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A mW MM pi I tF K-' T5 Party With a 'jr: ahUttbffiribunr 5, 1972 29 Roman Accent 4 Rounding up the Debs PARTIES for this years White? Ball, debs will start off with a bang a week from tonight when Dr. and Mrs. Samuel Etheredge toss a Western Round-up party in their Piedmont home for daughter Tricia. The debs and their dates have' been invited to attend mWestera garb, of supporters for Boys' Towns of in the Grand By joan McKinney Tribune Staff Writer and the evening will get underway with fquare dancing led by a professional caller. A sit-down dinner and danc- Jng to the music of Walt Tollesons orchestra will Mowv mont Hotel in ban rran-The Etheredge home, which handily has its own ball-' csco tor Saturday room, will be with such appropriate Western night's annual 'Ball of props as brands, wagon wheels ahd old-fashioned lan- The $100-a- terns.

Trida will wear a fxouple dinner dance red and white checked drew Rt. Rev. Msgr. John cotton dresser her PatfIck Carroll-Abbing, gathered Ballroom of the Fair- i W' -fi I If I were a carpenter and you were a lady, would you marry me anyway and have Tmybaby? These are the words of a current popular ballad and, says Dr. Aiiie Hochschild, as- In this setting, women make love what I would call a religion, a form of ideology.

Like others, it serves the interests of one section of the community while purporting to serve the whole; it operates to keep a caste system going, sistant professor of sociology at the University of Calif nia, anyway is the key As the church is to hiS' and it provides some Special guests at, the party will be the debs brother, Dr. Stephen Etheredge, wholl be here from Seattle, where hes interning a University Hospital; and her sister and brother-in-law, Suz Ifi; pv i'? of Boys' Towns of Italy, who flew in from Rome -for the charity event. Honored guests included Prince and Princess-de Giovanni dl Santa Severjna (he's the Italian Consul for the Bay Area); Benjamin H. Swig, Cyril Magnin, William Arman-ino and Mr. and Mrs.

Peter Manteganis. anne and Bill Ramseyer, wholl be here from their home in San Jose. Suzanne came out at the second Winter Ball, in 1959. -V 4 Tribtm photo by Pntfc Brook Sam Enea of Alamo and Olga Castelan of Concord took to the dance floor at the Boys Towns of Italy, ball at the Fairmont Thirty one girls will curtsy at this years edition of the debutante ball sponsored by Hill Branch as a benefit for Childrens Hospital Medical Center. It will be held Ded 21 at the St.

Francis Hotel. But from where we sit, the partying for the debs prior to that date will be legion. Its nice that the Eastbay deb event has drawn such a large number of girls this year. Last year, there were less than half as many who curtsied. 'fS SURPRISE of the week comes from Oakland artist Henrietta (Hank) Berk, who is telling, friends she and Paul Farberman plan to be married Tuesday in Reno.

Paul is a brother Of Oakland Symphony Orchestra Conductor Harold Farberman. Paul and Hank first met when he cable here for a vist from his home in JJUi Filice of El Cerrito the Italian benefit Milton and Papsie Shoong of Orinda sat out a dance at gala in San Francisco 1 i a' 5 'A (Me and Mrs. Peter dined and danced at SKOR isansa 3 SWIVEL ROCKER NYLON PRINT COVER Foam Cushions GfcdJfl? Quit? txmttm iimnitrc QRM oQHB All and HENRIETTA BERK be Mrs. Farberman word. Speaking at Mills Col lege this week in the student faculty sponsored series on women, Dr.

Hochschild used-thisjas an illustration of her theory that love and the market place are inextricably connected. With Love and Social Control as her subject, she took issue with poets who, she said, Jntimate that love is timeless, that it bridges inequality of spheres, and that it is equally important to both men and women. It is my beginning hypothesis as a sociologist that the poets are wrong, she declared. Love Is not timeless, it is not equal, it reflects eco-. nomic development, and it is more important to women than to men.

The principles of the market place, said the young professor, have long been applied to love and not only in the commercial sense of prostitution. We think in terms of whatjs my investment, what is my worth? and we know that there is such athing as a marketable personality, and that the person who does not have one usually fails in the world. she said. So strong is the image of the market place price tag (Hes a good catch, shes too good for him) the romantic conception of love is that it is priceless, Dr. Hochschild noted.

By contrast, there is the principle of home and family, where love is based not on bargains but on genuine care for a person. CHOOSE FROM SEVERAL COLOR COMBINATIONS REG 59.95 SiwlRpm MEDICAL MEMO The bride-elect has a show of tier paintings opening tonight at the Saisset Art Gallery and 'Museum at the University of Santa Clara. After that shell make plans for her wedding. On the newlyweds return theyll be honored at a reception, probably in the Piedmont home of his brother and sister-in-law, Harold and Corinne Farberman. Executives the tory, so love is to the It holds it together.

And as the priest mediates between the believer and God, so the husband mediates between the woman and the world outside. He is the middleman, the proxy. But there is something like tte Protestant revolution 1 going on now. And just as the church is no longer bound to the hierarchy, so women are showing that they dont need intermediaries any more. 4 1 Though Dr.

Hochschild4! does believe that egalitarian. love is possible, die recognizes the obstacles put in its path. A woman, she can seldom make a pure i choice when contemplating marriage. It determines where she lives, goes for vacations, gets a job; whether she has children, who her friends has to choose very care-, fully, because she is shopping for a life. A man doesn't" have this problem he just needs' someone to come along with while shed opt for an "equality model over others now in existence, Hochschild concluded that in -my ideal society everything would not be homogenized, Jack-Jill, John-Jane.

There should be room for lotsof dif--ferent styles of relationships. And we have to determine the scales we are weighing them on. As it is now, money is the main one. A very small number of people can rise above the money balance to the status balance, and practically none can rise above both. AHn mn onnEffi 033? 84" Wide NYLON COVER GOLD COLOR FOAM CUSHIONS BUDGET SHOP SPECIAL Qtaa CritBE six months ago.

-They renewed their friendship last we.ek at the Oakland Symphony Guilds Hair and Horses benefitat GoldenGate Fields, and decided this week to be married. Paul, now plans to re-locate in the Eastbay. He talked about disposing of his catering business and mqy-; ing here, when he. first visited his brother and sister-in-law in; Piedmont. Now theres no doubt a his plans.

Both ank and Paul have grown children by previous marriages. He lias four 'daughters. She has a daughter, Ann, and a son, Steve Berk. MRS. JOHN CUTTER glass bottom boat TONIGHTS the night of the wine tasting party and art fair to be given by Friends of Guide Dogs for the Blind at the Galleon on Alamedas Pacific Marina.

Mrs. Edward Purcell and Virginia Gohn head the committee vforthebenefitrWO and Mirassou Vineyards will present five Of their premium wines. -v 0 0 0 --v A top executive of a large advertising agency walked into the washroom and found three junior executives When you look at the dean-cut faces of in an office it seems the last place where you would find dope addicts. Yet the epidemic is so rampant it has spread from back "alleys and sordid one-room flats into elegant homes and business establishments. Its roots also spread deep into 'factories "invading all departments and an jobs.

An automobfle union re- LITTLE NOTES the Oakland Junior League will have an in-league (members and husbands only) dinner dance Saturday evening. May 13, at Round Hill Country Club Mary Pickford wont he able to make it to the Amador-Livermore Valley Historical Societys May 16 showing of 'Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm, but standing SALESMAN'S SAMPLES! ML SIZES If SMALL THROW RUGS 00 3'x5'4'x6' Colors Mostly WOOL positionandare-Ftish? the taking barbiturates to keep plants. The addicts give them- your nerves steady, to sleep selves injections the wash- soundly and to do better job, -rooms. A check by the medi- y0U are actually preparing NYLON Limited to Stock on HandHurry! in for her will be her friend, Claire Windsor, wholl be remembered by old-timers as A1 Jolsons leading lady in Wonder-bar. That film was rected by Marshall Nei-land, who also directed Rebecca, which was filmed in the Livermore Valley, which is the reason the historical society is sponsoring a benefit-showing of the film.

And just to make sure everything is kicked off with gusto, committee members for the May 16 benefit will take a short, flight (7 to 3(J p.m.) next Wednesday a a an American Airlines 747 jet 9W 99 IIYLOII-MIXED COLORS worker, doesnt respect company rules, is found dealing in drug traffic during working hours or on company prem-Isesorlsconvictedofaiiar- cotic violation, then he is dismissed. The drug addict Is given exi actly the same opportunity as anyone else and he does not have to hide the fact that he has this habit So long as he is a good employee and contin-uesJo seek treatment he can keep his job. What he does with' this opportunity is up to him. A 0 0 0 yourself to get fired. A person who habitually takes sedatives cannot think; clearly.

And anyone who cannot think clearly is of no use to a company. The occasional use of a mild sedative or a sleeping pill is understandable and can be -benefidaL But when taken day after day, night after night, it is detrimental to ones mind. Barbiturates act so much, like alcohol it is sometimes difficult to tell which of the two the person is taking. Many persons under the influence of a sedative have been thrown into jails as common drunks even though they may not have touched a drop of liquor. Yet they look and act drunk.

-431. L. Herschensohn, MJ. Limited ti stock oil hind cal department in one auto factory revealed that among 186 workers there were 15 addicts! The stereotype impression of a heroin addict is not necessarily, true. Many have good positions and do a good job so long as they are able to get the heroin they need to satisfy their craving, provided they obtain it in legitimate channels as is possible in some countries.

However, in most countries including the United BGE)QrJi SGV SOLID emeu You know how it is, you have to have SOMEPLACE to plan things. WHAT WOULD you want If you had a big duck pond In your frontyard? A glass bottom boat, of course, silly. Well Jack Cutter thought itd he just dandy to have one an addict may become a push-for the pond by the new house hes building on the old er he maY 1)6 forced to Walter Boysen property in Orinda. So he bought one for his wife for her birthday. Only trouble is that her birthday is in July and he couldnt wait to give it to her.

He considered Mothers Day, but decided that was too far off too. So he presented the boat to her on Easter. At the 'moment, the Cutters are still living in Piedmont and the boat is sitting on the pond in Orinda. But as soon as they get their fyrase built, Jack and Kay say theyll take States heroin cannot be; legally prescribed for addicts so the only way to get it is illegally. This boosts the cost to at least $50 to $75 a day.

To support this expensive habit equipment There are a few compa- which give addicts an op- portunity to work even though they know there may be prob- Such potential ees arrtold that they will be given the same chances as TRIPLE DRESSER CHEST NITE STANDS KING SIZE BED The similarity between barbiturate addiction and al-. coholism is also present when -a person decides to quit tak-nies jng tbe drug suddenly. He is just as likely to get the DTs '(delirium tremens) as any al-lems. employ-; cholic who craves and cannot get 6 friends out In the boat between parties. It seats felt In the round.

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