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POTTSVILLE (PA.) REPUBLICAN HERALD MONDAY, FEBRUARY 4, 2008 21 LIFESTYLES CALENDAR Teem cam hi loeger hide affiMir Dear Abby: I have a big problem. I am 16 years old, have a good Job and do well In school. I go to a Christian non-denomtnatlonal church every Sunday and enjoy that, too. The problem Is my pastor. "Reverend Ron" Is 48, married, and has children and grandchildren.

We have become attracted to each other and have secretly become a couple since last fall. Every Monday night, after I get off work, I go over to my church and meet Reverend Ron In his office where we have sex. We agreed to tell no one, so as not to shame ourselves or our families. Six weeks ago, I found out I was pregnant. I haven't told him yet, and we continue with our Monday night meetings.

Abortion is not an option, but neither Is shaming my family, much less the whole church. Abby, what do I do? In True Love in Washington Dear In True Love: The first thing you must do is tell your mother what you have told me. If there Is any "shaming," it should not be directed at you, your family or should communicate them to your obstetrician and the nurses at the maternity ward Just In case news of your labor and delivery "slips out" prematurely While I understand your husband's wish to have his family present, unless he's willing to undergo the procedure in your place, he should not only respect your wishes but make sure they are carried out. Mom In need of help Dear Abby: My parents divorced in 2001 after a 20-year marriage. They reconciled a few years later, only to split up again after Dad once more had an affair with a younger woman.

Dad is now living with his girlfriend, and the situation has my mother severely depressed. Mom is in poor health due to a severe heart condition. She has had multiple bypass surgeries over the last 15 years and has a defibrillator permanently implanted in her chest. And she's not even 50. Every time I speak with her or go to visit, she dwells only on the things Dad has done to her.

I understand her pain, but I don't know how to help her overcome and I be alone with our newborn for at least the first 24 hours after the baby Is born. I would like to contact my family the day after to Invite them to the hospital. Both our families can be very loud, as I witnessed firsthand last week when my sister-in-law had her first child. There were at least 20 relatives In her room after her C-section. It became so loud at one point that the nurse had to ask everyone to either leave the room or keep their voices at a moderate level.

I also saw how overbearing my mother was with my sister when she had her son several years ago. Mom says I'm "taking this experience away" from her, but I don't think It's her experience. It's my husband's and my experience. I truly feel it will be more peaceful if it's just my husband, me and our baby that first day. My husband has agreed to go along with whatever I request, but I know he'd prefer his family be present.

Your thoughts, please? No Visitors in Louisiana Dear No Visitors: Your reasons for wanting peace, quiet, rest and time to recuperate are valid, and you Help for hemorrhoids Dear Dr. Gott: First, thank you for your column and all of your thoughtful, informative responses to your readers' questions. Please address hemorrhoids. What are they? How do they form or come about? What can be done besides ointment creams? Are there any permanent cures? Dear Reader: Hemorrhoids are swollen veins at the anal opening andor the lower rectum. They can be caused by straining, constipation or external irritation.

(I got hemorrhoids while riding a motorcycle around Europe the summer after I finished college.) Ordinarily, the swelling takes care of itself in a matter of Look deeper for cause of memory loss It. Words cannot express the contempt I have toward him for doing this to her again. Mom can't work because of the stress it puts on her heart. I try to get her to go out and do things, hoping It will ease her out of her depression, but she wants only to stay home, do housework and watch daytime soap operas. She has also begun smoking again against her doctor's orders.

How can I help her before she works herself Into another heart attack? Heartsick in Houston Dear Heartsick: Your mother appears to be chronically depressed, and part of it may be due to her heart condition. You can't fix what alls her, but you should accompany her to see her doctor and explain what's going on. It's possible that with a combination of counseling and medication, her depression can be treated and she'll end the self destructive lifestyle she has" adopted. Because-of her serious medical problems, her doctor should also be involved in her rehabilitation. (Dear Abby is written by Jeanne Phillips) to cauterize the offending veins.

For large, recurrent "piles," surgical removal may be necessary Patients with chronic constipation may eventually develop hemorrhoids. Attention must be paid to softening the stool through a variety of means, starting with fiber in your diet and other preparations. Check with your family doctor for additional information; he or she is your best resource. To give you related information, I am sending you a copy of my Health Report "Constipation Diarrhea," Other readers who would like a copy should send a long, self-addressed, stamped envelope and $2 to Newsletter, PO Box 167, Wickliffe, Ohio 44092-0167. (Gott is a syndicated writer) Mattress Box Spring Top Sheet Fitted Sheet Pillow Cases Free Delivery Free Removal of Old Bedding "'J your church.

You are 16, Idealistic and "Rever-end Ron," however, Is an adult who has literally abused his "sacred" trust to you, his Dear Abby congregation and his God. He had so little concern for your welfare that he didn't even use birth control. This is not how grown men show "true love." You cannot hide this secret forever. At some point the truth will be revealed. Tell your mother now, so responsible adults who love you can give you the support you so desperately need.

If you're afraid to speak to your mother alone, then have a friend with you when you do it. The only thing you CANNOT do is remain silent. Keeping family out Dear Abby: My family is protesting a request I have made regarding the birth of my first child. I would prefer that my husband causes for dementia are curable, so the tests are mandatory in this situation. Also, Parkinson's disease can lead to dementia in up to one-third of all Dr.

Peter Gott cases later in the disease. This symptom is highly controversial. Some experts say it is a symptom of late-stage Parkinson's, while others claim it is not associated with Parkinson's and occurs coincidentally Her neurologist should follow her closely, especially if her dementia worsens or she develops depression, tremors or other abnormalities. To give you related information, I am sending you copies of my Health Reports "Alzheimer's Disease" and "Parkinson's Disease." Other readers who would like copies should send a self-addressed No. 10 letter-sized stamped envelope and $2 for each report to Newsletter, P.O.

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Tickets must be purchased In advance. MIDDLEPORT PlerogU mI, today and Tuesday, St. Joseph Polish National Church. Call 277-6967 or rectory at 277-6180. Sale will be held every Wednesday and Thursday until end of March with exception of March 19-20.

MINERSVILLE PotUvllU Area Hljjh School Class of 1997 reunion, to be held 6 p.m. March 29, Hlllcrest Hall, Miners-villeLlewellyn highway. Cost $40 per person Includes food, beverages and dancing. Call (215) 579-1635. MINERSVILLE Book sals through Friday, Mlnersvllle Public Library, 220 S.

Fourth St. Library hours noon to 7 p.m. Monday, Wednesday and Thursday, noon to 5 p.m. Tuesday and Friday, 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Saturday. Most hardbound books 25 cents, paperback 10 cents each, fill a bag for $1. Call 544-5196. POTTSVILLE Registration for winter story times, starts Feb. 11, Pottsvllle Free Public Library, 215 W.

Market St. Preschool story time, 3 to 5 years old, 10 a.m. Mondays; Family Night, children 3 and up, 6 p.m. Mondays; Laptime for 12-36 months will be 11 a.m. Wednesdays.

Programs are free, but registration is required. Call 622-8880. POTTSVILLE Orders for a Deppen pie sale, through Feb. 15, to benefit the participating public libraries in the Pottsville District. Delivery date is Feb.

27. Cost is $7.50 per pie. Variety of nine-inch pies include apple, blueberry crumb, peach crumb, cherry crumb, lemon sponge, coconut custard, shoo-fly and no sugar apple raisin. Public libraries participating in the sale are Ashland Public Library, 875-3175; Frack-ville Free Public Library, 874-3382; Mahanoy City Public Library, 773-1610; Minersville Public Library, 544-5196; Mount Carmel Public Library, 339-0703; Port Carbon Public Library, 622-6115; Pottsville Free Public Library, 622-8880; Ringtown Area Library, 889-5503; Schuylkill Haven Free Public 385-0542; Shamokin. and Coal Township Public Library, 648-3202; Shenandoah Area Free Public Library, 462-9829; Tower-Porter Community Library, (717) 647-4900; Tremont Area Free Public Library, 695-3325; Tri-Valley Free Public Library, To order, contact one of the participating libraries in your area.

POTTSVILLE Seminar, Prevention and Treatment of Running and Walking Injuries, 6:30 p.m., Schuylkill Rehabilitation Center, conference room, 300 Schuylkill Medical Plaza. Presented by Mark Smith, PT. Free. Call 621-9500. POTTSVILLE Financial Aid Workshop, 6:30 p.m., Nativity BVM High School.

Free and open to public. Presented by Tammie Durham, director of enrollment services, Penn State Schuylkill. Call 622-8110, Ext. 17. RINGTOWN Reservations for bus trip to Sally's Casino, Atlantic City, Feb.

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Cost $25. Call 889-3379 or 889-3822. SCHUYLKILL HAVEN Advance tickets for fifth annual fatherdaughter Valentine dance, to be held 6 to 8:30 p.m.: Feb. 17, First United Methodist Church, 420 Saylor St. Live music by Chase.

Tickets $6 available at church Office or call Connie Glunz at 943-7696. Bring a sweet baked Valentine treat to share. Young ladies of all ages (babies to adult) may be escorted by anyone whom they love including stepfathers, grandfathers, uncles, friends, etc. SHENANDOAH Pyrohy sale, today and Tuesday, St. Michael Ukrainian Catholic Church hall, 425 W.

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5. 6. 7. 1. DearDr.Gott: My wife, who is 68 years old, is having short-term memory loss.

She has had a CT scan and MRI of the brain. No abnormalities were detected. She has seen a neurologist and a clinical psychologist. Both diagnosed her with early-stage Alzheimer's disease. The neurological appointment lasted only 30 to 45 minutes.

The physician asked some personal-history questions and then did a short test of her memory. The appointment with the clinical psychologist lasted nearly 2V4 hours. She was again asked about personal history and several detailed questions to check her memory. I would like to know if this is the way Alzheimer's is diagnosed. Why wouldn't the MRI show some sign of abnormality? Following diagnosis, she was put on the medication Ari-cept.

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