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THE SUNDAY NEWS, OCTOBER 19S8-35 I ETIQUETTE, by Kitle Turmcll Teenagers Learn Social Know-How In Foursomes NORMAN VINCENT PEALE Gloomy Negativisms Can Breed Disease Dr. Ptalo I ks ttteeeetkistevt 4 Th fastest, most painless way to learn the ins and do's and donta of dating is on the double. Thats the advice of those who keep a professional eye on agers and their problems. Two of these experts, Dr. Rita Bur-j dett, head of programming for the Camp Fire Girls, and Mrs.

Eunice Brunst, national pro- gram adviser for the Horizon Cluhs (Camp Fire teen-age groups), are all for foursome outings especially for the junior high set. Many young teen-agers, uneasy in their first boy-girl situations, just dont know how to keep conversation going, they point out. Obviously, with four to contribute to the chatter, therell be fewer self-conscious gaps. No matter what your age or dating status, some things to do picnics, skating parties, parlor games are the more the merrier activities. Also, ideas about what to do and where to go flow more freely with more than two to make suggestions.

Gain More Friends Expanding your circle of friends is another reason for the fun for four approach, the Camp Fire leaders agreed in a double interview. No matter how much you thrill at the idea of your first steady, youre better off when you meet as many other boys or girls as possible, and learn how to get along with all of them. On the debit side of going double, inability to get along with your dates friends may make your partner think less pf you, they note. Haviag a best friend along sometimes encourages kid stuff behavior like stealing signs. The other couple may neck conspicuously, want to drink or visit places that are off-limits.

When the actions of others makes you uneasy, the best solution is to suggest a change not as though you are sitting in judgment, but as though youd just thought of something wonderful to do, these youth-leaders advise. Aids Process of Learning Most of the problems that come up also arise on single dates. There are always uncomfortable situations that one has to go through in the process of learning. Its easier if youre not alone while the lessons are in progress. Promptness is important on double dates otherwise you keep three waiting.

The boys ought to agree, if vthey can get together beforehand, on where to go; compare the state of their wallets and arrange some pay-as-you-go system to avoid public financial negotiations. Its up to the remainder of the foursome to get the one with the earliest curfew home on time. Finally, good-nights should be short, pleasant, and private. No one wants an audience for his tender moments! Blind Dates When a girl and boy have been dating long enough to know each other fairly well, the question of getting a blind date for her best friend or his favorite chum pops up. A little note-comparing will make sure that the tallest girl in school isnt being paired off with a fellow who just reaches her elbow.

Each of the blind datees could do with some advance information, about the other. He can be told, for example, that shes a whiz on skates. If she knows he cop lects rocks, she, can brush up on her geology. Its up to you and your date lfited spirit. It urges us to lift up our eyes unto the hills.

Because I am writing this rolumn in Switzerland, it is scarcely possible to avoid heeding this Biblical injunction. Perhaps one reason people love Switzerland is that it keeps one constantly looking up, so that presently you actually begin to feel uplifted. One of my favorite places in this gem of a country is a balcony on the hotel at Interlaken. My longtime friend, Ulrick Liggenstrofer, true Swiss host, always keeps this same room and balcony for me. There Ive watched the mighty Jungfrau in all its moods.

Even my bed is so arranged that if 1 awaken early I may watch the great mountain emerge from the dawning mists to meet another day. How many times I have repeated those words as 1 have looked upon the Jungfrau: I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, and felt my spirit rise. They Can Relax All day long, amidst intermittent sun, fog and snow, i have been watching climbers heading upward from near the base of the Matterhorn. All of these mountain climbers seem to have bright eyes. And they have a marked ability to relax.

There is no tension in them, only a quietly expressed joy and friendliness. And now, come e'ening, I am astonished at the sense of peace and happiness within me. Perhaps this really wonderful contentment is from having fellowship with kindly, simple, strong people who themselves possess this uplifted spirit which my doctor friend in London prescribed. So, it is good to live with big things mountains, music, art, big thoughts, great ideas and most important, God. If you are not happy, but very much want to be, I suggest a trial of the prescription, Get your spirit lifted.

YouU enjoy your first dates more if they're foursomes or moresome for group activity. Dating with other couples is the sugar-coated way to learn the hows and whens of boy-girl relations. to go with the boy to pick up his blind date. You perform the introductions girls name first, remember. When she greets you at the door.

Then come the introductions to parents naming them first. If a girl is wise, and time and family-schedule permits, shell offer a cold coke or pop in the kitchen or den to break the ice. For lists of date-guide booklets, write to: Dept. TE at Public Affairs Committee, 22 E. 38th New York City 16; Science Research Associates, 57 W.

Grand Chicago 10, 111., and Association Press, 291 Broadway, New York City 17. BENNETT CERF Try And Stop Me But, doctor, what then is my trouble? You say you find nothing wrong with me physically. But how can a person feel so badly and still check normally? It just doesn't make sense. 1 The patient, a man in his early fifties, had for a solid hour unloaded a mass of gripes, cynicisms and gloomy negativisms to the London physician who told me of this incident. Arent you aware of the sickening effect of such thoughts and attitudes? the doctor asked.

The physical body is sensitive to mental depression such as yours. Medicine can do nothing for you. In fact, I wont prescribe anything, not even a sedative. But will give you a prescription, and if you follow it I believe you can become a healthy person. Get Your Spirit Lifted The doctor scribbled something on his prescription pad and shoved it across the desk.

The man stared at it. Get your spirit lifted was all that it said. But that is no real prescription, the patient complained. What do you mean, get my spirit lifted? What I mean is that you need some inspiration that will purge your thinking. At present you are hogged down in mental and spiritual darkness.

And diseases breed in such darkness. Better change your outlook. IIow do that? Well, try listening to some high grade music. Read a really great book. Maybe go to Switzerland and live with the mountains for a fortnight.

However you do it, get your spirit lifted or you can expect trouble, concluded the physician. Dont Let Inspiration Sag How right he is. We must ever he on guard lest the zest and inspiration of life sag on us. Youve got to keep the tone up if you really want to enjoy life and be effective as a person. Get your spirit lifted.

What good advice that is! But long before I heard that from a London physician my mother tried to teach it to me as a child. She was a person of boundless enthusiasms. To her everything was exciting. She got an enormous thrill out of living, and even advancing years, together with sickness and suffering, did nothing to dampen her keen and joyous delight in life itself. She taught her children, both by example and advice, that, You can do anything with yourself if you really want to.

How often I heard her say that. But to do that, she warned, you have got to keep in tune with the highest. Never, never let yourself sag. Cultivate a God-replenished spirit and you can always meet life with victorious enthusiasm. That was her philosophy and she drummed it into her three boys.

Always Look Up The Bible, which is always concerned with our welfare, also prescribes the up RALPH AND TERRY KOVEL for four deserving but penniless students he laugh; for nothing. One day she iniiste(f that he tell her what he honestly thought of her voice. My dear, he announced gravely, if you possessed in the upper register what you lack in the lower, youd be starring at the Met this very moment! bur iquep Bennett Cerf man feel old and unwanted before his time? demands Adams. Consider the case of P. T.

Barnum. He was already 61, endowed with more wordly goods than ever he could find use for, when he first organized the circus that later became known as the Greatest Show on Earth! A star came to New York between pictures with a wad of $5,000 burning a hole in his pocket. Problem: Should he buy a small piece of a pals new musical revue, or get the little woman the mink coat for which she had been yearning? He compromised by buying into the show but promising his wife two coats if it proved to be a hit. After the tryout, the star sent his wife this wire: Ive got bad news for you. Your coats closed in New Haven last night A famous singing teacher accepted only particularly talented pupils with one exception.

He allowed this lady to enroll who couldnt sing a note, but was so rich that the money he collected from her made up 'V Las Vegas, insists Joe E. Lewis, is a community where hostesses on approaching planes caution, Please fasten your money-belts. Samuel Hopkins Adams, still writing bestsellers in his 80s, indignantly rejects the idea that a man should retire before hes at least seventy. Why make a The very same fluffy pie thats known as Boston cream pie in Washington is called Washington cream pie in Boston. You explain it! SUNDAY CROSSWORD PUZZLE WORD GAME TODAY'S WORD-PTERYLA (PTERYLA: TER-i-la.

A feather tract.) AVERAGE MARK 56 WORDS TIME LIMIT. ...45 MINUTES At least 63 dictionary words of four or more letters can be found in the letters in Pteryla. Can you find as many or more? RULES OF THE GAME-1. Words must be of four or more letters. 2.

Words which acquire four letters by the addition of such as "hats," eats, dies," hers," are not used 3. Only one form of a word is used. For example, either pose or "posed, not both. 4. When a noun is formed from a verb by adding or er," such as poser, finder, either the noun or the verb is used, but not both.

5. When an adjective is formed by adding an adjectival termination to another word, such as worthy from "worth, poetic from poet, either the adjective or the word from which it is formed may be used, but not both. 6. Slang words are not used, nor words of foreign origin unless well established in English. 7.

Proper names are not used. Answer on Page 28. -Ytr Ralph is examining a sewing basket Terry has discovered in a collection of Shaker furniture. The chair and small table are both 19th century pieces made by this interesting religious sect. 15-Year-Old May Be Next Chess Champion Of World Q.

Is Shaker furniture being made today? A. Shakers do not make furniture but small baskets and other items still are being made. Shaker furniture always was simple in design. It is claimed to be the inspiration for many of todays modern pieces. The Shakers were a religious sect that did not allow its members to have children, and all Shaker children were adopted.

The sect dwindled until only a handful remain today. Q. Twenty-eight years ago I found a small box under the eaves of an old house. The sides appear to be pressed wood with a grape design. The lid pictures a lady and gentleman.

She appears to be offering him something over a counter. Above them are the words VAR SA GODOCH TAG EN PRIS. Underneath them it says TACK -MIN VAN. Can you help me identify this? A. You found a Swedish snuff box.

This box seems to be a commercial package that probably was made before 1900. The Swedish words say Be so kind and take a pinch (of snuff), Thanks my friend. pion, Russia's Mikhail Botvin-nik. So far, this hasnt meant much to most Americans, who look on chess as an intricate pasttime for contemplative graybeards. But now even people uninterested in chess are beginning to feel it would be a fine feather in Uncle Sams cap to have Bobby whip Russias best players in a game that commands great attention in Europe and South America.

Bobby himself who presents a porcupine exterior to the world doesnt show much interest in possible cold-war implications of his career. He just wants to be champion. Kmoch, secretary of the Manhattan Chess Club, which is the nerve center of chess in the United States. Fischer is something unique. None of the great ones ever complished so much so early.

Youngest In History lie has become an interna-t i a 1 grand-master the youngest in the long history of the game and will meet the worlds top seven players this year in a challengers tournament. The exact date and place remain to be determined The winner will get a crack at tha present world chem- TIZZY by Kate Osanu NEW YORK (AP) Theres a Batman comic book on his bedside table and a rock roll program blaring over his radio. Hes slouchy, gangly and crew-cut. But Batman is sprawled over an open chess book and his nail-bitten fingers are deftly moving chess pieces over the black and white board which means more to him than anything else in his life. Bobby Fischer doesnt want to be a baseball star or a football player or the most popular fellow at the prom.

He wants to be chess champion of the world and it seems a pretty sure bet he will be. To Beat Russians? Most Americans dont know it, but their honor in a big international contest with Russia is riding on the thin shoulders of this 15-year-old boy from Brooklyn. Bobby is hailed by the experts as the greatest chess mind the world has produced in many years. He doesnt look like one he looks more like a farmers boy than an intellectual but he is a genius, says Hans STAR By CLAY R. POLLAN UMA SEPT 23 OCT.

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