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1 'r Ann Landers akUab 2S.rtbttH July 1 0, 1 972 1 5 Washington Close-Up GRIM AM) BEAR IT By Lichty First Wifes Ashes Parked in Garage Better This Time to Have Nine Opinions By LYLE DENNISTON S' fci 11 11 I Dear Wan: Keep your pea-pickin hands off your husbands property. He probably keeps ft for the same reason some women hang on to their old high school and college relics. 1 DEAR ANN: This isnt a serious problem, but it bugs me because I know something 13 wrong and Im not sure what should be done about it DEAR ANN: Your advice to Fraidy Kat gave me the courage I needed to write about a problem that has been bothering me for a long time. Fraidy Kat was a widow whose second husband carried his first wifes picture in his wallet for two years. She was afraid to look and see if it was still there.

It made her very sad that he couldnt give it up. You said, Dont look. Simply buy him a new wallet and put your picture in it. Three years ago I married a widower. Quite by accident I ran across his first wifes ashes in our garage.

The ashes are in an urn, packed in a box the same box they were shipped in by the state. I feel uneasy about this but Ive never said anything. I believe the best place for the ashes is in a cemetery. What should I do? SECOND WIFE Outwardly, -it may have looked like a failure for the Supreme Court to labor long over capital punishment, and then come to no solid legal conclusion about it i Actually, this was something of a tribute to the Justices. 1 No more agonizing constitutional question has come before the court in modern times; the public was fully entitled to know how the individual justices stood on this one.

True, the court was obliged, as a court, to reach a result which might offer constitutional guidance. It met that obligation, but quite imperfectly; the final result it reached is hard to follow. It is not clear, now whether there could be any death penalty law which could win Supreme-Court approval too far in authorizing cruel forms of punishment, and judges perhaps then would have to step in and say no. Howev-'i pr, that point bad not been reached yet. It would not be fair to 'conclude that this was an easy position.

As Blackmuns opinion showed, in referring to his personal abhorrence for the death penalty, it could be very hard to give tacit approval to someone elses moral judgment in favor of death sentences. So, the country can have no doubt just how far these judicial conservatives are prepared to go with their refusal to use the law as a liberating force in society. With the four conservatives unwilling to strike death sentences as a matter of law, the pressure was consequently much heavier on the courts middle men, the moderate Justices Potter Stewart and Byron R. White. Peter and I plan to be married within, the next six months.

We have luntrhto- gether every day and we meet every evening after work. We eat dinner together almost every night and visit till midnight or 1 ajn. On weekends we spend all our time together. 'v And somewhere in this grsat auditorium thero is a born loador of men! In tho next five days woro going to find that man! So whats bad about that? Nothing, except I suddenly realized when I started to think about plans for the wedding that I dont have any girl friends. For the last three years Ive been saying no to everybody but Peter.

The girls I work with are nice but I never see them except in the office. We are all busy during working hours so theres no time to get The Last Word Dear S.W.: Inform your husband that yon have come across the box and you feel the garage is not an appropriate place for ft. Tell him that many people who request cremation ask. that their ashes be strewn over a lake, or a river, or a favorite meadow. A friend of mine has requested that her ashes be put in an urn and placed in the Pump Room in Chicago and Im not kidding.

One more vote for judicial abstinence, and 600 men and women on death row in state and federal prisons would have been doomed. Neither Stewart nor White was ready to cast a vote that would have achieved that result by the slimmest of margins, 5-4. The moral burden could have been exceedingly heavy. Privacy, Politics And Other Things By CLIFTON DANIEL Do you feel I am making a mistake? To be truthful Id rather be with Peter than anybody, but maybe this isnt the best thing for our relationship. Please guide LOVE HIM BEST May I be allowed, please, a few quick on the news that was happening while I was lolling on the beach over the Fourth of July weekend? I quit lolling, incidentally, and sat bolt upright when newspaper arrived with this headline: Mar-.

tha Wins! Mitchell Quits Nixon Campaign. Dear Love: You and Peter will enjoy each other more if you broaden your acquaintanceship to include others. Start by. having lunch every other day with some of the girls. And one evening a week you and Peter should go your separate ways for some activity cultural, political athletic, intellectual Youll be more inter-' esting to one another.

Too ranch together- ness can stifle individual growth. DEAR ANN: Ive been married for three years to a man who never was much of a talker but Ive always had the feeling the quiet fellows are the real hell-raisers. Now it appears my hunch may be right. I just discovered what I thought was his mothers recipe box one of those wooden, kitchen-type index files jammed with names, addresses, telephone numbers, dimensions, and a -few comments which appear to be performance ratings. I have not told my husband I found it.

Should He never goes anyplace without me (that I know of) and I have no reason to suspect that he is seeing anyone. But Im baffled as to why he hangs on to the junk if he has no use for it. What should I do? WANDA But, for the court to have done better in this respect would have meant that some justices would have had to submerge their individual reactions into a compromise that could -command a definite majority. This time, that could well have been the wrong thing to do. The task before each justice involved not only legal choices, but moral choices as welL It was a task which, essentially, could not have been shared.

The constitutional phrase that was under review by the court in the death penalty cases forbids any form of punishment that is cruel and unusual. Obviously, any attempt to define a word such as cruel will test ones attitude on a moral question. Of course, one way that a judge could approach the task of definition was to choose not to define, leaving it to others those who write the criminal laws-to say what is cruel in a moral sense. Still, there is no reason to think that leaving the issue to others is not a moral judgment of its own. That puts the judge in the position of ratifying, by implication, the legislators views on cruelty.

Four justices of the court came close to that position. They are the four who were listed as the dissenters from the result the court reached: Chief Justice Warren E. Burger and Justices Harry A. Blackmun, Lewis F. Powell Jr.

and William H.Rehnquist While each insisted that the phrase cruel and unusual punishment could have a changing meaning constitutionally, they felt that any changing should be left to federal and state legislators. At some point, these four Justices seemed to say, the legislators might go Herewith my comments: Martha Mitchell is more to be pitied than scorned. And that goes double for John Mitchell Ann Landers will be glad to help you with your problems. Sena them to her at At the same time, Stewart and White seemed to distrust the temptation and it must have been strong to go the other way and supply deciding votes which, would make it certain that death verdicts were outlawed once and for all under the Constitution. Stewart and White went searching for someone elses moral judgment They-concluded that legislators had not made a binding commitment to capital punishment, because nearly all laws on the death sentence did not compel its imposition for the specified crimes.

The moral question thus had been bucked to judges and juries. Stewart found that death sentencing, in practice, had become capricious, and White conqjuded that capital punishment had been treated as if it were no longer a useful means to social ends. In essence, these two justices implied that they could endorse death as a moral mandate of law, only if it had been truly mandated. In the courts liberal bloc, there was no real hesitation to void capital punishment as a constitutional matter. Justice William 0.

Douglas judged that the system of death sentencing had become a constitutional outrage because it was blatantly discriminatory. For him, it could have no moral justification. Box 3346, Chicago, III 60654, in care of this newspaper, enclosing a self-addressed, stamped envelope. I thought the newspapers the ones 1 read showed a commendable retidence in dealing with their private troubles. They only printed what the Mitchells told them.

Hal Boyle Some Quips Bound To Win You Enemies And speaking of privacy, Im glad Jacqueline Onassis won her suit to make Bonald Galella, the American paparazzo, keep his distance from her and her children. I believe the press should be free and people who seek publicity deserve wbat they get, but freedom of the press is not a license to harass a private citizen pursuing a private life. Further comment: I dont understand a system that automatically promotes, to Army Chief of Staff every commanding general who goes out to Vietnam and fails to win the war. WM Another system I dont understand: A candidate wins one primary after another. He comes within reach of the Democratic presidential nomi-' nation.

Then the losers try to take it away from him. This is Democracy? GOT AMY INCHES TO SPARE? You say you cooked this all by yourself? Maybe thats whats wrong with it. I could lend you the money myself, for that but in the long run it wouldnt do any real good. I suppose that sooner or later youll want to know who put that dent in the fender of our new car. Well, let me tell you.

I know that you and Mom have done a lot for me, Dad, but I also know of other parents who have done a lot more for their kids. What in the world ever gave you the notion that if I had my life to live over that Id want to many you again? The trouble with you, Henry, is that you let anybody and everybody use you as a doormat. Dont you ever get tired of having other people wipe their shoes off on you? I say is that if you've lost 15 pounds like you claim, why dont it show? You've got a face that only a mother could love and shed have to be pretty near-sighted. Just sitting around feeling sorry for yourself Isnt going to make the situation any better. About poor sportsmanship: Bobby Fischer may be the worlds best chess player, but he cant prove it until he sits down and plays the world champion, Boris Spassky of the Soviet Union.

Meanwhile, hes embarrassing his fellow-countrymen by greedy, petulant behavior and bad manners. NEW YORK Remarks that always leave scars: Hi, Fatso! Dear John, All I can say is that I just got tired of waiting and you were over there but he was here. Mother, please try to act your age. Yeah, that was quite an experience, all right, but I think I can tell you about one, that happened to me thatll top it and mine has the further advantage of being a true story. I like you a lot, Bertram, but not in that way.

I hope youre not one of those girls who expect a guy to propose to them the first time he puts his arm around them. Maude, I just adore your new engag-ment ring. Its just right for you. Dont you think those with the big stones in them are kind of showoffy? Another season of sitting on the bench wont hurt you, son. The trouble with you right now, tad, is that you got a million-dollar body but only a 10-cent brain.

Hullo, Shorty. When are you ever going to start to grow up? Wen, speaking frankly, Fred, the reason you havent got one in the last 10 years is that they are given only for merit. Of course, I could sell you a size 40 THEN WHY NOT GIVE 'EM TO US? LIKE ANNETTE FLAGSTRUP DID-SHE LOST 18V2 INCHES IN JUST 20 HOURS, HERE AT KINNIE AAARIE'S! ANNETTE SAYS: "I'MAMAZED! IN ONLY 20 HOURS AT KINNIE MARIES I HAVE LOST I8V2 INCHES AND J3Va POUNDSI IM VERY PLEASED TO HAVE POUND THiy EFFECTIVE AND EASY WAY TO LOSE INCHES AND ANNETTE FLAGSTRUP BERKELEY While Im on the subject of international relations Soviet-American chess relations another thing that made me sit up on the beach and take notice was the agreement between North and South Korea on principles of reunification. It was one of those rare pleasant surprises in the news. And it makes you wonder why they couldnt have agreed on those principles before the Korean war, instead of two decades later.

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Maybe instead of Jielping my condition they were what was causing it That was a nice column you wrote last week, Boyle. Whod you steal the idea from? and keep them as a souvenir. Here, lets see what the tape measure says. Hey, boy, what are you doing here? This is a mans job. havent had a riot all week.

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bring out all the circumstances and all the legal implications and a jury is able to take a stand for justice both winner and loser have a share in this victory for society. And when opposing candidates join in sharpening the issues and in bringing out the richness and depth of their personalities so that voters can make educated choices, in a real sense everybody comes out a winner. I am resolved to keep this in mind in the future. I will wish and pray that all opposing teams, counsel and candidates will be able to enjoy the great satisfactions which come from knowing what a great contribution they are making as losers to the general For myself, I will by to be content and make do if my favorite teams and candidates turn out to be nothing but winners. Our society has an adequate enjoyment of and appreciation of victory and winners but it tends to overlook or underestimate the role and function of loss and losers.

As a general rule there cannot even be winners if there are not also losers. They are mutuaL The relationship is quite evident in something like the mile run. If the contes-tants come pounding together to the finish line and there is a winner at a world record time ft is easy enough to see that the other participants fairly drove the victor to his accomplishment. Thus all who ran in the fine race have earned a share in thevictory. There are areas besides sports in which the losers role Is significant and worthy.

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