Cumberland Evening Times from Cumberland, Maryland on June 7, 1957 · Page 3
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Dial PA 2-4600 for a WANT AD Taker Ularj Haworth Mail... Editor's Note: Emotionally dii turbed stepson pre&cniE baUling problem lo newly married matron. DEAR MARY IIAWORTH: Recently l married Hie kindest man on earth, who was divorced from Ws first wife, a mental case. She liad tried every trick lo ruin him and his son. My husband * was given custody of Dick, who P is our great concern at present. I have children by my first marriage and. hefore 1 married Bob, my teen-age child resented the idea fiercely. But 1 was firm, kept things in the open and went ahead. After the wedding, my older child shook Bob's hand, cried a little, then embraced him and said he was really glad about Ihe whole thing and wished us much happiness. We were so pleased, as this was entirely his idea. Ever since he has been a jewel—really happy and at peace with himself. Man First Fv,U, Wife Was Wrong However, Bob's son was just the opposite. Before our marriage, he seomed so elaled al Ihe prospect. But soon after we got home from our brief honeymoon he showed resentment, hatred and jealousy of the situation. He is very immature for his age, very wretched, and everything upsets him. All this disturbs Bob, of course; and at first he jumped on me, accused me of being jealous of' Dick. But finally the truth came out, when Dick impetuously aired his jealousy by word of mouth in the presence of all. I feel torn; I actually suffer for both father and son. I hate to see a little fellow so hateful, stubborn and jealous. I've tried to talk to him gently; tried to draw him out of his shell; but all my efforts are stonily rejected. I Just don't know how lo cope, nor does my poor husband. Each new outburst of tale-bearing accusation by the boy only makes him feel worse . . . Lad Has Dual Personality The child is now writing nostalgic letters to his divorced mother, which is a slap in the face lo his dad, who has "mothered" the boy since he was age five—catering to his even- whim. The boy didn't like to play with other children- preferred just to hang around daddy—but he is doing better! lately. ! s When he wants to be. he is such ''a bright charming little fellow, so helpful, sweet, affectionate and cooperative. But these phases of personality are now in eclipse; he seems to delight in being miserable, and making others so. How can we draw him out of his deception, misery and unhappiness . . .? —\v. S. Overlooks Fact Thai Boy. Is III DEAR W. S.: It is nowadays generally recognized —' although temporarily overlooked by you— that children may be emotionally ill. And this is probably the explanation of little Dick's uneven behavior—potentially helpful, sweet, affectionate and cooperative; but often wretchedly anxious, suspicious, jealous and hysterical. You designate Dick's mother as a mental case, by which you mean she seems predisposed to emotional imbalance, probably. , It doesn't follow, necessarily that Dick has "inherited" such a tendency. But the fact that he was an infant and child in the sphere of her influence, would naturally affect his "conditioned" reactions to all his experience. Also, the father's habit of catering to Dick's every whim, back in the time that he was trying to "mother" the lad, would further deprive Ihe lad of the "feel" of emotional stability—such as com- pelent parents, in a good home atmosphere, traditionally supply, as a basic element in child training. Situation Needs Specialist Help As for what to do now—you and Bob, as co-parents, must have specialist guidance in getting your bearings with Dick, and helping him lo cither overcome his illness, or learn to adapt to his trials, in a more constructive way. Your present good intentions simply aren't sufficient lo meet his sick needs. You wouldn't expect to get him through a seige of TB. or typhoid fever, say, without first-class specialist help—and no more can you handle this kind t of illness "intuitively," and count ' on recovery. In the city through which you write, there is a fine Family Service Agency, and my advice is to apply there for psychiatric leadership, in learning how lo do right by Dick. —.\f. H. Mary Haworth counsels through her column, not by mail Or personal interview. Write lo tier In care of The Evening Times. IKlng Features Syndicate) His Innovations Some of the common practices of modern journalism established by William Thomas Stead include Ihe'interview, use! of illustrations and extra editions. TIMES, CUMBERLAND, MD., FRIDAY, JUNE 7, 1957 Join the Annual Tour of Cumberland's Historic Homes and Buildings this Sunday, June Oth from ):00 to 5:00 V. M. Contact the Cumberland. Library or the Historical Society for complete information. THREE \0 0 0< psenbcmm'* Pastel THE SHOPPING CENTER Distinctly different with the new, Haltering sland-a-way collar, preltily pleated front. 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