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8io D-2 THE RECORD LlfSTVL FRIDAY, AUGUST 28, 1987 BEST SELLERS 'Workaholic' wife displeases husband By Dr. Joyce Brothers Syndicated Columnist ASIC DR. BROTHERS UPI PHOTO SPREADING THE WORD: Costume company owner Philip Morris and employee Susan DelRoy, modeling prototype latex masks of former PTL leaders Jim and Tammy Faye Bakker. The masks will be sold in sets for about $60, part of which will go to the Bakkers. Fiction 1.

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FRIDAY'S PEOPLE get that pipe away from him. I can't stand to see him continue doing something that I know is destroying his health. His doctor isn't a fool, and he's insistent on this subject. Why doesn't my husband accept this and simply toss it? A Your husband's pipe isn't just a pipe. It's a kind of security blanket, an object that for many years has helped to comfort him when he's disturbed, anxious, or upset.

Connecticut psychiatrist Dr. Paul Horton says that simply touching such objects allows people to get their emotional bearings and helps them to face the challenges before them. It seems to me that it might be helpful if your husband could find some substitute objects of solace, such as what the Middle Easterners call "worry stones." When upset, they'll rub these beads or stones for hours and this act seems to ease their tension. There's nothing wrong or wimpy about needing solace. Everyone needs some object or person to give them comfort.

As Horton points out, the hunger for solace among adults also can foster the attachment to religious ideals, to works of art, to music or poetry. While most adults don't walk around clutching large teddy bears, they do have some reminder such as photographs, pipes, special music, or poetry that helps them get through tough moments. Try to help your husband explore some substitutes. 1917, King Feature! Syndicate Inc. Q.

What's wrong with being a My husband keeps accusing me of this as if it were some kind of sin. I'm happy with what I do and I'm successful at it. What's he complaining about? I don't have a disease. Aa I've no idea what he's complaining about, but I suggest that you take the time to explore if there's anything behind his accusation. Perhaps he's saying, "You never have time for me" or "Is your work more important to you than your family and friends?" or "Your success is making me feel insecure and inferior?" If a workaholic is married to another workaholic, life is a lot more harmonious.

The trouble usually comes when this is not the case. If your husband is not as driven and dedicated as you are, he may feel left out and you may lose him. I believe it's important to consider this possibility. Some studies indicate that the quality of work improves if there is some time for relaxation, for reflection, and for the person's focus to turn in some totally different directions. This adds a much needed prospective.

The old saying, "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy," may also make Jack a dull worker. It sounds to me as if you need to find ways to make your communication with your spouse better. It's a bit rusty. Q. My husband's doctor has told him he must quit smoking, and this includes his pipe.

He finally gave up cigarettes, but I can't MAUtPDKI: Gay guide matchups: Off the court OLLIE'S ANTISOCIAL SCRIPT: Lt. Col. Oliver L. North's handwriting indicates he is the "perfect soldier" but is also "emotionally disturbed" and "antisocial," a leading expert says. Charles Hamilton, who exposed the Hitler diaries as forgeries in 1983, told The New York Daily News that North's penmanship shows him to be a cold "egomaniac." The star of the Iran-contra hearings also comes up short romantically: Hamilton called North's writing style "sterile" and said that it indicates he turns sex "on and off like a faucet." Hamilton said his analysis indicated that North, who presents a facade of toughness, is devoid of warmth, kindness, or love.

WOMAN'S LIFE IN NO MAN'S LAND: Fashion designer Diane Von Furstenberg has vowed to give up her career if she marries again. "If you've chosen a man's life and you are a woman, it's tough," she told Parade magazine in an interview to be published Sunday. "It's not easy for any woman, not just me." Von Furstenberg, whose current beau is Italian novelist Alain Elkaan, confessed, "I would love to be married," but added, "If I got married now, I'd get into it with total commitment." A commoner since she divorced Austrian Prince Egon Von Furstenberg in 1983, the designer began her fashion career in 1970 by pawning a $10,000 ring. In 1976, her dress business grossed $64 million. "I guess people see my life as a fairy tale," she said.

"But you realize very quickly that if it were a fairy tale, the prince would have taken care of me, not sent me out to work. I don't believe in fairy tales. Because you pay for everything." HERE'S MILDRED: Proclaiming she was "too mean to die," 105-year-old Mildred Holt traded quips with Johnny Carson and became the oldest guest of "The Tonight Show." "You're the oldest person I have ever met and ever had on the show," Carson told Mrs. Holt, who was born July 17, 1882. "That's the way it is at home," said Mrs.

Holt of Ellsworth, Kan. "I'm always the oldest one they ever met." Dressed in a powder blue outfit with pearls and corsage and sipping a highball, Mrs. Holt recalled during Wednesday's show her family's first automobile in 1914, supporting Teddy Roosevelt for president, and giving up driving just two years ago. The Kansan asked that they not make fun of her home state. "I met a man at the hotel and he said, 'Where're you and I said Kansas and he said, 'Oh, my That made me mad," she said.

"He forgets that Kansas produces more wheat than any state in the union. That's where your bread comes from the trouble is they can't get any money for the wheat." KIRK TAKES THEM TO COURT: Actor Kirk Douglas filed a breach of contract suit yesterday against the Unisys and Sperry corporations for canceling a contract with him to act as corporate spokesman for Sperry. The suit, filed in U.S. District Court in Manhattan by Douglas and his production firm, The Bryna Company, charged "failure to employ Kirk Douglas, the actor and film industry executive, as a corporate spokesman after he devoted great effort and time far beyond the requirements of the contract." Under the contract, Douglas was to act as corporate spokesman exclusively for a minimum term of two years with options to extend the contract to five years. The suit said the October 1985 agreement between Bryna and Sperry "restricted Sperry's ability to terminate prematurely Douglas's services in the event of a merger or acquisition involving Sperry.

It cited a paragragh in the accord that said "only if Sperry's corporate identity and product line failed to survive an acquisition or merger could Sperry terminate the agreement prior to the expiration of the two-year minimum, mandatory term." He was to receive $2.5 million for the initial two years. Lawyers for Unisys said they could not comment before studying the suit. In seeking damages, the suit also pointed From MATCHUPS Page D-l striped tent when storm clouds threatened. Their grounds were emerald green, framed by the Ramapo Mountains. The DJ was warming up early arrivals with some slow tunes.

Sisters Elna Reinach, 18, and Monica Reinach, 20, of South Africa, were sitting at the bar drinking diet sodas. Dressed in minis and simple sweaters, they were both knockouts: clear-skinned and lean-limbed, the kind of beauties seen in milk commercials. They had the confidence and poise that must come from playing to win. "I prefer staying with people," says Elna. "Hotels are too impersonal." "We're terrible socializers," conceded Monica.

"After we play tennis, we go home, watch TV, and read." Emmanuelle Derly of France struggled to make her preferences known in a foreign tongue. "I pre fer the family," she said haltingly, "because we can talk." To be en famille obviously means a lot to these young players, far from home on a 25-week tour. Sukova asked 21-year-old Jennifer Conte to teach the Contes' 18-month-old grandson, John William, how to say "Helena" by the time she arrived this week. And Ms. Saalfrank recalb the night she came home to find "my family making homemade ice cream with the player at 1 a.m.

French vanilla and banana split." The players spend only a week each summer with the families, but some of the relationships endure for years. Says Jennifer Conte: "Every time my college roommate and I see Helena on TV, my roommate freaks because I know Helena. We've been trying to get it together to go out and visit Helena in Czechoslovakia. The thing is, my family thinks of her as part of the family." University of North Carolina and president of his class at law school. He was decorated for service as a naval officer in Vietnam although he describes part of that duty as squiring Adm.

Elmo Zum-walt's wife on shopping tours in Saigon and he later went back to the region as a volunteer to help build houses for refugees. He was a newspaper reporter until he yielded to the devil's temptation to all reporters and started to write fiction. Maupin is now in a position to quit newspapering and simply write, but he says he enslaved to the pressure of writing to a deadline. Once he set out to write a book in the "Tales of the City" series first as a novel, but soon realized that he couldn't do it without the adrenalin that comes from the terror of being late with copy. How far does he stay ahead of the deadline? "You'd get a big groan if you asked that of my editors," he says.

"I was once offered an extra $100 a week if I'd stay six weeks ahead. I tried, but you know how long it lasted. It wasn't long before I was coming in Monday with the installment for From MAUPIN Page D-l little second-hand notoriety when he appeared in the pages of Sara Davidson's recent biography of Rock Hudson. Late in the book she describes Maupin as the aging movie star's guide to the homosexual nightlife of San Francisco. Maupin has little to add about his acquaintance with Hudson, except to reveal that the actor was a man greatly concerned with himself.

He was generous to friends, according to Maupin, but he had no social conscience even about the problems of his fellow homosexuals. Hudson withheld the nature of his illness until near the end, believing that it would destroy the public adulation on which he depended. "He thought his fans," Maupin says, "would desert him instantly. It was the greatest shock of his life when that avalanche of sympathy messages came in from 30,000 people." Although he says he knew from the age of 13 that he was homosexual, Maupin lived out his early adulthood in the straight world. He was an honor student at the FAR BELOW ORIGINAL WHOLESALE! Fabulous Fall portcoat THE NEW FEMALE MINK MATH PRICE WAS PRICE IS SAVINGS ARE $4989 $2789 $2200 a 4 UJ out the agreement with Sperry was "crippling Douglas's ability to secure a similarly attractive spokesperson arrangement with another major U.S.

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