that everyone will be as perfectionist as he is." MARGARET KOCH.

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Rona Gib-' bs made the wedding cake. Among guests were Judy's grandmother, Mrs. Clara Johnston; and Dan's grandparents: Mr. and Mrs. Harvey Kizer.

A graduate of Baymonte Christian High School, where she was student body secretary, Judy also sang with Happy Side Singers. Dan, a graduate of San Lorenzo Valley High School, attended Cabrillo College and is employed by Erickson Engineering in Scotts Valley. They Spent their honeymoon at Yosemite and Crater Lake. SAVE ON FILM DEVELOPING KODACOLOR FILM DEVELOPING PRINTING 12 exposure roll including Instamatic ONLY $357 COLOR PRINTS FROM KODACOLOR HORSNYDER'S PHARMACY Soguel Seabright MODEL DRUG STORE 3617. Portola Drive PALM PHARMACY 1730 Mission St.

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