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6C The NAPA VALLEY REGISTER Thursday, October 26, 2000 OBITUARIES aid forget os tiie best patio IFergive always Dear Ann Landers: I just found out that my best friend was sleeping with a guy I was dating the entire time we were together. I broke up with the guy a while ago, but Leanne does not understand why this has destroyed our friendship. Several mutual friends knew she was cheating with my boyfriend, but they didn't tell me. I understand why, and have forgiven them. However, Leanne says I am hard-boiled and just plain mean.

I am not a mean person, Ann, but I simply cannot forgive and forget. I have no desire to continue our friendship, and I'm not sure she was ever a real friend in the first place. I work with Leanne and must see her every day. It makes my stomach turn just to be around her. I cannot explain how hurt I am by her betrayal.

Do you have any advice for me? Anna in Chico, Calif. Dear Anna: Yes, I do. GET OVER IT! You dont have to be her friend, but holding a grudge is never a good idea. It takes too much energy and accomplishes nothing. The best way to get Leanne is to be pleasant, say nothing about the betrayal, and act as if it never happened.

The guilt she will feel when you take the high road will be punishment jenough. Dear Ann Landers: My friend, Maggie, has a son the Isame age as mine 8-years-old. The bovs attend the same Rodriguez, 1401 Grayson St. Helena, Calif. 94574.

Grace Christianson NAPA Grace Alleman Christianson passed away on October 1 9 in Napa. Bom January 30, 1903 in Alleman, Iowa, she was the second of 10 children bom to George J. and Clara J. Alleman. Grace married Marion Stanford Christianson in 1926 and they had one son, Richard Lindbergh Christianson.

In 1946 she and Chris established the M.S. Christianson Mortgage and Investment Company in Eugene, Ore. where she acted as secre-tarytreasurer until her retirement in 1968. Preceded in death by her beloved husband and son, she is survived by her sister, Helen of Ankeny, Iowa, her daughter-in-law, Jeanne; her grandchildren, Nancy, Debbie, and Tom and four great grandchildren. A private memorial service will be held.

Remembrances may be sent to the National Brain Tumor Foundation 414 13th Street, Oakland, Calif. 94162. Arrangements are under the direction of Richard Pierce Funeral Service, 1660 Silverado Trail, Napa. Peter Ainslie ST. HELENA Peter Thomas Ainslie passed away on October 18 at the St.

Helena Hospital with is children by his side, at the age of 68. He was bom on Sept. 26, 1 932 and grew up in Quincy, graduating form Syracuse University. He was a member of Psi Upsilon Fraternity at Syracuse. Peter is survived by his son, Tom and daughter, Laura, both of Sacramento.

Per family wishes, no service will be held. Arrangements are being cared for by Morrison Funeral Chapel, 963-3536. Edna Hoffman NAPA Edna W. Hoffman died on October 8. Edna was an accomplished watercolor painter and a member of the Oregon Watercolor Society.

She graduated from Napa Union High School, Class of 1939. Her husband, Walter preceded her in death by 3 weeks. Edna has two daughters, Paula Wulff of Memphis, Tenn. and Lise Hoffman-McCabe of Bend, one grandchild, Matthew Wulff; as well as two sisters, Mary Avery of Sacramento and Louise Lucas of Calistoga. and her son-in-law, Wayne A.

Andersen; where she was a member of the First Presbyterian Church and Hill and Valley Womens Club. She then moved to St. Helena in 1993 with Nancy and Wayne, where she enjoyed her life and many friends in the Federated Womens Club of Upper Napa Valley, Heart and the Soil Garden Club and Sharpsteen Museum Association. She is survived by her daughter, Nancy Andersen and son-in-law, Wayne Andersen of St. Helena; daughter, Diane Beason of Palos Verdes; daughter, Randa Steele and son-in-law, James Steele of Reno, Nev.

Also, her brother, E. Robert Peterson and sister-in-law Patti Peterson of Sun Lakes, grandson and wife, James and Amy Steele and great-granddaughter, Ally Steele of Fallon, mother-in-law, Clel la Shaffer and sister-in-law, Mary Lou Shaffer, both of Vista. She was preceded in death by her parents, Clarence T. Peterson and mother, Etta Mae Peterson and many aunts and uncles. Memorials may be made to the Federated Womens Club of Upper Napa Valley, co President Ann Keeker, 4 LaCuesta, St.

Helena, phone: 967-1030. A graveside service will be held Friday, 2 p.m. at the St. Helena Cemetery. Funeral arrangements are under the care of Morrison Funeral Chapel, St.

Helena, 963-3536. Richard Donaldson ST. HELENA Richard Dick Donaldson died peacefully with his family on Friday. He was born on November 25, 1908 in Minneapolis, Minnesota. He spent his early years in Minneapolis, graduating from St.

Cloud Teachers College. In 1937, he married Gladys Duff Donaldson. In 1945 he received an honorable discharge from the medical European Theatre. Dick was a member of the First Presbyterian Church, St. Helena, the St.

Helena Rotary Club, St. Helena Chamber of Commerce, Meadowood Golf Club and served on the board of the St. Flelena American Red Cross. He became an Eagle Scout at age 15. He is survived by his wife, Duff Donaldson; daughter, Nancy; son, William; and granddaughter; all of St.

Helena. Private memorial services are pending. Memorial contributions may be made to the St. Helena High School Chorus, co Margarita Get checked out if low body weight worries you Rose Jones NAPA Rose Adolphina Jones, 83, of Napa, died Saturday at the Queen of the Valley Hospital following a lengthy illness. Loved and loving wife of Harold Vivian Jones, deceased.

A patient sufferer at rest. Peacefully sleeping from Oct. 21, beloved sister of Margaret Phayer and much loved aunt of Joan and Peter Abel; great aunt of Vanessa, Paul, Noami and Helene and dearest friend of May Sweet, Sleep on peacefully in Gods care. Rose was bom August 19, 1917, in Beechwood, Australia, the much loved daughter of the late Elizabeth Adolphina and Daniel Joseph Bryant. She was the loving and loved sister of Cyrus (deceased) and Vera Bryant, Vivian and Gladys Bryant (both deceased), George Bryant (deceased), Eric and Leila Bryant (both deceased), Daniel and Beryl Bryant (both deceased); and aunt to their children and grandchildren.

May she rest in peace. She was the much loved aunt of Pat Voillaire and Geoff (deceased), and great aunt of Kelvin and Marilyn Voullaire and daughters Kimberley and Chantelle, Barbara and Wolfgang Schneider and daughters Caroline and Angela, Rodney and Roslyn and daughters Caitlyn and Emma, and Lyndy and Brett Bottrell and sons Jack and Geoffrey. We will always remember your many visits to Monak and especially our visits with you to both Marysville and Apollo Bay. Sadly missed. Friends are invited to attend her funeral service 1 1 a.m.

on Friday at Treadway and Wigger Funeral Chapel, 623 Coombs Street in Napa. Officiating will be The Reverend Father Christopher Sellars of St. John the Baptist Catholic Church in Napa. Inurnment will be private and at a later date. Arrangements are being cared for by Treadway and Wigger Funeral Chapel and Crematory.

Ruth Shaffer ST. HELENA Ruth Adele Shaffer was bom in Dubuque, Iowa on March 20,1926. She passed to her rest on Tuesday in St. Helena. She lived on the Palos Verdes Peninsula from 1960 to 1978, with her husband, Richard R.

Shaffer, who passed away on October 24,1977 in Palos Verdes. She was a member of the St. Peters by the Sea Presbyterian Church. She moved to Hayward to be near her daughter, Nancy Senate sends From The Associated Press WASHINGTON Airport personnel would face tougher background checks and receive additional training under legislation on its way to President Clinton. The Senate on Wednesday passed the Airport Security Improvement Act, which Sen.

Kay Bailey Hutchison, R-Texas, said would better protect the 500 million passengers who pass through American airports every UPCOMING SERVICES TODAY SNOWDER, John; 10 a.m., Richard Pierce Funeral Chapel, Napa FRIDAY JONES, Rose Adolphina; Treadway and Wigger Funeral Chapel, Napa SHAFFER, Ruth Adele; 2 p.m., St. Helena Cemetery, St. Helena SUNDAY FORSYTHE, Douglas Washington; 1 p.m., Treadway and Wigger Funeral Chapel, Napa GRAY, Harold Randal; 11 a.m., Napa County Fairgrounds Grandstand, Calistoga school, but they do not play together. My sons friends are a great bunch of kids who get along well together. Maggie's son, Chris, is a bit of a bully.

He has academic problems, and makes fun of my son and his friends. None of the kids likes him. Maggie often expects me to invite Chris over to play. She also assumed he was invited to my sons birthday party and planned her vacation around it, even though I had not intended to ask him. My son is completely miserable whenever Chris is around, but the boy still calls and asks to come over.

How can I tell Maggie my son doesnt want to play with Chris? I dont want to hurt her feelings, but I also dont want to force my son to be friends with someone who makes him uncomfortable. Please help me. Im stumped. Mom in the Middle Dear Mom: You do not have to invite Chris every time your son has friends over. On those occasions, tell Maggie, Im so sorry, but my son is busy now.

Well have Chris over another time. However, please consider this opment, rather than simply stored as fat. To give you related infonna-tion, I am sending you a copy of my Health Report Eating Right For a I lealthy Heart. Other readers who would like a copy should send $2 plus a long, self-addressed, stamped envelope to RO. Box 2017, Murray Hill Station, New York, NY 10156.

Be sure to mention the title. DEAR DR. GOTT: Im a 50-year-old diabetic. The disease is well controlled, with Glu-cophage, Glucotrol and regular exercise. But could the medicine be the cause of my impotence? DEAR READER: I doubt it.

Your medications are not usually associated with erectile dysfunction. As you know, diabetes accelerates premature arteriosclerosis, age-related arterial blockage. The effects are more pronounced when the diabetes is poorly controlled. Nonetheless, even with reasonable control, as in your case, ED may be a troublesome problem. ting a failing grade for high bacteria levels.

Surfrider is adjacent to the exclusive Malibu Colony gated outpost. Will Rogers, Big Rock, Santa Monica Pier, Herondo Street, Redondo, Cabrillo, Long Beach, Alamitos Bay and Avalon beaches also got marks. Heal the Bay took weekly ocean samples at 373 beaches from Santa Barbara to San Diego counties between May and September and gave A grades to a golden opportunity to help Maggies son, and at the same time, teach your child about compassion. It is obvious that Chris is trying, in his own way, to be friends. Please do not cut him off.

instead, you and your son should show him how to behave with others, and explain nicely why certain conduct is unacceptable. Build up his self-esteem. If he feels better about himself, he will be less inclined to bully others. And the lesson your son will learn about kindness will serve him well throughout his entire life. Dear Ann Landers: My friend, Lisa, recently moved in with her boyfriend, Frank.

Frank is not from these parts, and doesnt know many people. He clings to Lisa as if she were his only friend. Now, whenever Lisa wants to go anywhere, Frank must go with her. If we invite Lisa to join us, she has to check with Frank, and if he doesnt want to come along, she wont go. Lisa is a great person, but she can't see that Frank is extremely possessive.

She thinks he loves her so much he cant stand to be away from her. Please give us some advice on how to pry her loose. East Coast Friend Dear East: Wake up and smell the coffee. Lisa doesnt wish to be pried loose. She wants Frank in on everything, and thats the way its going to be.

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DEAR DR. GOTT: Is it true that feeding honey to an infant can be dangerous? DEAR READER: Some types of honey have been found to contain spores from microorganisms called Clostridium botulinum. Although these spores rarely cause disease in adults, they can multiply in the developing intestines of very young infants (less than three months old), and there manufacture a toxin. This toxin causes a disease (infant botulism) that is marked by initial constipation, followed by a progressive paralysis that is permanent unless treated. The diagnosis depends on demonstrating toxin or botulinum organisms in the stool.

Therapy with anti-toxin is ordinarily successful but carries risks because it is made from horse serum. The best treatment is prevention. Therefore, most pediatricians prohibit the use of honey in infants less than a year old. 2000 Creators Syndicate Inc. 257 beaches.

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www.tulocaycemetery.org DEAR DR. GOTT: Im a 5-foot-7-inch woman who weighs 110 pounds. Id like to gain some weight, but most of the literature concerns people who want to slim down. Any suggestions? DEAR READER: Thinness and fatness are, to a large degree, genetically determined. However, we can modify our inheritances by under or overeating.

You are slim by any criteria. If you consume a regular diet and dont have an eating disorder, such as bulimia or anorexia, you should be able to put on a few pounds by increasing your portions, snacking and consuming more starches, such as potatoes, rice and pasta. As your caloric consumption rises, it will exceed your metabolic demands; the excess calories will then be stored as fat, and youll gain weight. Because some diseases notable cancer and hyperthyroidism are commonly associated with inability to gain weight, you might want to have a medical checkup to make sure that you are in good health and dont have a hidden or undiscovered ailment. If everything is feel free to pig out until you reach a weight at which you feel comfortable.

Some experts recommend regular exercise during weight-gain programs, so that excess caloiies will be utilized for muscle devel Clinton airport security measure High bacteria levels continue at popular LA beaches year from unnecessary security risks. The air traveling public deserves to have the best security we can give and I think this bill does that, she said. Under the bill, all airport screeners and those with access to secure areas would be required to undergo a criminal history record check starting one year after the bills enactment. The bill passed the House earlier this week. It now goes to the president for his signature.

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