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1 That WOMEN Are Fathers and Their Children Them Informed on Latest Antics- Ask for Advice ep JOAN BARTON munity Service Society mily Counselor, many husbands and fathers away in With wartime mothers carry a double load. rice, must be both mother and father bugh they front, there are ways for mothers the home ease this load of parental responsibility. detail about the children's day-to-day No is too small to be of interest to eriences fathers. So send the pictures and tell of Johnny's first touchdown or the stories new word, for they will be even bigger v's Dad than to those at home. to When informing Dad of Junior's latest Ecs.

ask for advice and call on him for help planning. Perhaps he will have a vour angle on how to get Junior to do his nework or will understand more readily kind of discipline Mary needs. A word however- does no good to burden faution, father with problems on which he absent In no position to give constructive help. will only lead to needless anxiety on his Parenthood is a mutual responsibility. A will therefore want to know her husher d's ideas about the child's education and piness.

The husband, though far from will welcome the opportunity to share he. this responsibility. Fighting men want to on being fathers, husbands and heads of ch Vitamin Is a Family Vitamin Bor or DIs a Grouping Which We'll Get Intact by Good Eating PETTIGREW families. That is one of the important factors which keep them fighting. Letters Both Ways It is hard for children to understand why those they love must go away.

And so they need to know by tangible means, such as letters, that Dad has not forgotten them or deserted them for the excitement of battle. Fathers can keep up the give and take of affection so necessary for themselves and the family by exchanging ideas, experiences and pictures in the family mailbag. We know a little fellow of four who keeps a picture of his flying father on a private bulletin board over his bed. Stevie tells his Dad the accumulation of woes and joys little boys collect each day His mother often sends the highlights of these "conversations" when writing to her husband. Back will come letters to the small son conveying the guidance and love that only Dad can give.

It works like a charm for this mother who sometimes needs help when Stevie gets out of hand. Fathers also appreciate receiving clippings of articles that you may have found helpful in handling your children. Perhaps there are some books your husband may like to read which will help him maintain his skills as a parent. If he has not yet had the pleasure of meeting his child he might want to read in preparation for this new career. Write to this column if you would like the names of Ration Calendar Week of Jan.

28 to Feb. 3 PROCESSED FOODS Blue stamps 5 through 5, and also A 2 and in War Book 4 will be invalid March 31. Blue stamps 2 through 2, now valid, will be invalid April 28. Blue stamps 2 through 2 become valid Feb. 1.

MEATS AND FATS--The following meats, whether fresh, cured, smoked or cooked, have a point value: All grades of beef, with the exception of a few variety meats and processed items; grades AA, A and of lamb roasts, steaks and chops; grades AA, A and of veal roasts, steaks and chops; pork chops, pork loins, hams, shoulders and butts, bacon and bacon sides; also butter, margarine, cheese, canned fish and canned milk and some meats canned and in glasses. Red stamps Q5 through 5. will be invalid March 31., Red stamps 5 through now valid, will expire April 28. Red stamps 5, 5 and A 2 through 2, now valid, will be invalid June 2. Doll Exhibit To Feature Nurses A doll show sponsored by the Parent Teachers Association of Packer Collegiate Institute will be held afternoons next week in the college assembly hall, 170 Joralemon St.

The exhibit, which is part of Packer's centennial celebration, will include dolls from the Mary Lewis and Brooklyn Museum doll collections. Feature of the show will be a collection which traces the history of nursing from early Roman days to the cadet nurse of today. These dolls are on loan from Prospect Heights Hospital. Mrs. Fred Burgoyne and Mrs.

H. J. Patterson are chairman land co-chairman, respectively. TARGARET the last few weeks these Friday talks on nutrition have for in turn with the vitamins 1, 2, and D. These are call the "accepted" vitamins.

Scientists have worked we them for years, tested them and bared many of their secrets. we are reasonably much of the true story of vitamins belonging to the same these vitamins is pretty classification. There is more than one vitamin and of course known. vitamin is not one lone vitahe same time, as some have min but a veritable gathering of are, the clan. As a matter of Icted, there still other to this same fact, of essentials, but vitamins while some are now complaining ins belonging which there is much conit is problem enough to remembut few proven facts.

ber the Cs we might as well face the fact that we are group we list as "postuvitamins, or vitamins that likely to waken some bright day to find a whole alphabet of vitaIssumed to exist though, to we know little of their mins at our finger tips. lion. But vitamins need cause us little worry in so far as names, sider, for example, the case activities and such vitamin of the initials, are lacin, a concerned. Our real problem is We know definitely that seeing to it that we eat a wellexists and that it helps the balanced diet and that the day's utilize the carbohydrate Many of us feel at home diet is complete in the accepted vitamins. If that is our rule we the term niacin, particularnce it is used will not likely have to worry being to en- the others.

our breads and flours. Niaabout Remember that milk, dark green leaves, poan "accepted" vitamin, sources which tatoes, carrots and such vegeof are liver, tables, fresh fruit, eggs, whole egg, meats, fish, milk, grain foods, fish, meat, liver and green leaves and whole foods. At the same time kidney particular, or in butter fortified margarine, fish liver scientists are aware of the oils and sunshine can supply the ence in the groups of anvitamins the body needs. Of substance which they have course when you read that list "biotin." At present bioyou may well say, "That is the listed as a postulated vitabecause date is works anyway." to little of its exact function. But take another look and see Itists know that it plays a just how many of those foods, the life of the cells, but such as whole grain or dark is known of just what that green leaves, you haven't even Perhaps the name is not touched today.

See what we miliar to you since biotin mean? received some publicity in ection with cancer. Mr. and Mrs. Jack Williams of pugh it is common to speak 918 8th Ave. announce the birth tamin A as one vitamin the of a daughter at the Methodist is that there are several Hospital on Jan.

28. Ruth Eriksen Engaged to Flight Officer Sidereas; Dociety Dunkak Johnson Betrothal Is Announced Today HELEN BROWN ty Editor pt. and Mrs. E. J.

19 88th St. announce the enment of the: daughter, Ruth Elinor Eriksen, At Officer Arthur Louis SidU.S. Army Air Corps, son and Mrs. Louis Sidereas Ocean Ave. ss Eriksen is a senior at the ler Collegiate Institute.

She mated from Bay ol. She is a Ridge member High of la Gamma Phi sorority. Her attended Freehold MiliAcademy, N. St. John's and was graduated from mus Hall.

He is a member de Dragon Club, St. George On Dec. 1, 1942, on his birthday, he enlisted in the Ice and is 47, 1st a Troop pilot Command- assigned overseas. -Johnson ht and Mrs. John of 344 H.

Dunkak E. 22d St. announce engagement of their daughAnn Elise Dunkak, to gn Marshall Howard Johnson of Mr. and Mrs. Eric Johnson of 4018 Avenue S.

emus Dunkak is a graduate of Johnson Hall High School. Enis a graduate of Registrar of Nurses Reveals Subterfuge Used to Secure Service Claims of Illness Made When Women Want Help With Children and Home By MARGARET MARA The nursing profession has have answered the appeal of the aged and elderly nurses are available in Brooklyn, according to Mrs. of the Flatbush Registry Nurses. "Not one young nurse is listed in my books," said Mrs. Coles, who has upwards of 75 registered nurse clients in normal times.

"The nurses that I have on call are elderly women." she explained, "and none are eligible for army or navy service." Mrs. Coles is amazed to find how few persons recognize the current situation. "I still receive phone calls re. questing YOUNG nurses," she exclaimed. "People don't realize that there just aren't any.

Before the war this was a commonenough request, 'young and cheerful but today you expect people to be aware of the changed conditions." Mature Nurses Returning Registered nurses long retired from active duty are coming back in large numbers wholly in a spirit of patriotism, revealed the registry director. "Any number of retired nurses have returned to practice, many taking night jobs," she said. "It must be recognized that these women have obligations and many family adjustments must be made so that they can again take up nursing. "I feel that the public should know the many sides of the case regarding the nurses. It seems to me that too much is expected of them.

In the first place they are no better paid than some of the domestic workers notwithstanding their training and long hours." Call Must Be Urgent Registered nurses no longer are being supplied by the Flatbush Registry merely to make things easy for people. "Unless an illness exists I refuse to send a nurse," Mrs. Coles said. Formerly, she pointed out, trained nurses were engaged as nursemaids. Various subterfuges are resorted to, by persons seeking a nurse for "maid service," but Mrs.

Coles is usually able to spot illegitimate claims of illness. "I can't send my nurses out unnecessarily," she protested. "Why, many of them are so conscientious they don't even take a week's rest between cases! I am telling you all these things so that you will get a true picture of the nurse in wartime," added Mrs. Coles. Registry Needed A tall, distinguished-looking, gray-haired woman with a thin 'aquiline nose, Mrs.

Coles is a been drained of young nurses who armed services and only middletoday. This is the situation Mildred R. Coles, R. director member of a well-known Brooklyn family. The widow of the late Deputy Chief Fire Marshal William E.

Coles, she founded the nurses' registry 24 years ago. Mrs. Coles is extremely proud of a communication she received as director of the registry from the War Manpower Commission which states: "You have been classified as 1V-E, essential in that position for the duration of the war." This represents the first time that the true status of a nurses' registry in relation to the community has been recognized, said the director. "Not many people outside of the profession understand our lung ith 12 to orde BROOKLYN NEW YORK 1g bros clot rocati ed you call in one ores. position," she said.

"'The registry, which incidentally operates under the same law as do theatrical and employment agencies, acts as a liaison between the public and the professional nurse. Without it people would be at a loss when they need a trained nurse. "A registry is accessible 24 hours a day, ready to supply special nurses for every kind of illness." Nurses obtaining positions via a registry pay 10 percent of their wages for the first 10 weeks, according to State law requirements. When a nurse is finished with a case, she invariably is placed on the eligible list again, on call for the next job. "The registry is a clearing house, serving doctors, hospitals and nurses," Mrs.

Coles pointed out. Not all the nurses on the lists are registered nurses, however. Some are undergraduate nurses and others are practical nurses. The registry director knows the qualifications of the nurses who regularly sign up with her, just as a theatrical agency knows its actors and actresses. Praise for Nurses Mrs.

Coles stood up staunchly for nurses in the war crisis. "They are doing a splendid job," she declared, "and they would do even better if given a chance. I would like to see army and navy requirements for nurses less stringent. There is no reason why a nurse above the required age cannot work in veterans' hospitals. I am speaking for many of them who would go if they had the opportunity.

"I feel that nurses are being criticized unfairly. They are now working up to 14 hours a day. No other war worker is doing more." SUIT SET-UP-A cutaway dinner suit in navy faille with a velvet held flower corsage nestling on one scalloped lapel. The wide mushroom brimmed hat is of milan. Shown by Russeks during the regular weekly fashion luncheon at the Waldorf.

Shop Tall. for Man Hunters By SHIELA So many people are interested in USO and other service men centers we decided to ask the USO people what they consider an ideal junior hostess and where the service men's canteens in Brooklyn are located. Becoming a junior hostess at any service men's canteen is process that takes a long, long time. Invariably there are hundred or so girls who think of ideas first and who will be ahead of you on the list for new lesses. But you will find that patience pays off.

First requisite for junior host- Sidereas; Today the Spring. Mr. Bartoo is with the United States Army Transportation Corps. Since 1940 he has been stationed at Hawaii, Midway Island, Trinidad, Union of South Africa, Australia, Iran and Iraq. In the last two countries he was engaged in building a road to Russia.

He is a member of the Society of American Military Engineers. Miss Madeleine Zaloom, daughter of Mrs. Salim Zaloom of 8701 Shore Road and the late Mr. Zaloom, was married Wednesday to Seaman Second Class Sidney G. Cahill, U.

S. N. son of Mr. and Mrs. Denis Cahill, also of Brooklyn.

The Rev. James P. Smyth officiated in St. Anselm's Church. Mrs.

George Camas and Seaman Second Class James Reilly, U. S. N. were attendants. The bride was graduated from the Academy of St.

Joseph, Brentwood and attended Columbia University. Lt. Jack A. Gerlin, A. A.

and Mrs. Gerlin of Garden City announce the birth of a son, William Lance Gerlin, in Columbus, Ohio, on Jan. 25. Mrs. Gerlin is the former Miss Jane Boyle of Flushing.

jesses is that they be at least 181 years old but not more than 30. After an applicant has established her age, two references are absolutely necessary. Don't just choose two people you've met once or twice because the USO really checks referencesbut good. Checking references carefully is the USO's best way of not having non-conformists among its junior hostesses. Slack-wearfor instance, is absolutely verboten.

Naturally this dictum also applies to other over-casual attire. "Conduct becoming a lady" is also expected and is another reason why references are checked carefully. Many service men's centers have adopted training programs for newcomers with advice on practical psychology. These programs are especially effective now with SO many returning service men visiting canteens. Here in Brooklyn there are a number of canteens sponsored by private organizations which are not distinctly USO.

However the USO centers include: The Menu Mulled Tomato Juice Stuffed 1 Sparerib Roast Cabbage au Gratin Orange and Lettuce Salad Apple Pie Coffee STUFFED SPARERIB ROAST 1 onion, minced 4 tablespoons fat cup dry breadcrumbs cup hot mashed white potatoes cup hot mashed sweet potatoes teaspoon salt teaspoon poultry seasonings egg, beaten cup milk 2 pounds spareribs Brown onion in fat. Com- bine crumbs, potatoes, salt and seasonings. Add egg with milk and then the onion. Mix well. Spread between the two sections of spareribs and bake at 350 degrees from to hours.

Serves four. Army and Navy Y. M. C. A.

at Fort Hamilton; Navy Y. M. C. A. at 167 Sands the Manhattan Beach Center and another at (9312 4th both operated by the National Jewish Welfare Board in conjunction with the USO and the National Catholic Community Service's Center, 9249 Shore Road.

Resents Man's Interest Mary Haworth's Mail In Son by Other Union the U. S. Merchant Marine Academy, Kings Point, and also Erasmus Hall. Grassmann-Henry Miss Irene A. Grassmann and Sgt.

William J. Henry of the Army Signal Corps will be married on Feb. 10 at 10 o'clock Ruth Eriksen mass in St. Brigid's Roman olic Church, Ridgewood. Miss Grassmann is the ter of and Mrs.

Francis F. Grassmann of 408 Menahan Ridgewood. Sergeant Henry, war who theater returned in from September the Pacific and is now on special detail in New Mexico, is the son of Mr. and Mrs. William J.

Henry of 1456 Jefferson Ave. Miss Dorothy Anne Grassmann, sister of the bride-to-be, and Mrs. Ann Gardner will be the attendants. John Gostic of Ridgewood will act as best man and Gerard Ecker as usher. Following the ceremony and reception the couple will honeymoon up-State.

Miss Grassmann is a graduate of Bishop McDonnell Memorial High School, and her fiance of Brooklyn Technical High School. Couture-Bartoo Elmer Couture of Brooklyn announces the engagement of his sister, Miss Mildred Couture of 21 Gramercy Park South, Manhattan, daughter of the late Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Couture of Manchester, N. to Jesse Kellog Bartoo, son of Nelson Eli Bartoo of Los Angeles, and the late Mrs.

Bartoo. The marriage is planned for DEAR MARY HAWORTH -I am 21 years old and have been happily married to a man many years my senior who has two children (now grown) by his first wife. We got along fine until a few months ago when his son returned from overseas service with the marines, The boy lives with his mother and never bothers his father unless he wants something. This time he first wrote from California, where he was stationed, for some gasoline ration stamps. These my husband did not send because of the law.

The boy was angered and did not write for more than a month. Then came a request for $75. I told my husband I would leave him if he sent it; and when he didn't send the money again the boy was resentful and didn't write. Then a few weeks ago he wired his father for $20, saying a letter of explanation would follow. His father sent the money and told me about it later.

Drawing Into His Shell Shortly afterward he was transferred to this city and Paul (my husband) asked me if he could invite him for Sunday dinner. I didn't really want him, as I am expecting a baby any day, but I consented and cooked a big dinner, trying to please my husband. His son came for dinner two hours late, bringing with him four friends and a bottle of liquor. We live in a three-room apartment and it is out of the question to serve seven at our table. Also the was against the rules -as I've asked my husband not keep liquor in the house and he considers my wishes.

I am never of interest to my husband when his son is around; and after the boy leaves and try to talk to him he turns to the radio or newspaper or goes to bed and forgets everything. I may be inconsiderate; but do you think I ought to let this boy come in and "take over," so to speak? How can I get my married life back to a smooth basis? G. L. Tugs at Heart DEAR G. -'Tis said that blood is thicker than water.

And it is scriptural teaching that the prodigal son 1s dearer to his father's heart than a dutiful son; and the lost lamb of more concern to the angels than those huddled safely in the fold. Twenty years from now, when your child is grown, God willing, perhaps you will better understand the spot your husband is on today--and the more SO if your child shows wayward tendencies, too. I don't know what your husband's record as a father has been, but it can't be too good, judged in terms of his ill-advised action in marrying you, half his age, who is ignorantly indifferent to his problems of conscience and still feebly kicking better self; and grimly determined to share nothing of his bounty with prior natural claimants to his solicitude. It is perhaps beeause he was a bad parent, and knows it, during the boy's formative years that he feels no condemnation toward the lad now but only an anxious, remorseful willingness to show son in such ways as he can that his heart is open to him. Possibly even his dad has the feeling they're two of a kind; two bad eggs, each in a differlent way.

Maybe his conscience reminds him, "You are responsible for this. If you'd been a better man, so might he." Wife's Stand Inhumane In any event, here's what I think of your complaint: It's inhumane. It's a yellow whine. You married this man "for better or for worse." You wanted him for what he was. You knew he had a past; and it was inconceivable that its long shadow would not figure in your life together.

But when it puts the finger on him--and he reacts with the amiable weakness that made rags and tatters of his personal history and brought him finally to marriage with youyou abandon the partnership attitude and nastily imply that his inescapable connection with his past is brand-new, whole treachery to you. You are hanging yourself by your performance, which is narrow and mean, not loyal kind; childish and jealous and greedy, not concerned your husband's dilemma. What's happened to you is the end of the honeymoon. You'll probably never get back to the rose petal smoothness of that. Realities are beginning to crash through, And if you want your husband's love and respect and first allegiance, on a durable basis, from here on out, you've got to earn it by considering his feelings with a true devotion that "seeketh not her own M.

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