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11-A Burlington (N.C.) Timcs-News, Friday, July JAe Woman. Telephone 221-4411 Dear Abby To Tell Or Not To Tell: That's The Question By Abigail Van Buren DEAR ABBY: If you knew postiively that your sister's husband Jtiad been keeping another woman for 7 or 8 years would you take on the sad task of telling your sister? Many other people know it, and she is bound to find out someday, and then she will know that we knew it, too. HER SISTERS DEAR SISTERS: There are two schools of thought. To tell and not to tell. I belong to the "not to tell school.

There are exceptions, of course. In most cases the wife usually knows, but she is putting on a brave face for reasons known only to her. Allow her her pride and keep quiet. And should she in time admit that she knows, be "big" and don't chime in with those who would say, "I knew it all along." DEAR ABBY: I am a 15- year-old girl and I am waiting for a guy who is overseas in the service. (Let's call him Morey I don't have an engagement ring or anything like that, but I promised Morey I would wait for him, so that's what I am doing.

Well, there is a guy Morey used to run around with (let's call him Herman), and Herman comes over and takes me out just to keep me from going nuts. Anyway, it started out that way. Now, Herman tells me he thinks he is in love with me, altho I told Herman from the start that I was waiting for Morey and I think of him only as a friend. Don't get rne wrong, Herman hasn't tried anything, but he is starting to like me too much for his own good. I don't want to quit seeing Herman because he's really a nice guy and a girl could go nuts sitting home all the time writing letters.

My mother says I shouldn't be going out at all, but I can't see any harm in it as long as I don't lead anybody on What do you think? I don't want to hurt Herman. WAITING FOR MOREY DEAR WAITING: Maybe you think of Herman as "only a friend," but he obviously has other ideas about you. I don't known how you figure you are "waiting" for Morey, when you are going with Herman. If a girl "waits" for a fellow, she waits alone without "going nuts Don't worry about hurting Herman. I have an idea he can take care of himself.

worthy, and he is the man who would ask for a loan of money from the woman he loves." Are there NO exceptions? BEEN THERE DEAR BEEN: Yes. A husband and wife many years married united by common interests, may become so one in purpose and thought that a common purse would be as natural to them as a common bed or dinner table. But before marriage, or immediately after, the man who begins to ask a woman for the use of her purse shows himself to be lacking more than money. At Wit's End I I A ARNIE: There are two times in a man's life when he shouldn't gamble. (1) When he can't afford it.

(2) When he can. DEAR ABBY: You said, ''There is one type of man I have never known to be strong, reliable and trust- Everybody has a problem. What's yours? For a personal reply write to Abby, Box 69700, Angeles, 90069 and enclose a stamped, self- addressed envelope. HATE TO WRITE LET- ters? SEND $1 TO ABBY, BOX 69700, LOS ANGELES, 90069, FOR ABBY'S BOOKLET, "HOW TO WRITE LETTERS FOR ALL OCCASIONS." Pointers Beer Can pener Is Vital Kitchen Tool Op 0 Hy Cramer DEAR POLLY I would like to know if burning apple or pear tree wood in a fireplace would build up creosote in a tile-lined chimney. What kinds of woods are best to I.

G. DEAR POLLY I have no children of my own but I always carry pipe cleaners in my purse for those children around me who get unruly in church. Sure does entertain them and the cleaners make no noise if dropped. When you are feeling sorry for yourself try calling or writing someone a note to say "thank you" for something they are not really expecting thanks for. Have you ever thanked your pastor for just being your pastor or young Sunday School teacher or the den mother for working with your child? Thanks to you for providing us with all those DEAR' POLLY on the first of the month when I sit down to pay bills by check I hate to address envelopes.

I finally hit on the idea of cutting the name and address off a bill and putting it on the envelope with clean gummed plastic tape. It is faster, so time saving and certainly J. 0. B. DEAR POLLY I am answering Hazel who wanted to remove the film left on aluminum utensils in which she has boiled water.

I fill mine with cold water and add pieces of lemon, skin and all, and boil for a short time. This does the trick but the method must be repeated when the film again accumulates- Cooking tomatoes and rhubarb in the pan also removes such DEAR POLLY Do tell Hazel that I boil vinegar water in such stained pots and pans. If the first boiling does not remove the deposits, boil some more -AN OKIE DEAR POLLY a Hazel--I had deposits on the bottom and at the water level of my baby's aluminum bottle sterilizer. This was one to be placed on a stove burner, not the electric kind. I used cream of tartar.

(Polly's note--For an average pan one to two tablespoons cream of tartar to each quart of water should be about right.) Boil and then simmer five to 10 minutes. When washed in suds the deposits were easily removed. However, it may be possible that Texas deposits are different from those here on the eastern shore of Maryland. I could not work in any kitchen without a beer can opener. Besides using it for opening soda pop bottles and condensed nilk I do not know how I would get into a detergent box without one.

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The prettiest feet on the skin is the way to cleanse your tanned complexion. Repairmen: Cents A Sneeze By ERMA BOMBECK Years ago, I owned a washer that was a strange little devil. For no reason at all, it would stop dead. I would call the washer repaiitnan, Stan, on average of twice a month and together we could get it going. Stan said the washer was going through its change of life and that what it needed the most was understanding.

For what it cost me to be understanding, I could have sent the washer to Mayo Clinic for the summer and Stan and his family to Miami for the entire month of February. I am older now. Wiser. And tighter with a buck! I have developed a cold, impersonal detachment to washers and a business-like relationship with repairmen. Last week when my washer gurgled and refused to spin, I called my friendly washer repairman.

"Hello," he smiled, coming up the walk. My mind clicked off like a computer. At $15 an hour, a simple hello would cost me 17 cents. If he continued on to the weather, and the possibility of showers and tha plight of the farmers, that would run me into a 3 mmute dialogue, which would set me back roughly 93 Vt cents. I took a deep breath.

"Hello. I'm fine. I like the weather and I'm crazy about farmers. My washer won't spin. Give me your coat.

Call if you need me He looked rather baffled so I learned over the washer to explain, "It's i personal Keep working while I talk. It's just that I can't afford to be civil literally. For example, I had a plumber here last week. I paid $1-30 for him to tell me my plumbing had backed up in my sink I'm a very intuitive woman. I suspected that had happened when my potato peelings over-flowed into the kitchen and crested at four feet in the hallway "I even have some of the figures posted here on my bulletin board to illustrate my point.

Keep working, I'll read them to you. For example, if I give a house painter a glass of lemonade, it will cost me $670; maybe depending on how much I i water down the lemonade. It cost me 19 cents just to yell into by grass-cutter's ear, 'Are you having a sunstroke'." "As for septic tank cleaners, I just wave hello and bye-bye when they come and when they go. A piano tuner who was misunderstood by his wife once cost me $7 30, while a kink in a mover's back once set me back $2 80 washer a i a hesitated a moment and began fishing around in his back pocket. "Don't stop 1 1 I yelled.

"What do ou need 0 111 do it for you "My handkerchief, ladv," he said. "1 have to blow my nose He blew 12" 2 cents worth. I think he wanted to clear nis throat, but after I told him about the car insurance being due and my kid's braces, he didn't have the Try Our Delicious Frozen Custard Today Glenn's Frozen Custard 162 Lindsey St. Chaim Murray Wew Head Of Clan By DENNIS MURRAY Women's News Service The head of the Murrays of the next 12 months is Chaim Murray, a member of Temple Shalom, with a beard as venerable as the saints. Every year about this tune wife Jenny and I stage a family picnic and invitation is extended to all Murrays, whether they are cousins or not.

This year we sent a notice to the focal newspaper giving the date of the backyard eat- out, and announcing that all members of the a family were invited. And on the day of the picnic I put a painted sign on the lawn, "Murray picnic today." What a crowd showed up! There was Uncle Muldoon, who of course was related to the Murrays; Murray, nee Sokolski; Edgerton Murray, in insurance and looking for customers; Father Murray, from a nearby parish, with the same idea; Aunt Agatha Murray; Uncle Patrick Murray, a i Murray Farlese; i i Murray and two score others whom we welcomed simple as "Cousin Murray" in the Irish fashion. There were tons of food, at least it seemed like that when I doled out the money to Jenny to buy it, four grills to barbecue and burn it, and the Dublin Dew flowed like wine, which is a pretty simile but expensive After a time there was a bit of roughness- Cousin Sean Murray and Cousin Peter Murray got into a bit of argument and were at the point of blows when a Murray I had not noticed before stepped up and put his hands on their shoulders and talked low and confidential to them, and they shook hands. "Who is that 9 Agatha Murray asked me "I never saw him before," I said. "Must be one of Jenny's relatives." A little later Uncle Muldoon and a Cousin Murray got into an argument over the next President.

The particular cousin said he was going to vote for McCarthy because he was the peace candidate, and Muldoon declared, "I am going to vote for the real peace candidate: Ronald Raygen (cq), who will win the war Try Baby Powder If you are a Miss Shiny Nose who has to repowder all during the day try baby powder. Its superabsorbency banishes the excess oil of your skin for hours. in Vietnam and bring the bos home They were both clenching their fists when the strange Murray stepped between them and again talked softly and they shook hands As the host, I thought it was my duty to tind out who the stranger was. After thanking him for his conciliation, I said, "And what branch of the Murray clan are you from'''' He smiled. "You know, Murray is also a Jewish name.

I am the last of my family. But I am very proud of it, and when I heard there was a gathering of Murrays todaj, of course I came I shook his hand "You are welcome, Cousin Murray," I said "Thank you." he replied it would have been nicer if you had a bit of kosher food." And as the sun started to sink, and the heavier drinking Murrays had been laid in a neat row at the edge of the lawn, I said "It is now time to vote for the head of the Murray Clan for the coming year And Father Murray stepped forward and said, "I nominate Chaim Murray, who seems to Every Homeowner needs it ONLY ORKIN can give you ORKIN be the only man in the world who can keep the peace between two Irishmen There was a shout of ap- and Chami became head Murray for the next 12 month 1 We explained to him, gently of course, that he was expected to throw the annual Murray party in Juh. 1969 Chaim smiled 'Of course." he said "With rabbinical and kosher food N(W PLAN OF COMPLCTI PROTECTION AGAINST TfRMfTfS DON'T WAIT-CALL TODAY FM CUAIANTEEO PROTECTION 226-6845 CHMl Check Our Prices and Terms OB New and Used Furniture Appliances and TV NEWSPAPER! Phone CA 6-6016 APPLIANCES FURNITURE And "Blggeit Little Store in Tamil" Oar Satisfied 241 W. Frwt St. NATIONAL SELECTED MORTICIANS Our charges are lower-- our service is tetter, because serve so many families Burlington Graham Dill 226-1622 LOCATIONS WHO Will Fill Your Prescription Needs? When Illness Strikes Ar Night We Are OPEN Til 10 Every Night And Maintain A 24-Hour Prescription Service ALAMANCE REXALL DRUGS 223 Maple Ave.

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