Kenosha News from Kenosha, Wisconsin • 9

'il'W' MW4t rt 7 71 IT' Kenosha Newt' Friday Aug 10 1979 Divorce rate changes marriage i the article may help the person who Is unwilling to face the separation deal with it while building his or her emotional strength Counselors will sometimes offer advice on personality changes and there are also some who play a part in workipg out the money and visitation terms of the divorce agreement The methods of working with troubled couples point out the Hunts vary from counselor to counselor Some prefer to work In groups while others like to deal with patients Individually Couples using a marriage counselor may also find that If there is a divorce one partner may stay with the same counselor while the other mate is apt to look elsewhere for assistance Hie choice of who stays may be made by the couple or the counselor Dr Ray Fowler executive dlrec-Ator of the American Association otr Marriage and Family was interviewed for the article estimates that "IS to 20 percent of that organization's 5000 members now call themselves rIage and divorce their time on divorce counseling A few do nothing Does divorce counseling work? According to the Hunt's the results of a national survey they conducted for their book show that two-thirds of the men and three-quarters of the women interviewed who had had divorce counseling felt It was an aid and a majority rated It United Wm International photo on of tha 45 rafugaaa from arrlvad In thalr naw homaland of trlaa on a warm hat and a pair of adoption cantar In Halalnkl Tha will coma In handy for tha cold Refugee readies for Finnish winter We prepare for the next O' Creek and Our Zion Immanuel Waukegan Faith Antioch While Jthe majority of the students will come from those congregations Pastor Greve said have always had a smattering of non-Wisconsin Synod Lutherans and of other These students must participate with the others in religious instruction operate a school for religious study and other subjects are taught from that viewpoint" he said "There is no separation of course materials within the system 'THEIR PHILOSOPHY is to teach the educational basics never left the basics We teach all that Is really necessary without the frills" said Greve you've mastered these you can go on to anything" He listed the four years of religion and of English one year each of mathematics science social studies and physical education Music is offered but not art hofhe economics but not shop courses The school beginnings of a but no swimming pool Greve and the federation are not concerned about accreditation "Our students compete with others on the same he said none was ever turned down (by a college or university) We take credits from any high school in tha state and they take Students may take a general or a college preparatory course determined by their electives Anyone 1T 1 i Llttl Lam Bol Viatnam who Finland thla week mittans at tha warm clothing wlntar ahaad them taking the proper courses can enter Dr Martin Luther College New Ulm Minn' which prepares elementary teachers Two years each of Latin and German are required for those Interested in attending Northwestern College Watertown to prepare for the ministry WHY DO PARENTS send their children to this type of high school instead of to their neighborhood "Public education doe the job public education is supposed to said Greve "They prepare people for this life We prepare them for the life to come" The teachers trusted with this responsibility must be Lutherans of the Wisconsin Synod although they may get their higher education in a public college A degree plus extra credits In the teaching area is required For certification they jnust complete 18 credits in religion at Dr Martin Luther College or by correspondence One of the current teachers has taught at Frledens others come from synod schools elsewhere One of those teachers will be installed during the 3 pm dedication service Sunday Aug 19 Inside the building The speaker at the service will be the Rev Robert Voss Milwaukee executive secretary of the synod commission on higher education A mass choir composed of about 200 persons representing each of the federation churches will sing The public is Invited to attend the ceremony which will include the laying of the cornerstone Identifying Shoreland With at least one-third of all marriages in America now ending in divorce marriage counselors are finding themselves in a new business divorce counseling So says an article on this new pheonmena and how estanged couples are benefitting from it by Bernice and Morton Hunt in the Aug 28 Family Circle According to the Hunts authors of the recently published The Divorce Experience may ease the painful period of emotional and social upheaval most people experience after a divorce and speed up the healing process which can usually take two to three years Divorce counseling say psychologist Terry Levy and professor Wendy Joffe of Biscayne College Miami in the article is usually considered a three-stage process First the client Is taught how to handle the separation the letting go and tha ng to live alL3 ISexts the building of a hew identity and growth'as an individual And finally the' point at which a person learns to care FOR MANY COUNSELORS this type of divorce therapy evolved says Dr Ray Fowler executive director of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy in the magazine when marriage counselors "began to think in terms of saving people If that meant salvaging a marriage and making it into a good Robert Huntoon Dave Holsen one fine and If it meant helping people get out of a hopeless marriage and make a good recovery that was fine Today continues the article many marriage counselors are beginning to sort out those cleints who really want to save their marrige from those who need help taking the steps toward divorce As psychiatrist Harold Lief director of the Marriage Council of Philadelphia told the Hundts "Many people coming to us for counseling say they want to save their marriage Actually what they want is the validation of their secret feeling that the marriage is These people continues the doctor want to be able to say "I tried so blame They also want the reassurance that a counselor -concurs with their feelings Patients who subconsciously feel carriage is hopeleft pohits out Trowier often do not want the blame for the ultimate separation Therefore while believing theyvare working on theJ- ti)ey are in fact creating a situation where their partner Is made to feel guilty when the marriage finally work In these cases says the doctor a counselor brings out the truth the decision to divorce is made with a fair allocation of responsibility hence a better chance rf recovery for the reluctant partner'1 DIVORCE COUNSELORS notes test door By ELAINE EDWARDS Page Editor When -the principal of Shoretand Lutheran High School accepted his position in Kenosha in 1971 he did not ask whether the Institution had a building or land or a bank account running on faith" said the Rev Edgar Greve "Faith keeps us Around him as he spoke in his office at the new school building one afternoon this week was evidence of that faith Finishing work on the interior is being done by volunteers from the congregations supporting Bkrr! Tl-These members of the Wisconsin Synod Lutheran Churches in the area are trying to complete the work by the dedication date Sunday Aug 19 THE SCHOOL built on 17 acres of land located In Somers Township at Highways and covering 44000 square feet and Including 15 classrooms and a gymnasium has cost $1300000 even though it does not contain some of the frills often associated with high schools today It would have cost another $100000 without the finishing work by the volunteers they estimate While no records are kept on who does how much volunteer work Pastor Greve said building committee members and "a handful of others" are known to have been most faithful In their evening and weekend labor The building committee Includes one representative from each of the 13 affiliated congregations Wisconsin Synod Churches In Kenosha and Racine counties and in Illinois There is also a 100-member 1 guild organized to serve the school which works afternoons Some of the students expected to arrive for the opening of the school Monday Aug 20 (the day following the dedication) also will be proving exceptional zeal Many will drive from Racine Burlington Caledonia and Oak Creek as well as from Zion Waukegan Antioch and Llbertyville 111 Three from Chicago plan to board in local homes Pastor Greve estimated that the approximately 200 students might Include 70 from Kenosha County and the remainder from other places Exact figures will not be available until registration is complete SHORELAND'S opening in its own building is the most exciting chapter in a quiet but purposeful history Conceived by a layman a minister and a teacher coordinating committee who began a study of the possibility of such a school In the summer of 1968 the school opened In September 1971 Twenty-three freshmen and sophomores attended the first classes In two rooms at Frledens Lutheran School The next year Shoreland moved to the education wing at Mount Zion Lutheran Church By 1974 the student body had outgrown Mount Zion and returned to the larger Frledens Last year 174 students were enrolled at the four-year high school Greve and 11 teachers compose the staff The following churches make up the Federation of Shoreland Lutheran High School: Abiding Word Bethany Frledens St and Mount Zion all of Kenosha: St Burlington Epiphany and First Lutheran Racine Trinity Caledonia St 'John's Oak Sharon and Frank Proeber In boiler roocn.