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Story of Middle-aged Mode THE SUNDAY TIMES, APRIL 18, 1982-SCRANTON, PA. Frorri Consumer Reports By ELUE GROSSMAN NEA WrRw NEW YORK - Beauty and wealth have always been part of Kaylan Pickford'i life. At 51, she's a strikingly attractive woman 5 feet, 7 inches, 120 pounds who wears fine clothes and a diamond ring the size of a grapefruit. Still, there was a time not long ago when, sne says, "for tne urst time, I understood how someone could contemplate suicide and I had empathy for that person. Born in Boston, reared in , Pomfret, Conn., at 21 she left Boston's School of the Museum of Fine Arts to marry a lawyer. They divorced 10 years later and three years after that, she says, "I married William Pickford, an enormously physical man, a sportsman and athlete, who owned two hotels in Washington, D C. A month later, they said he had cancer and four and a half years later, on New Year's Eve 1968, he died. I was 38. 1 had been working around the clock as a wife and mother, and suddenly I was staring at the walls alone in a five-bedroom house in Washington. "My husband was gone; my two daughters were in boarding school; and my dyslexic stepson had been reclaimed by his mother. He was a lovely sensitive boy," she says, "but he had been a terrific emotional problem. At 14, he was barely reading at a second grade level, and he was still wetting his bed. I knew he would never make progress until he stopped bed-wetting because that was so demoralizing, so when he wanted a wnstwatch, I said, go six weeks without wetting you bed and you can have it. Eventually, he did. He never wet his bed again and his attitude about everything changed." But all that was over now and, alone in Washington, she occupied herself settling her husband's business affajrs. And when that ended, too, she fled Washington and bought, she says, "a charming town-house at the bottom of Beacon Hill in Boston. That's when it all hit the fan." There were long empty days. Abiding grief. There was despair. "Thinking of life without Bill was unbearable," she says. "1 didn't know who V t. : v Si! . KAYLAN PICKFORD was so depressed at one time that she understood how someone could contemplate suicide. Today, she is happy and making a good living as. a successful model. I was. I had always been a wife and a mother. I had never worked, had no resume, wasn't trained to do anything and I was living in a society that said I was too old to do anything." Seeking answers, she began seeing a psychiatrist, reading biographies, books on self-help and history, "anything where people were involved in trauma and challenge." She ran to Mexico for six weeks to study Spanish and came home to the same bewilderment. "But," she says, "I began to realize that as long as I stayed a victim, I would be one. I wanted to work, so I took a two-day aptitude test given by a wonderful psychologist in Cambridge. The results said I belonged in communications." In 1974, she moved to New York to write. "I had sold a story to the Daily News the year before, but writing was too isolated. I needed people. I longed to find out what I could do, but 1 was very shy and afraid of finding out what I couldn't do. Here I was 44, with no resume, looking for a job in New York. Then one She tratiton Stone & The Viewmont Mall present "MY FIWORIK TCIKH6R CONT6ST" A chance for all area students to honor their favorite teacher ill be determined by, the weekly winners wi I 9 . 1 number or votes they receive. The teacher with the most votes at the end of the contest wins the Grand Prize of over $600 in prizes. Completed ballots must be deposited at participating Viewmont Mall stores. Deadlines for the days, April 15th a.m. weekly contests are and April 22nd, at Thurs-10:00 Students in grades K-12 are urged to partici pate. m - - - ---!-- ! ; m FRVORIT6 TIKHR T '"m a preienlalion of I The Scantoft Times & Vteuimdnt Mall ;i j I Deposit this ballot at any 1? j 1 participating Viewmont Mall Store D u m General Nutrition Center Gallenkamp Shoes Msi 4 Nor,neas,rn Bank Junior Colony m f '! GRAND PRIZ6 - !il $600 MERCHANDISE W KM MV rW0mU6flCHft f -t- iJeoeher.i. " J JJ School ............. A J city......... ff?4 X Single ballots are also available buildina and Times branch offices. copies will not be accepted. This week's deadline is Thursday, 10:00 fl.ni, winter day, feeling very depressed, I came across an ad for a course in commercials." she says. "On impulse, I called and because there were only eight students in the class, 1 enrolled. I was scared to death and what got me through the door was that I kept saying, 'If other people have done this, why can't I?'" Eight weeks later, when the course ended, she forced herself to make the rounds of agents' offices. "I didn't know what else to do and, besides. I had learned what an 8x10 glossy was. And one day, an agent said, 'You model, don't you?' I thought, why not, so I said yes, and he gave me a job modeling a wool jacket and a hat for an in-house Sear's publication. I know now I was terrible, but someone had actually asked me to do something and I had taken a chance on myself. I discovered I liked modeling and working with the camera." Slowly, sporadically, she began to appear in ads for laxatives and dentures, the things that call for a middle-aged model. She still does commercials and ads of that sort, but these days she can also be seen "leaping out of pool for the Miami Tourist Board." and in commercials for Harlequin Books and Clai-rol's Silk Silver Hair. And, for the past few months, she has been touring . as a spokeswoman for vaseline Dermatology Formula. "f m making a good living now by a lot of people's standards the first year I worked, 1975, 1 earned $3,000 but I don't make anything . near what top young models make. And I'm not working in the glamour areas they work in. Fashion still gives middle-aged women very little representation although the money these days is in their hands. You always have to look 19, but I happen to think midlife can have a beautiful look. Youth is not necessarily beautiful just because it's youth; neither is midlife, but if a woman has taken care of herself, at 40 or 55, why isn't that considered beautiful, too?" That aside, her counsel to women who are at the same loss she once was, is, "Expand your horizons. Never give up. Do what you want to do ana don't ever think you're washed up or over the hill." Take it from Kaylan Pick-ford. (Ntwipapw Enttrprit Aim.) What 1 9-Inch TV Best at The Times Facsimiles and By the EoHort of Consumer Reports DEAR CONSUMER REPORTS: Please give me your latest findings on 19-inch color -portable televisions. DEAR READER: Best in our 1981 tests of 19-inch models were the following: Panasonic CT9060, RCA FER488WR and VEM575W, Sanyo 91C90, Sears Cat. No. 4236, Sharp 19E91, Sony KV1943R, Sylvania CX0178WR, Wards Cat. No. 12991. Zenith SM1961W and SM1973P2. (Almost all of them have since been replaced by more recent models.) Hitachi. MGA. Quasar, Panasonic, Sanyo, Sears, Sharp, Sony and Toshiba have made the most reliable sets, according to our 1981 survey. Sony sets were quite reliable but were expensive to buy, and when they do break down, they have been expensive to repair as well. The Sears sets were inexpensive and had a better than average reliability record. They also have cost less than most to repair. Quasar, also fairly inexpensive, needed fewer than average repairs and was cheaper than most to repair. DEAR CONSUMER REPORTS: I'm eetting married in June and 1 want to purchase a refrigerator. What self-defrosting refrigerator is the most energy efficient and best in service? What company makes the best refrigerator that is not self-defrosting? DEAR READER: Among the most recently tested refrigerator freezers, the most energy-efficient no-frost models were the top-freezer Whirlpool EHT171HK and the Sears Kenmore 60771. These brands also had better-than-average repair records. We haven't tested defrost-it-yourself refrigerators since 1974. Sorry. DEAR CONSUMER REPORTS: ould you tell me if Shaklee vitamins are any better than other brands? They say that their vitamins are pure and that others have tar and additives. My husband and I have been taking them about eight months, and they are very expensive (100 vitamin E tab lets are $11.65). Now their E rices are going up even igher. They are getting out of reach for us we are 65 years old and retired. Should we change brands? DEAR READER: Aside from the fact that healthy people who eat a balanced and varied diet do not require any vitamin supplementation, we know of no evidence to show that one manufacturer's vitamin products are any better than another's. It you want to take a vitamin supplement, choose a generic or house brand and let your D-7 CQWUMO SOOMI Success. Is Easy With tas Want Ads (Do the new diet pills really cial reprint of work? For a sp pocketbook be your guide. specii Consumers Union's evalua tion, send $1 for each copy to CONSUMERS, P.O. Box 461, Radio City Station, New York, NY 10019. Be sure to ask for the reprint on diet pills.) Send your questions to: From Consumer Reports, care of this newspaper. Volume of mail prohibits personal replies. (Ntwtpapw CnMrpriu Awn.) Smith Wedding (Continued from Page D-5) ered empire bodice and an A-line skirt. A flowing capelet of matching chiffon completed the ensemble. She wore a comb of fresh baby's breath and miniature carnations in her hair. She carried a white lace fan covered with silk miniature carnations and sweetheart roses dyed to match her gown, fresh baby's breath and fresh stephanotis tied with matching bows and streamers. Bridesmaids, attired identically to the matron of honor but in shades of cinnamon, delphine and rosette, were Jeannie Stahursky. Susan Babkowski and Christine Scott, all of Scranton. Harry Summerhill. Clark's Summit, served as best man. Ushers were Jeffrey Kinder-man, brother of the bride, Robert Reidenbach and Thomas Ward Jr., all of Scranton. Junior attendants were Michelle Panunzio and Paul McGoin Jr. A reception was held at the Ramada Inn, Clark's Summit. The bride, a graduate of Scranton Central High School: is emploved by the Third National Bank. Her husband, a graduate of West Scranton High School, is , employed by the Royal Bottling Co. He is a member of the Teamsters Union, Local 229. Following a trip to Daytona Beach, Fla., the couple's address will be Box 282. West Mountain RD 1. Two Cops Share More Than a Job MEDFORD. Ore. (AP) -Elmer Kammel is 6 foot 4. a self-professed "hot dog," likable and street smart. Shirley Peters is 5 foot 4, blonde, meticulous and a quick wit. Both are police officers in this southern Oregon town. They patrol in separate cars, but ride home together at the end of the working day. They are married. "But there's nothing sensational about it." says Ms. Peters. "We're just a couple that happens to have the same profession." They both prefer working the swing shift 4 p.m. to 12 midnight and not because they like listening to each other on the police radio or passing each other during their patrols. On the swing shift, the workday goes much quicker because there is more action, they say. "We don't worry about each other," Kammel says. "We don't have the time to worry about each other." They have dramatically different styles on the job. "I like to go into a situation where you don't know what's going on, and everything hap- pens so fast, it's like fastballs coming at you," says the 35-year-old Kammel. "I like to go into a situation prepared," the 29-year-old Ms. Peters says. "I can handle a fastball but ..." Kammel. part Hawaiian and part German, is the son of a police officer and the grandson of a prison guard. He grew up in Southern California and worked for seven years in law enforcement in Cypress; Calif. He moved to Medford seven years ago. Ms. Peters grew up in Medford. the daughter of two teachers. Theme Bridal Shower Latest Party Twist Make llir flay uitforgrltaM with a liaJliMin iHimfwt from thin am uriftinal awl fiiir! balliMiii nrrvirir. Cottum DrliverifB Cake Service Kate Keating 346-9141 The Associated Press NEW YORK - For the estimated 278,000 couples who will wed this June, bridal showers can combine practicality with romanticism, says Katherine Orr, who deals with romance in books. "The best part of my job is keeping up-to-date on romance, says Ms. Orr, consumer relations director for Harlequin Books, a publisher of romance fiction. "And one of the nicest new twists on an old tradition is the theme bridal shower. "We've come a long .way since the days of the kitchen, shower, when the bride received pots, pans and measuring spoons. Now, showers can really reflect the interests of the couple being married." she adds, offering these tips: Make any shower more romantic by making it more personal. Keep in mind the personality and lifestyle of the bride and consider the groom, too, when choosing gifts. An old standby, the ordinary kitchen shower, can be enlivened with a "theme" a couple interested in haute cuisine will appreciate a gourmet shower. Gifts could include appliances pasta-maker, espresso machine. spice or coffee grinder and gourmet or regional cookbooks. A cordon bleu course, a wi-netasting class at a local university, or a subscription to a gourmet magazine are also appropriate. Luxurious treats such as caviar, truffles, exotic teas (try ginseng for the health-conscious), and hard-to-find spices will add zest and romance. Try serving a few gourmet delights at the party itself. Wine lovers? A shower with a bacchanalian theme would be a smash and provide spirits for many romantic anniversary celebrations to come. Present the couple with their very own wine cellar by suggesting that some shower guests give bottles of wine or champagne from various countries or states. Other guests can provide gift items such as a wine rack, an engraved souvenir corkscrew, a wine cooler or holder, special glasses even a wineskin for an intimate honeymoon picnic. An entertainment or hobby shower is a wonderful way to show you care. Music lovers will appreciate concert or opera tickets, as well as new releases by their favorite performers, or even a portable cassette player with a second headset! Art enthusiasts will enjoy tickets to a special exhibit at a local museum. Several guests can team up to give a romantic evening on the town by presenting the bride and groom with theater tickets and dinner for two at an elegant cestaurant. (Arrangements are easy to make; just contact the restaurant's manager or use a credit card. ) Games and puzzles that two can play alone will enliven cozy nights at home; choose a ' handsome backgammon or chess set or one of the other traditionally popular games. (Giant jigsaw puzzles are recommended for fanatics only.) A sporty twosome will welcome camping or athletic equipment a double sleeping bag is a good choice. Special backpackers' dinners for two are available in the freezedried foods section at sportinggoods stores. His and hers warmup suits, shorts and sweatbands accompanied by scented massage oils . might be appropriate for dedicated joggers. ij2 rSest Permanent? At Wit's End Ten Best Threats From Moms7 List BY ERMA BOMBECK No one can pinpoint the exact day the first threat was made by a mother. ' As close as anyone can figure, it was around the time of Eve who said to her son, Cain, "If you don't stop making faces at your brother, your face will turn into a pillar of salt." 1 Whatever you think of threats and intimidation, it's a weapon that has worked for mothers for years and is passed on from generation to generation. Your ten basic menacing threats are still being used today and are as successful as ever in instilling fear and mistrust in a child. "If you don't keep your hand in the carthe wind will blow your hand off." Despite the fact that you never knew anyone personally who had a hand blown off, I've never met a child who wants to take that chance. "You cross your eyes one more time and they'll freeze that way." There was a rumor once of a telethon for frozen eyes of children who played the odds and lost, but it's not documented. "Don't you dare wash your hair after 8:30 or you'll catch pneumonia." Someone's grandfather died once from pneumonia. I couldn't believe he didn't know better than to wash his hair after 8:30. "If you don't comb your hair, the rats will build a nest in it." Would it look any different? "You keep playing with those matches and you'll wet the bed." I was 35 before I trusted myself to light the stove for dinner. "Those who play with their gum get very sick." Do you want to tell your mother that makes no sense whatsoever? , "Drink coffee before you're out of high school and your teeth will turn black. "Sit up straight or your spine will grow that way." "Eat everything on your plate or I'm sending your food to the Armenians. I always wondered what the Armenians did with all those cold vegetables. 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