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THE YORK DISPATCH THURSDAY DECEMBER 1 1988 45 workforce because! of need Mothers BO about the woman whope neighbor snuck into her bedroom and planted a pair of lace panties between the sheets as brought back so memories While I was in high school a decided to pla a joke on me and planted a gaj magazine in my locker The plgn was for me to find it while football team was in Swords-Smith BAIR Karen Swords and Dean Smith were married at Faith Evangelical Church at 2 pm on Oct 1 by the Rev Kenneth Miller Given in marriage by her father the bride is the daughter of Clarence Jr and Thelma Swords 4751 Carlisle Road Dover The bridegroom is the Sanford Smith Spring Grove RD 5 and the late Dona Smith Susan Therit was honor a for her sister Christine Smith niece bridegroom and Delores cousin of the bride were her other attendants I Jennifer Elicker and Melissa Butcher were guest book attendants Kit Myers was best man Samuel Smith brother bridegroom and Arthur Tharp were ushers Flo Duttera was organist A reception was held in Goodwill Fire Hall in Jacobus i After a hp to Lannas- that I hope is recognized by all practical jokers out there Sign me The Last Laugh In Alameda Calif A Call me a sourpuss but I think practical jokes are for the birds Most of them have a seed of petty meanness and some are downright cruel In my opinion something is fundamentally wrong with people who enjoy embarrassing or humiliating others and then expect the victim to be aa good and laugh it off Dear Readers: The pig lovers of America have united to let pe know that the beloved porker has more sensible eating habits than dogs horses or humans They yill NOT overeat dangerously (mea nor do they like They do not bolt down their food but chew it savor it and shove it about) with the snout to release and enjoy the aroma If humans ate like pigs the authorities say they would be a great deal healthier Los Angeles Times Queries may be forwarded to this As chairman of the Senate Subcommittee on Children Families Drugs and Alcoholism I want to add to your excellent response to the letter in a recent column claiming that mother works to buy a BMW and a country club membership Women work for the same reason men work To support their families and pay the bills Far from destroying the traditional family wages keep millions of children from sinking below the poverty line Two-thirds of the women in the work force today are either the sole support for their children or have husbands who earn less than $15000 a year In 1988 fewer than one in four single mothers received the full amount of child support due on time And while women in the work force have been a boon to business most businesses have not responded by providing on-site child care or granting parental leave Ann please keep felling your vast readership that American room I did It was only seconds before the taunting and kiss-blowing began I tried to explain but there were whoops of laughter and my declaration of innocence was drowned out by the jeers After a few minutes I became so enraged that I threw the magazine across the room As it sailed through the air a piece of paper fluttered out It was a mail-order receipt with my name and address on it What could have been an ugly episode turned into one of the best' examples of a joke that backfired Everyone laughed at the unexpected turn of events a moral to this story Mothers and daughters work out relationships column through The York 15-17 Philadelphia St 17401 Dispatch York PA THE ASSOCIATED PRESS ANN LANDERS women turned their backs on their children by entering the work force They have gone to work to keep their families together Sincerely Christopher Dodd United States Senator (Conn) A I appreciate the back-up Most mothers tell me they would love to stay at home and be fulltime mothers but it just financially possible Thank you for stating the case so well When I read the letter ratings of intimacy than their children she said find that what was happening when you were growing up has a big impact on your current feelings and children remember while parents She also found that daughters evoke more parental obligation than sons In early childhood mothers are closer to their children whether sons or daughters than fathers are When children grow up however the gender of the child grows more important and both parents report more closeness to their daughters The era in which we live raises the stakes according to Margaret Huyck an associate professor of psychology at the Illinois Institute of Technology in Chicago have increasingly multiple generations of women alive at the same time relating to each other and taking care of each other and their family Huyck said some families the men kind of come and go but the women maintain a very strong difficult to dissect these relationships because there is no standard for being a successful parent Nor is there a term describing the relationship that evolves between a parent and an adult child Parents that Huyck interviewed said they no longer felt they or bore the responsibilities of making sure their children made the right decisions Yet the young adults said they comfortable with being completely on their own or children are looking for validation 'at this Huyck said want their parents especially their mothers to say on your own and going to make Parents also want validation she added A daughter lunching with her mother not out of obligation but because she enjoys her company is tremendously affirming mother wants to know that nice to be with that an interesting person and that she did a good Huyck said always dealing with lives in tandem that are also always Melanie Markel Jeffrey Miller Melanie Marke Melanie Markel and Jeffrey Miller are engaged to be married March 11 1989 The prospective bride is the daughter of Byrd Markel Jr 708 Pershing Ave York and Margaret Davis 120 Maple St Wrights-ville She is a 1977 graduate of William Penn Senior High School and York College She is ja registered nurse at Memorial' Hospital Her fiance is the son-of Dean and Sandra Miller Seven) Valleys RD 2 He is a graduate of Dover Area High School in 1978 aad he is employed by Cumberland Electronics Karen Smith ter County the 'couple resides in Glen Rock The bride is a graduate of Dover Area High School She is employed by Pfaltzgraff in Thomasville Her husband attended Susquehan-nock High School He is employed by Stewart Connecters System in Glen Rock Angela Paules Duane A Swartz Angela Paules Angela Paules and Duane A Swartz are engaged to be married on April 15 1989 The prospective bride is the daughter of Barbara and Donald Paules 387 Frederick Drive Dallas-town She is a 1984 graduate of Dallastown Area High School and a 1988 graduate of Lock Haven University She attended the School of Medical Technology of York Hospital She is a technician at York Hospital Blood Bank Her fiance is the son of Mary and Henry Swartz 321 Spring Ave Hanover He is a 1981 graduate of Hanover High School He is employed by Doubleday Inc Hanover He is a part-time student at York College BRIDGE Winners at the Calumet Bridge Club on Nov 17 were: Curvin Myers Bob Coates BilP Hershey and Joe Schoonover Pressure monitoring THE ASSOCIATED PRESS ORADELL NJ Some hypertensive individuals being treated with diet and drugs and those with borderline hypertension are good candidates for monitoring their blood pressure at home says Diagnosis magazine Highly anxious patients however are better monitored in the office But in choosing to do the readings at home first seek advice on proper use of the instrument from the doctor He should discourage patients from overreacting to a single high measurement for instance and from taking too frequent readings For most people measuring once or twice a month is enough Moon Cruise Henry Trice and his bride Carol of Marysville Pa cross an airlock at the Tour of the Universe spaceship simulation ride at! the CN Tower in Toronto The couple came to Toronto because hfenry wanted to take his new bride "to the moon" M1NN-ST PAUL STAR TRIBUNE When Gail Mraz became fascinated with women of the 1800s she wanted her daughter Gina to share her enthusiasm even to the point of reinventing her never directly said want you to be a daughter of that Gina recalled there was that uncanny feeling of something being said but not spoken and I realized that was what she wanted from me And it was so scary at times I thought just die if I be that Gail now understands the cycle they had was trying to be like me thinking that would please me and I was trying to appease her on every One of the most difficult challenges for a mother and daughter is setting friendly limits on the role one plays in the life said Sondra Smalley a psychologist like patting your head andrubbing your tummy at the same time: How do you keep a clear sense of self while still a myth in our society of unconditional love that says a person can come in as often and as close as they Smalley said But boundaries are crucial because they can affect generations of behavior A daughter whose mother invaded her life may say that her own children will be given their independence then go overboard and actually evade them Her children in turn vow that always be there for their children and end up invading their lives A boundary is a limitation that still allows communication like greeting neighbors sitting on their porch If they want to continue the conversation they invite you up if not you continue down the sidewalk yet having made a connection One hurdle to communication lies in how differently parents and children perceive their relationship said Alice Rossi with the Social and Demographic Research Institute at the University of Massachusetts at Amherst you ask adults to rate the degree of intimacy in a relationship parents will tend to give higher royalty sells ritish THE NEW YORK TIMES Two British monthly magazines that do nothing but follow the royal family are finding the United States market even more fertile than their home Majesty and Royalty Monthly each sell more than jo000 copies per issue in the United States according to Disticor which distributes both publications That is significantly more than the number sold in Britain If there are still anV doubts that Americans are encha ated by the royal family they might be dispelled by the fact that People magazine published a special issue on Diana the princess of Wales earlier this year that sold more than 900000 copies at a newsstand price of $395 more than double the usual newsstand rate of $169 And the four People cover stories that have run this year on members of the royal family have increased newsstand sales 10 to 15 percent said Lindsay -Valk Peopled circulation director Majesty magazine which is published by Hanover Magazines Ltd first appeared in May 198p Its first editor was Bob Houston a Scottish journalist But after working on 10 issues Hojaston left over what he called and created) Royalty Monthly of which he is editor and publisher The first issue of Royalty is published by Bacall Ltd appeared in June 1981 Both publications feature color photographs of members of the royal family and articles aoout their trips and life styles as well as about royal figures of the past Both magazines carry virtually no advertising In Britain both magazines sell about 30000 copies executives at the two publications said (agreeing that the British are probably oversaturated with the daily coverage Sf Kathleen Hamme Kathleen Hamme Kerwin and Doris Hamme 105 Second St Mt Wolf announce the engagement of their daughter Kathleen Hamme to Donald Matunis son of Ralph and Kay Ma-tunis 170 Haines Road York The prospective bride is1 a graduate of Northeastern Senior High School and is employed by Acorn Press Lancaster Her fiance graduated frpm York Suburban Senior High School and is employed by Strine Printing York Wedding date is October 1989 Ladies now the Rockport you want is just a stones throw away because Foot Fitting Pros have reduced the price of a huge selection of selected styles of favorite walking shoe So run to Irvings today the sale ends December 4th How do we measure the stature sf man Where does the process begin Do we start with the amount -of wealth he has gained Then temper it by the color of his skin? What are the attributes possess What qualities are to Must he traverse the seas of this world Then' show evidence of has been? None of these seem to be part of the test That can really evaluate man All of them speak of worth And a goal to obtain all that one can The answers are found in the Where stature is simply defined justly love mercy mmbly with These measure the ivorth of mankind Statue dedicated The Statue of Liberty the United States by the Prance was dedicated Oct 28 1886 by President Grover Cleveland on (Liberty) Island York Harbor West Manchester Mall York Harrisburg East Mall Colonial Park Mall Chambersburg Mall Susquehanna Valley Mall Lebanon Plaza Mall.