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Friday, July 29, 1977 Ottawa Journal 27 Japanese libbers' fold Father embarrassed by children's fears principally refrain exhaus- hospital covering embarrassing for a husband to have a working wife, but only as long as there are no children at home. by Dr. Joyce Brothers immmm 4 I Your husband's attitude isn't helping your children overcome their fears and it's quite likely that It may be increasing them. Some fear is normal and, indeed, an indication of health. If humans had no fears, we wouldn't exist today.

Fears can serve to protect. Make it clear to your children that fear is normal and that it's important for them to express and talk openly about their feelings. When fears are kept secret, they tend to multiply and intensify. Shared anxieties are less frightening and by talking them out, they're more apt to be overcome. Dear Dr.

Brothers: I've had notoriously bad luck with three marriages but I never seem to give up. I'm now entering on the fourth round with another woman I love very much. I say "another" because I did love the others when I married them. One of my closest friends tells me to forget about marriage altogether, that it's never going to work and that marriage as an institution is and should be, dead. I'm old-fashioned and still cling to the notion that this time will be the magic one.

Is this naive for a 40-year-old? M. M. Dear M. I'm just a trifle disturbed by the word "magic." To me, this indicates that you may still have romantic and unrealistic expectations about mar- Dear Dr. Brothers: I just don't understand why my three children all have so many unreasonable fears.

There's nothing unusual about our family and yet I Wohder if they will be neurotic when they grow up. My husband is a military man and is quite embarrassed by the children's displays of fear. He feels a combination of shame and anger and, as a result, is often very harsh with them. L. A.

Dear L. A study by the Foundation for Child Development revealed that in our child-oriented society many children are beset by a wide variety of fears: Fear of strangers, of something unexpected happening, 'fear of violent TV programs and fear of their fathers. Despite their fears, most of the children were found to be content with their families and themselves. Researchers found that among 7- to 11-year-olds, fear and TV go together. Almost a fourth of the children said they feared programs where "people fight and shoot guns." Those who watched four or more hours a week were twice as likely to feel "scared" as those who spent less time with TV.

University of Detroit psychologists found that normal children actually had more fears than disturbed children, although the disturbed youngsters experienced their fears more often. riage, which may be one of the reasons you've had problems. Even though an individual has had marital failures, there is always a chance for success if the person has matured and learned from the past failures. Sociologist Norval Glenn and Charles Weave feel that stability is the wrong yardstick for marital success. Flexibility might be a far better way to measure the viability of the institution of marriage.

Remarriage usually brings a completely new set of problems. There frequently are stepchildren, financial and emotional obligations to more than one family, in addition to the standard possibilities for incompatibility. These problems, however, can be offset by a greater maturity and more realistic expectations. Don't pay too much attention to your friend. He may be expressing his own problem with marriage.

He may have some ambivalent feelings about your situation not aware of. He may wish that he'd done as you're doing, or he may regret that he has acted in a similar manner. In either case, I'd guess that he's projecting his own problems 'onto your marriage and actually, they have little to do with you. 3 JOSEPH JAMES DALE, son of. Professor and Mrs.

D.K. Dale of 971 Kllleen Ottawa, received his Bachelor of Commerce degree with First Class Honours at the Spring Convocation of Carleton University. Jim is presently employed at Systemhouse, Limited. TOKYO Japan's women's liberation movement has folded. After enduring five years of frustrating struggle and ridicule, which can be immensely powerful in "group-conscious Japan, the only major women's liberation group and its affiliates have shuttered their offices and admitted defeat at the hands of an overpowering male chauvinism and a wide generation gap among women seeking to change their social status.

The final straw may have been the nationwide parliamentary elections on July 10, which saw the new Japan Women's party get only 0.4 per cent of the total popular vote, thus electing nobody. "I'm afraid the cause of women's liberation in Japan is finished," said Miswo Enoki. Enoki, a 32-year-old pharmacist, led a fight to legalize birth control pills in 1972 that ignited the women's movement In this land where change comes slowly. The drive for women's rights in Japan may be revived some day if the maturing generation of young women breaks sufficiently with strong family ties to make the social soil more fertile for change. But without Enoki, who has become a symbol to many through Japan's pervasive mass media, the women's liberation movement here is expected to virtually disappear for the forseeable future.

Enoki, who uses her maiden name despite her marriage to a physician named Natsuo Kiuchi, said she planned tospend the next few months in a Hon. Then, as part of a bargain she struck with her husband when he lent her $38,000 to help finance her party's recent political campaign, she will return to doing the housework in their suburban Tokyo apartment. Her 36-year-old husband who said he had gained a new appreciation for the rigors of homemaking during his wife's absence, has agreed to write off $2,670 of the loan for each month's housework. At that, Enoki will be among the highest paid females in a male-dominated country where women did not have the right to vote until 1946 and then only at the insistence of American occupation authorities. Now they are a majority of the electorate.

According to Japanese magazines, books, television, men and parents, a woman's place is to make tea and babies not a career or waves. 'After high school and, for some, college, a Japanese woman typically works in an office, factory or bank until perhaps her mld-20s, when she comes under the most intense parental pressure to marry and nave children. It is a rare woman who resists for long. Even the militant Enoki felt compelled, as a sign of respect for her elderly parents' wishes, to get married eight years ago at age 24. After marriage, the typical woman's life revolves almost totally around the home and, subsequently, children.

Only in recent years has it become less fRapid transit' birth control method? certain laboratory animals. Should the researcher find a drug to speed up ova, the next step would be to determine how and when it should be administered. There is a need for such reproductive research because "people want a great variety of methods for special groups, such as older women," Paton said. Canada has contributed substantially to WHO reproductive research. In the last five years it has channelled about $6 million to the International Committee for Contraception Research.

Domestically, the picture is darker. In 1973-74, for example, total federal funding was only $90,000 out of a $l04-miliion annual research budget. RICHARD MILNE DALE, son of Professor and Mrs. D.K. Dale of 971 Kllleen Ottawa, received his Bachelor of Science degree with First Class Honours In Chemical Physics at the Spring Convocation of Queen's University.

He was also awarded the Prince of Wales Prize and the University Medals In Physics and Chemistry, Rick will begin doctoral studies In Physics this September at Yale University In New Haven, financed by the World Health Organization (WHO) to do reproductive research. "There is good evidence that if you lengthen or shorten the length of time the ovum is in the fallopian tube, you produce contraceptive action," Paton said in an interview. The ovum is round and about the size of a pinpoint. After ovulation, it is picked up by the fallopian tube and travels down it toward the uterus. EDMONTON (CP) "Rapid transit" is being studied as a form of birth control at University of Alberta.

The object to be acce- -lerated is the ovum, or female germ cell. Ovum transport is the subject of a five-year, $100,000 research project by Dr. David Paton, a professor of pharmacology in the faculty of medicine. Paton is one of 600 researchers in 60 countries and the only Albertan THE SALE THAT HAPPENS ONLY ONCE A YEAR You're Invited If intercourse takes place on the days immediately preceding ovulation, at ovulation or at any time within its life-span, the ovum will probably be fertilized and pregnancy will occur. Patoh's goal is to trick the ovum into making the passage too fast thus rendering it ineffective.

"Time is required for the uterus to undergo hormonal changes which would make it possible for the ovum to implant," he said. Slowing ovum transport is not being pursued because it could be associated with pregnancies occurring in the fallopian tube. Now Paton is trying out drugs to speed up the journey. One aspect puzzling scientists is the varying speed of the ovum in the fallopian tube. It takes only a matter of minutes for the ovum to travel through the passage nearest the ovary, or primary female sex organ.

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