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SAUNA JOURNAL Life SUNDAY, JANUARY 2, 2005 B3 Weddings 'Who we most admire is wlio we are' Brooke and Steve Lutjemeier Wyatt-Lutjemeier Brooke Wyatt and Steve Lutjemeier were married Aug. 21, 2004, at United Methodist Churcli, Glasco. The Rev. Den- nisMcAllister received their vows. Parents of the couple are Judy Wyatt of Glasco, Greg Wyatt of Salina and Everett and Margaret Lutjemeier of Washington.

Maid of honor and best man were Kristi Davidson of Gary Lutjemeier of Washington. The bride is a graduate of Brown College. Her husband, a graduate of Kansas State University, works for the Kansas Department of Health and Environment in Kansas City They are at home in Roeland Todd and DeAnn Gurley Holt-Gurley DeAnn Holt and Todd Gurley were married Nov. 27, 2004, at University Methodist Church, Salina. The Rev David BolZ officiated.

Parents of the couple are Dennis and Barbara Holt of Pinion Hills, and Marianne Gurley-Welch of Salina. Maid of honor and best man were Lori Barnett and Jeremy Claeys, both of Salina. The bride is a graduate of Sei-rano High School in Phelan, Calif. Her husband, a graduate of Salina South High School, is in the U.S. Air Force at Edwards Air Force Base in California.

They are at home at Edwards Air Force Base. PAM BANTAM COOPER Central Kansiis Mental Heiillh Center Riding in the car this summer, 1 asked my 9-year-old daughter who her hero was. She asked, "Do you mean my hero Hercules or Grandma At first I was amused at my librarian mother and Hercules being on the same list, but then realized that need lots of heroes both real and fictional. We learn how to live by watching others. Children, especially, look for role models within their families, schools, churches and communities so that they can learn how to behave, and what things are important.

Children also need heroes to idolize and emulate. There is an old proverb: "Tell me who you admire and I'll tell you who you are." This idea indicates that the choosing of heroes is an essential part of a child's social and emotional development. Our heroes represent the values and ideals we strive for. They set the course for the person we aim to become. Where are the heroes? In dangerous and uncertain times, children seem to become starved for heroes even more.

Unfortunately, exposure to television today brings children in contact with characters that are vio- COMMENT Ryan Christopher and Tessa Lynn Sherraden Piearson-Sherraden Lynn Pearson and Lance Cpl. Ryan Christopher Sherraden were married March 16; 2004, at the Catholic Chapel at'Camp LeJeune, N.C. "Parents of the couple are El- WQOd "Bill" and Vicki Jester Sherraden of Amston, aril Randy and JTerri Pearson of Lo'veland, Colo. Grandparents of the groom are Mary Sherraden of Chapman and Jerry and Florence Jester of Salina. are at home in Jack- sQMille, N.C, pending the groom's deployment with the Seeend Marine Division to Iraq.

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20-21-22-23 lent, impulsive and self-centered. In the absence of positive heroes, childi'en will choose these kinds of characters to emulate. So where are the heroes? Betty Deramus, a columnist for The Detroit News, once wrote, "A hero is simply someone who rises above his own human weaknesses, for an hour, a day, a year, to do something stirring." A hero does some-, thing noteworthy They solve problems and create new possibilities. And more importantly, they emerge from the fabric of real life. What they do is admirable but attainable.

What heroes would we prefer our children to know, and where do we find information about them? Author Adam Starchild has written very perceptively about children and heroes. He emphasizes that being a celebrity is not the same thing as being a hero. Celebrities might be famous for reasons that are not admirable, or not significantly positive. Heroes are worthy of imitation, and they are catalysts for change. Starchild encourages parents to provide opportunities for children to find heroes through reading experiences.

He points out that when children read they have to imagine the characters and actions. Children begin to form concepts that are the basis for skills they will need themselves to handle adult challenges. Heroic book list Looking for heroes? A great place to start is the American Library Association's Web site, www.ala.org. The American Library Association releases a list of notable books each year that the ALA lias deemed outstanding books of interest and value to children. Many of these books are about you guessed it heroes! You can find this year's list as well as the lists from earlier years, as well.

I recently visited the ALA Web site. Choosing a year and reading level at i-an- dom 1 found numerous books that featured inspirational persons from a wide variety of backgrounds. The year was 2002 and the reading level was middle level. From that category I found nonfiction books on composer George Handel, Mexican-American vaqueros, Leonardo DaVin- ci, conservationist Jane Goodall and folk hero Annie Oakley, to name a few. Hero-worthy movies Children can also discover heroes through movies.

While appropriate characters are few and far between in modern fihn, with a little effort and research, ents can still find excellent movies that allow children to see heroic characters in action. Consider viewing with an older child the 1962 classic "The Miracle Worker," about Helen Keller and her teacher, Anne Sullivan. Other movies with heroes worthy of admiration hiclude "National Velvet," "Sounder," "Apollo 13," "The Sound of Music," and "12 Angry Men." The American Film Institute recently named Atticus Finch from "To Kill a Mockingbird" the "greatest film hero of all time." Atticus is an excellent example of a hero who shows courage, moral integrity and gentleness in situations that both children and adults can identify with. It's also important for parents to talk to their children about what actions they consider heroic in everyday life. Sometimes a hei'o is someone who recognizes an injustice and stands up to the crowd.

Sometimes a hero is an "ordinary person" who fhids extraordinary courage in special circumstances. Heroes can be found everywhere. With just a little guidance, parents can help their children learn to admire and emulate the types of heroes that make a positive difference in the real world the types of heroes we want our children to become. Going berserk over small things is all the rage By MARK PATINKIN The Prouicleiice Journal You've doubtless heard of road rage and air rage, but how about this one. It's from the Associated Press.

The headline reads as follows: "Man charged with sandwich rage in Houston." It concerned a $6 steak-and- cheese sandwich. Police said that Devlin Nelson felt his arrived too cold. The restaurant offered to reheat it, but by then, Nelson had gone off the deep end. He threw the sandwich at the manager, and allegedly said he was going to blow the place up. That was a few days ago.

It's not the only new form of rage I've come across. Last week, a reporter for a Philadelphia radio station got frustrated by junk e-mails from a conservative Web site called Laptoplobbyist.com. When she couldn't get her name off their list, she called and left a message on their answering machine. "I wanted to tell you that you're evil, horrible people," she said. "You're awful people.

You represent horrible ideas. God hates you and he wants to kUl your children. You should all burn in heU. Bye." After being fired for this, she wrote a public apology, and blamed her outburst on "spam rage." She said that spam drives her crazy, pointing out, for example, that she does not have a certain male anatomical feature, and can't understand why "they" keep asking if she wanted to enlarge it. Something's going on out there.

Americans seem to be losing it more and more. To me, the most prominent recent example was the basketball riot in Detroit, when both players and fans went after each bther. The WaU Street Joxarnal called it an example of sports rage. That got me thinking about new categories of anger For a while, rage seemed mostly to be found on the highways. Then came air rage: people freaking out at being squeezed like sardines for three hours and fed only pretzels.

But plug the word "rage" into an Internet search, and you'll find people losing it in entirely new areas. A.few weeks ago, a 48-year-old woman got bent out of shape when told by an airport security guard in Duluth, that she had to be frisked. She responded by swatting the guard in the face with her boarding pass. A police spokesman seemed struck by the fact that this wasn't some young hothead. "Just an average middle-aged person who got upset," he said.

See? It's happening to everyone. John Patterson got into an argument over a parking space at the Mail of America in Minnesota. Patterson ended up cutting the man with a knife. Patterson is 60 years old. He was convicted of assault.

The prosecutor said, "This was a case of parking-lot rage." Ask for examples, and everyone seems to have a few. One woman offered me the theory that rage may come out on the highway, but it stems from other frustrations, such as people having a bad hair day. I dismissed this as nonsense, until I found the following Dec. 8 headline in a Canadian newspaper: "Man goes 'berserk' in alleged hair rage." Winnipeg police said a muscular man who described himself as a stripper at a gay nightclub returned to a mall salon unhappy with his $64.20 haircut and dye job. The salon offered to redo it, but he was imhappy with.that result, too, and after knocking over display stands, had to be subdued by security To prove this is an international phenomenon, I found another foreign case, this one from Brisbane, Australia.

Babies Ayianna Lynne Revels A daughter, Ayianna Lynne, was born Sept. 28,2004, to Sarah Jeske of Salina and the late Darryl Westly Revels. Siblings are Ashlyn, Alec, and Blake, 4. Grandparents are Larry and Judith Quinn and Darlene Wright, aU of Salina. Great-grandparents are Minor and Donna Harris.

Ashley Paige Prochazka A daughter, Ashley Paige, was born Dec. to Brent and Prochazka of Salina. Sister is Kelsey, 13. Grandparents are Barbara Anderson of Salina, Thomas and Donna Klocek of Kansas City, and Tom and Patty Prochazka of Solomon. Great-grandparents are Dale and Virginia niff of Salina and Neil and Dorothy Enright of Solomon.

Charles Oliver Weiss A son, Charles Oliver, was born Dec. 15, 2004, to Mark and Kristi Weiss of Salina. Brothers are Joseph, 7, and Matthew, 3. Grandparents are Wally and Ginny Koers and Nancy and Richard Main, aU of Salina. Great-grandparents are Art and Toni NoUer of Lawrence.

Caleb Lyie Loggins A son, Caleb Lyle, was born Dec. 16,2004, to Jesse Gavin and Ronnie Loggins of Jimction City Grandparents are Ruth Waldron and Lyle Coulter of Manch- eser and Judy and Jerry Chapman of Greenville, III. Jackson Howard Barshop A son, Jackson Howard, was born Nov 15, 2004, to Lori and Doug Barshop of New York, Grandparents are Dick and Bernadette Worcester of Salina, Karen Redwine of Grove, and Barbara Barshop of White Plains, N.Y Great-grandmother is Bess Lefler of Grove. Logan Hunter Arasmith A son, Logan Hunter, was born Dec. 17,2004, to Brian and Kristi Arasmith of Beloit.

Sister is Alexis, 2. Grandparents are Greg and Connie Kopsa of Beloit and Roy and Amy Arasmith of Jewell. Great-grandparents are LaV- em and Wilda Kopsa of Cuba and Leonard and Doris Fowler of Dodge City James Marshall Mclntire A son, James Marshall, was born Dec. 27,2004, to Emily Williams and Kevin Mclntire of Salina. Grandparents are Amy Williams, Chris Williams and Brian and Leslie Mclntire, all of Salina, and Steve and Neisha Moreland of Chapman.

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He called it "computer rage," and warned that this is the worst time of year for it as people try to figure out complicated technology gifts. "When people sink three grand into a new plasma TV and something goes wrong, sometimes a killer instinct takes over," he said. I encountered a growing new category of rage myself over Thanksgiving. I was in a Chicago hotel when a grandmotherly woman's cell phone rang at breakfast. A bald, portly guy sitting nearby began shouting that her ring was too loud and that she shouldn't be taking calls in a restaurant.

It was thoroughly embarrassing, but the guy seemed to feel he had every right to his outburst. I guess that's the problem. More and more people feel entitled to make a scene. The best we can do, I suppose, is hope to avoid people's rage, and 1 have some advice on how. The next time you griU someone a steak-and-cheese gand- wich, make sure it's hot.

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