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Leisure P3 The Leader-Post Regina Saturday, January 23, 1999 RELATIONSHIPS perience over the so-called educational experience. Life is the true teacher, she says. These parents, Choudhry adds, have their children's interests at heart. But with children growing up dominated by western influences, theres the inevitable conflict as many of them challenge parents. These children think their parents arent in touch with reality, says Choudhry, who calls for compromise on both sides.

Children, she says, should ask is there any merit to their parents views, and the older generation has to come to terms with the changing world around them. their families. They don't want someone wholl upset the status quo, she says. "Marrying someone of your own background ensures an easier transition and theres little, or no confusion, She does, however, concede that these unions place pressure on couples, "especially women, because of negative implications if marriages fail. "Whole families sink, she says.

And women are usually the ones who suffer most because theyre on the outs if they leave. Children rely on their elders for guidance because experience knows best, Choudhry says. Weve great respect and reverence for elders, and we value their lived ex By RASHIDA DHOOMA Toronto Sun Today, four years after entering into an arranged marriage, the 27-year-old WWF wrestler says he wouldnt have it any other way. TORONTO (CP) Even as a teenager, Who better to find me a life partner Tiger Ali Singh knew his parents would than my parents, for whom I have the ut-choose a wife for him. most respect and regard as my role THE ORGANIZERS By Patricia Katz Time-saving dangers recounted The weather was rough.

The plane tilted left, dipped right and slammed down onto the runway. The overhead luggage compartments snapped open, raining down the usual array of coats and hats and an even heavier barrage of overstuffed garment bags, totes and briefcases. Two passengers suffered cuts and abrasions caused by flying laptop computers. The car veered across three lanes of traffic, leaving in its wake screeching brakes, honking horns, and a fist-shaking transit operator. The car's driver was oblivious to it all, as she grabbed an extra tissue to blot the lipstick she had just applied while looking in her rear-view mirror.

The driver lost control of his vehicle as he rounded the icy corner with one hand on the steering wheel and the other clamping a portable cell phone to his ear. His distraction and loss of traction caused him to knock over a lamp post, a mail box and two pedestrians. The two-year-old toddler was released from hospital after three days of close observation by medical staff. His concussion was a result of a fall from the kiddy seat of an unattended grocery cart. A traveller is stdl recovering from severe frostbite after running out of fuel on a Saskatchewan side road and spending seven hours in her snowbound vehicle.

It will be a while before ardent runner, John Doe, hits the jogging trail again. John had tuned in his favourite running music on his Walkman and tuned out the world around him, when he dashed across a busy street and straight into an oncoming truck. What do these six vignettes have in common? They are common examples of individuals putting themselves and others at physical risk in the name of saving time. They are also fictional; but we both know that situations like these could happen anytime. Many airline passengers are carrying on pieces of luggage that clearly belong in the cargo belly of the plane not in its overhead compartments in the passenger cabin.

How do you tell the difference? If you can carry the piece without panting, hoist it into an overhead bin with one hand and latch the compartment door without stuffing, poking and prodding, it might qualify as carry on luggage. If its heavy or huge.it belongs down below. Some garment bags and many roller board suitcases are really travelling wardrobe trunks in disguise. Not enough time for make-up in the morning? Maybe you can do without. At the very least, save the lipstick application for red light delays painting and driving are not compatible activities.

Cellular car phones are best used at roadside. For those who are committed to talking while driving, handsfree speaker phones with speed dial memories limit the time that hands are off the wheel and eyes are off the road. While its tempting to dash back up the aisle for an extra can of beans and leave the toddler to his own devices, active youngsters dont stay seated for long. Far better to take both care and babe with you so youre never more than an arms length and a quick grab away. That extra 10 seconds saved could lead to hours spent in a hospital emergency room.

Taking 10 minutes to top off your gas tank long before the gauge reaches the critical mark is always wise in harsh winter climates. Combining audio tapes with other activities like jogging is a popular way of doubling up on time. Be sure to choose the time and the place with care. We need all our senses common sense included to stay safe in this fast paced world. 1998: Patricia Katz, The Organizers Patricia Katz is a Saskatoon-based, speaker, trainer, columnist and consultant.

Many of her most popular columns are featured in her first book, Getting It Together: How to Organize Your Work, Your Home and Yourself. Her latest books provide organizing strategies for a pivductme workhfe, or a streamlined homehfe. WorkTips and HomeTips cost $14 95 each. Getting It Together costs $12.95. All three books are published by The Leader-Post Carrier Foundation and The Organizers.

They're available at book stores and gift shops, as well as firm The Leader-Post. EMPLOYMENT power causes stress models, says the man who received marriage proposals from around the world w'hen word spread that his parents were looking for a wife for him. His trust in their ability to find him a suitable bride paid off when they introduced him to Harmeet Kler of Singapore, he says. I couldn't have chosen better myself. Singh and Kler have a 2 12-year-old son, Gurjeevan, with another baby expected in March.

In Singhs case, the community networking machinery helped find him his mate. But because the network here isn't as strong as in India and other countries where arranged marriages are the norm, increasingly families are relying on personal ads in newspapers and on the Internet. Each week, English-language South Asian newspapers carry hundreds of ads of mainly professionals seeking marriage partners with similar qualifications. The success rate of these ads is very high, says Ajit Jain, associate editor of India Abroad, which carries about 200 ads in its Canadian edition. Unfortunately, he says, arranged marriages get a bad rap when extreme cases of mostly young girls being forced to marry older men make headlines.

Two weeks ago, an Afghani woman was beaten, bound and gagged for refusing to marry a relative in an arranged wedding. Theres no denying that forced marriages happen here to a certain extent, but in most cases both parties have the right to say no, says Ushi Choudhry, professor of nursing at Seneca College, whos fascinated by the Wests fascination with this subject. The practice, she says, continues not only in South Asian cultures, but among western cultures and royalty, the wealthy, and other groups to protect themselves, their money or property. Arranged marriages among South Asians, Choudhry adds, are a union of two families, and are reflective of their thinking that its for the collective good, as opposed to an individuals needs. Thats why families are closely involved in evaluating a person entering psychological distress, and for women with work injuries such as back and neck strain.

As previous studies have discovered, it's not professionals, managers, administrators or even labourers who suffer the worst job strain its people who work directly with the public in service jobs. Over all, women report a higher degree of job strain than men, and Wilkins attributes this to two factors: Men still have more decision-making power in their jobs, and women feel less supported by their co-workers than men do. The message for employers, she says, is that theres more to keeping workers healthy than locking up chemicals and buying proper chairs. (Globe and Mail) In The analyst Kathryn Wilkins, author of the study, Work Stress and Health. Psychological distress (tends) to be high among workers in jobs with high demands, but little latitude for decision making, she writes in the report, based on surveys of 9,000 Canadians conducted in 1994 and 1995.

Fully 40 per cent of workers in such jobs scored high on psychological distress. People who had demanding jobs but also considerable freedom to make decisions were less stressed only 27 per cent had high psychological-distress scores. The key is a control imbalance, Wilkins said in an interview recently. We were able to observe health effects from that combination (high demands, low control) for men with migraines and Having no By JANE GADD Globe and Mail TORONTO (CP) Its not hard work that causes stress: its having no power over how and when you do it, says a new study from Statistics Canada. In a major survey of stress-related illnesses among the employed, Statscan found that the job from hell is the job where a lot is expected of you, but you dont get to make any decisions.

Transit drivers, for instance, must keep to tight time schedules but also avoid having any accidents. However, they dont get to set the schedules. If they had, Toronto Transit Commission driver Bill McNaught said, they might have included a meal break in the eight- to nine-hour afternoon shifts worked by hundreds of drivers. You try to get ahead of schedule so you can go to the washroom at the station, McNaught said. You eat on the bus.

Were always trving to grieve schedules. Martin Wuster, a room-service captain at a major hotel in suburban Scarborough, works in another kind of high-stress nightmare. Often its just complete chaos, he said. Youre trying to handle the phones, get all the orders set up, and everything is needed right now, if not 10 minutes ago. You have to handle the complaints from the customers, the staff, the managers." And then there's the knife-and-fork problem.

Wuster and his waiters and waitresses often cant find cutlery or plates for their orders, and they have no authority to order more. I have to tell my supervisor what we need, what he should order," Wuster said. He has to go to his boss, who has to go to his boss." The chain of command for ordering dishes consists of five steps, he said. Ive been waiting for trays and napkins since last April." It's taken a toll on him, though he's stuck with the job for 12 years. I get migraines big time, I can go for weeks with a headache." None of this is a surprise to Statscan 3 DAYS EUEIFirggg $820,000 IN PRIZES Tickets $100.00 Each L98-0272 198 0273 Saskatoon: 6085797 Regina: 5225797 Toll Free: 18779556555 Last Day to Purchase Tickets is Jan.

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