The Ottawa Journal from Ottawa, Ontario, Canada • Page 60

OtUwM Jamnul Saturday, March 17, 1979 The features page Page 60 Ann Landers Forgive Dear Ann: I'm 29, and have been married to a wonderful man for five years. Wc own our home and have a beautiful life together. So what is my problem? My mother. We fought 24 hours a day. When I turned 19 I moved out to keep my sanity.

Mother never forgave me for "deserting" her and embarass-ing her in front of her friends. If they only knew the beatings she gave me, the screaming and grief I left behind. -No one would believe it. I've tried so hard to get my mother to like me. Last Mother's Day I sent her flowers.

She threw them in the trash can in my presence. Why is it that this late in life I miss not having a mother? Last week, I went to the zoo alone. While watching the gorillas (they're fascinat- Dr. Joyce Brothers Quiz on marriages In order to find marital happiness must couples be approximately the same age? Does it make a difference? If you'd like to check your views on May-September matings, compare your views' with those of the experts by answering these questions: 1. May-September or May-December marriages rarely are successful.

TrueO False 2. Unattractive women are somewhat more apt to marry older, men than are beautiful women. TrueD False 3. Almost all research indicates that it's far better for women to marry older men than for young men to marry older women. TrueD False 4.

Patterns in May-September marriages have changed in the past decade. True False 5. There are no special traps in May-December marriages. TrueD False t). Sex is much more apt to be a problem in a May-December marriage than in one in which the partners are of approximately the same age.

TrueD False Answers: 1. FALSE. Usually the individual who selects a much older mate Is reminded by friends, family and society that he or she is doing something unusual. Because of this, he or 'she gives more thought to the relationship before the marriage, so there often are fewer disappointments or surprises than in a conventional marriage. Such relationships frequently fill the special needs of both partners.

2. FALSE. Exceptionally attractive women are more apt to marry much older men than are less attractive ones. This Is because they become disillusioned. Their unrealis-tlcally high expectations of sex and love majl produce the feeling that no young nan can please them.

The and forget? Ing), the maternal instincts were so touching. I cried. I've been depressed ever since. Why can't my mother forgive me for leaving home, even though I'm willing to forget those 19 years of grief? Why do I keep, trying to get her to like me? My father and I have a wonderful relationship. Please help.

Am I A "CUM" at 21? Dear 29: One who has not been adequately loved by the principal person in his or her life carries the scars forever. But understanding why the love was not forthcoming will free you from your prison of sadness. Please get counseling. It.will help you see that the cause of your mother's inability to love you is not due to a deficiency in you but in her. exceptionally pretty woman is used to being spoiled and she's more apt to get the treatment she wants and needs from a much older man.

To him, she will always look young so her fears of aging will be diminished. 3. FALSE. Young men are attracted to and marry older women for many of the same reasons that young women marry much-older men. They like the feeling of being taken care of more than the feeling of freedom and independence.

They want to be protected and nurtured economically and emotionally. Since women live longer than men, and since they reach their sexual peak in their late 30s whereas males reach theirs at a much earlier age, the advantages would seem to be on the side of younger man-older woman relationships. 4. TRUE. The sexual revolution and the women's movement have both contributed to the increase in marriages and sexual liaisons between older women and younger men.

Even a generation ago, this was rare. The pattern in the past Involved older men and younger women. 5. FALSE. There are some special traps that are not usually present in a more conventional union.

Increased chance of Illness in the older partner is one. The danger of turning the younger partner into a substitute child is another. Envy and jealousy of the younger partner and his or her friends is another problem of which both partners should be aware. 6. FALSE.

This is usually thought to be the case, but this Is a view based on the myth that sex is only for the young. The older man who marries a ywtnger wdmajrnisuaTJy nods ways to satisfy her sexual needs and the younger man who marries the older woman is apt to have fewer sex-eal iwoolems thai if he married younger woman. Charity game real The charity program has long been an important part of ACBL activities. Over the past few years, two major improvements have been made to the program vis-a-vis Canada 1. all funds raised in Canada are now returned to the Canadian Charity Fund by the ACBL, and, 2.

a Unit or a club holding a second yearly charity event may donate the proceeds to any registered local charitable organizations. Many Ottawa clubs have taken advantage of the second game to donate funds to a variety of local activities. The Carllngwood club has been particularly successful in raising funds by adding a twist or two to the local charity event, and this year is no exception. Next Tuesday, a number of Life Masters, many of the best players in Ottawa, will be auctioned off as partners for the Local Strengest-ever chess tournament The strongest chess tournament ever held will take place in Montreal next month. The Man and His World Chess, Tournament will be a doubt-round robin competition between ten of the top players, in the world: Anatoly Kar-pov; Boris Spassky; Mikhail Tal (all USSR); Bent Larsen (Denmark); Lubomir Kavalek (USA); Lajos Portisch (Hungary); LJubomir Ljubojevic (Yugoslavia); Jan Timman (Netherlands); Anthony Miles (England); and Robert Hubner (West Germany).

With an average rating of 2618, the tournament will have a Category of 15. The strongest tournaments ever held before had a Category of 14. No Canadians will play at Man and His World. The highest Canadian, Peter Biyiasas, has a rating 75 points lower than the weakest player in the tournament Miles. While one can understand the organizers desire to obtain the strongest players available, the tournament will still have been Category 15 if Biyiasas had been substituted for any of the players save Kar-pov.

I view the lack of Canadians in the tournament as a national disgrace. Yet this country being Canada, it Is almost certain that the tournament will have more success because no Canadian Is playing. Prophets and Canadian talents are not welcome In their own land! The tournament is supported by. La Presse newspaper of Montreal, the City of Montreal, the government of Quebec, Air Canada, and Charity Game on Tuesday, March 27, The receipts from this area, of course, added to the funds raised from the Charity Game itself on the 27th. Everyone wins from this type of activity the Local Charity, and the players who have always wanted to play with a really top player are both winners.

Bridge Calendar: Gloucester, Mar. 19, Split Local Open Pairs; R. Mar. 22, Nationwide Game, Sectional, Hand Analyses; Briar-green, Mar. 22, no game.

Club Results: n. A. seniors Mar. NS I. Andy and Georolna Hal-vorson; i.

Kit Blouln. Don Webster. EW t. Joan and Harvey Norman Hall Ottawa bridge clubs Jonathan Berry on chess Hyatt hotels, among others. It is ironic that Air Canada, a crown corporation, is supporting a chess tournament while the federal government has turned a deaf ear to requests for aid from the Chess Federation of Canada for over 30 years! The requests were mainly Charles Goren on bridge OjJ East-West vulnerable, aa Soath yoo hold: KJMS VAMt OOJSS The bidding has proceeded: Wee North East Soata 1 DUe.

10 I laaa NT Paas What action do you Uke? til Aa South, vulnerable, ToahoM: QlWa 9QSl 0AMS1 The bedding haa proceeded: Wees North Eaot 8ooxjh 1 DWe. 1 1 Paaa 1 NT 4 What action do you takeT Q4-Neitber vulnerable, aa South you hold: A 0JS71 EQJS74 The bidding haa proceeded: North Eaat gaerth West Paaa 1 I I NT Paaa What action do you Uke? (M-East West vulnerable, aa South you bold: Ott VSM OK85S 4K7S The bidding haa proceeded: Eaat Saejth Woet North Paaa Paaa 17 i 4 47 What action do you take? tM Marl timesr Then they Flashback on Canada Fenians failed By Bob Bowman It Is believed that St Patrick's Day was first celebrated in Canada in 1765 at Quebec. One hundred years later an Irish organization called the Fenians tried to capture Canada and threatened the Maritime colonies, especially New Brunswick. The Fenians were an organisation dedicated to the Independence of Ireland and were formed In 'Dublin In 1838. -Irish ImmigranU In New York Mrtahlfarwd a branch in 18S with the nhWtiv of capturing Canada tod toped to trade ther conquests to Britain for the WKpendeoce of Ireland.

The Fenians raised millions of dollars In the VS. and had the capability of bofJdlnc a very powerful army aslng men who had fought In the America CM War. They posed such a threat that Sir John Macdonald called out the mlUOa on 'March 17, last, and so did New Debtor); J. Celine Goonon. Joan Action.

CortlHVWMvt Mm. 4 Open Pom: I. Edno Hall. Phyllis StapMan; I. RoUande Couture, Sandra Tarradt; J.

Cam Germane Bruce Warnockt 4. Cliff Her grove. Wan McHobb. NS 1. S.

Brownsteln. J. Simpson; 2. Ida Mortbv. Lou Spera EW I.

P. and a Jallnk; 2. R. and A. Smith.

CwiytMt OVM Mor. NS 1. J. Crocker, M. Elves; 2.

S. Venter. D. Srdl. EW I.

Ruth Jackson, Cart Casteiman; 2. J. Taylor, BIN Sharp. Wn (Ml Mot ,7 NS I. Harriet Nuvent, Lucille Rouleau; 2.

Janet Curry, aarbara Tench. EW I. Jean Richer, Pout Rouleau; 2. Vf Chan, Dorothy Scott. NS t.

Margaret Holland, John Mcadam; 2. Al Henke, John Bowman. EW 1. Stan Ramonlec F. King; 2.

E. Thriknd, Jacaues Brunei. Srtareroos sor. NS I. Gert and Clare van Euan; 2.

vickl and Mene Kvrlaco. EW 1. Howard and Alice Wilson; 2. Peter Smith, Sue Wallace. Unit-Wide Open Pairs Leaders: I.

Sally Mann, Stu Macdermald; 23. John Measures. Mor lev English; for travel and training money to send Canada's top players to international championships. Shooting, bowling, parachute jumping and horse riding are good enough to receive that kind of support, but chess isn't. The government says that's the way things should be; I say they could Q.S Both vulnerable, aa South you bold: JJ 7QJt 0KJU ASH The bidding hu proceeded: West North Eaat South 1 Paaa 1 NT Paaa 2 4 Dole.

Paaa What action do you Uke? M- North-South vulnerable, as South you hold: MS7S 7AQ 0AKQ19K The bidding has proceeded: Saata West North Eaat 1 Paaa 1 NT Paas 1 What do you bid nowT Q.T As South, vulnerable, you bold: J4 0 Alt 4 AQJ18 The bidding haa proceeded: Seats West North Eaat 1 1 Paaa 2 Dale. 1 4 Paaa Paaa What action do you Uke? Aa South, vulnerable, you bold: AKTO4 9 AM 0105 JST Partner opens the bidding with three diamonds. What action do you take? Look lor answers on Monday treat VX Solly I A. Carol Parrtn. Tarry ttowi S.

vanli e. S. Lane. L. koumur.

Capital AVer, Split Local Open Pairs: I. George Lemoine, Lome RvsseH; 2. Bern end Marlon Smvthe; a. Ethel Dickson. Jeon Orison; 4.

Nancy HoMe Moftln Nowtande NS I. Ed Moaukre, Peter Ben-edek; 2. John Measures, Bern Smvthe. EW t. Sntrtsh Han-avail, o.

franklin; 2. Harvey Fagel, Jim Rieole. Capital Mar. 11 Series T4: I. Barbara and Mark Siearlst; Al McOonaW.

Norbert Beuaucha; 2. Harvey Pogel, Jim Rlegle, Dorothy Scott, Ted Clarke; 3S. Judy Belvea Jane Kurd, Barbara Bambrlck, VI Chan, J5. Jean Grhwn. Ceclle Hinds.

Frances Lyons, Anne Butler; JS. John and Pal McAdam. Clltf and Anita Hargrove. Bleaceiler Mar. It NS 1.

Dove Weir, Jock Gilford; 2. Bill Thornton. Stu Somt. EW I. S.

Venter, Dorothy Snell; 2. Ruth Jackson. Carl Cassetman. CemeeH CemoMMttv Mar. Open Pairs: Section I.

Rhea and Maurice Lemleux; 21, Richard Balrd, Jack Rovond; 21. Mark Molette, Robert Machines. Section 1. Anna O'Farrell, Maude Yoona' 2. Evelyn McPholl, RlhiWatienboeck; i.

Grace Gillie, Helen AAerpow. St. Lawrence CeHege Mar. a I. John Pry, Mark Malette; 2.

Helen and Roy Rampel; 2 Hilda Hall, Helen McGlllls. Alexandria 4 DtshiclJwar 1. James Dorsev, Jock Roymond; 2. Maurice and Ray Lemleux; 1. Florida Thauvette.

Germalne Vallloncourt. Cornwall District Mor. I NS I. Margaret Campbell, Richard Bclrd; 2. Mork Lafrom-bolse, Robert Moclnnls.

EW I. Wilfred Fournler, Charles von Bergen; 2. Aretha Charlebois, John Fry. MM eVf benefit from learning chess and, consequently, how to think logically! The tournament will attract many Canadians to the pleasure of chess and will focus the eyes of the world upon Canada. Play will take place at the Star Garden at Man and His World, April 8 to May 8.

Not only will spectators be able to see the world's best, but masters will comment on the games and chess displays will help make the event a real festival. Watch this column for further details. The following game was played in the 1976 Correspondence Chess Championship of Canada. I hope fans of uncompromising struggle in chess will enjoy it! White: Bernard Marcoux; Black Jonathan Berry Closed Sicilian I. Nf3 C5 2.g3 NcS 3.Bg2 g6 4.0-0 Bg7 5.d3 Rb8 6.Nbd2 b5 7.e4 d6 8.Nel Bd7 9f4 Qc8 10.f5 gxf5 II.

exft Ne5 12.QH.5 Nf6 13.Qg5 Rg8 14 Ne4 Nxe4 15.Bxe4. Nf3 l.Nxf3 Bd4 17.Nxd4 RxgS 18.Bxg5 cxd4 19.Rf4 20.Bh4 Be 21. Re 1 Kff 22.g4 h6 23.Bf2 Bxe4 24.Rfxe4 Rb7 25.Rle2 b4 26.Bxd4 Qc6 d5 28.Re6 Qa4 29.BXM? DIAGRAM h3! 30.axb3 Qxg4 31.Rg2 Qdl! 32.KR QhS 33.Rg7 Ke8 White Resigns He must lose a piece. There was known to be a strong Fenian force at Portland, Maine, and it was expected that it would attack New Brunswick on St. Patrick's Day.

Volunteers rode from house to house along the' New Brunswick border warning the men to get out their guns and be prepared to defend their homes The attack did not take place except for a-raid on Campobello Island but the danger was one of the reasons why New Brunswick changed Its mind about Confederation and decided to Join Canada. However, the Fenians did make a large scale attack on the Niagara area on May SI but were defeated. On June another Fenian force of 1800 men raided the Eastern Townships of Quebec from Vermont anaranaeiwi seveiai wiuuiuiu They were forced to withdraw when a VS. force seized their lupply depot at St. Albans.

Another Fenian force gathered at Ogderuburg, N.V., intending to attack Prescott hut a gun-boat prevented them from crossing the river. Later they raided Manitoba and had plana to attack British Columbia, buvthe VS. government eventually forced them to disband. 17 Eunice 5V Gardiner Be Heard I am a high school student and want to become a nurse. Do you know If hospitals still need volunteer workers for the summer holidays.

Where could I apply? The Queensway Carleton Hospital is looking for teen-age volunteers for the summer. They must be 15 years of age and have completed grade nine by the end of June. For further information call 820-2000 extension 246, or 728-8321. The Teenage Committee of Ottawa Civic Hospital Auxiliary also needs volunteers for the summer and weekends. Boys and girls 14 years and older whq have completed grade nine are eligible to take part.

If you can help call 725-4279 anytime from 7.30 a.m. to a p.m. I see by your paper a new Elvis Presley fan club in the city. How do I go about Joining It? The new club for the purpose of bringing Elvis Presley fans together began in Ottawa February 24. The next meeting will be held March 24.

For further information call the secretary, Margaret Pratt at 729-4883. Could you tell me if defense minister Barney Danson was ever in the regular army or was he only in the reserves? According to the Parliamentary Guide, Hon. Barnett Jerome Danson served as a lieutenant with the Queen's Own Rifles of Canada from 1939-1945. He was appointed Minister of National Defence, Sept. 14, 1976.

We have an old house that has squeaky floors. Is there anything we can do to fix them, as they are driving Us crazy? We maintain a good level of hunidity in the house over the winter months. Squeaky floors are due to loose boards, either in the finished floor or in the sub-flooring, rather than any atmospheric condition. Loosening may be due to warping or loose nails. If the floor is over the basement, and the underside can be seen, it is relatively easy to locate the trouble between the floor and the beam and to nail the floor board firmly to two or more beams.

For the upper floors, it is best to locate the loose beams by sound. (A tap over the beam will not have the hollow ring). Is there any way to clean an old brooch, which I believe to be paste jewelry? Cover the brooch with French chalk and rub it in with a soft brush, then brush out. Polish with chamois. Never wash stones set with paste, as water may soften the cement and cause the stones to fall out.

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