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Mary Haworth Woman Can't Cope With An Elusive, Melancholy Spirit DEAR "MARY HAWORTH: I feel I need help. I have a good husband and two boys, ages 6 and 4. We live in the suburbs: a sort of small town. I am from England, where I lived until eight years ago. An aunt raised us, as my mother had a mental breakdown after losing a five-year-old.

1 came here primarily to look for a husband and found a good one. I never had interesting jobs, although I was given a good education, without making best use of it. We, my. husband and were going into the motel business, which I would have enjoyed; but the motel went 'bankrupt and we lost money. I would like to train for something eventually, when the children are older I do go to night Bchool, as the children already are getting easier.

I found babies very confining, I seem to need friends too much and lonely feelings. I can't point to any special problem but I do feel frustrated. I can't afford psychiatry and I do want to be a balanced, well adjusted person and to know myself. I like hiking and cultural things, oil painting and books. Could you recommend some helpful reading? Please advise me as I have no relatives here.

(I feel so disappointed in the loss of the motel.) Yours truly, G. Y. Hasn't Digested Early Heartaches DEAR G.Y.: Your elusive melancholy feelings of frustration, as If waiting in suspense for meaningful adult life to begin, probably are an unconscious carry-over from years ago, when you were being scarred emotionally by your mother's suffering reaction to tribulations that finally crushed her mental resiliency. The probability Is that In going to live with an aunt, with a staggering amount of inconiprehensible and Incommunicable childhood heartsickness hidden below deck, so to speak, in your mind, you became a citizen of worlds, figuratively. To all appearances, Insofar as your associates of that time could see, you were a participating member of your aunt's household.

But simultaneously you were a pilgrim in a secret world of nostalgia and hope. On Overlooking Use Of "What Is" In this secret garden of the mind-you were reaching back In memory to life with your 'mother, as displaced children will, regardless of the past insufficiency; and also reaching forward to a vision of "fullness of Joy," to a time when "the good life" would dawn for you, replete with fine husband, true love, nice children and a queen bee status socially, centered In a cluster of devoted friends. In ho everything that a wistful castoff child might dream of, as heart satisfaction in the bye- and-bye. A child thus preoccupied, habitually caught between two worlds: the heartbreak (almost unbearable) world reality and the "recompense 1 world of hopeful day dream- Ing, tends not to take a very firm grip of here-and-now potentials for "making best use of what-ls." And you prac- Lebanon Daily News, Lebanon, Wednesday, May 26, 1965 Home Gardener Page 17 Vines Give Effect Of Coolness 4my Vunderbill tically admit this has been your tendency. You've been given a good education, without making commensurate use of it.

Babies you found confining. As of today, you are waiting for your children to get grown-up and out of the way. You invested hopes of happiness in motel ownership that didn't pan out. Always the vital ingredient of fulfilment seems to escape you. Why? Coining To Terms With Reality I think you are driven by the unmet needs of the long- ago "lost child" you were, needs that never can be met in present experience, inasmuch as the child no longer exists, though her unassuaged silent crying still reverberates in your personality.

The realistic path to satisfactory adult experience consists in taking stock of what's past and irremediable, and kissing it off, objectively. And then taking stock of what's in hand and within reach, in the here and now, and rallying your faculties to live it to the full, systematically, one day at a time. Try Family Relations coun- selling help, as a great forward step in getting to know yourself, in terms of your present resources, in a confidential continuing friendly interchange. M.H. Mary Haworth counsels through her column, not by mail or personal interview.

Write her in care of the Lebanon Daily News. By Edna K. Mandevllle Vines have many uses and each one can add charm to your home surroundings. They give an effect of coolness and avoid a bare-look appearance to walls and fences. Since most vines grow straight up, they can be used as background where there is not enough space for a shrub border or any bushy plant.

If your yard has a high fence for privacy, Hyacinth Bean will clothe it with a thick, green foliage and clusters of purple and white flowers. A garage window can be made more attractive by framing it moss-like Cy- with the delicate press Vine with its red and white blooms that look like stars, or with the fern-like foliage of Cardinal Climber. A trellis placed between two windows looks lovely with the double blooms of Sunrise Serenade Morning Glory. The colors include rose, lavender and blue. Forgive an occasional single flower as nature has not as yet been completely its insistence of overcome including in reminders of the varieties original state of "single blessedness." Another lovely climber is Moon Vine (Ipomoea Mexlcana Alba).

It is sometimes called Evening Glory because the flowers resemble Morning Glories. They are especially attractive on a summer evening when the large white flowers glisten in the moonlight. I know of nothing more peaceful and at the same time more intriguing than watching the flower open in the twilight. One has to arise rather early to see Heavenly Blue and Pearly Gates come into their glory. But that is not so with flowers of Moon Vine.

You may be interested to know where the seeds of Moon VS Their Engagements Announced Officers By Nurses Group Officers were elected Tuesday evening at a meeting of mem- of the Licensed Practical Curses the Good Samaritan Hospital. The meeting took place at the iospital with (Mrs. Vivian Weirich presiding. Miss Ann Smith, chaplain, gave a reading. The officers elected are: Mrs.

Vivian Weirich, president; Miss Jean Parker, vice president; Miss Faye Wagner, secretary; Mrs. Carole Briode, treasurer. Installation of the officers will take place at the next meeting, June 22. It will be in the form of a picnic. Miss Wagner read the secretary's report.

The financial report was submitted by Mrs. Dorothy Brown. Refreshments were served by Mrs. Brioda and Miss Sandra Lengle. Mr.

and Mrs. Charles W. Putt of 210 S. Wilson Cleo'na, announce the engagement of their daughter, Shelia to Kenneth Erdman. He is the pon of Mr.

and Mrs. Kennetli Erdman of 127 W. Chestnut Cleona. The prospective bride is a graduate of Annville- Cleona High School with the class of 1964. She is employed by the Home Insurance Company, Harrisburg.

Her fiance is also a 1964 graduate Annville- Cleona Higli School. He is employed by Engles chine Company, Lebanon. A summer wedding is being planned. A. an- Mr.

and Mrs. Henry Krall of Mt. Aetna nounce the engagement of their daughter, Vernetta Louise, to Paul M. Martin Jr. He is the son of Mr.

and Mrs. Paul S. Martin of Myerstown RD 2. The bride-elect is a graduate of Bethel High School with the class of 1963. She is employed by the Ivy Manufacturing Company, Frystown.

Her fiance attended Eastern Lebanon High School. He is employed' by his father as a farmer. The engagement of Miss Constance Lou daughter of Mrs. Myer E. Wenger of Quentin and the late Mr.

Wenger, to Kenneth K. Kershner has been announced by her mother. He is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Gaylord Kerehner of Mohrsville, Pa.

The prospective bride is a graduate of Cornwall High School and Goldey Beaconi School of Business, Wilmington, Delaware. She is employed as a bookkeeper at Farmers Trust Company. Her fiance is a graduate of Schuylkill Valley High School, Leesport, Pa. He is employed as shop foreman by Ladd Motors, Inc. Vine come from.

Although most seedsmen may not admit it, most seeds of this variety that are offered for sale in this country, regardless of the name of the seedsman on the packet, were raised near a small town in the state of Georgia by two southern ladies. Although they both bear the name Wilson, as far as I know, they are not related. In fact they are keen ftll competitors in the growing of Conn Moon Vines for seeds, each on I would her own plantation. So the next time you plant Moon Vines, just realize that they were raised by a southern belle who sat on the porch of her Georgia plantation on many a summer evening and viewed her acres of blooming Moon Vines to guard against the appearance of "blue coats" or any other colors in her fields. Tlie queen of any summer morning is the ever popular Heavenly Blue Morning Glory with its cheerful, giant flowers that often measure 4-5 inches across.

Perhaps you do not realize that four other Morning Glories have come out of Heavenly Blue. One is Summer Skies, a lighter shade of blue arid identical with Heavenly Blue in every other way. So is Blue Star Morning Glory which is a still lighter blue with streaks of a darker blue that forms the star that gives the variety its name. Pearly Gates is a pure white variety of the same flower. When the large white flowers glisten in the sunlight, it is a sight to behold.

The latest "sport" from Heavenly Blue, is called Flying Saucers, for what reason, I do not know. But I urge you not to be concerned about the name. The flower is a beauty. It is really like the lovely Pearly Gates with streaks and blotches the Heavenly Blue color spattered aimlessly throughout. The effect is as pleasing as it is striking.

You might like to try a "patriotic" grouping of Morning Glories. Plant Scarlet O'Hara, Pearly Gates, and Heavenly Blue. Tha result is most effective. If pink is in your plans, the Candy Pink Morning Glory is sura to please you. It is a clear fresh pink that sparkles in the morning sun.

Scarlet O'Hara Morning Glory has large red Ball Chairman Wants To Offer Something New "DEAR MISS VANDERBlLTt I am chairman of the senior ball at our high school, which a buffet supper, favors and so forth. I would like to offer something a little different, as for the past 10 years the buffet has consisted of the usual ham, turkey, potato salad, and so forth. "We want to have something that will appeal to the seniors, who are no longer to be considered young children. The garden club will assist with some of the decorations. Naturally, we don't have a great deal of money to spend but can you us some suggestions? T.

West Hartford, suggest that you try to give the party a foreign air. Choose a country say, Italy or France use flags and travel posters for decorations and plan a menu that will go with your choice. For example, if you choose Italy, you could serve spaghetti with meatballs and an especially nice sauce, with a green salad and Italian dressing, garlic bread and spumonl for dessert. A French menu might Include Bneuf Bourguignonne (a beef stew in red wine), French bread, petlts pols (these tiny peas are now easily available frozen), a mixed green salad with avocado pear, French dressing of course, and petits fours or strawberry parfaits for dessert. Favors for the girls could be tiny vials of French perfume, or perhaps the garden club could make miniature old-fashioned bouquets (no more than two Inches across) with streamers of ribbons In the colors of the flag.

The table decorations In either case might be an arrangement of flowers and small flags, or perhaps old wine bottles well-covered in candle drippings, holding lighted candles (but check your local fire laws about this first). For entertainment during dinner find someone locally who can play an accordion and sing songs while strolling among the diners. "DEAR MISS VANDERBILT: have been divorced since last summer. Many of my friends called me 'Miss 1 after the decree was legal. My attorney, vhen I asked him what proper title was, informed me once you are a married woman you remain I had my name legally changed to my oirth certificate name.

Now, am I 'Miss' or O. Pittsburgh." You are whichever yon fer to be. Some women who return (o their maiden prefix the name with especially If they have children. Others, particularly prefer to remain "Miss." I think you must have misunderstood votir attorney. I discuss this matter on page 577 of my book, which Is In your library.

Duplicate Bridge Played At Center There were twelve tables in play for duplicate bridge Tuesday evening at the Beth Israel Synagogue Center. Charles Slupe directed the The winners were as folows: North-South Mrs. Charles and Charles Slupe, first; Contract Bridge By B. Becker East dealer. Both-sides vulnerable.

NORTH A.4 9 2 49763 8 542 WEST EAST 4 10 9 8 3 A A 10 7543 A 6 42 4 KQJ10854 10 9 7 3 SOUTH KQ 7652 8 4 A The bidding: West Pass North 1 Pass East South 1 4 Dble 34 4 Pass Dble Redble Opening lead two of dia mondfi. Dear Mr. Becker: I don'1 know whether or not you can help me with my problem, bu I have reached a desperate sit uation where I am willing to grasp at any straw. A year ago I was playing in a rubber bridge game and held the South hand. You can imag ine my feeling of disappoint went when I heard East open the bidding ahead of me.

needed so little to make a smal alam or a grand slam just an ace or two -j- and this bloki who sits on my right and neve psyched in his life suddenly say a diamond. Well, I got to four spades all right, and won the diamon ad with the ace. I led the king spades. East took it and re- urned a diamond, which I uffed and West overuffed. West then put East in with a leart, and another diamond lead uined me.

It i n't matter vhether I trumped high or low West was bound to get another trump trick and I went lown one redoubled. That night I couldn't sleep a wink, or the next night, or the next night either. My appetite 'ell off terribly and I felt plain miserable. This predicament continued for weeks. Finally I consulted a psychiatrist.

After the usual treatment got so I was spending more on the psychiatrist's couch I was in bed at home told me the cause of my troubles. I tried a few other skull doctors and they all told me the same thing. They said I should not have trumped the diamond return at trick three, but should have discarded my heart. Then when West overuffed the next diamond lead he wouldn't be able to put East in the lead again and I would have made the hand. So I know what I should have done.

But I still can't'sleep nights, as I relive this nightmare over and over again. What occurs to me is that maybe if I see this hand in print it will all go away like a bad dream. Sincerely yours, John Doe. has what? America Award. This variety blooms a little later than other varieties of Morning Glories and it is a little reluctant to climb.

The runners will need stringing up. The brilliant display of Scarlet O'Hara is worth the effect. Gourds, with their thick green foliage and their unusually shap- good cool that faces ed fruit, make a screen for a porch the afternoon sun. Another good screening vine is Scarlet Runner Bean. This strong rapidly growing vine has clusters of red flowers.

The pods are edible when they are very young as are the shell beans that they produce. If your landscape includes a slope, Perennial Sweet Peas will make a lovely green cover for it. Actually the folwers are not fragrant, but they do come up year after year. Cover a tree stump with climbing Nasturtiums. You will have a colorful mound of beauty.

The thing to remember about vines is that they root deeply. The soil should be loose so the roots can grow deep into the soil. It need not be rich unless the foliage is more important to you then the flowers. Keep the soil well moist until the seeds germinate. Then a great deal of water is required.

Cook's Corner FAMILY DINNER Minute Steaks Parmesan Shells Asparagus Salad Bpw Caramel Custard Beverage PARMESAN SHELLS 3 quarts water 1 tablespoon salt 2 cups small size mararon shells (Yi pound) 2 tablespoons butter 2 tablespoons grated Parmesan cheese In a large kettle, bring the water and salt to a full rolling boil. Add the macaroni shells; continue to boil rapidly, uncov ered, just until tender and cook ed through but still firm. Drain at once. Stir in butter and Par mesan so shells are coated with the mixture. Serve at once Makes 6 servings.

vlr. and Mrs. Joseph Bowman, second; Mrs. Freeman Rice and Mrs. Forrest Potter, third; harles Letcher Jr.

and William Muthard, fourth; Mrs. Henry, Levin and Mrs. Charles Hawk- ns, fifth. East-West Mrs. Samuel Silberman and Mrs.

Robert Ganter, first; Mr. and Mrs. James J. Arnold, second; Dr. Charles Letcher and Allen Krause, third; Mrs.

George Mitchell and Mrs. Don Real, fourth; Dr. Charles Lazin and Mrs. B. F.

Adams, fifth. (Ycdinnk) MRS. ARTHUR A. KAPP JR. was married in Trinity Evangelical" United Brethren Church.

The bride was formerly Nancy Lengle, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Leo A. Lengle of 325 E. Weidman Lebanon.

Mr. and Mrs. Arthur A. Kapp of 1264 Willow Lebanon, are the groom's parents. (Colonial) MRS.

ROY K. KOHR became a bride in the United Zion Church of Lebanon. The bride is the former Norma Shirk, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. David Shirk Sr.

of 1542 Walnut Lebanon. The groom is the son of Mr. and Mre. Roy C. Kohr of Newmanslown RD 1.

Applications To Marry Are Filed Two marriage license applications have been filed in tiw county marriage licenst bureau, Applicants are: John L. McKlveen, 21, ma- chanic, 45 Ulrich Annville, son of Mr. and Mrs. Gilbert D. McKlveen, and Linda L.

Flowers, 18, 512 W. Queen Annville, daughter of. Mr. and Mrs. Paul R.

Flowers. John H. Phillips, 26, bank em- ploye, 10 E. High son of Mr. and Mrs.

Thomas G. Phillips, and Mary R. Zug, 23, school teacher, Lebanon RD 2, daughter of Mr. and 'Mrs. Henry L.

Zug. Jottings Along tbeBuy-fMiy To remove discoloration from non-stick cookware, boil the following solution in the afflicted utensil for five to ten minutes: two tablespoons of baking soda, a Half-cup of liquid household bleach and a cup of water. Then wash, rinse, dry and wipe with cooking oil. Louise Long is celebrating her eighth birthday anniversary today. Louise is the daughter of Mr.

and Mrs. Jack Long of Lebanon RD 2. Saturday marked the fifth birthday anniversary of Tommy Boyer. His parents are Mr. and Mrs.

James Boyer of 706 Smith Avenue. Lebanon. The fourth birthday anniversary of Elizabeth Kim Showers occurred day. She is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs.

Kenneth R. Showers of 217 W. Chestnut Lebanon. Thomas Kapp celebrated his tenth birthday anniversary Saturday. He is the son of Mr.

and Mrs. Kenneth Kapp of 128 N. Locust Palmyra. The seventh birthday anniversary of Sharon L. Eberly is Thursday.

Her parents are Mr. and Mrs. Warren Eberly of Annville RD 2. Tuesday was the fourth birthday anniversary of Pauline Anna Hackman. Mr.

and Mrs. Kenneth R. Hackman of 5-R Linda Lane, Lebanon, are her parents. Memorial Day is the start of vacation time. Some familiei will he starting out on this year's vacation on that day with money saved throughout the year in a PEOPLES savings account.

And what's more the interest they obtained on a certificate of deposit purchased at THE PEOPLES NATIONAL BANK a year ago will be used to make it the best family vacation ever. Stop in now and see the people at EIGHTH AND CUMBERLAND STREETS to save for next year's vacation. Vacations should be carefree days spent away from home with family and friends. But can you leave home with the secure feeling that all your belongings will be protected in your absence? You can if you have adequate insurance coverage from STRICKLER'S INSURANCE AGENCY. Before you leave on that vacation make a quick stop at 41 N.

EIGHTH and check your insurance policies with STRICKLER'S, and you will hava that carefree time you deserve. If your vacation calls for days of lying in the sun on the beach or around a pool, be sure you make a pre-vacation stop at HATTIE'S SHOP. Open evenings, the shop located at 18 E. MAIN MYERSTOWN, has a high style selection of summer apparel suited to your individual taste. What better way to look while soaking up those wonderful rays than in a Sea Nymph bathing suit from HATTIE'S.

Vacation or not, those special occasions that require a gift keep popping up. The HELEN LOUISE SHOP is just over-flowing with gift ideas for the woman who has everything to the bride just starling out. Do your shopping at NINTH AND CHURCH STREETS. Beautiful cranberry glass bowls are a delight but then so are the Swedish compotes and the heavy decanters, all at the HELEN LOUISE SHOP. STOP! Don't go on that vacation to visit your favorite aunt in Alaska without, taking her a hostess gift from HOFFER'S.

And before you leave check your calendar to see if you have remembered all the anniversaries June will bring. What better place to select the right gift than in HOFFER'S window. Or better yet go inside the store located at 5 N. NINTH ST. and see all the lovely anniversary gifts they have, be it for the first or the fiftieth.

Hip, Hip, Hooray, school will be out in just a short lime. And then all boys, girls and their families can concentrate on their favorite sport. Make your first stop MARTIN'S for the best quality at the lowest prices on all sporting equipment. Camping vacations are fun for the whole family especially if you play safe and buy the best brands at MARTIN'S, 20 S. EIGHTH ST.

whert you'll save money too..