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Lifestyles The Paris News, July 11 1989 Sides in haircut fuss part on kids making decisions TVn A 1 PageSA DEAR ABBY: I couldn't believe the letter about the 8-year-old boy who wanted a Mohawk haircut and his parents said, "If that's what he wants, he can have it." What were those parents for brains? Since when do responsible parents let an 8-year-old kid get a bizarre haircut because he "wants" one? I thought parents were supposed to guide their children and help them make responsible choices. What if this spoiled brat decides that he wants to go to school naked? Should his parents let him? "Curious" asked you how parents could permit such a thing, and you meekly replied, "They must have their reasons." You sure weren't much help, Abby. DISAPPOINTED IN ABBY DEAR DISAPPOINTED: Not all my readers were disappointed in me. Here's one for my side: DEAR ABBY: I applaud those parents who let their 8-year-old son have a Mohawk. I believe parents should let their children make some non-life-threatening decisions they're young.

If they are ridiculed by their peers, it will be a good learning experience. Better a kid should fall on his face as a child when he has his parents there to comfort him than to fail as an adult and be faced with some major financial, or family problems with no problem-solving skills. Hair will grow back. If the boy wanted a tattoo, that would have been a different story. The point is: Let your kids make some decisions themselves.

If they make a they will haye learned something from it. If you make all their decisions, they will lack confidence in their own judgment and will not only think they're incapable of making a decision, they'll be afraid to try. Man collects cigarette butts By The Associated Press BERN, Switzerland Others may collect stamps, coins, picture postcards or vintage cars. Pietro Bal- linari collects cigarette butts. Whenever he spots someone puffing on a cigarette he doesn't recognize, he gets restless.

"May I have the stub?" he asks politely, after consulting a computer printout to be sure it isn't listed. If the stranger complies, he is asked to fill out a tiny form listing his name, date and place of the encounter. Ballinari then carefully stashes the note and the butt in his briefcase. Ballinari, 43, who had his last casual cigarette when he was still a lad, says it all started nine years ago at an inn in the Old Town of this capital when an ashtray filled with butts of various brands aroused his interest. A statistician with the Institute for Psychology at Bern University, he felt collecting butts might satisfy his yen for doing the unusual with methodology.

"In starting a collection," he says, "it is important to decide what criteria should apply." For him, that means no butt can be plucked from an ashtray. It must be obtained by request from the person who chose to smoke it. His first acquisition was a Gitane Jaune, a strong French cigarette that required little search. The objects of his special pride are the butts he brought home from travels overseas. Da Qian Men, Flying Horse, Jawa Moskva Sputnik and Capone Pockets are among his favorites.

Some 500 meticulously categorized butts from 30 countries fill of the kind normally used by numismatists. All butt data are stored in his personal computer. Ballinari says the cigarette industry seems to be running out of names. But new products of the same brands may have filters of different length, thickness or structure, so he doesn't worry about the future. i "I am confident," he says, "that eventually the collection will grow to more than a thousand." OPEN-MINDED IN DEXTER, MO.

DEAR ABBY: A tragedy recently occurred in our neighborhood, and I hope you will pasa this information on to the general public. A beautiful 5-year-old girl suffocated in her family's new automobile. The irony of this terrible tragedy is that one of the "safety features" that was supposed to protect children actually contributed to her death. The vehicle had child-proof locks on the rear doors designed to keep children from opening the doors while the car is moving. Unfortunately, while the vehicle was parked in her parents' front yard, unbeknown to them, the child went into the car looking for something, and the door closed behind her.

She was too unfamiliar with the new car to get the door open, or to sound the horn to attract attention. In less than 30 minutes the child suffocated in the heat of the Mississippi summer. (Police estimated that the temperature inside the car was between 120 arid 140 degrees.) She was a precious child, and the kind of youngster anyone would love to have for a daughter. We dearly miss her. GRIEVING NEIGHBORS, OCEAN SPRINGS, MISS.

DEAR NEIGHBORS: Because you took the time to write, other parents will realize that if this could happen once, it can happen again. My thanks to you, and my heartfelt condolences to the child's parents. Is your social life in a slump? Get Abby's booklet, "How to Be Popular" for people of all ages. To order, send.your name, and address, plus check or money order for $2.89 ($3.39 in Canada) to: Dear Abby, Popularity Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, HI.

61054. (Postage is included.) Meeting Memos Citizenship 4-H goal Newcomers Club The July meeting of the Paris Newcomers Club will be held Thursday, July 13, at 11 a.m. at Paris Junior College. Lloyd Bishop will give a program on antiques. Cost of the soup, salad, potato bar, and dessert, will be $5.

Reservations may be made through Tuesday, July 11, by contacting Ruth Bone, 785-1786, or Bernie Pagan, 785-1460. Shiloh Luncheon Club The Shiloh Luncheon Club held its July meeting in the home of Mr. and Mrs. Gene Rader. Hostesses were Margie Durham, Leota Bailey and Ruby Jean Biard.

Lunch was served on the patio and tables were decorated with miniature flags. Margie Durham gave the invocation and Katherine Anderson led the pledge of allegiance. Clyde Cunningham conducted the business session. Visitors were Doris Lightfoot and Robbie Gates of Bonham, Margaret Moore and Janice Jackson of Paris. Fourteen members were present.

Margie Durham read an article she composed, "Good Old Days." Mrs. Bailey presented an Independence Day reading. The meeting dismissed with themizpah. Citizenship can be a lot of different things, such as helping hospital patients or senior citizens, solving community problems and speaking out on community issues. Yet, citizenship is more than than an act or activity and more than the sum of a series of acts or activities.

It is an attribute of the individual's character, a value system which leads the individual to demonstrate social responsibility and contribute to community development. This is the 4-H Citizenship Program a vehicle allowing young people to both demonstrate and strengthen their commitment to building a better nation, said Robin Tamafa Overcast Goodwin, County Extension with the Texas Agricultural Extension Service. Citizenship means getting involved and being responsible individuals, Goodwin said. It is a basic' good of the entire 4-H program. 4-H members enrolled in the citi'-' zenship program develop on insight into the principles, processes and, structures of democracy.

They) learn how issues affect our and the world, and how an indivK dual can become involved in ad-' dressing these issues, said Goodwin. The National 4-H Citizenship' Awards Program recognizes the; achievements of 4-H'ers as they develop the skills they need to be ac-- tive, well-adjusted community leaders. More information on the 4-H citi- zenship program is available at the' County Extension Office, Goodwin, said. 1944 class reunion planned The Paris High School senior class of 1944 will hold its 45-year reunion Friday through Sunday, July 14-16. Over 100 class members' and sponsors are expected to attend the reunion which willhave headquarters and registration at the Best Western Inn.

Thomas (Bud) White' of Estes- Park, Colo, is class president, Me- Iba Woodard Bunch, Howard Brazile, Felix Gibson, Theda Jordan Short, Ann Elliott Short and Jack Taylor serve as vice president, Kathryn Humphrey Burch is class secretary with Robbie Whitney Morrow as treasurer. Reunion activities will include a western barbecue and music program on Friday evening; a class roll call and business meeting on Saturday afternoon, and a class picture and dinner dance on Saturday evening. Class activities will conclude on Sunday morning with a memorial church service in DeShong Chapel. Local high school students attending Paris High in the 1940's are invited to attend any of the activities by making a reservation with Kathryn Burch at 785-4080. Earl D.

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