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Hazleton Standard-Speaker, Saturday, January 4, 1992 31 On the calendar Grief workshop at Hospice St. John Hospice St. John, a division of Lutheran Welfare Service of Northeastern Pennsylvania, will offer a six-week grief workshop for Hazleton area residents beginning Jan. 16. The workshop is open to the public, free of charge, and will be limited to 30 participants.

Early registration is advised. Designed to assist people through the process of grieving after the loss of a loved one, the workshop consists of lectures, small group sharing, and a structured plan of action for working through the pain caused by loss. The grief workshop comprises a series of two-hour meetings, one afternoon a week for six weeks. Meetings will begin Jan. 16 and will continue on Jan.

23 and 30, Feb. 6, 13, and 20 from 2 to 4 pjn. in the Steigerwalt Center, 901 Stacie Drive, Hazleton, (across from St, Luke Manor). These sessions, which are presented by the Rev. Mary E.

Laufer, chaplain and bereavement care coordinator at the hospice, are offered three times a year, at different times of the day. Morning and evening sessions will be held later in the year. To register, call the hospice's Hazleton office at 459-6778. Hospice St, John has offered a specialized system of home care for terminally ill patients and their families since 1979. The organization opened its Hazleton office in June 1990.

1 pxjh. 1 i 4 I) LADIES AUXILIARY of Drake-Wear VFW Post 589 will meet Wednesday at 7:30 p.m. at the post home, 95 N. Wyoming Hazleton, with Mary Williams presiding. A MEETING of the Hazle Township Senior Citizens will take place on Monday at 1 p.m.

at the center, 23rd and Peace streets. The group enjoyed a New, Year's Eve party at the where, after dinner games were played and prizes awarded. Chairperson for the holiday event, Fran Cussat, was assisted by Jean Blass, Rita Montone and Eleanor Somits. OASIS of Bloomsburg has announced that Sunday dances for singles are planned for Jan. 12, Feb.

9, March 15, April 12, May 17 and June 14. These dances sponsored by OASIS Adult Singles Organization will be held at Willow Run Inn, Berwick, from 7 to 11 p.m. Free refreshments are provided. No jeans or denim outfits are permitted on women or men. The group is open to single adults over 25 years of age.

For more information about the organization and its activities call 1-784-2196. MADONNA SENIORS of Our Lady of Grace Church will conduct a housewares party on Monday at 7 p.m. in Madonna Hall. CULINARY WALK ACROSS AMERICA Doug Davis, right, vice president and master wine maker of Sebastiani Vineyards, conducted a program for industry professionals and civic leaders from a four-state area at Mountain Laurel Resort and Convention Center, White Haven. Shown with Davis are Greg A.

Jones, left, the resort's food and beverage director, and Philip Pinkney, Mountain Laurel's executive chef, who guided the guests on a culinary walk across America featuring New England seafood mosaic, Wisconsin baked brie on painted raspberry puree, marjoram smoked Bob White quaile stuffed with classic salami and venison complimented with Cherryblock cabernet sauvignon, California field greens with champagne-blueberry dressing, and a domestic cheese symphony with six grape Porto. Rape prevention is men's work i JlA trial can be "revictimization" for the woman, making her feel she is on trial. But for other women "who are seeking justice, the trial can be a very therapeutic experience, especially if the outcome is one that validates her action," she said. Butler has some danger signs for women to watch for in men: controlling behavior on dates; a condescending attitude toward women; if he uses violence to solve problems; heavy drinking; use of pornography. "Trust your instincts, if the situation feels bad, get out of it," she said.

"And be aware of how alcohol can impair judgment." dents at Bucknell includes a mandatory session on dating relationships. The session includes a date rape scenario. Five years ago, Butler said, few students would describe what occurred as rape. "Now almost the whole audience (men and women) is willing to see it as rape." However, when the students are asked what should happen to the man "most are reluctant to send him to jail. It would ruin his future.

"You have to keep in mind the future of the woman has also been damaged," Buder said. Butler said bringing the sexual assault charges and enduring the Birthdays Tommy DeMarco, 879 Grant Procrastination Do you avoid paying bills, writing that term paper, outlining a business proposal or asking someone for a date? Welcome to the procrastinator's club. In "The Feeling Good Handbook," excerpted in the January 1992 Reader's Digest, Dr. David D.Burns, professor of psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine, gives five tips to get you moving again. 1.

Expect difficulties. Frequent procrastinators assume that successful people never experience frustration, self-doubt and failure. Not true, Burns says. Highly productive people know that life is frustrating. They assume they'll encounter obstacles.

But they persevere until they overcome them. 2. Do a cost-benefit analysis. When you're ducking an important task, weigh the advantages of procrastinating against the disadvantages. You may learn there are good reasons why you avoid doing something.

You may need to re-evaluate goals. 3. Little steps for big feats. Most procrastinators tell themselves, "I'll wait until I'm more in the mood." Face it: You're never going to feel like balancing your checkbook or cleaning up your desk. These are boring, unpleasant tasks.

Prime the pump for action by breaking your job into steps that can be accomplished bit by bit. Life exists one minute at a time, so do a minute's worth of work. Not so bad, is it? 4. Tune out negative thoughts. When you avoid a task, you may be feeding yourself unrealistic, negative messages.

Write them down, and give yourself a chance to dispel them. 5. Give yourself credit. -Once you've begun the task you've been avoiding, give yourself credit. People too often discount their accomplishments and focus on what they haven't been able to do.

Jot down the tasks you've accomplishedpaid bills, cleaned house, shopped, prepared dinner. And feel satisfied with your efforts. For a free reprint of "Stop Putting It Off!" send a self-addressed, stamped envelope to Reprint Manaer, Reader's Digest, Dept. A192, Pleasantville, N.Y. 10570-7000.

Dawn Olivera Miss Olivera earns degree Dawn Olivera, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Phil Olivera, White Haven, graduated from Bloomsburg University with a bachelor of arts degree in social work. At Bloomsburg, she was the coordinator and president of the Social Welfare Club, a member of the Student Social Welfare advisory board, a student representative of the Community Social Welfare advisory board, and was also a member of the program board and the Bloomsburg Organization of Concerned Students. Dawn was named to Alpha The acquittal of William Kennedy Smith may discourage women from lodging sexual assault charges, but the trial should tell men they must make sure a woman wants sex before they proceed, says a Bucknell University rape expert.

The verdict may send a message that "these women are not to be believed or not to be taken seriously," said Janice Butler, director of the Women's Resource Center at Bucknell and former rape crisis counselor. The jury deliberated a little more than an hour before finding Smith innocent of charges he raped a woman at the Kennedy estate after meeting her in a bar. Despite the chilling effect the acquittal could have on rape victims, the widely publicized case could make men more aware of what they should do in dating situations, Butler siad. "If they feel they are getting a mixed message, they should check it out," Butler said. Butler recommends men get specific: ask the woman, "Do you want to do this or not?" If a woman says no, that's it, Butler said.

"It's never OK to force someone to have sex. Rape prevention is men's work." The Smith case is not all that unusual "in terms of ways acquaintance assault takes place," Butler said. Often acquaintance rape, or date rape, involves "two people who are attracted to each other," Butler said. However, just because a woman dances with a man, kisses him, goes home with him, that doesn't necessarily mean she wants to have sex, she said. "It's important for men to take responsibility in these situations by making sure she wants to participate in intercourse," Butler said.

"Consent is necessary." Just because the man is aroused, he can't assume that "what he wants to happen is what she wants to happen," Butler said. The woman may want to be involved "in some sort of physical or romantic interaction," such as kissing, Butler said, but that "doesn't mean he has permission to do whatever he wants." Part of orientation for new stu- The Honour of your presence is requested on Sunday, the twelfth offanuary Nineteen hundred and ninety-two at one o'clock in the afternoon for the GREATER HAZLETON BRIDAL FAIR AND FASHION SHOW Hazleton, today. Mark Barletta, son of Mark Barletta, Hazleton, and Debbie Dudley, Mountaintop, 10th, today. Mark is a fourth grade student at St. Joseph's Memorial School, Hazleton.

A party will be held in his honor. Thomas Nemeth son of Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Nemeth, 945 W. Diamond Hazleton, 10th, Sunday.

Thomas is a fourth grade student at St. Joseph's Memorial School. Alison Rose Conlin, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John Conlin, 77 Harding Hazleton, third, today.

A party will be held in her honor on Sunday by her parents. Kevin Ostroski, son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert Ostroski, 67 Dean Beaver Meadows, third, today. Kevin will be honored at a party.

Steven Homanko, son of Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Homanko, Third Street, Beaver Meadows, third, today. A party will be held in his honor. Nicholas Kyle Panzarella, son of Mr.

and Mrs. Nicholas Pan-zarella, Venisa Drive, Ridgewood, fourth, today. A party will be held in his honor. Mrs. David (Linda) Bachman, 409 E.

Walnut St, Hazleton, today. Mrs. Helen R. Rendako, 572 N. Wyoming Hazleton.

Jeffrey Pcolinsky, son of Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Pcolinsky, 513 E. Kiefer 10th, today. A party will be held in his honor.

Brandi Lech, daughter of John and Lori Lech, R.R. 1 Weatherly, second, today. The world's largest wooden building is the Hall of the Great Budda in Nara, Japan. At The MOTOR LODGE t0ttttnij 1 society, for maintaining a 3.78 grade point average in her major. She also was named to the Dean's List and was selected to Who's Who Among students in American Colleges and Universities.

For the fall semester, she was named to the Dean's List with a 3.82 GPA and graduated with an overall average of 3.39. Prior to attending Bloomsburg, Dawn received an associate degree in applied science in human services in 1989 from Luzerne County Community College. While at Luzerne, she was named to the Dean's List and to Who's Who Among Students in American Junior Colleges. She is a 1987 graduate of Crestwood High School. PRESIDENTIAL BALLROOM Rt.

509, Hazleton, Pennsylvania The event of the year will feature Fruit Punch, Fresh Fruit and Cheese Display, Assorted Hot and Cold Hors 'Oeuvres Full Course Dinner Offerings DISCOVERY Crisp Boston Bib Salad with Raspberry Vinaigrette Dressing, -Chicken Florentine, Wild Rice Blend, Fresh Seasonal Vegetable Hot Rolls with Honey Whipped Butter, Beverage, Chocolate Mousse Delight Fashion Show Presented By CLADDAGHDEB'S Bridal and Formal Wear for the Bride, Attendants, Mothers, plus Men's Tuxedos 8. 00 per person Limited to Bride-To-Be and Two Guests Tickets Available at GenettVs CladdaghDeb's (no tickets at door) Tickcts may be purchased until Fri.Jan. 10th Self-examination, self-insurance Breast cancer, as with most cancers, is most effectively treated when diagnosed early. Once a month, right after menstruation, examine your breasts for small lumps or other changes. VE OOOOOOOO 2 Squeeze nipples gently to detect any unusual discharges.

Orange-peel skin could indicate an internal lump. 1 Get to know the usual appearance of your breasts in order to detect changes. Looking into a mirror, raise each arm alternately, turn, and look for changes in shape, MUrr GIFTS AND PRIZES TO BE AWARDED! i 100000 texture or outline. Notice the sides and armpit area. Dresses Suits Sweaters Coats Skirts Rain OTHER PROFESSIONAL SERVICES REPRESENTED WILL INCLUDE.

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