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4 s4( 'fifty Mom stayed calm, said the right thing I 2- I I can understand the curiosity of an adopted child who wants to find out about his background. I can also appreciate the gift of life made to that child and why it would be important to her that her secret be kept. With so much being said these days about the "right" of the adopted child to locate his natural parents, I hope "you, with youK powerful voice and equally- powerful sense of fairness, may find a way to ease the anguish of my sister and other women like her. -They would be mortified if they were suddenly confronted with a child from the past. Also Worried Dear Worried: I have made my position abundantly clear on this issue.

To adopted children in search of their "roots," I say, your "real" parents are the people who raised you. The sudden appearance of a child from the past can create serious problems, not only for the adoptive parents but the newly discovered ones. My advice is and will continue to be forget it. Dear Ann Landers: Recently you published a letter from a woman who was unhappy because she couldn't laugh out loud. All she could do was smile.

I have a friend who laughs all the time. At the end of every sentence she giggles. When I expressed my condolences when her mother died, she said, "Thank you for your sympathy" then laughed. What's wrong with her, anyway? Fond du Lac, Wis. Dear Fond: Nervous laughter Is often caused by embarrassment.

Your friends needs understanding. Her giggling is no laughing matter. Confidential to Don't Need Glasses: It sounds as if you "don't need glasses" because you drink straight from the bottle. Your letter contained some strange non-sequiturs and it even smelled of bourbon. Write again when you're sober and I will try to help you.

EAR ANN LANDERS: Our son, I Alvin, has been going with a dummy for two years. She is 17; he is 19. Alvin lives at home and goes to a junior college. The dummy is still in high schooL Two months ago he told his father and me that he wanted to get married. When he showed us the ring (he had already made a down payment) my husband nearly had a stroke.

I gave my husband a kick in the ankle and said in a quiet voice, "Look, Alvin. It's all right with us. Lots of kids get married young no education, no money, no future, and it works out fine. Good Luck. Alvin's face lit up.

Then I added, "You know, of course, you can't live in THIS house." His smile- disappeared and he looked very disappointed. Two days later, Alvin asked me what he should do about the ring. He said he had thought it over and didn't see how he could handle rent and groceries, and maybe he was too young to settle down. I advised him to take the ring back and he did. If I had agreed to let him and the dummy live with they would be married by now.

Please print my letter as a lesson to other parents. Relieved Dear Here's your "lesson" and it's a good one. Kids don't want everything they ask for. I salute you for remaining calm and saying exactly the right thing. 1 Dear Ann Landers: About 23 years ago my sister had a child out of wedlock.

She didn't take the abortion route. She chose to endure the pain and loneliness of giving life to a child away from home and friends. I was pregnant at the same time surrounded by a loving husband and family. My sister placed her child for adoption through a fine agency. She later married and had three more beautiful children.

Associated Press photo Chris Greener (1.) and Sandy Allen in Wildwood, where they appear in a show. Tallest' Love- Story Vet Wildwood Giants Create a Stir Sandy Allen and Chris Greener attract a lot of attention wherever they go sometimes too much attention. But when you are over I1 feet tall, it is not easy to keep a low profile. THE FAMILY DOCTOR G. TIMOTHY JOHNSON, M.D.

"You're forever in the public or irregular periods should use another contraception method. If these women use the PilL they may have difficulty becoming pregnant when they stop using it. 6. The labels note that most side effects associated with the Pill are not serious. 7.

The more serious side effects are not common. These include blood clots in the legs, lungs, brain, heart and other organs; liver tumors that could rupture to cause severe bleeding; and high blood pressure, stroke and gallbladder disease. 8. Estrogen as used in the combination pill causes cancer in certain experimental animals. There is no evidence, however, that it causes cancer in humans so far.

Still, there is some strong evidence that estrogen can increase the risk of endometrial cancer in postmenopausal women who, presumably, have no use for the Pill anyway. 9. The labels note that the Pill is of no value against venereal disease. 10. A woman planning on breastfeeding her baby should talk to her doctor before resuming use of the Pill.

The hormones in the pill may decrease the normal flow of breast milk, and they may also show up in the breast milk. The concluding statement in the new brochure, I think, is balanced and fair. had a nickname. Naturally, they called me Tiny or Shortie," he said. Allen, 23, a Chicago native who now lives in Shelbyville, was a normal-sized baby but began to grow abnormally around age 3.

By the time she was 11, she was 6-feet-9. "I had to put up with a lot of teasing," she said. Both experienced abnormal growth because of pituitary problems. It was not easy being an over-sized adolescent and not easy being an oversized adult for that matter, Allen says. 'Easier for a Man' "For Chris, it's a little easier because he's said.

"I can't ask out a shorter man, but he can ask out a shorter woman." "Actually, I ask out women who are 6-6 or 6-7 and they say, 'Wow, you make me feel so short, I love it," said Greener. "When I saw Chris at the airport last night, the first thing I said was 'God, he 's so tall. I can look him in the eye." Greener first saw Allen in Fellini's Cassanova, in which she played a giantess. He found her address and began corresponding with her two years ago. Norman Adie, who runs Adie's show, arranged for them to meet.

Adie is hoping they find love and happiness together, but after all, they just met. "I'd like to get married someday, possibly, if I found the right Greener said. "I can't have children because of my condition, but I always thought if I ever got married, I'd like to adopt children," Allen said. Greener runs an export-import company in England; Allen is a professional etenograpber. said Greener, who at 7-feet-6 stands a half inch shorter than Allen.

"People always see you. I tried sunglasses and a beard, but it just didn't work." Greener, the tallest man in Europe, came all the way from England to be seen in Wildwood yesterday with Allen, the world's tallest woman. For the next three weeks, he will be part of a live wxhibit at Adie's Fantastic Facts 'n Feats, kind of Boardwalk freak show. "I don't mind the attention on the job," Allen said. "In fact, I enjoy talking to people.

But when play, when I'm on my private time, I want my right to privacy. "I was at a jewelry shop the other day looking at some jewelry. Then, all of a sudden, I turned around and there wre people three and four deep standing around watching to Play She said he is forbidden to play the pinball machines on the floor above Adie's hsoe "because they're afraid I'll draw a crowd. I've always attracted attention in public places, but I can handle it. I don't make that big a deal of Yesterday, they attracted a lot of attention.

When they walked on the Wildwood boardwalk during a picture session, hundreds of onlookers gathered around them. When they were standing in a street-level parking lot during a promotional stunt, drivers stopped and gawked, creating a traffic jam on one of the resort town's main streets. "When people ask me "How tall are I ask them "How short are you," Greener said. Greener, 34, who lives in Hayes, just south of London, says he was bigger than anyone else from the time he could remember, "In school, everybody Dear Readers: As of May 31, 1978, manufacturers of oral contraceptives are required to provide new labeling on their products both for physicians and for patients. Major features of the new labeling were summarized in a recent Food and Drug Administration bulletin.

Here are most of the tant points: 1. There's a new boxed warning that "Cigaret smoking increases the risk of serious cardiovascular side effects from oral contraceptive use. This risks increases with age and with heavy smoking (15 or more cigarets per day,) and is quite marked in women over 35 years of age. Women who use oral contraceptives should be strongly advised not to smoke." (As I have pointed out before, if a woman cannot stop smoking, then she should not use the Pill, especially if she is over; age 35.) 2. The new labels state that the type of pill containing both estrogen and a progestogen is about 99 effective in preventing pregnancy, if taken correctly.

The so-called "Mini-Pill" containing only a progestogen is about 97 effective. 3. Certain women should definitely not take the Pill. Women in this category include those with blood clotting disorders; victims of cancer of the breast or the sex organs; women with unexplained vaginal bleeding; women who haw had strokes, heart attacks or angina pectoris, and women who suspect they may be pregnant. 4.

Women who have stopped using the PiH should wait two or three months before becoming pregnant. The idea is to minimize the risk of birth defects possibly associated with the use of sex homones during pregnancy. 5. Women who experience scanty it reads: "Oral contraceptive are the most effective method, except sterilization, for nrrtrnKntr nMoniniw nttA WMftA IWW ods, when used conscientiously, are also very effective and have fewer risks. The serious risk of oral contraceptives are uncommon, and the Pill Is a very convenient method lor preventing pregnancy.".