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Ann Landers Tots CAN Learn Shopping Manners beautiful arrangement with someone. If it was the latter, I envy If it was the former, I feel sorry for her. Shopworn in Nebraska Monday, August 21, 1972 1 Santa Giu Srntlnrl girl home in September and is sure we will get along fine (no mention of marriage). I cannot agree to this arrangement and have told my husband so. He says the world is changing and I should get with it.

True, I know our son and this girl were sleeping together in California, but somehow I can't bring myself to permit it in our house. What do you say, Ann? Greenwich Mother DEAR NEB: Apparently "Fort Lauderdale's" letter struck many a raw nerve around the country. The mail was heavy and 100 to 1 with you. Here's another: Who's In The News A Picnic For The Irish for my own sanity. Do you think the merchants would prefer that mothers with small children stay out of their stores? If not, here are some suggestions for them: Don't put tempting objects within the reach of young children.

(2) Set up a child-sized card table with inexpensive coloring books and simple but sturdy toys. This would give the youngsters something to do besides terrorize Mom and the clerks. (3) Larger stores might consider a playroom with sitters who would be paid by the store or "tipped" by the mothers. I'd be happy to give someone 50 cents to take my child off my hands for half an hour or 45 minutes. Ill bet "Fort Lauderdale" never had children to take shopping or she had a DEAR ANN LANDERS: "Fort Lauderdale's" remarks hit a sensitive spot.

I am a mother who takes her two pre school children shopping because I have no choice. Millions of other mothers are in the same spot. To suggest that this is a great way to "kill time" is ridiculous. I can think of 200 other things I'd rather do. Few mothers can afford a daytime sitter every time there is shopping to do.

Dad isn't the answer either. He seldom gets home before the stores close. Most Saturdays he works. When he is free, he is entitled to a day of recreation. I resent being called a "slob" because I must take my children with me.

I am trying to teach them shopping manners, not so much for the sake of the storekeepers, but DEAR ANN LANDERS: Our son will be coming home in a few weeks. He went four years to Stanford and after graduation took a job in Palo Alto for the summer. We paid his tuition for four years, but he lived up to his responsibilities by making good grades and staying out of trouble. During his senior year he shared an apartment with a girl. We let him know we did not approve, but we didn't forbid it.

We reasoned that a 21-year-old boy has the right to live as he pleases away from home. Yesterday we received a letter requesting that we take the twin beds out of his room and replace them with the one large bed which he is willing to pay for. He is bringing his DEAR ANN: I live in Fort Lauderdale, too. If that lady wants to sit with my kids while I go shopping I'd be glad to drop them off at her house. What's her address? Beth DEAR MOTHER: I'm with you.

To provide a single bed for the comfort and convenience of your son and his girl friend is tacit approval, if not encouragement of their premarital sexual activity. Stick to your principles and tell him nothing doing, (c) 1972 Field Enterprises, Inc. DEAR BETH: Sorry, no can do, but thanks for writing. I yflT How To Be Over 60 And Enjoy It fed ih -v. aj.v "Recycle yourself" is Lavinia Russ' advice for picking up live after the family leaves off.

By HELEN HENNESSY NEA Women's Editor NEW YORK Lavinia Russ is 67 and enjoying it. She doesn't in the least feel that the fun has gone from life. "The hardest part of getting old," she said, "is admitting it to yourself. When a woman passes 40 she somehow thinks she locks 40 from then on." It's when an unconscious remark is made referring to your seniority or mandatory retirement forces you to realize that you're over 60 that ego must bow to truth, according to Lavinia. "And your first fearful, but honest, look in the mirror at that point drives the fact home that you have been kidding yourself about your looks for quite a few years." Yet once you accept age, says this lady who has done just that, the advantages are many.

Mrs. Russ, author of children's and adult books, former children's book editor for Publishers' Weekly, television commentator, housewife, mother and grandmother, believes so firmly that one can have a happy, busy old age that she has written a book on how she is doing it. HIGH OLD TIME or How to those of my vintage who had had many. But I made so many awful mistakes. And the only excuse I can offer for this ego trip is that I hope my experiences will make other older women aware that the enjoyment isn't over." She discussed the subject of work.

"You must be flexible. Even if you can't any longer do the kind of work you did, explore some other kinds. Now is the time to enjoy what you do. If you have always loved flowers, get a part time job where you'll be around them. "One advantage of old age in employment is that your boss knows for sure that 'old Mrs.

Russ' is going to be there from nine to four if those are her hours. She wouldn't dare not be." She said she "started" this book when she was 10 years old and first saw her grandmother's flabby underarms. She decided then that when she was old she'd cover up hers. "I've been an 1 -1 a watcher taking notes on the subject ever since," she said. "And when I found myself retired with just my severance pay and $37.50 in my savings account, I decided it was time to write the book that would, hopefully, help others in my position and help me, too." Lavinia deals with how not to be lonely, how not to be a bore, how to dress to look your best, how to deal with children and grandchildren, how to find new kinds of jobs and she offers fascinating, sometimes downright basic tips for travel.

She suggests that you capitalize on your years when it comes to your luggage look frail and your young seat companion will help with it. On the practical side take an extra pair of reading glasses and your own brand of laxative. "It's pretty hard," she said with a hearty laugh, "to pantonine the word 'laxative' to a non-English speaking drug clerk unless you want to be mistaken for a very low comedian." Then she switched her conversation from old age to children, and spoke of children's books a field in which she is an authority. "Society today demands that books be relevant," she said. "And I just don't think that is how a good book gets written for any age group.

It Enjoy Being a Woman Over 60 gives witty, candid, no-nonsense advice to an audience long neglected in our youth-oriented world. "It's hard when you are eased out of your Lavinia admitted. "It's even worse when you've been a homemaker and not worked for years and suddenly your family is grown and gone. It's so tempting to use the time on your hands to be sorry for yourself. But you must recycle yourself learn new skills and the mechanics of how to go about looking for a job in another part of the forest.

Because if you like to communicate with people the thought of having no reason but a social one to do that leaves a void in your day. Whether housewife or career woman, social communication is simply the velvet after a day's work. "The thing I like most in life is laughing," Mrs. Russ added. And it's vary hard to laugh by yourself without the neighbors sending for the man in white.

"I would never have written the book," she said, "if I had no problems with age. It would have been frustrating to Her chief gripe is with the woman who decides to deal with old age by becoming a character. "It's O.K. if you always were one," she conceded, "but a professional anything is pathetic." She also feels women spend too much time glamorizing Mother's Day. Have Children's Day instead take your son and his wife out to lunch.

"It will work two ways," she added. "When you visit them, they'll pamper you. Let them." breeds hack writers and hack books. "A child's book should encourage imagination and give him a sense of heroes and heroines. To diminish doubt or fear is just an important to a child's growth as knowing how bridges are built.

If he wants to know that he'll find the book himself that will tell him." Lavinia loves young people. "If you're a good listener," she said, "you can have young friends no matter what your age." A New Space Age Bed years. The closest panacea for sleeping ills may have been the waterbed, but he thinks that has failed. People have turned from it because it is immobile and dangerous with its electric controls and excess water pressure. His new creation is here to stay, he says, because it offers so many advantages over conventional mattresses and box springs systems.

They include: no hammocking, added support and comfort, shape that contours to body, ease of maintenance and handling, wrinkle-free fabric and nonallergenic, odor repellent and germ-free qualities. Suffering from insomnia himself, Frey fought for at least one good night of sleep. He tried retiring late and reading to himself, but noticed that nothing worked consistently. In desperation, he tried a night on a down-and-spring-filled couch, thinking the luxurious might lull him to sleep. It did.

Then, when he solved, the problem of how to build that same softness into a bed with vital support, he had produced an idea novel enough to waken the whole bedding business. His Space Age bed, more like a giant chess board than Irish "jiggers" Pam Zoccoli and Carol Silva will be hopping and skipping merrily August 27 at Oblates of St. Joseph, during the Santa Cruz Irish Club's annual picnic, noon to 7 p.m. The girls are sophomores at Marello High. Irish jigs, Irish ballads to put a tear in your eye and barbecue fires as hot as well, as hot as the hot places, will be served up in Erin style when Santa Cruz Irish Club holds its annual Feis Ceoil (picnic) August 27.

The picnic will be staged in the courtyard of Oblates of St. Joseph, West Cliff Drive, and it's a bring-your-own meat barbecue with the fires provided. Beer, soft drinks and cake will be available. Hours noon to 7 p.m. Admission is $2 for adults, $1 for 12-18 age group and under 12, free.

Picnic chairmen are Bill Fieberling and Harry O'Brien. A special program will feature Pat Gigney's Irish Band playing jigs, waltzes, fox trots and other Irish and American tunes; Irish dances performed by Mave Devlin's Irish dance group; Irish bagpipe music; Irish songs by club members and games for the children. All Irishmen and non-Irishmen are invited. Officers of the Santa Cruz Irish Club include: D. Ray Ferrigan.

president; Mary Atchison, vice president; Barbara Cross, secretary, and Bessie Murray, treasurer. For more information call Fieberling at 426-6184. Presiding officers from surrounding shrines will be honored when Malta Shrine meets at 8 p.m. Monday at Masonic Temple. The local shrine entertained members of Palm Shrine, Sacramento, at a recent dinner and meeitng.

Presiding were Palm officers, Worthy High Pirestess Christine Kale and Watchman cf Shepherds Earl Hawley. Supreme appointments from Santa Cruz, Salinas and San Jose were introduced. Greeting the guests in the dining room were local presiding officers, Mrs. Gus Wahlberg and Jep Smith. Mrs.

Allen Stobaugh (the former Mary Langdonl was the honored guest at a baby shower at the home of her mother, Mrs. John Langdon, with Mrs. Walter Youngman of Oakland as the hostess. A champagne luncheon was served to guests who included Mesdames Joseph Wilson, Henry Washburn, Leon Zuckswert, P. L.

Shobe, William Monty, Ted Fcllion, John Gabenski, R. L. Pinkard, Edward Anderson, Thomas Martindale, Henry Wiedersheim and Alfred Fraga. Mrs. Wiedersheim and Mrs.

Fraga are aunts of the guest of honor and Mrs. Fraga is also her godmother. a mattress, is a series of foam cubes. Pretensioned springs have been inserted under pressure into a pocket of each cube. The cubes are covered by a stain-resistant, odor repellant, nonallergenic nylon tricot permanently bonded to be wrinkle-free.

The fabric has a soft, velvety texture. The bed will be built In single, full and queen and king sizes, all of which carry a 15-year guarantee. However, the company proclaims that the mattress and box spring could conceivably last a lifetime as there's simply nothing to wear By NANCY JOHNSON Copley News Service Can't sleep? Rest easy, insomniacs. Sleep is soon to come. There's a new way for you to stop the midnight raids on the refrigerator and start getting some z's if it was the mattress that was keeping you from those 40 winks.

The first bed with independent support for side-by-side sleepers, recently introduced in Los Angeles, has made it into sleep-shop markets. Called the Xerest bed, the new bed is different in construction and total concept and is probably the first big-time development in box springs and mattresses in 50 years. It is the first design and comfort innovation in the bedding business since the invention of the innerspring mattress, according to Jack Alman of the C. B. Van Vorst which will produce the bed.

Designer Elliott Frey said manufacturers have been trying to provide something really new in sleep for many Newest thing in bedding, an insomniac's delight, is a mattress made of foam cubes. On Club Calendar Federated Woman's Club meets Thursday noon for a pctluck luncheon at Elks Park in Boulder Creek. Soquel Grangers will have a Hobo party Wednesday at 8 p.m. at their hall with everyone to wear costumes. Art at Library VERY GIFTABLE ITEMS: San Lorenzo Valley GATEWAY TO HEALTH AND HAPPINESS FOR EVERY GIRL.

The Branciforte Library is located at 230 Gault Street. Library hours are 9 a.m. to 9 p. m. Mondays through Fridays and 9 a.m.

to 5 p.m. Saturdays. SUPERSPORTS LOOK The late-summer look has plaids, checks, herringbones all mixed with the lightest of pastels for a new supersports look. PLACE MATS NAPKINS POT HOLDERS KITCHEN TOWELS (printed, linen) BUN BASKETS with and without liners FASHION SHOW tt AND CHEERLEADER VSf COMPETITION I I Aug. 22 8:00 p.m.

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Lemon, a native of San Francisco, studied at the California School of Fine Arts there. After moving to Felton is 1966, she studied locally with Jon Blanchette, Fred Colbus, and Margaret Newsome. The current show includes landscapes and florals. Mrs. Lemon had a show during July at the County Bank in Felton, and her paintings can also be seen at the Encounter Gallery and at the Ferncliff Gallery, both in Boulder Creek.

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